What's wrong with liking bad boys?
Nothing is neceassrily wrong with it, BUT your comment basically shows where there can be a problem. Although it can be fine, the problem with liking bad boys usually comes from the idea that they have a manly attitude. The reality is that usually what is called a bad boy actually has a very childish attitude. Young girls, and evenr some young women have a hard time distinguishing between childish bad boys who are just stupid and manly bad boys who have their shit together without being Mr. Rogers.
This is also a problem because what even is a bad boy? The term is harder to define than you might expect. In reality, about half of all guys are bad boys, they just might not identify as such or try to make it known to everyone around them. If you see a guy in a sweater vest, there is a better chance he is a bad boy than you might think.
People tend to decide what a bad boy is by their appearance, which can be misleading. Some people who look like the guy in the photo you provided work in nursing homes and own bunnies. There is absolutely nothing wring with liking the look the guy in the picture has, but the brash, manly attitude is not always a good thing. Still, I feel like the bad boy look is what attracts ladies more than the attitude.
It's quite relative. If they are badass but will respect you or stay with you everything's fine then. Perspective will make you see bad in good and good in bad.
Well bad boys are notorious for being bad partners. The maturity level isn’t there to understand why we all choose to behave how we do. They think of it as conformity. I don’t mean in ways of body art or loud music, etc but that we all work hard to take care of ourselves our loved ones not just worry about one person themselves. Most young ladies usually miss that part and mistake that they too are important and are them angry and hurt to find that well... the bad boy is a bad boy.
I guess there’s nothing wrong with it technically as long as you can acknowledge what you’re getting yourself into. So when, or if, your heart is broken, I don’t think you have a right to whine too much about it or pretend you didn’t see it coming. Or let it affect how you treat and think of other men who are nothing like that.
Nothing wrong with it if you don't want a guy who cares about you. Bad boys only care about themselves and their image.
So in case you like bad boys, you should take the responsibility for that and don't complain later on in case you get used/dumped/cheated on/abused/being treated rudely/disrespected by him.
There's nothing wrong with liking bad boys. But, if it's just his style and like, attitude (buy not literally), then it's fine. But, if he's a bad boy where he gets himself into trouble, has a very VERY bad attitude, and abuses women in any sort of way, then it's a problem and you should let him go.
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You want your boys to grow up treating women like they are possessions? Are you going to bail them out of jail after they get arrested for beating up their "old woman?" And they won't come visit you when you are old and ill because there won't be any incentive for them.
I think females who like them have not fully matured yet, emotionally or intellectually. And maybe have an inner desire for destruction or to be treated like shit. In most of the situations I've known of girls who liked badboys, all this was the case.
Yes sir! I’ve seen this scenario play out with many of these women I know back in my hometown. The party eventually comes to an end and they’re left broke, working a shitty job, driving a shitty car, bouncing from place to place to live and many of times still on government assistance to make ends meet. It’s true what you say that now they want to meet a guy they can count on, that can hold a job, be good to their kids and treat them well. There’s one of two of these women whom I used to have a thing for back then whom I wouldn’t give the time or day to today. I’m sure they all regret not making better life decisions and maybe getting to know that other guy they didn’t talk to a little better.
Well I’ll take a look at that take if you get around to it. I write what I write on here in hopes of reaching out to those younger guys and helping them see this whole bad boys and nice guys thing for what it really is. What I really want these younger guys to see is that those girls that get with these kinda guys really aren’t that much of a catch to begin with. They’re usually just as big of a screw up as the bad boy they’re screwing. Looking good is about the only thing many of these women have going for them. They’re bouncing around from job to job, pissing off their parents whom they live with and most likely will be living with for a while to come. They have no goals, no plans for their life and really only care about having fun and going out. They’re really nothing to be stressing over. I wish this was something I had come to see when I was younger.
It's all the same to me who girls like, but they didn't get their rep for no reason at all...
My theory is:
1) Bad boys are adventurous and fun to be around since they are trying new things.
On other side
2) Nice guys are too boring and so predictable. So there is no spark in life.
What women biologically look for is a person who has potential to do something big, and usually risk taking attitude and confidence is what is common between successful people, they can lead. So this generally attracts women.
