''so for a few months I showered her with eye contact, my eyes could not break the gaze but when she would I guess catch me she would look away I didn't think anything of it I mean I'm just admiring from afar but after 3 months moved on n attempted to approach other women at the same time though I could not take my eyes off her every chance I get but after a while of course it felt like I was torchering myself so I decided to just focus on my work to take my mind off her and it worked for a few months until I started catching her stealing glances at me''
This is what you should have done BEFORE you asked her out. You build attraction, and sexual tension. Then eventually she feels the need to do something with that tension (tension needs to be released), then you ask her out etc etc.
You did everything the wrong way around. But since you are doing it now, that's why she is reacting. The problem is that most guys approach women, how they see them. In other words, as a guy, you see an attractive woman... you want her.
But for most women, unless you are Brad freaking Pit, you need to build attraction, and tension through eye contact, teasing, flirting, and breaking of the touch barrier. That's just the tip of the iceberg...
Also, there is something else you did. You validated her attractiveness through your eye contact... then you withdrew all of it leaving her with a void. That is also another way of creating and building attraction because some women then want that validation back.
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Leave it alone for a bit more time and try to get more close to another girl then come back to her
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