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"Great" person does not equal great-for-you. People who have good qualities are not offered free passes in to relationships because they think (or others think) that they're great. There is a lot more going on with finding compatibility than whether or not someone is "great". Besides, being great has so many facets.
If someone saves a cat from a tree, that could be one thing. But what if I value someone who can't climb a tree to save said-cat but they are faithful and loyal in relationships? It's just subjective. People need to stop feeling pressured about dating someone with some good qualities and realize their own brand of 'great' can be found in someone else. :)
Yes! All the time! I've met so many great guys who treat me really well but Im not physically attracted to them. I let it sit with me for afew weeks before I make up my mind or at least find out if I can change those feelings but can't.. and unfortunately they would think Im stringing them along but its not the case 😣
I feel the same!! I do feel guilty because that's our problem we go for what we like in front of us and now how they will treat us and how great of a person they will be to us. As I grow older I get mad at myself for going for the wrong guys. Like my sister says don't date someone based on their looks
No. Just because your not physically attracted to them does make you a bad person. it means they aren't your preferred body type. the reason why feel attracted to people in a sexual way is because of animal instincts and chemicals released in your brains. your instincts tell you to find the partner with the best evolutionary traits i. e. stronger, able birth the most offspring and feed those offspring, along with being taller. its the same reason birds a n d other animals show off to attract mates. the person may be great emotionally or the sweetest person ever but you may not be physically attracted to them and that's ok.
That and Porn... and the 20,000 images of half naked chicks that the media throws our way forcing a fake plastic idea of what we should like that is sorta boring and too similar for my taste. I dig girls that are different from that. I don't get involved with someone im not attracted to and who isn't a good person also. I dont need to feel guilty about it, cuz the whole package is always attractive to me.
Most of the time we are attracted to the people who are wrong for us and the ones who are right for us we feel nothing for. Maybe it's our wiring for suffering or maybe being with the wrong person is better then settling for the right because it's more stimulating.
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I've certainly been made to feel guilty about it by accusing me of basically being a bad person.
i think i know what you mean there's a girl im friend's with i think she's great she funny and cares about people but i could never see us as beimg more then friends becuase im just not attracted to her in that way.
it's just a shame, in my opinion
Good question. I don't think that has ever happened to me I believe... I don't think I'd feel guilty, you can't help what you find or don't find attractive. If I liked a girl a lot, I'd most likely look past that, though I can't promise that 100% (I can be pretty shallow at times)
I have no reason to feel guilty, no different not being mentally attracted to a really good looking person.
That's the story of my life.
I feel a smidge of guilt for not finding them attractive. But I've also found that the more I like a woman's personality the more attractive she becomes to me. So a 5 with a great personality becomes a 6. So there is a small window where the attraction can grow to an acceptable level.
Not at all, I am true to myself and know what I like sexually, why would I want to sex shame myself to force myself to like a body type I don't find attractive, that would be a lie. What a stale sex life that would be.
quite often sometimes but i think also most people are good hearted, so it also strange to say i feel bad that i am not physically attracted to anyone, that would be strange, no?
i think for guys it's different, give them any standard good looking girl, which is nice and they will like her.
You mean not being attracted to a great but physically unattractive person? Well I'll feel guilty only if they like me lol. But usually attraction is mutual I think, meaning if one likes another, chances are they'll like him/her back. And that is what I believe.
All a part of being with some one. If you aren't physically attracted to your partner, there will be no intimacy, or there will be no passion in it. Physical looks aren't everything, but they are a part of the whole package.
Not at all. I would feel bad about hurting them, but if attraction isn't there it isn't there. That's not really something that we can control. It's a chemical reaction really.
Yes sometimes but often its within their power to change and if your not attracted to them then thats going to be a problem in a relationship also obviosly we all have the right to chose who we want to date then hope they feel the same way?
no i feel bad that they didn´t come in a better body... i mean the only time i liked a girl for her character but wasn´t attracted was cause she was fat. being fat isn´t unavoidable so i wish she wouldn´t have treated her body like that xD
I've been in the reverse situation. Physical attraction and chemistry wasn't the problem at all. But there was something I couldn't put my finger on that was preventing me from being willing to commit fully.
Not at all. Not fancying them, is a fairly convenient indication that I shouldn't pursue anything further.
Some times, I like to believe I'm above all of the shallow dribble but the physical is what entices us in the first place, no?
Feel bad? Yeah a little bit. But ik deep down if there isn't some form of physical attraction than the relationship won't last
I have been on 2 dates with an incredible guy and I don't want to fuck him... What is wrong with me?
All the time. It sucks that it's rare to find someone you think is physically attractive & a great person all in one
no, not really, the "great person" is most of the time not attracted to me :D
Guilty isn't the right word, but rather shame. I honestly haven't experienced shame for someone not finding me physically attractive, but if it did happen I will feel somewhat of shame and a blow to my ego for a bit then move on.
Oh, I get your question. No I wouldn't feel guilty at all. Physical looks matter to me a lot.
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