It doesn't have to be... but it's usually seen as a negative, at least in Westernized cultures.
Doesn't mean it's right.
I joke that there are people I know who... you look at them, and you KNOW they're single, and it makes perfect sense as to why they're single. Then there are some people, and it's like "How are they actually still single?"
Recently, I was asked what my romantic status was. First time I've been asked in ages if I was single. Usually people don't seem to care (or they know I'm often single, so they don't ask).
I guess it's somehow a sign that you have SOME of your stuff together. Like you're capable of being attractive to someone. Which is obviously not always the case. I suppose the ease of getting a relationship means that you have more social worth (again, not always the case) or socially adept.
Do people prefer being in a relationship or being single? Everyone is different, and some of the situations are different.
I probably COULD go back to dating someone I dated ages ago. But I wouldn't be happy or feeling fulfilled. And that's more important to me than the status. Overall, I would rather be in a (happy and healthy) relationship than single. But I'd rather be single than be in a relationship where I wasn't attracted to the woman, and wasn't happy, and we were constantly fighting and bickering.
I have two friends who really don't seem to care at all about women. They don't care about being in a relationship. They're not interested. So it happens. I think it's rare, but it happens.
There's this attitude (not by everybody) that you need to have somebody, you need a car, you need a fast-track job, you need a house, and to top it off, you need kids. If you're lacking in any of these areas, your life is somehow incomplete.
A long time ago, I worked a job, but I wasn't out partying, and didn't have a girlfriend at the time. This one guy I worked with said to me, "You're a Taurus, right? That's a bull! You need to be going out there and getting some action!"
Years later, I was working another job, and this older woman I worked with had four grown kids, and she really had this thing about everybody having somebody. When she talked about them, she said, "Two of them are married, two of them aren't, so..." Then shrugs. It's almost like she was saying two of them were successful, and two were failures.
Absolutely not. Being single isn't being a failure. You choose if you want to be single or not, in a way. Anyone could get into a relationship. But would you be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one instead of being single? I would consider that a lie, because you might not feel as strongly as the other person. I would rather be single for life, than be with someone I'm just 99% in love with. Being in a relationship just for the sake of being in one, would be fake and like saying you are just waiting for the next best guy to come along. So being single I would say is more of a accomplishment than being in a relationship, because you are waiting for someone you really want than sticking to someone who is just okay/good and not "perfect". Hope I made sense and answered your question.
I don’t think it’s a sign of failure. I’ve never considered life to revolve around being with someone else - that sounds depressing. There are many different reasons as to why someone might be single. Maybe they just got out of a relationship. Maybe they haven’t been lucky enough to find someone. Maybe they want to focus on themselves and their own personal growth. Maybe they don’t want a relationship at all. Maybe they’re not fit to be in one, or don’t have the time for one. And none of those reasons are ”failures” in my eyes.
I wouldn't agree with the question. Being single is not a sign of failure, ... having a sexless life is a sign of failure. it means you are so unattractive that you have no evolutionary value.
If you are single and getting sex with one. Two, three people or more... you aren't viewed as a failure. you are a stud.
What exactly is "evolutionary value" and why is it important? If what you're saying is we're on this Earth to have children and we have those children so they can have children but there isn't value in an individual life, in a worldwide sense, aren't we just producing evolutionarily worthless people to have more worthless people. If an item's only value is that I can break it down to obtain something that can make the item, the item has no value.
I'll behonest. I live a sexless life because severe social anxiety and OCD deeply limit me. But if I were to help somebody achieve something they wanted to, I consider that having value. If that achievement leads to them eventually having kids- "evolutionary value."
If I make an important piece of technology but die a virgin, I still have evolutionary value. Because part of evolution is advancing society and evolving.
I believe there's something more. Not in a religious sense, in a different sense. And where that's concerned everybody has
If you're talking about appearance, appearance doesn't always reflect genes. Good looking people can be dumb as rocks. Other factors can influence appearance, such as depression. Not a definite reflection of genes, if genes do in fact define "evolutionary value."
@googlees haha. Are we really getting intellectual? It was just a way for me to say that if i can't get laid if feel like a failure. Being single wouldn't bother me. No sex would.