Now the thing is, out of these bad boys around 70-90% guys cannot go well in the society, and society pushes them down, since competition for leadership is tough. So the remaining 10% are the ones who achieve higher success.
When a women grows older, almost all women want this 10% of a guy who has bad boy characteristics but now is much stable, mature and now lives in a real life. mostly these 10% are the guys who are trustworthy, risk takers, empathetic (leadership capabilities).
But when a girl is young, she just cannot predict these 10% guys, she will go for any of the bad guy characteristics a guy possess.
Finally, a realistic answer.
Plenty of girls like bad boys. Plenty of guys like bad girls. The problem is simply this... neither are the sort you want in a long-term relationship and yet due to the great sex appeal they have, they are the easiest to fall in love with. Falling in love is something that can happen to anyone and anyone can fall in love with almost anyone else. It's a psychological condition that borders on and overlaps infatuation. Because of the way in which people become so easily infatuated by those they find sexually attractive it's that much easier to fall in love with a bad boy or bad girl. And... because we are so quick to make decisions based on what we FEEL people commit to long-term relationships with people who WILL make them miserable once their hormones wear off. And we do it again, and again, and again because we never learn that love isn't the important thing in the relationship. Not in the sense that we give it. Being in love at the start of a relationship is one of the fastest ways for a relationship to end in hardship. That's what's wrong with liking bad boys or bad girls. We are humans who make dumb decisions. We get our hearts involved in relationships with a guarantee to fall apart.
You know I'm sick of this shit honestly you females need to make up your damn minds. First its we like bad boys and nice guys finish last. Then there was this trend where girls kept asking what happens to all the nice guys and gentleman. They FUCKING left cause females wouldn't give us the time of day but then all of sudden yiu r all asking for us to co. e back ok so now we're making a reappearance and its oh whats wrong with bad boys. there nothing wrong except women don't know what the hell they want ugggghhhh.
Hey um so did u know... not all girls like the same thing🙊🙊🙊
Yea of course I know but constantly hearing it from mostly the majority of women gets a bit annoying after a while. BUT I know it is not all women and apologize for the harsh remarks but I'm sorry more often than not what I hear is I want I wrote up above but those are just my experience and what I've seen
@Boulshyte I haven't changed who I am for any females but over honestly come close. I've never even had a girlfriend but every time I've tried I've been told over and over girls like the bad boys they like bad boys. but then I ask i and its just be yourself and don't change and i do that and get rejected for it. So it gets confusing and frustrating and then it makes me ask the question well if being me and kind just gets me rejected why shouldn't i change and be a bad boy. Ya know
There nothing wrong with liking a “bad boy” it’s just don’t involve people in the drama when it doesn’t work out. Guys hate it when you come crying to them that you ex or whatever. Cheating, disrespecting you, etc. don’t make a “good guy” your emotional tampon.
Side note I love when girls have the fantasy in their head “ I need excitement and a guy with a regular 9-5 job who drives a Sedan is boring. Then you find one of these guys, date for a couple months- years , get pregnant then he leaves you 🤣.
Now you looking stupid like “ I want a honest , well established single guy to love me” don’t. Don’t nobody want your extra baggage 🤦🏾♂️
You like what makes them bad then? Like domestic violence, addicted to drugs and all that? Maybe they look interesting from a distance but when you get close and become their punching bag, what then?
Well define bad boys...
Is it spoiled rich kid sort...
Or manly type... who will break a bone if anyone opposes him...
Or something else..,..
I was 2 in school... later I realised something and change... well change was partial success... haha...
Once bad... it is hard to change... others fear us.. is like a drug in itself... had a experience where some kid mess u up then he himself comes to you... for punishment cause he fears that if U get angry the punishment will be more fun... even now if someone pissed me about money the first thought will be bank robery... I even ones said to my dad... well he is army... haha... nice twist right.. I say it in a jocking manner lol... nah no robberies , no gangs.. anymore... and I will never return to that life and me... bad guys are bad...
Nothing. If you are okay with getting your heart torn to pieces and then kicked around in the dirt, I usually pay them no mind don't give their bad behavior the time of day. Only despair awaits them in their future and I do not want to be mixed up with that drama and suffrage, life is too short.
