Is being single worse for a guy or a girl?

[Anonymous]

Worse for Guys

Worse for Girls

[Anonymous]

i'd say guys, just because guys are usually the ones that have to go up to girls, appeal to them, just to get their attention. Women probably are a lot more critical of guys with all these traits/skills they want them to have, but then if a guy says anything like that, all of a sudden they are labeled misogynistic, assholes, trash, etc. by women. double standards. If a girl ended up single, she could probably have a bunch of dudes lining up for her if she's at all average or above; and only even more so if she's a 9-10. for males, males don't get that. even if he's an attractive guy 9-10, he still has to go up to women and fit to their standards. He won't really have women coming up to him. which sucks for shy guys; shy guys is another thing too, I'm shy, don't know how good I look, but I'm shy and so I don't really go up to girls because I don't know what to say/act/do. shy guys are probably ignored even more from all females, even if he's hot and the women are ugly. Get a shy girl and still, she'll have a bunch of guys going to her, and make it easy for her. Males have it harder, kind of unfairly.

[fashionguy17]

While being single isn't a bad thing, being single is worse for guys. I am 27, and I know a lot of guys in my age range who have NEVER had a girlfriend, and I know plenty of them who have never had sex. They have trouble meeting women, because a lot of women these days want someone who has experience with women in terms of dating and sex.

Women have it easier in the dating world. They play a passive role. They don't have to go out and "hunt" like men do. They don't have to put effort into dating. They don't have to worry about being single for ever. They don't have to worry about lack of sex. Albeit, there are some women who have trouble meeting men; however, generally, women have a better chance at meeting a man than a man meeting a woman. The saying goes (and correct me if I'm wrong), "for everyone one woman, there are at least 10 men for her".

[Jmcmanning]

I wouldn't say it's worse for either. I would rather be single than with taken with the wrong person. If you are looking for companionship and wanting those initimate moments you cannot get with those close friends, I would say its equal for both genders. Everyone wants to feel loved by someone at some point.

[NewYear-NewMe]

And for some it's much much easier to get than others. I envy those guys.

[StarsInTheEyes]

@NewYear-NewMe You're still young. You will find your girl. I think the best time to find a long-term partner (I do not mean "lifelong") is when people are still in school. You get to meet large amount of real people in person, get to know who has goals and who doesn't, get to see who's sincere in you and who isn't... I have missed those opportunities because I was always focused on my study and never looked around me, plus in my major there were mostly females, and some married men. Study hard, be cultivated, have a good head on your shoulders and find your girl. Good luck.

[StarsInTheEyes]

@NewYear-NewMe Correction: few* married men. In my graduating class there were 3 males out of 80 students, 2 of who were married with kids.

[splashofyellow]

Why does everything always have to be a gender thing? Being single is only bad for people who don't enjoy being single. Some people crave relationships and some are perfectly happy without a relationship. It's not gender related. It depends on the individual's values and needs.

[acustic]

It's sort of what this site/app is about. Weighting opinions based on sex. Your opinion is more about empathy but many people lack it and it's ultimately interesting to see a breakdown.

[lumos]

@acustic this site is not at all about gender wars or whining about who has it worse. The point of this site is girls and guys coming together to ask for each other’s opinions, not to ask loaded questions in which one gets victim points over the other.

[acustic]

@lumos Where did you get gender wars from expressing opinions based on gender? What exactly is wrong with you? Who hurt you?

[lumos]

@acustic you’re only xper 1 so it’s understandable that you don’t know where I’m coming from. This site is full of questions like this, and 99% of the time people start arguing about who the biggest victim is, who suffers the most and how it’s because men or women are awful.

[lumos]

@acustic but my point is that people are turning this site into something it shouldn’t be. Instead acknowledging that we are all individuals who experience things differently, people generalize so heavily and try to make everything about gender even when it isn’t.

[acustic]

@lumos I'm only *whateverthatis* so I can't possibly know what I'm talking about. Nice. Very nice.

[Charleslvajr]

Good perspective.

[TacosRAwesome]

I think its worse for people who are not the best in social situations or don't meet people easily. Its one thing to be single but still have an active life, its another to be single and stuck at home because you have no friends

[Charleslvajr]

Great insight.

[Apope16]

With the dating apps now days women can get hundreds of dating matches and messages every single week. They can float around and get free meals and drinks while staying single any time they want.

If a woman wants a date or to get laid she can easily get it through her hundreds of options.

A guy is much different in circumstance. Women hardly message guys. They dont ask guys out. And believe it or not, it is much harder for a man to get over a heartbreak. Guys pretend like they are tough and having a good time. But deep down guys cry too when they are alone. Society and movies dont show this but we do. It takes us twice as long to get over a breakup.

[witherwing]

Why would it be worse for either? It's not like it's a bad thing to be single.

[TheUglyMan]

Then you dont know what its like being a man

[Charleslvajr]

@TheUglyMan It's only bad if you want to get laid and can't. A relationship isn't just that but it's what most people miss by being single. I know somebody is going to pop off with that tired old standby of missing the closeness. I call b. s. on that.

