How can I overcome or even embrace my dad vibe while trying to find a girlfriend?

[Lancaster4201]

To be clear, I am 23 and not a dad. However my general vibe because of my mannerisms, look, and speaking style, comes across as very mature. I could easily pass for someone several years my senior. I want to be found attractive, but I am not sure if the dad vibe I give off is unattractive.

As proof of my dad vib, during a public speaking class a girl first mentioned that I spoke like a professor would but changed it to father, and even started calling me "Father" as a joke (she was taken at the time).

I know there is a time to give off a dad vibe, but is there a way to do that in the dating pool, or is it something I need to work off? If so, how?

[sam1994]

It depends on the person who you are talking to. Some women like men who are more mature, some do not. You shouldn't have to change anything about yourself for someone to be interested in you because the relationship could be forced and you could be uncomfortable trying to be someone that you're not.

[Lancaster4201]

I agree that I should be able to be myself, but being the current version of myself has gotten me very little. I want to improve myself in healthy ways and just change a little bit to make myself more attractive (not being someone else, just a better version of myself).

[sam1994]

Do you feel like you need more because society says you should at your age or because you truly want to be with someone? It doesn't seem like there is anything you need to change about yourself to become better but rather find girls who are interested in you as you are.

[Lancaster4201]

I want to be in a relationship. I have many personal excuses for why I have never had a real relationship. Most of them revolving around limited social ability. For the purpose of this question, I am trying to find out if the dad vibe is attractive or not and how to enhance or midgate the results. I feel unattractive and I want to know if it is because of my dad vibe or if it is not a factor at all.

[sam1994]

I personally prefer mature men but not everyone will. Some women like men who are young and fun and social but I'm quiet and don't like to draw attention to myself so calm and mature is preferred.

[Lancaster4201]

If you don't mind me asking, where can I find a woman like you? Where would you like a mature man to find and interact with you at?

I am from a rather small town, but I am fairly close to a bigger city. I feel like there are no single women that would be attracted to someone like me (more calm and mature), but I am sure I am not looking in the correct spots.

[sam1994]

I prefer online dating websites so that I can feel a guy out before meeting him in person. Then I can be more in control of the situation. I don't go out like most young people (I'm not interested in drinking or partying or socializing in general). I didn't do well with meeting people at college either although that is one of the main ways to meet people.

[Lancaster4201]

I can see your point there. It makes sense. May I ask if you live in a pretty big city, a medium size city, a small City, or a rural town?

Also how successful are you and on what type of sites (I assume tinder isn't great)?

[sam1994]

I live in a rural town but travel to nearby medium cities frequently. I've met people at school and work and on tinder but since I'm shy and don't pursue the few guys who do talk to me, I'm assuming that's why nothing usually comes of it.

[Anjie2218]

First off, stop calling it dad vibe. It's who you are. Secondly, those are all quality traits to have however, what feed back have you gotten from woman?

[Anonymous]

You dont look daddyish to me. But maybe lose the glasses and facial hair. Try some contacts