Nothing at all! I mean, what kid doesn't just LOVE living in a broken, dysfunctional family, right? =D
I feel like women like the idea of a man that doesn't give a fuck about everyone BUT the girl itself. Working for that hard love, etc. Kinda feel like hollywood movies made the bad boys romantic.
PERSONALLY. I prefer someone emotionally stable and genuinely good. I rather go for longer commitments than a short unstable romantic relationship with a bad boy.
You girls give all you goodies to the bad boys they treat u like _ x - . they use u up. And after its all over with. You're so smart your stupid self don't even know how too treat a real guy who take care of you with no conditions. I know from experience. All of u girls who been with bad boys bring nothing but situation after situation of negative baggage to the relationship. Good men know how to take care a woman and love her. I'm tired of woman like u. You treat men like me really really bad stick to you bad boys and y'all negative a---z deserve each other.
Is the thrill and excitement of a bad boy worth being emotionally abused by him? He probably attracts you because he is unpredictable, dangerous and makes you feel getting to know him is an adventure, but he is not interested in knowing you, he is only interested in using you for sex and manipulating you to his gain.
"bad boys" are either good guys who pretend to be badass, or they are actually bad guys. I think people are attracted to them because they like the risk. But at the end if the day, after trying to be in a relationship with one, you realize that it's just not worth it. Be with someone who gives a shit and isn't just trying to look cool.
Then there's a reason he lives at home🤷 cause no one wants to deal with a 34 year old man acting like a moody teenager.
Exactly, everyone at this point is tired of putting up with his shit. His mom still won’t let him grow up though. She pays all his living expenses and lets him live with her rent free. A “bad boy” is almost always the product of poor parenting. But hey he’s the cool guy that knows all the bar owners and party people in my home town.
There is nothing wrong with falling for bad boys.
The question is? “Are you up for the challenges of being a bad boys girlfriend?”
It’s great to have a bad boy because if he deeply loves you he’ll protect you with his life. And also his entire circle of friends are like brothers and they will all protect you (unless they don’t like to see their boy in a relationship).
Anyways I am not attracted to them
You can do whatever you want.
Just don't expect anything long term. They are likely selfish losers who don't have anything going for them. Instead of focusing on the future, they focus on the now. They have foolish and , if I'm being honest, dumb aspirations. They will drag you down while they are going down themselves.
Real men are not selfish and have real goals. True manliness is SO much more than being a "bad boy".
Hahaha. This question amuses the shit out of me!!!
Why? Umm because they are B. A. D. Bad boyfriends, bad Fathers, bad Husbands, bad Partners and bad examples.
And girls who go down that road always find out too late
I don't think people necessarily think it's wrong... you're allowed to like whoever you like... but I think people just want you to have realistic expectations about those bad boys. Don't expect some long commitment from a bad boy, and then complain to your friends about how you can't find any good men. YOU ARE INTO BAD BOYS, NOT GOOD MEN.
I don't know but I have always avoided them, even though they liked me. I was always into nice guys but then realized that you can't label a person as a nice or bad guy unless you know them close enough, because I've met some nice guys who weren't that nice and some bad guys who were very good.
Now what makes a guy a nice guy if he is actually bad?
Good question
For me ( as a guy who is not a bad guy ) there's nothing wrong, you are free to like and love who you want, because I'm not the one who is gonna be disrespected! It's you, I'm not the one who is gonna sleep and wake up with a jerk everyday, it's you! I'm not the one who is gonna regret what she did after a few months that sexual attraction gonna finish and needing love starts, and figure out that she made a mistake! It's you!
Me ( or other not bad guys ) i need only one beautiful girl and i already found that, so all you do, you do to yourself my friend!
Best wishes
I think they like bad boys because they want to be "cool". Thats at least what i think but i think bad boys are just retards. I mean i have a lot friends who pretend to be bad ass and "dangerous" gangsta etc... And they are all bunch of pussys. Im the lets say "normal" and they are all "gangsta" and still i can beat their asses with one hand. Every guy can be funny and misteryous and i have no idea why girls want bad boys so bad, i understand everyone wants to be cool but still guys who pretend to be bad boys are mostly insecure and scared what other will think and scared that someone gonna beat their ass one day so they are just aggresive and dont respect anyone to be "cool". Thats my opinion.
