Why does a guy ghost you after a good date?

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PizzaDaddyo · Accepted Answer

Short answer - * Brace yourself *

It was a bad date.
I guy will naturally not text you he had a shitty or not so good time.
Mom didn’t teach us how and when to text a girl for closure.
HE had a bad date.
You’re still an amazing date but, not for him, sadly.

Lacking in either category of : appreciation, awareness, accountability, respect, thoughtfulness, kindness, responsibility, planning, consideration, compassion, understanding, IQ… the list can go on and on but, no worries because everyone has a different downfall or shortcoming its not like all dudes have all these traits.

Story Time:

I have done this. Slightly after Covid times, I felt bad especially when I dropped her off she told me the date was a 10 out of 10, she wanted to go out again… I was cringing in my head way more intensely from the time I picked her up!

The truth is we had a really smooth date and I had a pretty solid time. Movie, dinner, my place, ya know that whole sha bang. I definitely thought about in the past how I could’ve done that again but in the end I’m glad I didn’t cause I didn’t fully like her and I would have just wasted the energy being with somebody I didn’t fancy.

So, upon meeting her she kind of just didn’t look like exactly what I thought because I met her from tinder. Not to get in detail but, straight up, I wasn't attracted like that from the start.😬

I thought, “what was I gonna do? She’s already in the car… Fuck it? Let’s go on this date any way!” So, I did.

To sum it up:

Met girl from tinder
Wasn’t too pretty (LIES!)
Did I mention her personality was, eh. She definitely liked me. Nothing made her stand out. Calling my cat “Stinker” and telling me that’s what she calls her cat was a sign. I just wasn’t feeling it.😐
When things got hot and heavy, I realized I was the hot one. She was the heavy.
Pierced nips, yay me! I guess?
Took her home and she told me how much she enjoyed it… I wasn’t feeling that. 😮‍💨

I once saw her at the store a year later and it was awkward and ghosted her there too. That’s when it more hit me to end things better in the future.

I was wrong for give her no closure, yes. I definitely should have handled the situation more maturely.

You live and you learn!

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

I have not been dating in a while. Hope to reach a point where I get back out there again soon.

But when I do go on dates, I am always polite and want to leave my date with the sense that I had a good time even if I have no real interest in seeing her again. One reason is that it is usually true. I have been on very few dates that I didn't enjoy. But also very few where I felt I wanted to go on another one.

So I can see how women I have been on dates with might be confused if I don't contact them again. I know that has happened sometimes.

Sometimes it is just a nice time out and not necessarily a love connection. You have to be careful not to misinterpret because it might be hard to distinguish what the other person is feeling about it.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

You aren't the victim he is looking for. People with pathological personalities seek exclusively for people they can easily manipulate and exploit. An example are scammers for seek always for greedy people, because most scams are based on greed of the victim.

OldWomanBySoul · Accepted Answer

It probably wasn't as good date as you think it was or it was a good date but he just isn't attracted to you that much. Either way don't waste your time on him, he clearly isn't interested nor does he have balls to be straightforward

Summeroflove · Answer

How long has it been? People ghost because they’re too much of a coward to just say how they really feel. To say they don’t think it will work.

If someone won’t talk to you. They aren’t worth it anyways

Mallic00 · Answer

You thought it was a good date but he didn't he realized there was something about you that didn't click and knew the relationship had no future, there was no connection, no synergy and no reason to go beyond this point.

If you thought it was a good date, its only because he played it up long enough to get through the night peacefully so he can get away from you without causing drama.

Simply put the only reason you thought it was a good date was because he didn't wanna deal with you pulling a dramatic temper tantrum in the middle of wherever you were at.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Don't take it personal.
Some people just don't click and he doesn't have the balls to tell you he's not feeling it.
I've dated girls who were awesome as hell, but there was just nothing there between us.
Then the girl who ended being my forever baby was probably the most unlikely match you could imagine. Crazy how love works

DextroShade · Answer

You likely did or said something that made him believe you aren't relationship material. Examples include talking about your ex, displaying woke or feminist beliefs, and checking your phone too much. Also, if you tell guys you have a ## day rule most are out.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

You more than likely did or said something that sent up a red flag in his head. I've been around women who have exhibited warning signs before, and I've also ghosted them, too, because I ain't about to deal with the temper tantrums they were gonna throw at me.

