I got drunk and think I scared him away, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

I invited this guy from tinder to a show. He had been trying to see me for awhile. He came and things were going well. I think we had a lot in common. We were drinking and I didn't eat, so I got way drunker than him.. not to mention, he's extremely tall, so I doubt he was on my level. We went to a bar after and i think that drink put me over the edge because I don't remember much other than we hooked up and I felt bad about it so I went a little crazy girl and was worried he thought I was slutty so i said stuff like I don't do this often seriously etc.. he left and said he'd text but I could tell he was a little weirded out.. I apologized the next day for being too drunk, but he eventually just stopped responding. I think he ghosted... I feel bad because I was actually pretty into him and I think he would have been into me if I hadn't gotten wasted. I feel like there's not much I can do without coming off clingy or crazy...

[Raghav33]

Give him some time (2days)
Text him after a while.
Be sophisticated and try to comfort him.
Don't keep apologizing (it would remind him of u being drunk)
Have a positive chat for a day and next day plan on meeting him again.
It would definitely work 👍

[Asker]

I don't know I've given it like 5 days since he stopped responding to my last text where it was just a casual conversation.. and he hasn't reached out so I kinda feel like its done unless he forgot about the whole thing months later.

[Raghav33]

Did u text him after that.
Did u text him in last 5 days?

[Asker]

No, because I feel like he's done with me already.

[Raghav33]

All i want to say is she showed up once, he spent his time even when u were ur worst.
He will back again, when the time is right.
Just keep in touch, nd make ur moves.
Gtg
Goodluck 😊

[Raghav33]

.. he*

[Mega_illuminati]

You are right. This is why first impression is really important. I think the more you try to reach out to him, more you will scare him away. Playing it cool would be your best option.

[Anonymous]

That's all he wanted from you. Move on.

[Browneye57]

Tinder = FAIL
Drunken = FAIL
hooked up = FAIL
Clingy/crazy = FAIL

Battin' a thousand baby!

Never do anything you need to apologize for. This way you never have to apologize for nothin'.

[Raghav33]

Yeah..
and what do u get being hard as a dick.
Mistakes happen, not everyone is as experienced as u are.
If u don't do anything u should apologize for, u will never learn a lesson, for what u've lost.
It's a good thing to learn from mistakes.

[Browneye57]

@Raghav33 - silly boy, these are NOT 'mistakes'. This is how she operates. Stay away. Very far away. The worst is yet to come. And yes, it's hard - it's called a 'wake-up call', and a huge warning to others.
Also notice she feels bad but there is not acceptance of any kind of fault or causation - it is all outside influences, a happenstance that she got drunk in the first place. This is someone that lacks self control, cognizance, and awareness.

[Raghav33]

Okay so now u Gonna punish her for what she did, and make her feel for guilty on a social media
Or are you gonna help her, and give her some advice on already trying to get that guy back in her life..

[Raghav33]

atleast*

[Browneye57]

@Raghav33 - No. He would have to be nuts. These are the girls your momma warned you about.

[Browneye57]

And anyway, who the F are YOU? White-knighting the shit out of this one? What exactly do you get out of it? Just good practice, eh? Egads.

[Raghav33]

My momma warned me about dickheads like u tryin to bring people down for no reason.
And what are you gonna get by making her feel guilty.
U had ur bitches in ur age old guy, no need to be a father figure in dating conversations like these.
Tell ur wife u gave a relationship advice to a 20 year old girl. She will give u the exact reply u deserve.
And let us know what she said. 😂

[Asker]

I take responsibility for losing control for sure, but at the same time thats not how I would normally act and it's unfortunate that that he's gonna assume I'm crazy and there's worse yet to come from that.

[Asker]

Also, I already feel guilty... so thanks for adding to it. It's not a great emotion.

[Raghav33]

Dnt worry dear
Give him some time.
He showed up once, coz he liked u, he would show up again.
Just dnt mess it up this time 😋

[Asker]

@Raghav33 Yeah, I agree. I just regret it and wish I could get a second chance because I was definitely normal earlier on in the night.

[Raghav33]

You will get a second chance, bt ull have to fight for it a bit.
He might try avoiding u, bt thats what u have to fight for..(a second chance)
One he agrees, make a good impression.
Good luck 😊

[Asker]

@Raghav33 Maybe.. I don't know I feel like I acted casual/normal the next day when I reached out. But I feel like If I keep trying, I'll come off clingy and support the evidence that I'm crazy chick.

[Raghav33]

Okay then if u think its not a good idea to approach him right now then dont.
Do it When ur confident enough to do so..
He will understand..😋

[Raghav33]

Maybe u acted too normal the next day, like this is not the first time u did that to a guy.

[Browneye57]

@Raghav33 - Wifey says she needs to grow up a bit. :)
Don't get drunk. Don't lose control. Don't hook up. Don't do stuff you have to apologize for, feel guilty about, or feel sorry for yourself about.

[dilligaff]

I would text him and let him know that since you haven't heard from him that your not going to bother him anymore. And then just leave it a lone. If he likes you he will get back to you.

[Raghav33]

she already did text him apologizing for being drunk and ruining his night.😂
But that didn't work..

[dilligaff]

Then he probably doesn't like her then

[Raghav33]

He did like her that's why he showed up to meet her.
But it's ok.
First impressions are important, but they are not everything a person can be.
He showed up once he would do it again only if she maintains a level of sophistication 😋

[Vanjasper]

We all fuck up and do things we later regret. Don't beat yourself up over it.