There is nothing at all to be ashamed of in being single. Being single has many advantages such as not having to factor someone into your daily life decisions, you have the luxury to be selfish without it affecting someone negatively or having someone feel disgruntled. I'm currently single and right now I'm enjoying it. I can choose where to eat out, who to spend my time with, where and how I choose to utilise my spare time, how to run my home, where to plan my next overseas vacation and the list goes on. Sure it can sometimes get lonely but for me i don't feel it that often. I'm a single mum, I work fulltime so when I come home from work and dealt with dinner duties, daughters quality time I'm pretty much just wanting to flop on the couch and do my own thing anyway whether that be catching up on my favorite Netflix shows or listening to music or playing some games on my phone then bed. I have a great social network so I'm always out with my daughter on weekends catching up with other mums and their kids or having a girls night out.
I don't rule out love and I am on a social singles page on Facebook and attend events when I have time in order to be physically present out in the real world, you never know I may find Mr Right by doing that but it's not a priority. Realistically being in a relationship takes time and effort, they don't just magically happen, you both have to be loyal and committed to each other and invested in making it work. Relationships these days have become so disposable that no one really wants to try and make one properly work, they are half on and half out, believe me being in a crappy relationship does not make for a happy life, there are so many couples living a lie, pretending to be happy when reality is that are not. I'd rather be single any day than be in a shitty relationship that is very much lacking on all fronts but that's just my opinion.
I would prefer to be in a relationship in fact i long for it. I have recently had so many personal issues come forward that i don't think trying to start a relationship would even be worth while not only to myself but to the significant other as i won't have the time to actually spend with them. I think it's a mentality factor. If you are a guy that's down with the one night stand gig then i don't think it matters so much to them. For me though i prefer a solid foundation and a lasting thing with someone because i find it hard to have sex with someone then randomly never meet them again. I enjoy the troubles a relationship brings because it is what makes it fun. Whenever she gets angry it was the cutest fckn thing because she would scruntch her nose up and point a finger at you and try to get a deep voice (which was all the more better when it failed) and be like call my full name and get mad. If i walked up and kissed her like a movie scene she would start internally fighting herself to try not to laugh and continue to be mad. I'm rambling. Anyway, that's my opinion.
Being single is fine. But a lot of single people complain about their singleness instead of actively working towards overcoming whatever is stopping them from achieving the "relationship status" they want. they complain about people thinking they are boring, or having low self-esteem, or how undateable everyone else is... If you don't make your status seem very good, then no one else will value it either... it's really all about what you put out there, because being single IS good if you take the time to learn from it.
Older generations view success as working a successful career, owning a house, and being married / having kids. That kind of philosophy has been shoved down our throats as we grew up.
People in the world today are very selfish, very lazy, and very angry. Because of that, we, as a society, SUCK at love.
But we still crave it. That level of physical and emotional intimacy, having someone to lean on in the worst of times, waking up next to someone amazing, having someone with whom you can create amazing memories and a limitless future... we all want that. And when we don't have that, we feel as though we have failed and are missing out on life's greatest joys.
Me? I don't give a damn. I'm me and I like me. If you want in on it with me, great! I'm not gonna lose sleep over it if you don't.
Being single isn't a sign of failure. I use to think this way when I was younger, but after learning to stop settling for assholes just to not be alone, I've become more confident in myself and in my own worth. I even ended things with a great man because he started to have feelings for an ex and wouldn't promise to not try to get with her if we took a break. I wish them luck, but I don't play second place so it's over. Being single isn't a failure, it's being comfortable with yourself. It's waiting for somebody who values you as much as you value them, and not settling for less just to have somebody to come home to.
Being single is less of a failure than unhappily married or in a bad relationship
I’ve been single a while now and doesn’t look like it will be changing soon I refuse to settle I’ve spent too many years in mundane and bad relationships the next one WILL be special
I feel like part of it has to do with culture. Or at least in the United States from what I know.
Marriage has always been a must. Even in movies “when are you gonna get married and have my grandchildren.” Somewhere it was portrayed as bad to be alone, never married.
But also, maybe it has to do with natural human desires. Many humans , including I, have the desire to be cuddled with, we crave attention from a partner, kisses (oh God I've had some great ones). It just feels nice.
Some are just afraid to be alone. Ever seen a person in a relationship and thought that it wasn’t healthy or meant to be, why are they still in there after how long? Either they see something else or they just have a fear of being alone. (Of course there’s other reasons too)
Its a gateway to have kids and carry on the family name to some. Some just want grand kids.