99% of modern women ain't worth shit, to be perfectly honest.

Screenwriter · Answer

Maybe what YOU thought of as a good date wasn't HIS idea of one. And people who are disappointed in a first meeting don't usually send you a rating scale. They simply don't recontact you. Just let it go and move on.

desidoll · Answer

It could be various reasons but most of the time, these cowards found someone else whom they “think” better than us. 99% of them will get hit by karma. I have seen it happened.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

I don't understand this on either side. I've heard of girls and guys having a good time, said they enjoyed the date, then said not interested. Why even go through the trouble of going on a date if you're not looking for a partner?

TheThingALing · Answer

Perhaps he had a different take on how the date went.  Would need more info. Did y'all end up having sex? <-- very pertinent

es20490446e · Answer

The most common reasons are: - Not really interested in you. - Playing games to make you more interested. How to tell them apart? If it is the first they never reply again.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Because he probably got to know you. Didn't want to go down that road.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Someone else, thinks you are too good for him, it was not as great for him as it was for you, . . . There could be a lot of reasons. Don't dwell on it too much, as it just means he is not right for you.

Jazzy54 · Answer

He’s just not that into you. 🤷🏽‍♀️Sorry. It happens.

Sunssong · Answer

He lacks character or mental strength to tell u the truth.

Staximus · Answer

Either he was just looking for sex or he's not that interested or both. Be happy that wishy washy bum is out of your life and let him fuck off into the sunset👉 🌅

Normaldude444 · Answer

Because you had the good date, not him. He probably had a bad date.

Simslover92 · Answer

Maybe because it wasn't a good date for him. He was just possibly faking it.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

It wasn't as good as you thought it was, most likely.

zagor · Answer

Maybe he didn't think it was a good date. Or possibly didn't think YOU thought it was a good date and so didn't follow up - I've done that before.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Well, it Might be a good date for you but not him, or he doesn’t wants to come on as strong to be texting you constantly because of what you might think, or he might not be interested in you anymore

TracyF · Answer

They don't. It's probably because he didn't like the date. But everyone is different. So you should probably talk it over with him when he stops ghosting you. To be honest that's not a good sign.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

The date wasn’t good. Maybe he didn’t actually like it and only went along with it.

jshm2 · Answer

Because it wasn't as good a date as you thought.

Anonymous · Answer

Just because she thinks it was a good date doesn't mean he thought it was.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Sometimes the date is good but the phone conversations are dry and it takes a while to schedule another date and I just lose interest or forget to text her for so long that I just say fuck it.

TallAnon · Answer

Expectations not met; Your definition of good is different from his.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Was it the first date and when is the next date scheduled?

anon1903 · Answer

Ghosting is so immature

SunnyRS · Answer

Maybe it wasn't that good for him or maybe for him you weren't the person.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls ghost you after a good date

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Ask Jubal from the Jubal Show, they deal with this all the time.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Good for you not him. Clearly something about you he noticed and isn’t interested

Anonymous · Answer

They have many options, they think you're way too good, they just want to hit it and quit it, etc

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Did he think the same?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Another chick.

Yannishka · Answer

The good date wasn't good enough.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

He didn’t think it was good

sheikalana · Answer

Probably something happened.

poetic_pisces · Answer

ghost him back

SolitarySolace · Answer

Maybe because it was good for you but not for him?

shades777 · Answer

probably for the same reasons you do

Twalli · Answer

Because he's not a good guy

In_Trance · Answer

He didn't think the date was that good

msc545 · Answer

he did not have as good a time as you did.

gag37627 · Answer

He is a spy as per the movie

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

It only good on your part.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

he is a chicken

Anonymous · Answer

Men are just unstable.

SxcSierraa · Answer

He wasn't interested

Anonymous · Answer

A few times

Anonymous · Answer

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