Well it makes some sense from a shallow perspective. But these are the guys who are likely to cheat due to their high female response level. Likly to be players, flirt with all girls, just want to sleep with you, and will sleep with almost any girl. So many reasons
Yeah, I’ve known those guys that were players that would do and say whatever they needed to to get a girl between the sheets. The truth of the matter is that the majority of these ladies weren’t much of a catch anyway. It’s true some of them looked pretty good, but that’s about the only thing they had going for them. Most of them I remember we’re all ghettoed out, no job, no education, no future, no nothing. I wish that guys today could see that most of the girls that get with and stay around those assholes aren’t even worth stressing over.
What is wrong is that bad boys, as the name suggests, are bad, not good, they are supposed to be a female's no go zone. You mention you like their masculine behavior, well, there are good men who have such masculine behavior and are many times better than these bad boys.
"Manly"? Hahaha!
"Bad boys" get the name and reputation from behaving like overgrown naughty children. There's nothing manly about that. thanks for the laugh though!
Fuck as many bad boys as you can.
But after riding the cock carousel, don't expect to marry a nice virgin guy.
They put up a hard front to cover up their total weskness. You'd be better off going with a guy that's like "okay I'm a weak dork" or best off a guy that is overall strong in character but will still admit to faults.
The "bad boy" persona" is just a mask guys wear over a Kanye-west like character: no confidence, just big words even more arrogance. They're manipulative too.
True
There are Good boys that are manly dont whine and cry about shit. They Cowboy the hell up and get it done. If a man tries to hurt his woman or family these men are possibly going to beat the shit out of them if not shoot them. Not all bad boys are men some are nothing more than a boy trying to act like a man.
I hate ‘bad’ boys. I really like the nerdy ones, the below average ones. I like feeling dominant sometimes 🤷🏻♀️😊
I am the nerdy one 😀
I’ve talked to one and tried to build a relationship but he was too busy looking in the mirror. I’m an individual who has just expressed their preferences, you’re here presuming that I’m using them to look better. Lol I’m sorry but I’ve only dated one man and I don’t have the confidence to date another. Yeah my personality matches the ‘nerds’ more than the ‘bad ass’
It’s wonderfully surprising that you think you know me, just because of how I look. You’re no different.
Would you like to talk @linaashxx?
Nothing. Since I no longer date, will never marry, won't cohabit, or have a relationship. The type of men that women like is no longer of any concern to me whatsoever!
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Depends on your definition of a 'bad boy' Those guys who go to prison for murder? The cool attitude guys who ride motorbikes and can be a little bit of a jerk? Or the guys who abuse, rape and hit their girlfriends... cause uh... your definition really plays a part in whether it's wrong or not..
Most of the time they're straight pussies trying to get some poon. Plus if they're reckless it just fucks up your life.
You want a dude with a manly attitude? Find someone who carries himself well and has a pair of balls in his pants.
+1 can confirm you got big balls
Nothing. People only get annoyed if you admit to liking bad boys and then complain about being emotionally hurt/mistreated by them.
Nothing but when you are heartbroken dont cry to the good guys
Exactly.
Why would you intentionally like a guy that you know is just going to hurt you and treat you like shit?
Don’t you enjoy being happy?
The problem is most of them don't care about you and girls like to think they can make bad boys good. This never works and they end up getting heartbroken and wondering why they can't find men to treat them right, even though they put the honest guy in the friendzone.
Simply cause they r not needy and ghost girls and selfish and dont seek attention from girls, they never text first they dont care they r straight and direct in their conversations they r pretty much confident and cokcy at the same times they have Lucifer's Pride and thats why girls chase them and enter their gameplay girls love this! so Guys upgrade your standards and have some Pride and stop moaning about girls not responding to your texts ewww boi get some pride for god sake !
I love the baddie look, but his nature is subjective. I've known good guys who are racists, rude, superiority complex - one even got domestic abuse charges to everyones shock and awe.
Not a tattoo nor piercing, nor brash attitude at all.
I can totally relate to this. After many years in prisons through out when I was younger , and 46 years of offensive arts training , never been single my entire adult life , having status everyone would die for ... i carry that look !! My. Character and personality puts most in shock and awe... in a good way. So much for judging a book by its cover
@Djaay
I don't know man. Immaturity manifest in different ways. Bouncing from girl to girl, messing with the law repeatedly and lackinh basic human mentality is just as immature as being intellectually arrogant, being naive to various aspects of common life, and being to flimsy to stand ground when necessary.
