Do guys prefer to date tomboys rather than girly girls?

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From the answers of lots of guys on GAG i kinda assume lots seem to prefer tom boys.. but what i don't get is in real life from what is clear to me most of the girly sort of women are taken and the more toyboyish guys are single.. i'm pretty much in the middle but only giving the tomboy or girly girl option to see what most guys prefer out of the two.. so no in between... this is also to do with personality terms and looks so both. (you're not voting for which girl in the picture you find more attractive only which type of girl you prefer.

SmartButBroke · Accepted Answer

I think a lot of tomboys are single because they usually don't like the guys they hang with. Unless the chick looks like a butch lesbian or there is a racial barrier, at least one of the guys will at least want to f*ck her at some point.

Obviously, some guys like tomboys and some don't and some don't care. But the fact that there are some guys who do like tomboys goes to support my point that it's more so the tomboy that is the reason for being single, i. e. her lack of interest. I do think the majority of men either like girly girls or girls who look girly but don't have ALL the typical feminine interests and qualities/does have SOME of the guy interests and qualities.

The other thing is not everyone here is on the same page about what a "tomboy" is, and that will affect the responses. I'm a tomboy, in my opinion. Physically--I have very feminine facial features and an "innocent" face and look very young for my age, I have a big @ss (not bragging, I hate it), big tits (not bragging, I hate it), hair past my shoulders, no makeup but I have tanned skin and don't look all odd/dead without makeup... so there's no mistaking that I'm a woman.

Personality--I click with guys more on a social level because we tend to like the same things and I don't act crazy when they say offensive things about women, sex, etc (which doesn't mean I don't find them offensive, I just don't say anything). So, guys think I'm "chill." I am a sports junkie, and that is usually my "in" with guys socially. I have nothing at all like this to become cool with women, and I mean NOTHING. And almost every field I have worked in has been male-dominated anyway, which is a reflection of having the same interests guys have. I am not the type to "drink guys under the table" and curse; I don't really act like men. When they talk to me about topics, including women, I give it to them straight-up, even if it's negative towards women, and they like that; I feel like most women give men unhelpful/standard bs, and the average guy can tell.

Like I said, my issue more often is guys like me and I don't like them. I have stopped talking to guy "friends" in the past because they let me know they liked me (but I was very young back when I cut them off like that).

I usually like to dress like this, but with dark blue or black pants in this style and longer sleeves for the shirt:

www.inonit.in/.../jockey-relaxed-lounge-pants.jpg

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

In my experience, men don't want "tomboys" over girly girls. They just don't want HIGH MAINTENANCE girls, which is often associated with the blinged out, dress wearing, hair-always done type of girls.

Men, at least a quantity of them, want a woman that looks like a woman with a personality that has what was once considered "traditional masculine traits." She isn't going to talk like a valley girl and complain every time her nails get dirty; she can crudely joke with you and actually debate rather than smile, nod, and be complacent; she isn't going to throw a fit if she doesn't have enough time to do her hair and you two have a deadline.

That's just the theory though.

Schrodingerscat · Accepted Answer

G@G is pretty unique lmao.
I was tomboy until like 17 and trust me, not many guys like them. That's my experience. I mean sure, they'd befriend you. But it is because either.
- You seem like 'one of them' to them
- To get in touch with your pretty girly friend.
You get bro-zoned 😑

ChocoLada · Accepted Answer

As a tomboyish girl, I can only hope so 😎

SaintRichie23 · Accepted Answer

I prefer tomboys who aren't afraid to keep in touch with their feminine side. Since there are no in-betweens for this question - I'd go with a tomboy.

Just do not have the patience for a girl who is worried about getting dirty on a hike or doesn't participate in any of the hobbies I like cause its too hard or works up a sweat. Being a tomboy isn't a pass for not keeping up after yourself though.

Mr-Kabuki · Accepted Answer

Trust me a lot of guys are delusional when they say they want tomboys. They say they want tomboys because liking a girly girl is seen a societal norm so they feel a need to go against the grain. It's bull isn't? You've seen real life. Men are attracted to femininity. The more masculine the male, the more feminine of a women he wants.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I want a girl who can wear grubby clothes Saturday morning while she is pulling weeds in the yard, and she is equally comfortable wearing a LBD to dinner and the symphony on Saturday night.

Redstang88 · Answer

Most guys I know are into girls more on the tomboy side. I'm pretty outdoorsy and adventurous and prefer a girl that can and wants to keep up.
I don't think it's that guys aren't into tomboys, but more that
1) most the less girly types i know are happier on their own than girly girls and don't need to constantly have a boyfriend
And
2) The prissy city boys that girly girls seem to go for are probably insecure that a tomboyish girl acts more like a dude that's he does.

NearlyNapping · Answer

Anything but the two extremes.
Feminine, but not prissy. She has to be willing to get her hands dirty.
Tomboyish, but not butch. She definitely needs to be female.

