Would you give up meat for your vegetarian boyfriend if it was a deal breaker? (Page 3)

[designer1]

I️ wouldn’t give it up because one that’s really selfish of him to put you in that situation especially since changing to becoming a vegetarian is a big transition and takes a lot of extra work and adjustment. He shouldn’t force you to make this big of a change. If he really does mean the ultimatum he is giving you I️ would tell him how you feel and then if he breaks up with you it is not meant to be so let it be.

[uberprincess]

But you’re not of the same religion as him so why would it matter whether you’re vegetarian or not?
I have Jewish friends and they are super strict but would never force me to conform to their diet when I am at their house. I think it’s very controlling what he is doing

[Zephyrlost]

You should respect each others' preferences, but don't let your boyfriend convince you to be something / someone you're not. If you prefer meat, there's no shame and it's a part of your diet. Personally I would be vegetarian if we didn't raise our cattle ourselves. When their time is near, they're put down without suffering.

[JillianMaureen]

If you see this relationship as a long term thing and its what makes you happy why not give it a try? That's all you can do is try and make sure your partner understands that. That you will try. Maybe that's what he wants you to do at home to see if you are ok with it. Bottom line everything is give and take (compromise). In the long run is your health and happiness that matters not rules.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I wouldn't give up meat , but I'd learn new vegetarian recipes so I could cook for him some times. I'd respect that he's a vegetarian, so he'd need to respect that I'm not.

But if he gave me an ultimatum by forcing me to choose between him and meat... I'd choose meat lol I'd never be controlled by anyone like that.

[LuckyDutchman]

Jeez, I don't like this guy for the simple reason he's forcing you into this. My opinion, if he really loves you that much he'd find a way around it. And hey, girls like some good mean every once in a while right? (If ya know what I mean... *Wink wink*)

[spuitkaas]

You can eat vegetarian at his house, but when you go out eat meat. I don't think it's a big issue tbh.
If he wants you to be vegetarian because of his believes, then I think it is a problem. If it's just because of convenience in his house, then it's just adapting and that shouldn't be a big deal.

[iamevol]

Being from an Indian household myself I have been faced with such a situation before. In my scenario I decided that I had a lot of time in my life to settle down and hence I didn't want to change myself or the way I am for a relationship. If I want to be with someone they must respect my dietary preference at least let alone other things. I can give many reasons why changing your diet may affect you.

[Vangallis]

It's very difficult because of heritage. I can speak from experience that being in a mixed vegetarian/ meat eater relationship doesn't have to be difficult. My girlfriend is vegetarian, meaning that I did start eating less meat, but not because of vegetarian beliefs, but because she showed me vegetarian kitchen has amazing dishes. Honestly I don't think it's fair for you to fully surrender your values while accepting his fully.

You can definitely compromise and eat less meat by him showing you his Indian kitchen, but if you enjoy eating meat, that should also be something he should be able to accept from you. Don't you deserve someone who accepts you for all you are and would rather defend you from his family than his family against you?

[Comesaveme]

Your body and you know what it wants. I am a meat lover and I personally would not give it up. If he is making you change this way now imagine how much more he would want to change about you after you move in? I suggest you decide carefully, no one can decide for you.

[enirikiu]

Personally, I wouldn't mind not eating meat for the rest of my life, but then again, I live with a vegetarian (my dad), so he raised me to be able to eat almost anything. I'm not that picky as long as it tastes decent enough and is healthy.

On the other hand, this is not a "you have no choice" kind of thing, from my perspective. If you don't want it, you frankly don't have to go with. Might want to try talking to him more about this and telling him he's being a little paranoid.

[enirikiu]

No offense intended to your boyfriend! I've never had one so I don't know how to deal with them, and I'm not really good with being not harsh when I say things, but here: if he is not going to accept you for who you are (personality, lifestyle, habits), and he tries to change you... I honestly don't think it's worth it. Especially if meat is that important to you. You know?

For me, giving up meat isn't an issue. But thinking about it from your view, that's pretty big. Make the choice that will ensure you the most happiness in the future. Good luck.

[Esotericforu]

He is afraid that you are a meat eater and you might end up eating him as well one day.

I am happy for you. Quitting meat is the single biggest transformation that you will be making to your life. It will help you a lot in your spiritual later during the course of your life. Meat is certainly not good for your body.

[Esotericforu]

Spiritual process *

[SavageRae4Ever]

So I feel like you can respect their rules and don’t eat meat around them but on your own time you can always eat meat.
Even if you stop eating meat you can always be healthier and it’s a benefit at the end of the day.
The terms and conditions for me would be : I eat meat anytime anywhere I want besides when you around them.
I feel like they should respect that foreal.
Whatever decision you make good luck!

[silvermoon84]

Not at all. I think when you're with someone, there has to be a mutual respect for one another and that includes values and lifestyle. I'm a meat eater who tries to eat healthy. Would I date a vegetarian or vegan, absolutely. But if I'm going to switch to a vegan diet, it has to be my choice and not to keep a guy around. I can respect his choices but if he can't respect mine, that's a deal breaker

[Gypsy_x]

I mean, this is obviously very important to him and a big factor in his life. I don't know if its fair to ask, but it's up to you whether you accept or not. Would he be willing to compromise? You eat vegetarian meals at home etc but when you're out with friends or whatever you can eat meat? Thats the kind of compromise I'd make, but meat isn't a big deal to me.

[amarahorrorstory]

I don't know that I'd do it for him, that's a big change, I'd want to do it with more reason. But I'd be vegetarian in general. People love to hate people who don't eat meat, I don't mind it. I agree with them on a lot of things, not all, but a lot of reasons people can't stand em is cause they know they have a point.

[TheOnlyAriii]

Meat eater and my partner is a vegetarian! I'm gonna give up meat for him, simply because I don't want to make two dishes... Like, with or without, I'm fine. But if i go meet his parents, his mom will cook vegetarian, and I'm just gonna be like "yea no questions needed, its alright fam"

[NaultD]

At home i could make that change (mainly because i need a change in my diet anyways). Every now and then go get a burger or steak somewhere else and say thats what im doing. Keep some mouth wash and floss in the car. Keep an eye out for your iron levels.

[Deydey12345]

Note that he's vegetarian for cultural reasons, only.. Are you Indian too?
Plus being vegetarian isn't helping that much animals, or the earth, you two should be vegan, not vege.

And I agree with it being a deal breaker if it's not for cultural reasons.. If it's cultural then it's just dumb.

[SkelatorSarg]

No one could convince me to give up meat, not for an interminable duration. Aside from an enjoyment of meats, I disagree fundamentally with changing something about one's self to satisfy another. This doesn't seem like a minor concession, so, in your shoes, I'd side with bacon.