What's wrong with liking bad boys?

[Anonymous]

I like their brash manly attitude

[Weapon77]

Nothing is neceassrily wrong with it, BUT your comment basically shows where there can be a problem. Although it can be fine, the problem with liking bad boys usually comes from the idea that they have a manly attitude. The reality is that usually what is called a bad boy actually has a very childish attitude. Young girls, and evenr some young women have a hard time distinguishing between childish bad boys who are just stupid and manly bad boys who have their shit together without being Mr. Rogers.
This is also a problem because what even is a bad boy? The term is harder to define than you might expect. In reality, about half of all guys are bad boys, they just might not identify as such or try to make it known to everyone around them. If you see a guy in a sweater vest, there is a better chance he is a bad boy than you might think.
People tend to decide what a bad boy is by their appearance, which can be misleading. Some people who look like the guy in the photo you provided work in nursing homes and own bunnies. There is absolutely nothing wring with liking the look the guy in the picture has, but the brash, manly attitude is not always a good thing. Still, I feel like the bad boy look is what attracts ladies more than the attitude.

[being_haqueish]

It's quite relative. If they are badass but will respect you or stay with you everything's fine then. Perspective will make you see bad in good and good in bad.

[TisforTori]

Well bad boys are notorious for being bad partners. The maturity level isn’t there to understand why we all choose to behave how we do. They think of it as conformity. I don’t mean in ways of body art or loud music, etc but that we all work hard to take care of ourselves our loved ones not just worry about one person themselves. Most young ladies usually miss that part and mistake that they too are important and are them angry and hurt to find that well... the bad boy is a bad boy.

[lumos]

I guess there’s nothing wrong with it technically as long as you can acknowledge what you’re getting yourself into. So when, or if, your heart is broken, I don’t think you have a right to whine too much about it or pretend you didn’t see it coming. Or let it affect how you treat and think of other men who are nothing like that.

[potatoisme]

Nothing wrong with it if you don't want a guy who cares about you. Bad boys only care about themselves and their image.
So in case you like bad boys, you should take the responsibility for that and don't complain later on in case you get used/dumped/cheated on/abused/being treated rudely/disrespected by him.

[Bgurl2_0]

There's nothing wrong with liking bad boys. But, if it's just his style and like, attitude (buy not literally), then it's fine. But, if he's a bad boy where he gets himself into trouble, has a very VERY bad attitude, and abuses women in any sort of way, then it's a problem and you should let him go.

[OlderAndWiser]

You want your boys to grow up treating women like they are possessions? Are you going to bail them out of jail after they get arrested for beating up their "old woman?" And they won't come visit you when you are old and ill because there won't be any incentive for them.

[ManOnFire]

I think females who like them have not fully matured yet, emotionally or intellectually. And maybe have an inner desire for destruction or to be treated like shit. In most of the situations I've known of girls who liked badboys, all this was the case.

[thecd1979]

Yeah, what I’ve also learned is the majority of those women also are just as big of a screw up as he is.

[ManOnFire]

@thecd1979 Also very true. And then later on in life after they've had the "fun" they thought it was with these guys and have been used up and abused they're ready to start wanting the kinds of men they jeered at and thought were too soft and innocent years before.

[thecd1979]

Yes sir! I’ve seen this scenario play out with many of these women I know back in my hometown. The party eventually comes to an end and they’re left broke, working a shitty job, driving a shitty car, bouncing from place to place to live and many of times still on government assistance to make ends meet. It’s true what you say that now they want to meet a guy they can count on, that can hold a job, be good to their kids and treat them well. There’s one of two of these women whom I used to have a thing for back then whom I wouldn’t give the time or day to today. I’m sure they all regret not making better life decisions and maybe getting to know that other guy they didn’t talk to a little better.

[ManOnFire]

@thecd1979 Yeeeeep it's a very classic case especially in America. I've met my share of these women too who want to look my way, and I'm not interested. I still plan on writing a Part 2 Take about the whole loving badboys shit.

[thecd1979]

Well I’ll take a look at that take if you get around to it. I write what I write on here in hopes of reaching out to those younger guys and helping them see this whole bad boys and nice guys thing for what it really is. What I really want these younger guys to see is that those girls that get with these kinda guys really aren’t that much of a catch to begin with. They’re usually just as big of a screw up as the bad boy they’re screwing. Looking good is about the only thing many of these women have going for them. They’re bouncing around from job to job, pissing off their parents whom they live with and most likely will be living with for a while to come. They have no goals, no plans for their life and really only care about having fun and going out. They’re really nothing to be stressing over. I wish this was something I had come to see when I was younger.