Nothing wrong with being single though. It can be really enjoyable!
I never could understand why it was so frowned upon. I've been single for a while and I love it. I have my own house and can't stand the though of sharing my bathroom with someone. I like to shit with the door open, walk around naked, leave with out explanation etc. I have turned down many guys that's wanted serious relationships with me I just wasn't feeling it. However, there is one man I'd drop everything to be with in a heartbeat. Despite that, I love my own company and am quite content with it.
Im following this question. I believe in authentic relationships and would love to be in one, yet again authentic which for me involves a commitment and trust partnership. I'm single and have struggle with feeling sort of "excluded" just because of being the only single among my friends. I'm happy for them, and would love to have a real healthy relationship, yet if itsnt in those terms I prefer to be alone.
All that being said, I've learned that at the end of the day each person has different relationship standards. Being single can be a bless if you learn how to be with yourself. This' my journey, I prefer being with myself and open towards meeting people and observing rather than being with the first guy I met and desperately go towards him.
For me I'd rather be in a relationship causeI've never been in one. And for why i believe its a sign of failure cause the social stereotype for a male or female in soectiy is to go to school get a good paying job buy a house and eventually settle down and get married. but in my case its s struggle to even get a date with a girl let alone get married it makes me personally just feel unwanted by the opposite sex especially when friends and family member around you are getting married and getting into relationship your singled out and you dont understand why at times and it just makes you feel like you've lost. but I don't know thats my view on it
Being single is a sign of strength in my opinion. Usually, a single person knows what they are looking for in a life partner and won't waste their time with anyone who doesn't meet or have the potential to be the person you want them to be. Now I can't comment on all the no strings sex that a lot of people are having these days. Disgusting stuff if you ask me.
Good relationships are better, when you actually care about each other, this morning for example after I couldn't sleep due to shoulder pain, my wife gave me a massage, rode me like a horse and gave me a hot water bottle for my shoulder, she went to work, I took day off and slept 😝 woke up feeling a lot better, went and bought some food to make a veg curry for dinner and probably going to give her a massage and get laid again tonight. I simply can't understand why anyone would choose to be single, unless they can't find a good partner.
Sounds like you have a pretty good relationship, your one of the lucky ones then. It doesn't happen for everyone though and these days it's just so much harder to find genuine people so hold onto that very caring wife and keep letting her ride you like a horse and keep on making those delicious dinners and being each others lover and best friend. Wonderful to hear there are relationships thriving out there. It's clear from both of your actions towards one another that you are each others priority so well done.
a lot of people are selfish these days and just don't like giving but they will happily receive. I would always give my ex a massage from time to time but I never would get one back in return so in the end I stopped. Was tired of making an effort and seeing him not bother to make one back.
Being single is not a sign of failure at all. There are plenty of people who choose to be single because either their jobs are demanding or require them to be gone all the time. Or you have those, that simply do not want ot be in a relationship. I think of it as more of a strength than anything, for the fact you are having to rely on your own for everything and you don't have a person for emotional support.
Time has changed a lot. There was a time when love used to dominate rather than sex. Now the new meaning of love is to have sex. When there is abundance of sex then there are loyalities and disloyalities which eventually lead to frustration. This results in more casual relationships which leads people to prefer for staying single than in a relationship. This all started from the frustration of doing lot of sex with multiple people which we call polygamy. It is not liked in society but people want it undercover. So staying single is a 2way process.
I don't believe that being single is a failure, I believe that well depending on choice of being single or just not being able to get into a relationship. But me for example, became single by choice so I can feel more successful for myself. In my last relationship I felt so tied down I was not able to feel accomplished in my own personal life.
Failure and success are made up words. Entirely subjective. You are only as much of a success or failure that you think you are, feel you are, and believed that you are. And if you believe being single equals being a failure then that's because of your beliefs, your thoughts, and your emotions. Just for the record, just because you have a partner or spouse does not mean you won't die alone. Since very rarely both spouses or partners DIE AT THE SAME TIME!
Because it shows that you are unable to form a meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. It's a biological imperative, so a failure in do so is looked at as such. Some people just never do connect and remain single for their entire lives. Some have some kind of tragic and debilitating experience and never really recover to try again.
As much as I do like companionship, I also really like being single, it just gives me so much more time to myself. The only people who see being single as a sign of failure are the fools who seem to think that relationship status equates to overall success in life.
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