Is it okay to talk about your ex?

[xoxofan]

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Depends.
I don't mind it at all when my boyfriend needs to let out how hurt his ex made him in certain topics we had been already discussing. We're boyfriend & girlfriend, but we're also best friends and love to be comfortable about such talks.
I remember when another time, a boyfriend of mine talked about his ex after we had sex secretly at his house, he said how she accidentally left her underwear or something in that very same room we had sex and i was like... really? You had to bring that up? Big turn off.

You gotta know your partner and understand what's completely great and whats wrong and crossing the line in terms of ex topics.

[Shallan]

I wouldn't mention my ex while getting to know someone, but eventually the topic will come up. It shouldn't come up a lot though and you definitely have to watch out for this:
How often do you discuss your ex compared to your partner and his/her exes? I find the healthiest relationships I've had involved a mutual discussion of exes, often with inside ex jokes that apply to the exes of both partners. Like pointing at something rude and saying "Hey look, it's your ex!" and you both laugh. If one of the partners is friends with the ex, the ex should pop up in conversation no more than a regular friend.

[nicholle35]

If it’s a to a current partner bringing your ex up a couple of times is okay anything more than that is excessive and will have them wondering if the feelings are still there. To a friend pour your heart out you may be annoying but that’s what friends are for.

[MLGbreezy]

I'd say yes but to a certain degree esipcaly while in a relationship with someone else cause after all your ex is an ex for a reason. and you might unintentional create some tension between you and your current love interest in the process. so just be aware of how much time your spending talking to them. good luck and hope this helped 🙂

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, but. . . not on a first or second date unless your new partner asks about your ex.

Yes, but. . . not excessively.

Yes, but. . . not frequently.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Depends on the situation. My boyfriend and I sometimes ask questions about each other’s exes but it’s not okay to constantly talk about your ex to your SO

[Time_Still]

Yes but after a while you have been together.
Yes but only once, get the story complete and then never talk about it again.

[Anonymous]

Only if your partner is comfortable with it. On the one hand it's a part of your past and you should be able to talk freely about absolutely everything together, but it can be hard for them to hear and think about it so tread gently until you're close enough to talk freely

[acooke-13]

I think it's okay to talk about ex's, aslong as both parties are comfortable with it and there's no comparisons with your current partner

[Kyhkhbkeb]

once... yes it is ok.. but over and over.. hell no...

[ryan578]

I think so, to an extent. It's healthy to talk about things you do and do not enjoy which requires a past relationship sometimes. That being said, if your not over your ex don't put someone else through the pain. It's pretty easy to spot

[PillowThief]

Only after a while and only in small doses unless they ask more about them.

[Mrblueballs42]

Yes if its talking about kids. But no guy wants to hear about an ex. Just like girls dont want to hear about the sex of an ex. There are ok times and just said no nos.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes depends on how things went with the breakup in the beginning.

[hasrett]

To who, your boyfriend?
I'm pretty sure he'd appreciate if you didn't do it.

[britpop]

Yeah but not with a new partner and you shouldn't slander them

[madu196]

It's ok as long as you don't use your ex as a comparison to your current SO🙃

[Roadcruiser1]

Yes, but only after the relationship is getting deep.

[Anonymous]

I dont like hearing about my girls ex boyfriends. once of twice is fine.

[Political_dude]

Technically yes it is OK but it is annoying af

[TheFlak38]

One of the biggest red flags.

[pleasestopthis]

To a friend? yes. To your current partner? no.

[Amr000gt]

I don't have one to be ex 😂😂😂

[BlueDream]

Only to an extent.

[lilmissumshine]

Nopee