Ask yourself how psychologically fit are you? Can I win an argument? Can I except criticism? If I ask you for advice should I feel offended if the response does not meet my expectations? Am I interested in the truth? Are my ideas about the universe set in concrete? If you can answer these questions with confidence you will never get gaslighted. Water off a ducks back you will be untouchable.
I've been gaslighted. I think it's important to realise that it's just as possible to gaslight someone without realising that you're doing it as much as it is intentionally. It's not something that always occurs as a devious manipulation.
actually the show Rick and Morty did this to everybody by adding a character to the credits that only appeared in that episode the very first time, making everyone question their memory of the previous shows xD
but yeah often scammers use this technique on dating sites by going like "hey i'm that person from back then, remember me?"... can't claim that i never fell for that but yeah now i'm prepared for that bulshit.
OMG now I remember! Someone did that to me on Facebook years ago.. "remember me from then and then? we used to do this." skit. I found it funny as I haven't even been where he said I was.
@bubble_tea yeah but if they are very good at it, they let you say all the details and if they're vague enough they really get you to think you know them somehow :D by the way didn't know you were active here again :D
No, he wasn't very good, he fully admitted to lying about it in the end lol I wasn't mad at him, but I also didn't see a reason to continue to talk to him. You didn't know it? So you're not following me anymore, you say? 😭
No, because I'm the one doing it to people. Not for catfishing its just that I like the confused look people give when I mess with their heads. Thanks for the new term and knowing its actually a thing
LOL Trolls will be Trolls... It's not a new term. The term "gaslighting" has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone's perception of reality. In a 1980 book on child sexual abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor's Gaslight (1944) based on the play and wrote, "even today the word [gaslighting] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another's perception of reality." Thanks for the unhelpful comment.
This also point to sociopathic tendencies. You have serial killer written all over you. On the other hand it also highlights a negative about you. You feel so empty and powerless that you have obtained this trait to fill a void inside of you. It also screams you're a very lonely individual that probably suffers from crippling depression.
Hahahaha, yes I have some of these symptoms but I'm mentally stronger than to let them control me. I don't want to hurt anybody or destroy anybody's life, I just do it for the laughs and small things that are not life threatening.
Now. Those things don't strike you now, but eventually the laughs will turn into mundane. You will grow tired of the same outcome. Eventually you will desire a different outcome. The rabbits hoke goes deep. I would honestly implore you seek therapy and talk to someone.
Again, I don't want to hurt people and if I know that what I'm about to do will hurt them I'll stop. I'm stronger than to let my desires hurt people but thanks for the advice anyway. Are you into psychology?
Kinda funny herbie how you're trying to be so dramatic and tell him that he's sad and lonely, etc, when all he is doing is having a few harmless laughs... Some people just feel the need to project I guess.
I'm not projecting anything onto anybody, I just take a dark thought that someone might have and make it darker but without harm, when it gets to that I play the opposite and help the person get out of it.
Went through a ton of this in the process of splitting with the ex. You can counter it (albeit a little) by surrounding yourself or the gaslighter with enough people who know what is happening.
People gaslight me all the time, and I watch others do it to other people. This is one of the reason I avoid humans, they set out to drive one another crazy.
Yes, when I asked my ex why she was treating me so poorly. She insisted it was me who was acting different and treated her bad, turn out she was in an affair
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Ask yourself how psychologically fit are you? Can I win an argument? Can I except criticism? If I ask you for advice should I feel offended if the response does not meet my expectations? Am I interested in the truth? Are my ideas about the universe set in concrete? If you can answer these questions with confidence you will never get gaslighted. Water off a ducks back you will be untouchable.
I was in an abusive relationship with a controlling psycho, so yes.
Fortunately, I caught on rather quickly, before any damage was done.
Yeah. I’ve grown to be pretty good at detecting manipulation tactics. My mom’s a master at it
yes this can even happen with parents, friends, anyone. they want you to question your reality and have it turn into something that benefits them
Yep... no doubt.
