My girlfriend cheated on me with my dad?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and dad had sex three times and felt so bad they told me.
We have been together for over a year. My girlfriend and father last week set me down to tell me they had a week long affair a couple months ago. They only had sex three times they said, and after the third time they say they both felt extremely guilty and mortified at their actions. They've been wanting to tell me since then but didn't have the hearts. I always knew they got on well, they bonded over many shared interests, but I never saw this coming. I feel completely sick. I haven't eaten hardly anything since they told me. I haven't officially broken up with her yet, but it is obvious as I haven't responded to any of the texts/calls she's sent. When they first told me and after it had sank in, I left and haven't said a word to anyone outside of work since. I've been a total ghost to my whole family and friend group. My dad and I are very close. For my whole life I have looked up to him. He and my mom divorced when I was a teenager but they have been very friendly to each other which made the process so much easier. I want to forgive my dad. But if my girlfriend had cheated on me with another person, I would easily cut them both off. And in a weird way my dad has hurt me so much more by doing this than she has. I could get over a cheating girlfriend. But my relationship with my father, a relationship I cherished, is destroyed. And it's his fault. My question is this: Should I forgive my father? How can I forgive him? Should I tell my mom or brother? Would I be CRUEL for completely cutting him off which is what my heart it telling me to do?

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My dad began to tell me about the affair

At first I didn't even really understand what the hell they were saying but when my girlfriend started crying and my dad looked serious and put his arm on her shoulder to comfort her the reality hit me. I wasn't able to ask any coherent questions I was just in shock, but he said he loved me or something and that even though they messed up I should forgive

[Anonymous]

Just ditch your cheating girlfriend. Your dad had been using you to find a good little young whore to manipulate and fuck, and now I guess his work is all set and done. You should not forgive your dad. Your dad fucked you over there should be hell to pay, you should not be merciful. Karma's a bitch. Since he fucked you over, you're not obligated to support him or help him when he's in need of your help. And if one day he begs or cry for your help either from an emergency, illness or even when he's dying, then you should just tell him to go fuck himself and die!

Learn to be more colder, more darker, more ruthless especially towards people that fucked you over like that just because they see you as someone to easily be taken advantage of. It the only way to be to treat those that had intentionally fucked you over.

You should definitely tell your mom and brother about how big of an asshole your dad is. Tell that whore girlfriend to join a whorehouse, go be a porn star or a fucking stripper. She does not deserve your respect or forgiveness, I mean seriously? 3 motha fuckin' times? Really? Even once is already wrong enough, but understandable, more more than once shows they only cared about what made them felt good, they did not give a fuck about how you would feel and think thus why should you give a fuck about how they feel and think. The most important thing when in doubt in any relationship or partnership is find something you can hold leverage over the other person in case they ever screw you and fuck you over like this, otherwise they'd get away with it and you'd be the one that get fucked and suffer the most out of the entire situation and scenario.

Cut your father off, he deserves no respect for you. Even if they felt guilty about what they did it's too late.

Your girlfriend and dad should be glad and grateful you aren't somebody that had snapped or snapped and put a few bullets in either of their heads by now, or stabbed them multiple times, because shit like that can result from betrayals like what you had already suffered through.

Tell them they should be grateful you aren't one of those people otherwise they'd be corpses and in the media by now, and tell them to fuck off and never ever contact you again as you should never ever see them or talk to them again.

[Asker]

Sir.

You basically said everything that I'm thinking and feeling.

[Opinion Owner]

That's the spirit, feel more hatred and resentment toward them both. One day your dad might look back and regret that he ever fucked you over like this. So you can finally make it as miserable for him by ignoring him and abandoning his fucking ass when he becomes old and hapless eventually. I mean he didn't give a fuck how bad you were gonna be hurt like you are now, right? Maybe when he's old and dying you can tell him to go fuck himself and tell him don't ask why, because he know what he did was wrong and that it is completely unacceptable and unforgivable. Instead at that time, remind him how he should be grateful that you'd only ditch him to suffer on his own, because many other people out there in the same fucking situation would have easily snapped already and he would been bleeding to death before there are any words or explanation. So just remind him, that if he ever begs for your help or to see him when he's old and dying, remind him of his big fuck ups that is unforgivable.

[Intraluminal]

Wow. I've heard of mothers fucking their daughter's boyfriends, but this is unusual to say the least.

If your father has otherwise been a good father, then I suspect there's more to this story than you know.

If any case, you need to distance yourself for a while to process how you feel. Good luck!

[tiabell]

im not trying to be rude but when i read this i laughed really hard. now, in all seriousness, you need to give it time but you should definitely forgive both parties involved in this situation. you should forgive your father because if you guys were so close, thats not something you wanna just throw away. but give it time. and then forgive the girlfriend (dont take her back) but forgive her so that you aren't holding a grudge on your shoulders

[juicyjessie]

He is not going to throw it away. His father already threw it in the trash!

[tiabell]

people make mistakes. his father is a human being who made a mistake. everyone deserves to be forgiven

[juicyjessie]

One day, you will learn that cheating is NOT a mistake. It is a deliberate act of betrayal, that if forgiven, could lead to it happening again.

[juicyjessie]

... and it takes two to tango. They planned and plotted this. It simply did not "just happen". Not three times.

