My dad is hardcore cheating on his girlfriend. What do I do?

[Powderkitty]

My dad is dating his girlfriend for 2 and a half years, and she made me feel like I finally had a mom. For those who don't know, my mom remarried after coming out of the asylum because she became suicidal, why? My dad cheated and abused her. I was so happy that my dad was becoming finally loyal that I got this amazing bond with my almost stepmom, but for some strange reason he was getting mad all the time when he noticed I was getting attached to her as if she was my mother, and for a woman who lost her daughter from cancer, she finally got back that bond. Today she was on a business trip with her younger son, who's just started University, and my father was missing all day (as usually he was at work) but when he got back, he instantly started getting ready and told me that he'll be back soon. He arrived home at midnight while I was finishing a conversation on the phone, and I rushed to the kitchen because I haven't eaten anything yet, but he wouldn't let me pass because he said "I have a guest... so you better go back to your room.". I was a bit suspicious but I went back to my room with an empty stomach to read a book, twenty minutes later I could hear them having sex. And I could hear her voice, she was much younger than him or my stepmom, she must have been in her late twenties... I'm so grossed out I threw up. My dad hated my ex for cheating on me but what disgusted me more is that he is just like my ex... god I wanna vomit again. How do I deal with that crap?

Go and warn her

Tell my dad I know and give him a warning

Somehow find the whore and take revenge

Let it eat me inside

[cheriya]

I kind of read the poll wrong somehow, but I mean to choose to go warn your dad’s girlfriend. It’s for the better good and in the long run, she’ll surely thank you for that. Your bond with her will still be together, but it really hurts knowing that your s/o was cheating on you. You letting her know that will allow her to take the initiative when bringing it up with your dad. If she wasn’t planning on telling him, there’s a high chance your dad would act like it never happened, and she would going on thinking that he never cheated on her. It’s unfaithful. Go ahead and tell her. No offense, but what a asshole.

[Perks]

If you feel good doing so, talk to your father first and tell him how you feel. I think the way you described your bond with your stepmother in the beginning is a perfect description that you should definitely use while talking to your dad. Threaten him by saying that if he doesn't give up on the new girl, or cheating in general, that you will tell your stepmom about it. Also tell him he's a horrible person for doing that to everyone surrounding him

[Slimey2]

Go talk to your dad about it. Either he will deny it, get annoyed that you figured it out or apologise to you and his girlfriend he was cheating on
If he doesn't apologise, threaten to tell his girlfriend (the one that he isn't cheating on).
If he STILL doesn't apologise go and tell his girlfriend.

I know it will be hard, but you have to do it. To keep you all happy.

[boggboss]

It's one of those weird ones as acting to fast would directly effect your life as u live with him and if u cause a problem for him can you ensure he won't throw you out?

[SullyB]

Go and warn your dads girlfriend, its the right thing to do, she doesn't deserve that, and you don't deserve that. Your dad is an asshole jerk imao.

[smokeandberry]

Talk to your dad about it, it's unfair on you and particularly shitty that he's doing it while you're in the house. If he understands and puts an end to it then good, but if he carries on that's when you tell his girlfriend.

[Lady_Frost]

She might as well be threatened by him if she tells that lady.

[smokeandberry]

If she knew things were definitely going to turn sour she wouldn't even be considering it. It's her life that's being affected too and tbh I congratulate her for trying to put an end to the things stressing her out.

[NoturPrincess]

Just straight up warn her.
With all due respect to your dad, he doesn't seem like a man with a conscience so it would be pointless to give him a warning. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.

[TheIceCreamQueen]

If I was you... I would personally let your stepmom know but make it seem like it's an outsider telling her so no one knows it's you. Make a fake Facebook account, send her a message explaining everything he is doing and add in details so she understands it's someone who has to know him closely and is saying the truth.

[azzntittiz]

Oh no, not men, they have an innate protective instinct towards women
-_- warn your stepmom and move out with her.

[smg1018]

You’re in a pretty crappy situation, I would definitely warn her!

[D1VADAME]

Tell him you know, and blackmail him. Him being your dad doesn't excuse him from being a cheater! Either that, or secretly collect evidence. Play it at a family function. Destroy his reputation. THAT'S how to hit hard!

[NoturPrincess]

Justice would be served

[Billywu]

DivaDame your stupid jjst2shut the fuck up

[D1VADAME]

@Billywu

congratulations! you are the piss buffoon lord of shit mountain. thank u for hefting turds down the mountainside so that we, the proles, may feast on your bounteous craps

[Merilc]

I would warn her because of what the discriptipn sounds like, your dad would not react well.

[Nora_Sutherlin]

Talk to your father, and if he doesn't take you seriously or gets angry at you go to your stepmom and tell her everything.

[lilmissumshine]

Stay out of it. he's an adult what's done in the dark will come to light eventually

[Shreyash108]

You shoul inform your step mom!.
That's the right thing to do i guess

[Anonymous]

Just hint at it when talking with your dad.
Not all swingers do it in the same room.

[Kit446]

If I was me I would warn her. Personally I despise cheaters

[Uhhjsshshdh]

Family > Strangers. Why would you betray your father? How would you feel if you were cheating on your boyfriend and your dad sided with your boyfriend?

[Naydyonov]

No, would you say family > strangers if this family member was a serial killer?
I hope not.
It's about what's right, and your family also needs to be accountable in front of you

[azzntittiz]

Fuckboi

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@azzntittiz I don't condone cheating, nor do I cheat. But I put family and friends before everyone else.

[Naydyonov]

answer my question then

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@Naydyonov I would be very upset if my family and friends were serial killers, I would try and get them to stop. But I would never turn them in to the law, that would be backstabbing them.

[Naydyonov]

If they killed your friend, child, or spouse, would you go to the police?

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@Naydyonov Yeah because family vs family evens out the loyalty. It's only in family vs stranger scenarios that I wouldn't rat them out.

[Naydyonov]

I think you're quite a terrible person.
To put your loyalty to a murderer above people's lives.

It's one thing if the death was a complete accident, but premeditated murder? You must have quite a level of amorality

[Uhhjsshshdh]

@Naydyonov Morality is subjective. I could say you have poor morality for willing to turn in a father, mother, wife, or child.

While you can say I have a lack of care for strangers, I could say you have a lack of loyalty to family.

[Uhhjsshshdh]

To clarify it's not really one or the other. I'd view it case by case. If my dad killed a man because he robbed from him, I wouldn't turn him in. If my dad killed a child for no reason, I would turn him in.

It depends. It's case by case.

[Naydyonov]

Well that's why I wrote, "Serial Killer". !

Specifically about if someone in your family was a serial killer.
Because in that case you can't argue that it was an accident or justified.

Rarely do people agree that a serial killer had justification to kill all his victims.

Since normally they kill people at random then it's without justification.

[BeeryNice]

Move out with your step mum

[ScarletAngelic]

You shouldn't really get involved.

[CuriousUnicorn]

Low key I’d probably tell her to break up with him and take me with her 😬

[Rosewanda]

I think you should tell her.

[Sabretooth]

the right thing would be to warn her

[NerdInDenial]

Don’t get involved.

[Syrian_survivor]

Warn her n run away with her if u can!