Have you ever been attracted to someone you shouldn't have?

[Desconhecida]

[jennifer_bloom]

I used to like a guy but then I learned he had a criminal record, he seemed kind but had a lot of flaws too. And I liked another guy but he was not allowed to date me, and liked another guy but he had a history of serious health issues and I knew I did not want a relationship where there was a high possibility of my husband getting sick later on.

[Switch91]

Yeah big time.
Someone I used to work with, I had a huge crush on her. When we were together we'd talk and laugh so much it was as though there was nobody else there, even in social occasions outside of work, we'd be inseparable. Her and I were on absolothe same wave length in terms of humor and attitude, if she wasn't with somebody I definitely would've asked her out. Her boyfriend was another Co-worker of ours and he was quite neglectful towards her. I never did anything or said it to anybody, that I had a crush on her because she loved this dude and I'm not a dick. Eats me up a bit thinking about if I was in his shoes.

[johnnygodeep]

Second similar post of yours… you’ve got it bad… a friend’s ex :) go get it hun, call him randomly and invite him out for a drink at nice restaurant with swanky bar, and sit at a high top for privacy and be all dolled up and let him make of it what he will… you just put what your willing and comfortable with within his reach. There isn’t any thing not respectable or classy about that. Life is lived once by all. Are we going to miss out on love because our friend dated them first… c’mon… 🖤 smile and have fun…

[Puppystarfish23]

Of course. When I was a teenager I always crushed on guys who were a lot older and maturer then myself I'd genuinely think they would like me back one day lol. Now I'm a adult I see how silly I was and i think to myself "no still not attracted to 16 year olds so why on earth did I think my teacher would have liked me at 16" that's wrong and any adult who does is sick and should know better

[KrisPW]

Hasn't everyone? I've found myself attracted to a lot of men (and a few women) for various reasons. Some for their looks, others for how they treat the people around them. But just because we're attracted to someone doesn't mean we have to act on that attraction.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah a few times, the joys of having emotional connections being more than physical.

You can get very emotionally connected to people and feel it deep inside you.

This is even more so when they feel the same.

It’s likely far easier for those who only get physically attracted to people.

[connemara_crocodile]

Yes, I have a friend who has a boyfriend... I think we like each other but we never said it.

We have this sort of game where we let ourselves be seen naked "by accident" by the other. We're both very obvious that we do it on purpose but we never said anything

[Cathy7734]

I befriended a guy at the college I go to and we talked a lot. I developed a crush on him. When I asked him about "us" he said he wasn't interested. I'm not his type. However, I continued to have a crush on him even though I shouldn't have. It's hard not to when I developed feelings for him. I wish I could turn off my feelings, just like flipping a light switch off.

[LikeALog]

I think that is just part of being a guy.
I've been attracted to women at work, in the neighborhood, in clubs and organizations, in church, in stores and girlfriend's friends. Oh and some nurses when I was in the hospital and a female cop that gave me a ticket.

[RobT312]

Yeah There are times I have been attracted to other people while I was in a relationship and that’s all it is. I don’t act on it.
also, had a threesome and was attracted to the third person in the threesome when we were all having sex.

[MCheetah]

Do you mean based on looks or based on them being bad for you? If the latter, than all of my exes, yeah.

[NathanDavis]

yes, a couple of times and initially, but... I do not entertain such infatuation for long, that's just asking for trouble... so I don't

[AviatorTom]

Many years ago, when I was married, I was very attracted to my female boss. I never did anything about it (other than masturbate to my fantasy).

[Gigi2019]

Sorry if this makes me unrelateable, but, no. I generally don't invest energy in people who are not good for me.

[sissyalexa]

Definitely! My little sister had a friend I would have crawled threw glass to have a chance at but I was good friends with her ex

[JosyJosy]

Maybe? There was a guy in portugal, we were good friends, I caught feelings but shut that down because of the distance. So not sure if it was right or wrong

[Lucy68]

Too many times I have in the past been attracted to someone I shouldn't have been

[LingyRolls]

It's happened to me once but it ended up being a long term thing. Sadly, wet don't get to pick and choose these things. They just happen.

[Ask_me_anything91]

@LingyRolls The Heart wants what it wants.

[EmyyWolf]

Yeah. A narcissist who threw a football at my face!!

[Gigi2019]

That's brutal! XD

[MrtoddsWildRide]

After my mother passed away when my dad started dating again he had a really hot girlfriend.
That was weird for me.

[anylolone]

Yes, otherwise I'd have solved the world.

If I could use my dick, or anything else as an absolute moral compass then we'd be living in paradise.

[Twalli]

No, my attraction has been reasonable for the most part. I did find a second cousin attractive, but I didn't want anything sexual with her. Also she was married.

[TyLeeAndPink]

Fictional psychopaths with a body count much too high

[Gigi2019]

Damn, girl.

[TyLeeAndPink]

@Gigi2019 I mean like Itachi and Gaara 😂

[Gigi2019]

oic :)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it's happened to me and enough to make me blush

[Godsvengeance]

Absolutely and I assume we all have. The attraction isn't the issue, the problem can arise with how you deal with it