She turn me down but steals glances and peripheral looks at me... Why if she turned me down?

[herringbonedon]

Ok I just started this job I have a year ago but about month n I notice this girl who is beautiful and works in another department of this job, so 2 months past since that moment I saw her n I finally got the courage to go up to her and ask her out, she turned me down but n a nice nervous way cause she left pretty fast (she had just clocked out) I thought "well damn am I that ugly" 😂 so I ask around the job about her even her coworkers n her department just because the vibe I was getting was that she was shy but everyone pretty much said no she not shy some even said she just keeps to herself... Well I'm not going to lie I was not turned off that she turned me down cause she was that beautiful so for a few months I showered her with eye contact, my eyes could not break the gaze but when she would I guess catch me she would look away I didn't think anything of it I mean I'm just admiring from afar but after 3 months moved on n attempted to approach other women at the same time though I could not take my eyes off her every chance I get but after a while of course it felt like I was torchering myself so I decided to just focus on my work to take my mind off her and it worked for a few months until I started catching her stealing glances at me Everytime she walk pass so you guessed I was back looking at her and we have been eye fucking each other for a year now cause every time I catch her looking she quickly looks away and I think it's so cute cause now it confirms for me she's attracted to me, I remember 1 day I was just walking up to my job and I pass a burger restaurant that's right next to my job but as I was passing I was pulling my phone out my pocket the sun was glaring in my so I kinda look up n by accident caught her staring out the window at me and she tried her best to look left right down everywhere else but me and she cycled through those motions so fast it just flattered me even more 😂 so should I reapproach cause you know what they say what no means😂

Should i re-approach her?

Should i leave it alone?

Oh and i found out she is a introvert, does this explain her behavior?

[Anonymous]

''so for a few months I showered her with eye contact, my eyes could not break the gaze but when she would I guess catch me she would look away I didn't think anything of it I mean I'm just admiring from afar but after 3 months moved on n attempted to approach other women at the same time though I could not take my eyes off her every chance I get but after a while of course it felt like I was torchering myself so I decided to just focus on my work to take my mind off her and it worked for a few months until I started catching her stealing glances at me''

This is what you should have done BEFORE you asked her out. You build attraction, and sexual tension. Then eventually she feels the need to do something with that tension (tension needs to be released), then you ask her out etc etc.

You did everything the wrong way around. But since you are doing it now, that's why she is reacting. The problem is that most guys approach women, how they see them. In other words, as a guy, you see an attractive woman... you want her.

But for most women, unless you are Brad freaking Pit, you need to build attraction, and tension through eye contact, teasing, flirting, and breaking of the touch barrier. That's just the tip of the iceberg...

Also, there is something else you did. You validated her attractiveness through your eye contact... then you withdrew all of it leaving her with a void. That is also another way of creating and building attraction because some women then want that validation back.

[herringbonedon]

Yeah I think I was too direct with my approach lol

[Eskandra]

Leave it alone for a bit more time and try to get more close to another girl then come back to her