Lol good guys find me mysterious and bad boys find me intense.
Good guys always try to "figure me out" or think they have. I tell them not to do so.
Bad boys seem to get a rush out of me.
Lol men are weird.
Absolutely nothing! The whole bad boy thing is an excuse for boring guys that can't get laid! We are also naturally programmed to be attracted to the fittest and strongest these are more likely to be the bad guys
Nothing's wrong with it! However, when people choose douchey people and then complain about their relationship. That's just... weird... it's up to you what you prefer, a healthy relationship where the next person respects you or, in your own words, liking bad boys.
It depends on how "bad" they are
Dating a smocker no big deal
dating a gang member kinda a big deal
Nothing wrong with dating a bad boy but don't mess up your life by getting involved in the wrong things.
Nothing wrong with it but just know most aren't the marrying type. Don't expect him to change his ways for you.
It's because of their toxic nature that will influence you because you want to connect. I have seen this too many times. I have seen women grow attached to bad boys because they wish fully think that they can change them and see their good side
Bad boys aren’t all bad. That’s why.
I say to each his own, but don’t be whining and complaining when he wants to go bad boy on you, because he inevitably will. My step brother is the epitome of the bad boy that resents authority, shirks responsibilities and does what he wants to.
Nothing just don't complain when they treat you like 💩 and be like "Omg all men are the same a bunch of assholes"
nothing, but if you end up complaining about them in the future, you have no one to blame but yourself.
I mean... To each his own but the reality is always there. They aren't the ones that will make the relationship last.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with liking bad boys just be aware of what you are getting into. Don't fall for him if you know what he is. If you think you're going to change him, first of all you're not, secondly if you change him he won't be the same person you liked in the beginning. So go out date all the bad boys you want.
Brash manly attitude? No man is brash unless he’s abusive... believe me liking “bad boys” is not good because you can’t tell what’s going to happen
well its not necessarily that im attracted to bad boys but rather, i like guys that are very firm and are not afraid to be out there, and aren't easily intimidated... but definitely still has to know how to treat a lady
You'll learn in the long run that some values are worth a lot more than brash manly attitude. Especially when it comes to family and paying the bill, taking care of the house, etc. I know a lot of woman who do and it's too late from them.
Cause they're typically just assholes that engage in the wrong kinds of friendships and wrong habits and they only care for themselves. I just check these guys out but thats it. Would never date one or get in a serious relationship with one.
Nothing, as long as you don't manipulate men to act like something they're not. What you think they may be and what they are, are two different things.
Nothing wrong with it, you just stand a higher chance of getting your broken is all
Nothing, your type is your type. Don't listen to the whiny manchildren telling you you're a bad person as if they're a catch with their shitty attitudes.
Nothing. You're just attracted to confident, bold men. That's normal. There are no bad boys or nice guys. There are guys who are comfortable enough in their own skin to do what they please, and then there are men without backbones.
Guys who complain that "assholes" get all the girls are just angry because they got rejected once.
Very true. When I was a younger man, I was that guy that whined and complained about how the ladies would choose the jerks over “nice guys” like me. The truth was back then I was that guy that lacked any confidence or a backbone. I let the ladies walk all over me and didn’t speak up for myself when I should have. Looking back on that time, it’s not hard to see why I wasn’t getting with these ladies and was just that friend they payed attention to when they needed things like emotional support, or a ride somewhere. It’s true enough that there are those guys out there that are abusive and manipulative assholes, but a guy that is confident, isn’t afraid to speak his mind and disagree with his significant other hardly fits into that category of “bad boys” like many of these “nice guys”like to think.
@thecd1979 Exactly dude, a women in general want a confident man to protect them/support them. They don't want some whiny little bastard who's complaining that no one loves him. In fact, it's not only women. No one wants to be around that shit, and it's bloody horrible
Nothing, but don't complain if they disappoint you in the end.
Nothing unless you cheat on someone to be with that other guy or you whine about how you’re treated.
We're tired of hearing the whining when he breaks your heart cause you let him treat you like a piece of meat. That's what's wrong, the relationship will end but her complaining about it will never stop.
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