If I had to choose one or the other, I'd pick tomboyish. Someone too girly and prissy just seems like she'd be too helpless. That's a big turnoff. Before I fix her car she needs to open the hood and at least TRY to figure out what's wrong without being afraid she might get a little dirt on her hands. If she doesn't have what it takes to survive on the frontier in 1800 then she's not for me.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

Why does the chick portraying the tomboy look so... terrified? I honestly think it depends on the guy. Personally a mixture of both is the best... because that's what I am.

I know when to be girly and when it's appropriate to act like one of the guys.

JSmuve · Answer

Guys prefer the femininity and beauty of girly girls. They have sex appeal, full stop. The problem is they're emotional, demanding, and needy as fuck. Guys prefer the emotional upkeep level of tomboys because they're more chill and less maintenance. However, at the end of the day, we're ruled by our penises and sex appeal wins out.

Pig3000 · Answer

I would prefer a tomboy that dresses like a girly girl.

Drake · Answer

if the difference is clothes, then id say;
to me a girl must be diverse, be able to wear anything, willing to do so at least
so idc if she's abit more boyish on day, if she could be all round sexy the other day... gotta have fun with it

now personality wise, i wouldn't mind a challenge, i mean too girly can become snobbish very easy in some way
not too boyish cause that can be unattractive to

Prof_Don · Answer

Nothing against tomboys... but girly girls are so fucking delicious-looking!

The truth of the matter is this; there are many guys out there, that are intimidated by the aura of a girly girl, and find a "tomboy" easier to approach because she is "dressed down".

Dme500 · Answer

i like gamer chicks that smoke weed and talk shit. i love seeing women in skirts and all dolled up when they're going out, but if she breaks a nail i prefer he to just cus and move on. girly girls tend to whine tomboys tend to pull their boot straps and dig deep for that extra resolve. (sorry for the stereotyping, im just generalizing here).

also im a sucksr for a damsel in destress and women jave enough cards to play against me without that ace in the hole, haha.

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

I prefer tomboys, they play sports, they play video games there like 1 of the guys except (as long as you're a heterosexual guy) you can have sex with them if the girl chooses to.

Don't get me wrong, girls with a girly-girly attitude can be cute but not when it's overdone. I'm sure girls can agree if a guy tries to act all macho and has a big ego, after awhile it becomes, "okay, chill".

Nik1hil · Answer

To me spark matters.

Girly girl and tomboy does not, but still I will go tomboy for first few dates because we will have more stuff to do, ! I can go shoot arrow in archery range, we can go bowling, we can go motorbike riding,
We can go doing stuff that involves dirt and sand and cherish some unique moments

Anonymous · Answer

Your description says don't judge the pictures, but I'm sure many people did not read that. The tomboy picture is clearly less physically attractive and/or maybe even seems less attractive because she is visibly not as confident. It makes her a buzzkill. I would argue that many more people would have selected Tomboys if you did not use pictures. Don't get me wrong. Many love girly girls, and I think they're beautiful in their own way too.

I read your description by the way, and I selected Tomboys. This is also because there is no "in between" option.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not into women. But if I were, I would probably prefer a woman with a something in between personality (A mix between feminine and not so feminine) and a feminine appearance. She have to look feminine and beautiful. I finds feminine looking women more aesthetically pleasing. Even men who's masculine and that I finds handsome do have some feminine traits. Example Aidan Turner.

Elarra · Answer

First of all, that picture for Tomboys is terrible. She looks depressed and homeless. Second, I think guys prefer a girl that's down to earth and not stuck up, which could be either or.

MovesLikeJagger · Answer

Hands down... Girly-girl. Sexy hot feminine meow. Just like you, PrincessPie! How can any guy not get excited about a feminine girly-girl. Do not get it. At all. They are the best. High maintenance women are to die for.

Nephilim000 · Answer

Well if we take it to the extremes I would probably prefer a girly girl over a boyish tomboy. But in all honesty too much of either is annoying. I prefer something closer to the middle probably leaning towards girly

JDavid25 · Answer

It's whoever I find attractive.. Whether it be a Tomboy or girly girl.. I sued to think I preferred tomboys, but I like who I like..

rjroy3 · Answer

Feminine women are more appealing. I'll be attracted to a tomboy if she's hot and we generally have good chemistry. But as a generality a girly girl is just more attractive from a pure primal attraction basis.

DontTreadOnMe · Answer

I would say both. because I like some things in a girl that a Tom boy does that girly girls don't do and vice versa.

saudiguy1 · Answer

Something in between; she knows how to dress for the occasion, her personality would be sweet and girly, but "isn't afraid to get her hands dirty".