[ManOnFire]

@thecd1979 Dude, I feel the exact same way, wanting to reach out to these guys too. I wrote a first Take on it months back if you're interested:

://www. girlsaskguys. com/girls-behavior/a48075-distance-yourself-from-girls-who-like-bad-boys

[Logorithim]

It's all the same to me who girls like, but they didn't get their rep for no reason at all...

[nerdyguy123]

My theory is:

1) Bad boys are adventurous and fun to be around since they are trying new things.

On other side

2) Nice guys are too boring and so predictable. So there is no spark in life.

What women biologically look for is a person who has potential to do something big, and usually risk taking attitude and confidence is what is common between successful people, they can lead. So this generally attracts women.

Now the thing is, out of these bad boys around 70-90% guys cannot go well in the society, and society pushes them down, since competition for leadership is tough. So the remaining 10% are the ones who achieve higher success.

When a women grows older, almost all women want this 10% of a guy who has bad boy characteristics but now is much stable, mature and now lives in a real life. mostly these 10% are the guys who are trustworthy, risk takers, empathetic (leadership capabilities).

But when a girl is young, she just cannot predict these 10% guys, she will go for any of the bad guy characteristics a guy possess.

[mamamiapizzeria]

Finally, a realistic answer.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of girls like bad boys. Plenty of guys like bad girls. The problem is simply this... neither are the sort you want in a long-term relationship and yet due to the great sex appeal they have, they are the easiest to fall in love with. Falling in love is something that can happen to anyone and anyone can fall in love with almost anyone else. It's a psychological condition that borders on and overlaps infatuation. Because of the way in which people become so easily infatuated by those they find sexually attractive it's that much easier to fall in love with a bad boy or bad girl. And... because we are so quick to make decisions based on what we FEEL people commit to long-term relationships with people who WILL make them miserable once their hormones wear off. And we do it again, and again, and again because we never learn that love isn't the important thing in the relationship. Not in the sense that we give it. Being in love at the start of a relationship is one of the fastest ways for a relationship to end in hardship. That's what's wrong with liking bad boys or bad girls. We are humans who make dumb decisions. We get our hearts involved in relationships with a guarantee to fall apart.

[_Hydra_]

Couldn’t have said it better myself!

[MLGbreezy]

You know I'm sick of this shit honestly you females need to make up your damn minds. First its we like bad boys and nice guys finish last. Then there was this trend where girls kept asking what happens to all the nice guys and gentleman. They FUCKING left cause females wouldn't give us the time of day but then all of sudden yiu r all asking for us to co. e back ok so now we're making a reappearance and its oh whats wrong with bad boys. there nothing wrong except women don't know what the hell they want ugggghhhh.

[grossgirl19]

Hey um so did u know... not all girls like the same thing🙊🙊🙊

[lumos]

Lmao did you know those things are being said by several DIFFERENT women and not the same women?

[boulshyte]

so u change who u r for the attention of girls? just be who u r and dw about it

[MLGbreezy]

Yea of course I know but constantly hearing it from mostly the majority of women gets a bit annoying after a while. BUT I know it is not all women and apologize for the harsh remarks but I'm sorry more often than not what I hear is I want I wrote up above but those are just my experience and what I've seen

[MLGbreezy]

@Boulshyte I haven't changed who I am for any females but over honestly come close. I've never even had a girlfriend but every time I've tried I've been told over and over girls like the bad boys they like bad boys. but then I ask i and its just be yourself and don't change and i do that and get rejected for it. So it gets confusing and frustrating and then it makes me ask the question well if being me and kind just gets me rejected why shouldn't i change and be a bad boy. Ya know

[Anonymous]

There nothing wrong with liking a “bad boy” it’s just don’t involve people in the drama when it doesn’t work out. Guys hate it when you come crying to them that you ex or whatever. Cheating, disrespecting you, etc. don’t make a “good guy” your emotional tampon.

Side note I love when girls have the fantasy in their head “ I need excitement and a guy with a regular 9-5 job who drives a Sedan is boring. Then you find one of these guys, date for a couple months- years , get pregnant then he leaves you 🤣.
Now you looking stupid like “ I want a honest , well established single guy to love me” don’t. Don’t nobody want your extra baggage 🤦🏾‍♂️

[AlexBlack007]

You like what makes them bad then? Like domestic violence, addicted to drugs and all that? Maybe they look interesting from a distance but when you get close and become their punching bag, what then?

[thecd1979]

Not to mention them not being able to hold a job and living with their parents, but hey he’s cool and adventurous. To each his own.

