I have absolutely no desire to date, am I weird?

I'll be 24 next month and as time goes on, I find myself less and less interested in dating. I have no desire to have a boyfriend, and I am perfectly content with being single. Yes, I am straight and I do find men to be extremely attractive. But at the same time, I just do not want to take the next step and have a relationship with anyone. I am very close to my parents but they've recently started hinting at how nice it would be for me to find someone with whom I can eventually settle down. They're old fashioned and think that a marriage and children is the ideal lifestyle. For some, of course it is. But for me... I am not so sure yet. I was bullied all through high school and the beginning of college, and during that time, I didn't get to really enjoy life like I should have. I feel like I missed out, and now I want to make up for it. And I actually feel like committing to someone would hinder me at this point. I enjoy my independence and being alone. Am I weird? Has anyone else felt this way before?


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What Guys Said 18

  • That's awesome, no hang ups on nothing, no desire for sex or companionship you should be able to focus on a career and make bank.

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  • it just means your hermones aren't in control its actually good

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  • Depends on the gender and the reasons.

    Guys (such as myself) don't date because it's A LOT of work and grossly inefficient - especially considering how easy it is to get sex nowadays.

    In your case, I kind of feel like there's more to your story, i. e. you fear rejection, etc.

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  • I wish I realized earlier that I could be content being single and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm now at that point where I'm content being single and living my life, but I had to go through a marriage and divorce before I got there. Even now I have friends and family that try to set me up with friends it constantly ask if there's someone 'special' in my life. Being content at being single is a​ good place to be. Enjoy it.

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  • No, you're not weird you're like me we are thinking about other stuff (more meaningful ones) Don't let others decide for you, specially your parents, they may want the best for you but they can only give you what they know about.
    Focus on developing yourself, your skills and talents, then work on getting clarity about what is that you want to do in life, also very important is to try to surround yourself with people that challenge you to be better and can help you reach those goals you set
    (Sorry for long ass text)

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  • I'm 25 and still single. Also virgin.
    Its not weird. Its ok.

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  • Yes i been going through a period of time that i have no desire to dating
    i think it's all got to do with what we went through in life I've faced lot of bullying in school and verbal abuse from people at school and my father so that's one reason why i have little desire to date. It could be depression causing this to happen to us. Really hard to say.

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  • You say you became less and less interested in dating... Na you're not weird then

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  • No..

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  • At your age, not weird at all.

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  • You'll fit right in. The world's full of weirdos now.

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  • Have you always been single or was there a relationship that made you not want to date again?

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  • It's actually quite normal to not feel the need of that. 'Dating' requires a lot of energy and effort and doesn't really offer much more than being single. Sometimes it offers even less. Having a life partner is not for everyone.

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  • I feel almost the same way

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  • Not weird at all

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  • Always respect ur thoughts

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  • I am like this. Parents and friends try to convince me to get married. Marriage is not something I am against. I just dont want it for me although it goes against my principles. Like you, I didn't enjoy life as as I should have until three years ago and this is for a variety of reasons.
    On top of that comes the divorce of my parents and that of my friend's parents. I am scared of commitment. I enjoy sitting alone in my house with my books, work, video games and movies and no drama bedtime talk with a woman when Im trying to sleep.

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  • The Fuck with women and the admins and the mods...

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  • Why date when you can go on tinder and fuk 5 girls in a week. I guess most guys aren't goood looking enough to get booty calls off tinder but im sure you'll find some guy to provide for u and take u on dates. Ill settle down eventually but not anytime soon

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What Girls Said 7

  • No you're not weird, I am 25 and I am actually the same, striaght girl with no intentions of needing to be in a relationship it took me a while though, but over time and talking to my family as to why I want and choose to be single, they eventually understand and excepted my decision especially my mom, I can't speak for you personally as to why you may want to be single but as for me I enjoyed it, I have more time, I don't have to worry about anything, I have more peace of mind, no need to talk to someone about plans needed to be made together because all my decisions is mine to make "I" make my daily decisions not a "we" and that in itself feel more free to me. Plus I want to focus on my goals after finishing my degree, focusing in my career and traveling, relationship and finding that person could happen anytime you building yourself you only have one life for that. But everybody have different views... There are more reasons why i choose single life. But just know

    You are not weird and you're not alone.

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  • girls, someone wouldn't hinder you just for being ain a relationship
    you feel like that cause you cannot imagine really how it is to be ina relationship or you have wrong ideas about it
    when you meat the guy you really like and is really good to you, you wouldn't feel any of this
    so dont bother and just relax, enjoy your life and if you met some great boy give him a chance if not you can still enjoy life on your own

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  • No that's actually nice for you. None of this worrying about finding someone, no relationship drama. It's not weird at all. If you're content being single, that's quite healthy.

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  • It is not weird sometimes I think like you.

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  • I used to feel the same way. You just need wait for the right person to come and open you up.

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  • When I am at your age, I force myself to date. I met some guys but gave up. I am turning 29 soon but I am not very eager to date still. Maybe the guys I met make me frustrated. I date because of my age but not because I desire to. Unlike lots of girls, they need a boyfriend they cannot be alone

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    • 5d

      I am surprised about this post. So many like minded people here. People tend to be more individual and independent now. We have free will to do whatever we want to so marriage and have babies are just personal choice

  • It's fine, there is nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't feel pressured to do anything you do not want to do

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