Is dating a girl with no friends a red flag?

[Anonymous]

I was thinking about dating a girl who is shy and doesn’t have many friends at College. She says she gets lonely being alone? Should I be worried if she doesn’t have any friends?

[Anonymous]

I was in a long relationship with a very jealous man, which didn't allow me to communicate with my old male friends, and about my female friends he was saying "they are all sluts".
So after we broke up (actually I almost escaped) I had nooo friends, and I was trying to re-establish my old friendship and make new friends.
And that time I was (actually am) open and nice to people.
Now I have at least couple of people to ask what's up, drink a cup of coffee with and hang out on a weekend.
But I still don't have a lot, although about 5-6 months passed.

So that's not a red flag.

[Tephra]

Depending on her personality; if she's shy and quiet then its different, she picks and chooses her friends. If she's a loud, extroverted girl well that is a big red flag! It means she overthinks a lot, tends to cause issues that werent really there in the first place, causes drama and has insecurities.

I know a girl like this... she's so much drama I can only handle her for afew hours before she starts up again.. 😩

[Quintessence]

What is your concern regarding the reason that she might not have any friends? If you're worried that she might be a sociopath, don't. If she was, she'd have lots of friends.
You said she's shy, so I think the worst case scenario is that she's just socially awkward and introverted, so she prefers to spend time by herself.

[Quintessence]

And also, just because she doesn't have friends in college doesn't mean she doesn't have friends at all. I hardly had any friends in college (none for the first two years), but I have a pretty good, tight-knit circle of friends from high school.

[Pinay_ako]

nah. maybe she had been burnt before by backstabbing two faced friends thus she decided to just keep to herself. and maybe people get awkward when they approach her thus is hard to befriend her. but she has you now. so maybe she will start opening up.

[hahahmm]

Fake friends are worthless to some people. And friends can dump you for no reason. So why someone has no friends is more important than the numbers. But You might not be compatible if you think people should have a certain number of friends at all times.

[NoVo1245]

Not really. maybe she just inst the outgoing person. i for my part irl am not gountg out a lot and can say i baerly have any rl frineds but still i was told a lot by others i would be a decent person with an amazing personality...

[goddess87]

Just because you don't have friends doesn't make you a bad person. Like me myself I don't have that many friends these days. I got tired of being fucked over by shitty people. I do however have no problems with dating and I'm currently married. Once you get married anyway or get into a serious relationship you kind of grow apart for friends anyway

[ASLC14]

Well it might be concerning if she has no friends at all... Like none. Because either she's a shitty person or people don't generally like her. Plus if you were all she had she would cling on to you soooo bad, buddy. But maybe she just doesn't have friends that go to your school?

[thisisntlove]

I don't have friends and my stupid bitch ass self is just fine. I just have crippling depression, impossible negative thoughts that sometimes manifest out of my lips, out of control anxiety, a strong case of irritability, but I like long walks on the beach and shit. Girls like us are just fine...

[Sometimes12]

what does this mean? is it like turrets, do you have turrets? because that could be a lot of fun I bet you could make friends if it's turrets.

"impossible negative thoughts that sometimes manifest out of my lips,"

[thisisntlove]

@Sometimes12 you mean tourette syndrome. I might have some type of high functioning tourette syndrome since I usually do it when no one is around but when I'm out in public not so much. Or I don't have it at all and it's just my anxiety...

[Sometimes12]

yes tourette, I have dyslexia, not terribly badly, it's a pain in my ass.

So why not in public, could be fun... also why are you 100, are you a minor? I don't want to use foul language if you are is why.

[Sometimes12]

fuck. I was just about to try chat you up a bit because I like your attitude but I just noticed the time and got to go, maybe some other time.

[thisisntlove]

@Sometimes12 you are a strange creature...

[Sometimes12]

yes I suppose that's true, good thing I enjoy being strange then right...

[Nadia1994]

You just said it yourself "she doesn't have many friends" not that she doesn't have any friends AT ALL. Just in case you didn't know that's how shy people usually are. They don't have many friends, if they did, they wouldn't be shy lmao.

So it's not a cause for concern. If you don't want to date a shy girl then by all means go for the popular ones.

[snakeye1]

Well why should it be a red flag dating a girl with few friends it could be that she is just very selectiv she could be completly different when she is away from school and not shy at all

[Lelianax2]

Sometimes no, sometimes yes.
Sometimes people are assholes and would judge a person before they got to know them.
And sometimes, you just have to find out these things for yourself.

[southerngirl88]

The only thing I would worry about with that is if you date her, and she has no other friends you would be her whole social life, and that might be a lot for a person to handle

[flowers234]

Honestly, yes, she can be clingy. She may have social issues or problems making friends. It is healthy for her to have people of the same gender to be friends with, not having that is not so good.

[exitseven]

I would not consider it a red flag. There are many reasons that people find themselves with not many friends. Being shy can result in not having friends.

[madhatters4]

it could be for sure. it would depend on the reason for not having friends. but generally it's a flag that something must be up

[snugasabug]

Other girls could just be jealous of her. I know a super sweet girl who hasn't many friends... eyes bigger than Katy Perrys...

[Crazyb33]

I don't think it is im the same way i don't have friends cause the ones i did have screwed me over so i don't trust any girl to have friends

[Band_freak]

No, if she's shy she probably just has trouble making friends cause she doesn't know how to approach people, no need to be worried by that alone 😊

[LegateLanius]

No. Some people have a hard time making friends. Have fun and don't think about it. If you want to, after you have been dating a while, introduce her to some of your female friends or relatives, that can help.

[MikkiM]

If she's lonely then its bad
If she's independent then she's great :)

[winterfox10]

Nah, I hate people too. It would be a bigger red flag to me if she was one of those girls who can't stand being by herself.

[es20490446e]

I mostly spend my life in front of a screen, alone, and even then I have many friends.

So yes, I would consider that a red flag.

[Zedds]

She ate all her friends.
Now you're next feel honoured

[Anonymous]

Well is dating a guy with no friends a red flag?
I think that girl is just shy and slightly anti-social maybe and tends to keep to herself.

[Anonymous]

Most shy people do not have many friends it is totally normal.