Why do girls ignore messages from a guy?

[Anonymous]

Don't they know how much it pisses us off? I know there could be a hundred reasons that a girl might not respond to a message but doesn't change the fact that it pisses me off to the point that I want to kick someone's ass. If a guy is nice and polite, there is no reason you should ignore him. If you said hi to someone on the street and they ignored you like you don't exist, you would be mad too. No, girls aren't required to talk to you but they shouldn't assume that you're interested in them or want to go out with them just because you sent them a message. Nor should they assume you're a douchebag because they received messages from douchebags in the past. If they don't have enough time, they should modify their profile so they don't receive so many messages instead of being an attention whore. So in your opinion, what is the most common reason they ignore messages?

They assume you are interested in them and don't want you to think they are interested in you.

They automatically assume you're a douchebag because douchebags messaged them in the past.

Women by nature think they are better than men, therefore feel no need to reply.

Good looking girls get too many messages and don't have enough time to reply to them all.

They're too shy or scared to reply back.

[KiraEmbers]

You seem very scary and aggressive. Even if you tell me you were really nice to the girls, I have a feeling you weren't as nice as you say you were. I have a gut feeling you said something that upset this person or persons that you aren't saying. I always reply to all my comments, but have had guys ghost me, because I would send them pics. I have to this day never been ghosted by a girl. Yet, I hold different standards for people online that in real life. People that know in real life should just text me, as for my social media I use that for people I don't know in real life. I only use it when I am not at work, which is very rear that I have a day off. I run a business so I am very busy. When I am not working I spend time with my family and real life friends. I make it very clear from the beginning to my online friends, I don't have a lot of time for social media, they are very understanding about. I think guys and girls are both equally ghosting each other. I have had 16 guys ghost me in 2019 alone, but you say a lot of girls have ghosted you so that means both genders are acting like babies, and you say more girls do it when you don't have any proof makes me think you are just speculating. Which if you did that is business you would lose everything.

[Asker]

oh more assumptions, great! like i need more of those... i didn't give any clues of whether i know the person or not, whether there was any previous interaction or not, but feel free to speculate about me and then tell me not to speculate, tf. i asked this question more as a general inquiry about general interactions and not about any specific cases.

[KiraEmbers]

Well, it's the way you asked this question that is the problem. You come across as very aggressive. You my be asking in general but it doesn't sound that way. It comes across as if you about ready to this person. The answer to you general question about girls no reply, I already answered, both genders do this to one another, I on the other hand have never done this to a guy, but have had so many guys do this to last year, I would say both genders are equal ghosting the opposite gender. Also I was talking to some narcissist guys who though highly of themselves, I have a feeling you must be talking to the female version of this type of person. Although there might not be a real person in your question, but it's easier to answer your question when I have a subject.

[Asker]

yeah i bet. you keep saying i seem aggressive like i don't already know that. i intimidate people and it's funny. the world made me now it has to deal with me. you say it's equal across genders but newsflash girls are more narcissistic than men.

[aspiegirl_]

Personally, I try to reply every message, but sometimes it's difficult. At least it's hard for me, because I'm autistic, and I find it overwhelming to talk to people but I always apologise for the late response. Also, most of the time I'm always busy and I just open WhatsApp (for example) to reply to my mum, dad, boyfriend. Right now, I have 23 chats without replying on WhatsApp, anf it's not my intention to ignore them, but I just can't talk to many people all the time :(

[Thatsamazing]

Honestly it's kind of a mix of all of the above, at least a little bit.

[LoU_Hades]

Because women pick men and not men women.

[Asker]

it's actually true. i've been saying this for awhile.

[Anonymous]

On a dating site i used to reply to almost each message. Maybe the girls are not acting right or ar scared. I don't know. I can't relate. I also hate when guys avoid me and can't cut things off and just go slow fade on me like coward punks. Makes me want to punch and hit as well. I get super angry about it

[Asker]

that's exactly what i'm talking about, except girls do it even more so, from start to finish.

[Opinion Owner]

I have no idea. I only talk to men. But they do it and its happened at least 2 times in cases where me and the man were talking privately off the site. It was not right to do that

[Asker]

i agree that sucks. we are all adults and should behave like them.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup. Though who knows if someone is doing it out of just fear or if they are being egotistic/selfish. Hard to tell sometimes.

[Asker]

both. i get the feeling it's more egotism

[Anonymous]

You do realize that a TON of men do that too? You’re not the only one sweetheart. Get over it.

[Asker]

i'm willing to bet my life that more women do it than men.

[Opinion Owner]

Which you could never prove.

[Asker]

nothing is really provable, but my wager still stands.

[Trolloween]

Well they probably assume you're an asshole and it seems like they are spot on.
So you reply to all the spam email you get in your inbox? Why not?

[Asker]

you're wrong. if you don't give someone a reason to think you're an asshole they shouldn't think that. however, if you treat someone like an asshole, rest assured they will start acting like one. what does spam email have to do with anything?

[Trolloween]

What is the difference between spam email and you sending random messages to strangers uninvited?

[Asker]

spam email is robot generated email designed to fool people. you are just chock full of assumptions aren't you? i never specified whether it was random messages or if it was to strangers.

[Trolloween]

Spam email is just unwanted emails.
Inform me then, who are you messaging on social media and what are you saying? You're implying they aren't strangers and it wasn't random so I assume you are sending messages to friends and only the men reply?

[Asker]

it may be to strangers, it may be to people i know. it's just a general trend that i've noticed. just like when people used to say they would call you later, they would actually do it. nowadays, it's pretty safe to assume they're not calling. the value of proper communication has been so diluted that it is unrecognizable.

[Trolloween]

I really don't think your point was that communication standards are worse. You seem to be very explicitly saying girls are rude for not replying to your messages. I just don't know why you think you're entitled to a reply, I would see it as rude if it were a supposed friend but I would have no expectations from a stranger. Are you really saying that your question was about girls you are already friends with? Because I don't believe that.
Regarding your tangent though, if anything people communicate more than ever and increasingly more digitally and via social media.

[Asker]

that's exactly my point. people are starting to interact in real life the way they do on social media. obviously everyone will have a different opinion on what should be considered normal interaction.

[Trolloween]

How is that your point when the entire op is you saying how pissed off you are that girls aren't replying to you on social media?
Also, what you're saying isn't even true.

[Asker]

that was the point on my previous statement not on the original post. just shows that you vastly underestimate the effect social media has on society. honestly, i'm done because you have added nothing to this conversation.

[esotericstory]

They dont want to say anything that hurts your feeligns so they just dont say anything.

[Asker]

i disagree.

[Darcia]

Sometimes not interested

[Owen3]

Just say that, it's rude not to. Hey to be able to actually have a few sentences exchanged is a blessing you are human and I think it's a good idea to spread positive, than negative fellings

[Jmmmfi4]

Because they're rude as fuck

[Zharlos]

Because it's just boring, I guess

[Asker]

why use social media at all then?