[steel1997]

Well define bad boys...
Is it spoiled rich kid sort...
Or manly type... who will break a bone if anyone opposes him...
Or something else..,..
I was 2 in school... later I realised something and change... well change was partial success... haha...
Once bad... it is hard to change... others fear us.. is like a drug in itself... had a experience where some kid mess u up then he himself comes to you... for punishment cause he fears that if U get angry the punishment will be more fun... even now if someone pissed me about money the first thought will be bank robery... I even ones said to my dad... well he is army... haha... nice twist right.. I say it in a jocking manner lol... nah no robberies , no gangs.. anymore... and I will never return to that life and me... bad guys are bad...

[I_Do_Mind]

Nothing. If you are okay with getting your heart torn to pieces and then kicked around in the dirt, I usually pay them no mind don't give their bad behavior the time of day. Only despair awaits them in their future and I do not want to be mixed up with that drama and suffrage, life is too short.

[tangerinefan1050]

Nothing at all! I mean, what kid doesn't just LOVE living in a broken, dysfunctional family, right? =D

[Anonymous]

I feel like women like the idea of a man that doesn't give a fuck about everyone BUT the girl itself. Working for that hard love, etc. Kinda feel like hollywood movies made the bad boys romantic.

PERSONALLY. I prefer someone emotionally stable and genuinely good. I rather go for longer commitments than a short unstable romantic relationship with a bad boy.

[sniff422002]

You girls give all you goodies to the bad boys they treat u like _ x - . they use u up. And after its all over with. You're so smart your stupid self don't even know how too treat a real guy who take care of you with no conditions. I know from experience. All of u girls who been with bad boys bring nothing but situation after situation of negative baggage to the relationship. Good men know how to take care a woman and love her. I'm tired of woman like u. You treat men like me really really bad stick to you bad boys and y'all negative a---z deserve each other.

[Moray]

Is the thrill and excitement of a bad boy worth being emotionally abused by him? He probably attracts you because he is unpredictable, dangerous and makes you feel getting to know him is an adventure, but he is not interested in knowing you, he is only interested in using you for sex and manipulating you to his gain.

[shelbyturtles]

"bad boys" are either good guys who pretend to be badass, or they are actually bad guys. I think people are attracted to them because they like the risk. But at the end if the day, after trying to be in a relationship with one, you realize that it's just not worth it. Be with someone who gives a shit and isn't just trying to look cool.

[thecd1979]

My step brother is the definition of that bad boy that wants to look cool and buys for attention. He wears $60 designer pants and spikes his hair up. He’s 34 but, lives at home with his mom, can’t hold a job and has a criminal record.

[shelbyturtles]

Then there's a reason he lives at home🤷 cause no one wants to deal with a 34 year old man acting like a moody teenager.

[thecd1979]

Exactly, everyone at this point is tired of putting up with his shit. His mom still won’t let him grow up though. She pays all his living expenses and lets him live with her rent free. A “bad boy” is almost always the product of poor parenting. But hey he’s the cool guy that knows all the bar owners and party people in my home town.

[SavageRae4Ever]

There is nothing wrong with falling for bad boys.
The question is? “Are you up for the challenges of being a bad boys girlfriend?”
It’s great to have a bad boy because if he deeply loves you he’ll protect you with his life. And also his entire circle of friends are like brothers and they will all protect you (unless they don’t like to see their boy in a relationship).
Anyways I am not attracted to them

[Anonymous]

You can do whatever you want.

Just don't expect anything long term. They are likely selfish losers who don't have anything going for them. Instead of focusing on the future, they focus on the now. They have foolish and , if I'm being honest, dumb aspirations. They will drag you down while they are going down themselves.

Real men are not selfish and have real goals. True manliness is SO much more than being a "bad boy".

[chrisv]

Hahaha. This question amuses the shit out of me!!!

Why? Umm because they are B. A. D. Bad boyfriends, bad Fathers, bad Husbands, bad Partners and bad examples.
And girls who go down that road always find out too late

[winterfox10]

I don't think people necessarily think it's wrong... you're allowed to like whoever you like... but I think people just want you to have realistic expectations about those bad boys. Don't expect some long commitment from a bad boy, and then complain to your friends about how you can't find any good men. YOU ARE INTO BAD BOYS, NOT GOOD MEN.

[Pocahontas2000]

I don't know but I have always avoided them, even though they liked me. I was always into nice guys but then realized that you can't label a person as a nice or bad guy unless you know them close enough, because I've met some nice guys who weren't that nice and some bad guys who were very good.

[BlackMaleYou]

Now what makes a guy a nice guy if he is actually bad?