Interracial relationship insecurities?

[BaddieBunny12]

I'm in my first relationship with a guy who is white and I am African American/mixed. While race doesn't matter to either of us. Sometimes I feel insecure that he will find himself wanting to be with a girl his own race. We have talked about it before and my boyfriend has said he stopped dating white girls because he found some of them to be snotty and rude, although that is not entirely true for every white girl this makes me question his motives. My body is very shapely and in comparison my boyfriend is very fit. I'm nervous that my boyfriend will want a smaller petite girl. My boyfriend tells me he thinks I'm beautiful but I still feel nervous that he's only with me to make get reaction out of white girls or because he has a weird attraction to any black girl instead of just wanting to be with me

[ManDudeBro]

Personally I'm white and I find black woman very attractive (though personality takes priority along with good morals) and I doubt he is doing this to get a reaction out of white girls when people date someone to make an ex jealous that's one thing but to make a race jealous that's very unlikely and he describes his exs as snobbish and rude so I doubt he wants anything to do with them let alone make em jealous

[MartinS97]

Hey dear. I don't think that the race matters in a relationship. When he says that you are beautiful than trust him. I know that there are guys that only want to have some "fun"... but not every boy is as stupid as this assholes.
Try to trust him and show him that you are the best choice :)

[Adaeze97]

I've only ever dated white guys and I've never worried about them leaving me for a white girl or any other girl for that reason.

If he's with you it's because he wants to be with you! I find with interracial couples it's usually the black girls who brings up the race aspect.
You sound very attractive and I'm sure you have nothing to worry about 💕

[TheMoroccangirl]

I know your feeling but you shouldn't let your insecurities take over you. I was in an interracial relationship as well and I also feared he'd change his mind someday and realize that his own race is better, but then I forced myself to think I preferred interracial myself so he must be too. He sees the beauty in you, you can't see.

[melina_19]

Don't be so insecure. Take everything he says into consideration and be optimistic about it. Plus, there's no need to be insecure because of it being interracial... I only date white guys, but I'm not worrying about any of that stuff you just mentioned. I know plenty of white men who like black women too. Just be yourself.

[Intraluminal]

If you really think that he is motivated not by love for you, but to mess with white girls or because of a black fetish, then you need to get rid of him. Otherwise, just take what he's saying at face value. I mean, as a white guy, I do have a mild preference for black girls, but it's not a fetish, I just like the distinctive look.

[Fbomb]

I think you need to just chill out. Talk to him a bit more about why you feel the way you do. The bottom line is this: Do you feel wanted by him? If so, then what's the problem? If you don't feel that way then tell him about it and get prepared to be showered with kisses.

[Twistboy101]

Soon enough, you'll find out if that's his reason for dating you. And if it's for that sole reason alone is then you shouldn't be with him... But it probably isn't... I'm sure he like you for who you are... and he shouldn't care about skin color...

[kiradavis]

Sounds to me like he's right where he wants to be. :)

[marshamarshmallow]

Why does everything remind me of a song? lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M9F2HeYQ-jA

[crunchy98]

Girl, your should never give all your feelings and love to one guy, especially if you have doubts. You won't get hurt in the long run that way. But if it doesn't work out that way, there's many more fish in the sea ! Good luck !

[G-Daz]

I wouldn't even think about it. But I understand in the usa there isi a huge emphasis on race to the point of people feeling like they belong to a category thanks to leftist liberal identity politics

[deraz24]

I would just worry ab you and him and the now. Don't 2nd guess yourself he's with you for a reason and he wouldn't be with you if he didn't feel for you, focus on making the best of y'all relationship

[Zer0Ghost]

And besides your own paranoia, what evidence do you have of that?

[marshamarshmallow]

I think everything's hunky-dory. :)

[Pink2000]

So you don't think he's with you outbofblove?

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

What's your question?

[Midget_Hug]

You're right. His motivations are terrible.