[tiabell]

cheating can very well be a mistake. you dont know what was going through his father or girlfriends mind at the time. and just because you forgive doesn't mean you let them back as close as they were before. forgiveness is simply letting go of that negativity

[juicyjessie]

Supposing they had not told this guy? How many times do you think they could have cheated? Four times? ten times? Every day for a year? You wanna forgive that? That is up to you.

Good luck!

[tiabell]

i would definitely forgive them. i dont have the time, nor the energy to hold a grudge filled with negative emotions on my shoulders

[Asker]

What exactly was funny about my story?

[tiabell]

im not sure. it just made me laugh really hard. i found it amusing

[juicyjessie]

I guess you will laugh when it happens to you

[tiabell]

it won't happen to me because my parents are happily married and love each other unconditionally. what you speak into existence happens. i understand he's hurt but it'll pass. thats the reality if the situation

[Asker]

FUCK YOU YOU BITCH ADS HOE

[Asker]

Hope it happens to you.

[juicyjessie]

I think it would be almost as bad if some other lady took YOUR guy away for sex. Now you will tell me you are never going to be in a relationship.

[juicyjessie]

Famous last words! I am moving on now.

[Anonymous]

How a father could do that to his own son, I just do not know. That is one of the most despicable thing that could ever happen.

If it were my boyfriend and my mother, he would be an ex-boyfriend straight away. No reasons need be given. Also I would disown my mother, never to be forgiven.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO.

[Anonymous]

I would say distance yourself till you heal, it was terrible of your father to betray you this way, break up with your girlfriend and take time to heal and when you feel like it forgive your father

[Dagrath]

Tell your father to fuck off and get rid of your girlfriend. Obviously, they both don't care about you otherwise they wouldn't had done it.

[Asker]

Their explanation was pretty much they fucked up, but I definitely did not hang around long enough for details. My dad basically invited my girlfriend and I over for dinner (he cooks a lot) and when I showed up my girlfriend went over and sat next to him on the couch and called me over. My dad then told me about the affair and how sorry he was. I have no idea how or where it happened as I didn't ask and they didn't tell me.

At first I didn't even really understand what the hell they were saying but when my girlfriend started crying and my dad looked serious and put his arm on her shoulder to comfort her the reality hit me. I wasn't able to ask any coherent questions I was just in shock, but he said he loved me or something and that even though they messed up I should forgive them both. I promptly got the fuck out of there.

[Lopezz1999]

Both must go. Cheating should not be tolerated, especially by family.

[Asker]

Their explanation was pretty much they fucked up, but I definitely did not hang around long enough for details. My dad basically invited my girlfriend and I over for dinner (he cooks a lot) and when I showed up my girlfriend went over and sat next to him on the couch and called me over. My dad then told me about the affair and how sorry he was. I have no idea how or where it happened as I didn't ask and they didn't tell me.

At first I didn't even really understand what the hell they were saying but when my girlfriend started crying and my dad looked serious and put his arm on her shoulder to comfort her the reality hit me. I wasn't able to ask any coherent questions I was just in shock, but he said he loved me or something and that even though they messed up I should forgive them both. I promptly got the fuck out of there.

[Lopezz1999]

Forgive a cheater? No. No cheater deserves forgiveness for any reason. As for your father, that was disgraceful for him to betray his own son with someone he knows is his. There are other women that he could fuck, so why would he decide to go for your girlfriend? That doesn't deserve forgiveness either, with all honesty.

[Anonymous]

Listen man this sounds like some pretty dark shit you're going through, I'd wait and heal for the moment, talk to both your father and your girlfriend but you shouldn't do anything stupid until you've healed. I feel for you man.

[Asker]

Their explanation was pretty much they fucked up, but I definitely did not hang around long enough for details. My dad basically invited my girlfriend and I over for dinner (he cooks a lot) and when I showed up my girlfriend went over and sat next to him on the couch and called me over. My dad then told me about the affair and how sorry he was. I have no idea how or where it happened as I didn't ask and they didn't tell me.

At first I didn't even really understand what the hell they were saying but when my girlfriend started crying and my dad looked serious and put his arm on her shoulder to comfort her the reality hit me. I wasn't able to ask any coherent questions I was just in shock, but he said he loved me or something and that even though they messed up I should forgive them both. I promptly got the fuck out of there.

[NotableHydra]

You should never forgive anyone who does shit like that.

[Anonymous]

I know its wrong to hit your parents or women, but you should have punch them both in the face.

[ijustwantnudes]

just kick her to the curb bruh she a hoe and move out too

[LeFrogDog]

Honestly I would give it time. Give it a month or however long. If they talk to you just state you need your time to think things over

[Crapulux]

I guess this is possibly the most relevant lesson any father can give his son on the true nature of women ;)

Bit harsh though.

[ItsDatBoi110]

ho ly shit, this is quite the dilema friend. I mean, tell the girl its over and have a long talk with your father. can't really suggest much... but you have my sympathies, horrible thing...

[Anonymous]

Leave your girlfriend and father. That BS is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Cut them off. Both.

[kokoboko]

hahaha. Great scenario for a porno. I love it!

[Asker]

FUCK OFF BITCH!!!

[kokoboko]

You are mean :(

[Asker]

So are you.

[kokoboko]

Well, I know that. But you should see me as a bad example and not follow in my footsteps.

[Asker]

What do you mean follow in your footsyeps?

[kokoboko]

By being a horrible, hateful, patheric excuse of a human. *cries in corner*