Why do guys ignore texts, messages, phone calls, etc. from girls that are interested in them?

I finally got the answer on whether or not my crush likes me, and he doesn't. He has ignored two messages that I have sent him over messenger. Why can't he just say that he's not interested instead of ignoring me? Ignoring someone is so rude. There are plenty of respectful ways of getting your feelings across.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Well for me, I should have learned this lesson earlier on...

    Anyway, I am a shy guy, doesn't mean I should have been disrespectful. I liked a girl very much, texted her and went back and forth, I heard from a friend she liked me, so I was hyped, nervous, but doubted myself a lot. So I stopped texting her, then my phone broke. And now it has been 7 months and haven't talked to her since. I was playing the game, the texting game where "ohh should I wait a few minutes so I don't see to needy" "Should I say this" "Don't say that say this" I wasn't just being genuine and wasn't in a good place at the time.

    I learned to just be genuine and not care about that crap. I am glad I learned this, however it sucks I had to lose the opportunity to be with an awesome girl. I never said anything to her, that is what the problem was. Actions can be bad, but so can the failure to act. Now, I am not afraid to go for someone I want to pursue which is good.

    They may be in fear, playing the game, "Should I say X, Y, or Z?" "dada dada"

    Maybe they aren't interested, busy, or have a girl already. However if they don't let you know, that is wrong as well.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I hate to be ignored too. My boyfriend didn't talk to me for a week when he went to caribbean island for his grandfather's funeral. I was so sure that he ghosted on me and ditched me. finally he got back to me after 6 days saying that no wifi where he was. (i saw him active on messenger, also he didn't check my messages)
    I would rather be told "I want to break up with you" straight us than just being ignored and cliff hanging with the relationship.
    Girl, you tell him hey what's going on. if he still acting coward just forget about him.

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What Guys Said 18

  • Girls do it FAR more then guys do. Ignoring is easier because it avoids confrontation and people are generally afraid of confrontation. He doesn't know how you'll react, if you'll become aggressive etc etc.

    Yeah, it's rude. You deserve some form of acknowledgement, but it's just one of those things you have to accept.

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  • some people think ignoring an issue is a kinder way to resolve it. i think thats a cop out.

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  • Works both ways, girls can do the same. It's called ghosting, someone just do it. You're best just to move on and forget it.

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  • Because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. While I may be able to say something like that now, most of my life, I would not be able to respond because I would not be able to say it.

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    • Honestly it hurts more to be ignored.

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    • Maybe you can help spread the word that people's feelings are important and by communicating with them, we can understand each other. Naaaaaa. Nobody would believe it.

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  • People see what they want to see. Life aka media told us how relationship works which if we ask our parent they will tell us it is a whole bullshit.
    Coming back to your question, there are two possible scenarios to it namely
    1. He may be not interested to you
    2. He is too shy to admit it due to exp.

    See shyness and ignorance are quite same on the above, but digging deeply into each of them then revealed the truth about it.

    Only his true friend can help you and if he is shy, you will have to do the work.

    Everything lies in what you want to believe or not...
    😇

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  • Humans dont really know how to react to others that they dont like.
    They are being introverted and up tight..
    A disease everyone seems to have.

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  • You know females can do this too? Why do people ignore people that are interested in them? That is probably a better question.

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  • He's probably not interested in you romantically, but he also cares enough that he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

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  • Well as a guy I find that I have probably been accused of the same thing. Often when I'm working I'm busy and I cannot answer messages or texts or even private phone calls until I am finished. Which sometimes leads to being accused of blatant disregard of her feelings. Also I have had my notifications shut off for no reason on certain apps which has kept me from replying sometimes a couple of days. I would back off a little and not be too critical of it. If he has feelings then he will most certainly message or text you to make sure you still continue to care. It's hard to do but if you start now you will understand that works that way in almost all new relationship

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  • Because you ask awkward questions like do you like me before knowing anything about us. If you spent an hour reflecting on the relationship between you and the guy, you would know.

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    • I never asked him if he liked me. He found out about my feelings for him from someone we both know

  • Let's be frank. A couple of messages, depending on what's going on with someone's life really can be nothing.

    That said, assuming there aren't serious problems going on there, he might have thought he was being polite by stating his lack of interest without stating his lack of interest. He was clearly wrong about it, no matter the exact motivation, but I guess I can't criticise too much in that situation. There are all too many bad routes to go down there and I understand that there are bigger dick moves that could be made in that situation.

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  • Maybe we do not realize you're interested or maybe we're not interested I personally hate texting and won't responding to most of them even my own mom

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  • Well it's the other way round. I had been and still there too.

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  • He may have stuff to do. Otherwise your guess is as good as mine I'm afraid.

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  • He might be too busy ignoring your messages than to respond to U :(

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  • not boys but girls do that

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  • Because too much is too much

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    • I didn't do all of those things. I was just using those as an example.

    • Guys tend to just do what they want without bother.

  • If you got an answer that he doesn't then isn't what he's ignoring is you being pushy?

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What Girls Said 4

  • I know from experience relationships only work when the guy is interested enough to pursue things with you. If you pursue him - it won't work unless he is also pursuing you.

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  • Just don't waste your time for people that don't care about you, if someone's ignoring you just ditch them

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  • Exactly

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  • Because guys like douche bags!! (Applying male logic here)

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    • Gee I wonder why you hid behind Anonymous

    • for the same reason why you hid behind your screen hun

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