[TheUglyMan]

@Charleslvajr lol nope women and men struggle differently when it comes to relationships. Men struggle to get girls interested in them so they can get a chance to date them. This is why you find so many guys not planning relationships for long term becuase they were mainly focused on the hardest part for us which is the begining of the relationship.

Unlike girls who dont struggle to get a guy interested they struggle to find the "right guy" and "love".

And no its not hard because we only want sex. Part of a mans value is on how much women he can get and sleep with. Coming from a man whos been rejecting by women his whole entire life and has never had a women interested in him I can confirm this fact.

[Electric_Dreams]

Okay both you dudes have said something very stupid.

UglyMan, of course she doesn't know what it's like to be a man, because she is a woman. Likewise me and you do not know what it is like to be a woman.

Charles, what you said is incredibly narrow minded and cynical, essentially implying that the only thing people really care about in a relationship is the sex. It's "b. s." that they miss the closeness. No. That's an unfair generalising judgement on masses of people you do not know. People do actually love to have emotional closeness with other people, they thrive on it and it is essential for good health and well being, for most people.

[TheUglyMan]

@Electric_Dreams i know she doesn't it was a rhetorical question

[Charleslvajr]

@Electric_Dreams I was right. No it is bullshit. It's something people tell themselves to make a call to action. A reason to jump out into the world looking for that "special someone".

[Electric_Dreams]

You both appear misguided, catastrophically cynical and angry, slaves to your inner pain bodies. I wish you well, and I encourage you each to endeavour to recover from your illness as I have done (endeavoured, not recovered. Even I am unwell like you two but the difference is I have acknowledged that and am in pursuit of recovery).

[TheUglyMan]

@Electric_Dreams who tf you talking about. No has debunked my claim as yet

[Charleslvajr]

@Electric_Dreams You are definitely unwell, misguided and unfortunately commonly arrogant to even begin to understand a person with such limited levels of information. My wife will be amused by this as I have.

[ritxi]

I agree that it isn't a bad thing to be single, but in my opinion, the asker means something like that: Which gender has more disadvantages when they are single?

[TheUglyMan]

@ritxi It is a bad thing. Im a man whos been single his whole life

[Logorithim]

It's worse for guys, because we are expected to seek her out and ask her out. How many times have we seen this on GAG:

Girl: Guys don't ask me out.
Guy: I can't get any girl to go out with me.

In both scenarios, the guy (s) are at fault.

[brennanhuff]

Probably worse for many guys since there will be more of a dry spell in between or as far as not choosing to be on for guys since it's harder for guy's to get sex or with an attractive woman. An average woman can get sex with a good looking guy or better looking guy if she wants, an average looking guy would have to lower his standards as far as body and looks, unless he's really charming, extroverted, etc, which can still be a numbers games to an extent. And because generally women have lower sex drives and less visual than men, it doesn't kill them to not get laid like it can for many guys.

[Fractacular]

It seems to me that just about every woman wants to be in a relationship. Even the ones who have given up hope of ever finding one, want one. There are exceptions, but they're few and far between.

A large number of men want to be in a relationship too, but I don't think the pull is as strong in men as it is in women. Something in society or female DNA makes a lot of women believe that they NEED to be in a relationship.

Then there are men who wouldn't necessarily mind being in a relationship, but are too absorbed in whatever else they have going on to give it much thought. For men like this, being single is practically a non-issue. Some women are like that too, but they're much, MUCH rarer.

So I would say being single is worse for women.

[ritxi]

It should be worse for girls because in average, they aren't so independent and their height and straight are lower that guy's in average (It's the truth despite I could get some downvotes from some feminazis). In the other hand, there much more girls who are interested on divorcing from their husband than vice-versa but there are some legal facts that encourage that decision, besides the fact of in average girls are more interested than guys on making changes in their life while guys are more interested on having a stable life.

[lumos]

It’s worse for the person who feels like being single is somehow ruining their life, which can be either or.
I wish people could gain some perspective and realize that there are pros and cons to both being single and in a relationship, and that you should always focus on the pros.

[sawno]

Worse for girls, especially as they get older because they have a biological clock ticking so they have much more pressure to find a partner. A single guy can meet up and fuck while girls on average are more interested in finding a serious partner to build a future with. So while being single can suck of both and plenty of guys want to commit i think the girls have it a little harder.

[Electric_Dreams]

Gender is irrelevant. I think in contemporary society there appears to be a growing hostility between genders, an increasing void where the genders are more wary, accusatory, competitive and lacking empathy for each other. It's unhealthy and I believe it has the potential to cause a lot of damage, possibly catastrophically so, to the mentality of younger generations, to the thought and behaviour patterns and sense of identity of people.

[beebella]

It's terrible for anyone who doesn't enjoy being single.

[CharlieUnicorn]

I think it's worse for girls because guys are much less prone to talk about relationships whatsoever. This causes a great deal of problems obviously, but a small plus is that the single guy has much less reason to feel like the odd one out.
The social pressure isn't there.

But I think this mainly applies to the young. Also, I don't know. Maybe young guys have changed?