Anonymous · Answer

does it matter? no. I don't care one way or the other as long as it is possible to love that person

Rachel_is_gay · Answer

Most tomboys are more chill and they are more likely to be more energetic. Plus they are less insecure and don't always afraid to get dirty or afraid that their nails are gonna break, hair's gonna get messy, makeup is gonna be ruined, etc...

sawno · Answer

In between is perfect! I want a girl who enjoy's the geeky hobby's i have or at least likes me doing them. But i'd still like her to look like a girl, even if its without makeup.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I really like both types of girls doesn't matter to me.

1988fido · Answer

I like girly girls and in between but  Pure Tom boy hell no

mindfreaktony · Answer

Yeah. sure. y not. they are also girls. coz I love both. they just have different appearance coz they have different dress style

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on the meaning of tomboy, I mean an attractive girl (in good shape, pretty face) who is into cars, video games, camping etc will probably have a lot of suitors. But if the tomboy is frumpy looking then she won't.

dolemite68 · Answer

I like tomboys that can still dress up and be as hot as any girl girl. girly girls are hot but its so sexy when a girl with a big ass is like rocking tight jeans, a hoodie and a ball cap :)

Lithium65 · Answer

60/40 or 70/30 more girly than tomboy. the main thing is that she likes to look good and take care of herself. But isn't afraid of rolling up her sleeves.

TrollG0D · Answer

You've answered your own question. The guys on gag want tomboys (many just want boys anyway), but guys in real life want feminine girls.

Browneye57 · Answer

No, guys like girlie girls, otherwise they would like boys.  Somehow, some women think that 'strong independent' means to be like men. The more they try to be like men the less the men like them.

Anonymous · Answer

im a tomboy, but i look girly, i just have a really dude humor, play video games n im not so easly offended like chicks.
Kinda like it tho, if you look at me you expect me 2 be some selfish chick, but i end up being a chill gamer.

existing_not_living · Answer

I think guys just like dating girls they vibe with. If they happen to be girly girl or tomboyish, it doesn't matter.

Toreno · Answer

Nah - I can't find anything atractive in tomboys. The delicacy, the sweetness and all that only girly girls have is what attracts me. LONG LIVE TO THE GIRLY GIRLS!

Paul09 · Answer

I can't vote. I like a bit of both. Can dress sexy on occassions. But wants to explore and have a lot of fun , activities, sports, not afraid to get dirty, etc.. but also uses her sexybess to seduce me and or make other guts jealous.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I heavily prefer girly girls. Tomboyishness is one of the biggest turn offs to me.

Andy175 · Answer

I do prefer girly girls but I enjoy it when they aren't too "princess-ish" aka bitchy 🤔
Be fed up that your nail broke? Sure, go ahead! I totally understand but please don't cry about it for 2 hours straight 😄

Hope you get my point 😊

NotJustHereForLulz · Answer

I'd lean more towards a tomboy since I'd probably have more interests in common with her than I would with the girly girl.

Sinister · Answer

I didn't vote because I like both there no 3rd option that has both ideals together.

John_Wolf_123 · Answer

Tomboys all the way. Don't like those 'Damsel in Distress' type.

spnsfi · Answer

It's a mix, I like a girly girl who isn't afraid to get her hands dirty.

OpenWine · Answer

that tomboy pic is terrible, she looks really shy. any kind of girl who is good looking and gives me a good vibe/has me feeling comfy being around is a possible date.

red324 · Answer

I want a girl that will help me change the oil, but also want to look sexy in a spaghetti strap dress :) She doesn't have to change the oil, just hand me a wrench. lol So basically a combination.

BanterBlitz · Answer

I think it's a false dichotomy. Most girls like to dress up on occasion, but if she hangs out at the weekend looking like Girl A I would think it's a bit odd.

JCT666 · Answer

Both are fine, but I do prefer tomboys. They often have the same interests and humour as me.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer tomboyish girls, especially the sporty type.  I never liked "girly girls" because they are high maintenance and too passive/submissive.

vividblu · Answer

I would want to date a girly girl. I'm even a little feminine. But straight.

bainto93 · Answer

girly girl for me I dated Tom boyish types and we didn't have a lot in common. But if say it has more to do with the person and their interests

AleDeEurope · Answer

Girly girls all the way

Harribo2017 · Answer

if there's chemistry i dont mind..

hvictor · Answer

Tomboys that can be girly when they want to

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

In-between leaning toward the girly girl side.

lord_chilled · Answer

became the tiebreaker :-)

BoobMan · Answer

When it comes to girls, the girlier the better.

hawkeye92 · Answer

I don't date boys you weirdo

spenzer · Answer

i like a girl who is at least a bit girly.

TheNinthCircle · Answer

I need a girly girl. I do not understand Tomboys.

Listening5 · Answer

Of course not. No tomboys

Decentguy · Answer

i always prefer girly girls

Ghassan2 · Answer

Personality of a tomboy but looks of a girly girl.

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