Recently, I started online dating - OkCupid. I was talking to multiple guys. There was 1guy who I'd probably gave the least attention & time due to the following: 1. talking to multiple people 2. work 3. busy bday weekend 4. I was sick. He asked me out on a date during our day2 talking at night. He teasingly squeezed in cutely about wantin to snuggle me if I wanted to. I didn't reply until the next evening, "I'd like to see where things go first & then, snuggles come after I do have some plans for this week. I'll check my schedule & see when/if I'm free. I'll let you know "
He didn't reply to me that night until the next day, "I'm usually free on weekends but can make weekdays work with enough notice. Hope you're having a lovely Sunday!"
I replied a couple hours later (since I was celebrating) how I was up for it on a Sat noon & if it worked for him/what he wanted to do. He responded, "Mm i think that should work for me. But I may have some school thing to do that I'm completely blanking on. But yea I'm down for anything so we can play it by ear that day." I usually don't reply fast, but I did that night within an hour. BUT I NEVER heard from him bc the next day, he disable his account. He has been gone for 2 days now,& I know I should forget it if he does not come back after tonight.
I'm left feeling very shocked, confused, & disappointed bc I realized I actually wanted to meet him to get to know him better &see if we click. We only talked for 4 days, so it felt all way too short & fast of a blow This is the 1st time I've felt this guilty; I messed up. But I don't think what he did was right either. Why would he ghost me? (esp when we were on the process of making plans for our 1st date & when he told me how he would be willing to come see me since we are 30 mins apart). Could it be my poor timely responses/show lack interest & attention/him as a law student/not ready to date/lost interest/the snuggle comment/etc? Is there a chance he might come back?
He didn't reply to me that night until the next day, "I'm usually free on weekends but can make weekdays work with enough notice. Hope you're having a lovely Sunday!"
I replied a couple hours later (since I was celebrating) how I was up for it on a Sat noon & if it worked for him/what he wanted to do. He responded, "Mm i think that should work for me. But I may have some school thing to do that I'm completely blanking on. But yea I'm down for anything so we can play it by ear that day." I usually don't reply fast, but I did that night within an hour. BUT I NEVER heard from him bc the next day, he disable his account. He has been gone for 2 days now,& I know I should forget it if he does not come back after tonight.
I'm left feeling very shocked, confused, & disappointed bc I realized I actually wanted to meet him to get to know him better &see if we click. We only talked for 4 days, so it felt all way too short & fast of a blow This is the 1st time I've felt this guilty; I messed up. But I don't think what he did was right either. Why would he ghost me? (esp when we were on the process of making plans for our 1st date & when he told me how he would be willing to come see me since we are 30 mins apart). Could it be my poor timely responses/show lack interest & attention/him as a law student/not ready to date/lost interest/the snuggle comment/etc? Is there a chance he might come back?
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