[Idontknow092]

I would say in modern society guys have it much harder. There are so many people out there with expecations that are not only unrealistic but can't be met by any human being. I blame this on movies and pop culture.
This might sound clichee but i think that women naturally always have more options available than a guy would have, simply because they are female and get approached more than guys do.

[Wolframium]

It's the same. It's worse for both (I know it doesn't make sense, but just roll with it). I mean…if it's problem for them. Example: it used to be problem for me, sometimes even still is, but…not really that much anymore. And it keeps dropping. I am very close to state, when I will not be interested. Universaly. So…congrats, girls in same city. Your ignoring strategy works.

[Anon-ymous1]

It's harder for us boys to get attention from the opposite sex at all, so... it's worse for us.

Girls, I mean eventually literally anyone alive who is female can and will fond someone to be their companion or have sex with them, no matter what they're like in terms of looks or personality. The same cannot be said for us.

[Anon-ymous1]

The downvotes are amusing, but pointless. Fake Internet points do not change real-life truths.

[Anonymous]

I'd say guy since guys have t put more effort in when it comes to first entering a relationship. Women have it easier since men will just approach them, that does happen for guys we actually have to put work in. Also you see girls more so easily jump from one relationship to other where it is more common for guys to be single for extended amounts of time.

[Anonymous]

I'd have to go with worse for girls, but it can be the same for guys. It really depends, are they alone most of the time, or do they have a group of friends they can chill and hang around with? If most of their friends aren't single, or not single anymore, I guess that could be a reason why it's terrible for them being single unless they can make new friends that are single and can chill and hang out with.

[ThePetSquirrel]

Being single isn't bad at all if the individual doesn't mind it, or has no desire for a relationship; however, for those that do want a relationship, I think there's certain aspects of the single life that's worse for one particular gender.
For example, girls will likely be hit on more often. But guys will be teased by other guys, especially if they're virgins.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

If a guy is single, people assume it’s because he can’t get a girl. If a girl is single, people assume it’s because she wants to be single. No idea where that double standard comes from, but it is much worse for a guys reputation than a girls.

[1derfulguy]

It's not a double standard, it's the way evolution works. Women choose, men pursue.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

No it’s really not the way evolution works, it’s the way our society is set up

[1derfulguy]

Um no, you are ignorant. It's the way evolution works, and not just for humans. You think male peacocks grow those ridiculously impractical tails, that literally leave them vulnerable to predators, for fun? No, they do it to impress the ladies. Because they have to impress the ladies. You think male preying mantises enjoy being cannibalized after sex? No, but that is the price they pay for access to a willing female: their head.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

It’s not like that for every species, and it certainly doesn’t have to be that way for humans. Sure there is competition for mates, but it can work both ways. Males just happen to be more competitive than females, so they generally pursue females more, but that doesn’t mean the females can’t pursue the males

[1derfulguy]

Sure women can pursue males. Just look at the way Justin Bieber gets mobbed when he's out in public. But most guys aren't famous. And women are more picky than men for very good evolutionary reasons. I can't really be bothered to argue with this, I know I'm right, I have studied it quite a bit, and if you want to wrongly attribute it to social conditioning, be my guest.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Think about this, why do women wear make up? Isn’t it to get attention from men, the same way a peacock will grow out its bright feathers to get attention? Every animal competes to get attention from the opposite sex.

[1derfulguy]

To an extent, yes. They are also competing with other women. But it's not on the same level at all. On dating sites, most women get so swamped with messages that replying to all of them is impossible. Most men send lots and lots of messages and get only a handful of replies back.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

So in a way, men are the reason men have a hard time getting laid

[1derfulguy]

Yes and no. Sure the psychos obviously make women have their guard up a lot more. But there has always been an overproduction of men. More men are born than women. But they die before the women. And many of them don't procreate. Some men at the top procreate with an outsized number of women. A lot of men go thirsty. It's simply a case of women having to be more picky because a) they only ovulate once a month. One precious egg. Men produce millions of sperm all the time. If women get pregnant, they are out of the game for 9 months plus breastfeeding plus childrearing. Men are out of the game for 15 minutes or so. So men are more expendable and therefore nature experiments more with men. Maybe that is why men have the Y-chromosome. It is probably why most women are of average intelligence, while some men are very intelligent and some are very unintelligent. It is less evenly spread out in men. Bla bla bla...

[1derfulguy]

Also, women fearing death, rape, serious injury at the hands of strange men is such an old fear that it is subconscious. It's not that they are bitches, they can't help it. It makes good sense to be afraid of men you don't know. And sometimes even that is not enough, sadly.

[ovi2boss]

This thing has more to do with having standards, lower them and both gender can be in a relationship.
Tough this has nothing to do with being in a relationship or having friends it has to do with being with people who you feel you live for and with because you can be single even in a relationship.
Considering the attention level girls have more people who comunicate with them then guys.
Speaking of this the guys are more single then girls.

[TayTay21]

Depends. If you're hot and single, people assume you're just exercising your options. If you're not hot and single, people assume you're a loser. Works the same for both sexes.

[Halucinator]

soo trye