As much as i know i never been
Someone try but it did not work yet i follow my gut to the grave 😅
Even that to be honest i want a RP with it even that never had luck
And thanks now i know how its called
Like to know why the down votes guys
I've been gaslighted. I think it's important to realise that it's just as possible to gaslight someone without realising that you're doing it as much as it is intentionally. It's not something that always occurs as a devious manipulation.
actually the show Rick and Morty did this to everybody by adding a character to the credits that only appeared in that episode the very first time, making everyone question their memory of the previous shows xD
but yeah often scammers use this technique on dating sites by going like "hey i'm that person from back then, remember me?"... can't claim that i never fell for that but yeah now i'm prepared for that bulshit.
OMG now I remember! Someone did that to me on Facebook years ago.. "remember me from then and then? we used to do this." skit. I found it funny as I haven't even been where he said I was.
@bubble_tea yeah but if they are very good at it, they let you say all the details and if they're vague enough they really get you to think you know them somehow :D by the way didn't know you were active here again :D
No, he wasn't very good, he fully admitted to lying about it in the end lol I wasn't mad at him, but I also didn't see a reason to continue to talk to him.
You didn't know it? So you're not following me anymore, you say? 😭
@bubble_tea i'm not the stalker type of guy xD i don't look at every activity of every of my follows :P
I don't either, but I use the live-feed lol
@bubble_tea you go girl xD
No, because I'm the one doing it to people. Not for catfishing its just that I like the confused look people give when I mess with their heads. Thanks for the new term and knowing its actually a thing
LOL Trolls will be Trolls... It's not a new term. The term "gaslighting" has been used colloquially since the 1960s to describe efforts to manipulate someone's perception of reality. In a 1980 book on child sexual abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor's Gaslight (1944) based on the play and wrote, "even today the word [gaslighting] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another's perception of reality." Thanks for the unhelpful comment.
This also point to sociopathic tendencies. You have serial killer written all over you.
On the other hand it also highlights a negative about you.
You feel so empty and powerless that you have obtained this trait to fill a void inside of you. It also screams you're a very lonely individual that probably suffers from crippling depression.
Hahahaha, yes I have some of these symptoms but I'm mentally stronger than to let them control me. I don't want to hurt anybody or destroy anybody's life, I just do it for the laughs and small things that are not life threatening.
Now. Those things don't strike you now, but eventually the laughs will turn into mundane. You will grow tired of the same outcome. Eventually you will desire a different outcome.
The rabbits hoke goes deep.
I would honestly implore you seek therapy and talk to someone.
Again, I don't want to hurt people and if I know that what I'm about to do will hurt them I'll stop. I'm stronger than to let my desires hurt people but thanks for the advice anyway. Are you into psychology?
Kinda funny herbie how you're trying to be so dramatic and tell him that he's sad and lonely, etc, when all he is doing is having a few harmless laughs... Some people just feel the need to project I guess.
Projection? I think not. It reads like a flow chart, but when you attain a PhD then we can talk about projections etc.
I'm not projecting anything onto anybody, I just take a dark thought that someone might have and make it darker but without harm, when it gets to that I play the opposite and help the person get out of it.
Heard of catfish but not gaslighting, thanks for putting a name to a behavior I've witnessed all over and with a particular few.
Went through a ton of this in the process of splitting with the ex.
You can counter it (albeit a little) by surrounding yourself or the gaslighter with enough people who know what is happening.
Like most people who've turned on a TV or been on the internet in the past few years...
I've been gaslighted by the President on a pretty regular basis.
I'm good at recognizing it and just tell the person to screw off.
People gaslight me all the time, and I watch others do it to other people. This is one of the reason I avoid humans, they set out to drive one another crazy.
Yes, when I asked my ex why she was treating me so poorly. She insisted it was me who was acting different and treated her bad, turn out she was in an affair
Never happened to me. Didn't even know this was a thing lol
Everyday a new knowledge.
I have been gaslighted by my crazy roommate and had self-doubts of myself as a person.
I don't even have to look at the definition. Because I know what it is and yes. I got out of it. Best decision ever
I think this term is often misused or misunderstood. I often see it applied to pure acts of dishonesty.
Yes... by my mother. Her favourite war tactic and her favourite way to get rid of someone that makes me happy