Do you actually want fuck buddies? Is it ever truly casual or do you hope for a relationship to form deep down?

[redrocket68]

I feel like almost 100% of fuck buddy situations I've had have been women who are actually wanting more from the start. Usually they are ones with baggage or physical flaws or something that may make them less desirable as a partner and they are aware of this and so they think there's no way they could "demand" a relationship from me. They know sex is the fastest way to a man's heart so they do what they have to do. And it just makes them want you even more... be honest... when you start hooking up and developing a fuck buddy setup with a man are actually hoping for more like to change his mind... or do you just want to get the D?

[LanayLuckie]

I'm 41, I have a fuck buddy. And not many people know about us and we both like it that way. We've been fuck buddies for years. It's possible, we had the understanding from the beginning that a relationship together isn't in our future. It works. He does things for me outside of the bedroom and I do things for him. We care about each other as fuck buddies because we trust each other, I'm fine when I see him with other women, he's fine when he see me with other men, he's very excited when he sees me with other women.

[redrocket68]

I need to somehow have this with my ex..

[LanayLuckie]

😊 are you still talk to her?

[redrocket68]

Nope. It was ugly.

[Tiaroendu479]

I have had a couple successful friends with benefits relationships, but I definitely went through a phase where I went into the friends with benefits friendship with the hopes of it progressing to something more.

But, now that I’m in a different situation in life, I feel like I could totally achieve that kind of relationship with no strings or desire for them. I think it all depends on your state of mind and where you are in life that either makes it successful or doesn’t

[redrocket68]

Thats how I am but if I get feelings and I've designated her as a fuck buddy I will write it off as feelings and realize there's a reason Im not dating her and it never moves forward from there.

[dawnm902]

I’ve had amazing fuck buddies. No, I didn’t want it to go anywhere. Sometimes it strengthened my friendship, other times everything stayed the same. My desire for sex has always been stronger than my need for a relationship. Women aren’t always good at separating feelings. I am.

[CandacePerry]

I don't like fuck buddy. have to be in a long term relationship. hate guys that have more then one girlfriend. I been hurt more then once. been cheated on twice. now that in relationship outside of college. it more better. don't have to deal with jealous girls.

[redrocket68]

Im tired of being dumped for essentially no real reason while I'm still in the honeymoon phase. Im convinced at this point fuck buddies is all im actually cut out for.

[CandacePerry]

I am tired of girls being bitches. To me.

[redrocket68]

They are bitches to us all

[ganesh112]

Its just timepass

[redrocket68]

I should have made this for women only lol... I already know 100% of men are okay with fuck buddy scenarios

[blubblubblub]

I've never really had one, but yeah, refreshing to just have that release with none of the stress but i dont know if id be able to help the fact that i may develop feelings later

[redrocket68]

Yeah that kinda just happens

[Anonymous]

Ya not too many girls can just be fuck buddies. Most girls want a relationship with the guy they having sex with. Some girls can do just sex tho.

[redrocket68]

They can for awhile but I feel like they always catch feelings.

[Opinion Owner]

True most girls want to feel connected. You dont want that and only easy hook ups or what?

[redrocket68]

With some girls yeah only hookups only some are worth a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

Im like that too

[redrocket68]

I guess I need to not be nice to them at all so they won't want anything more

[midnitetown]

I entered into a fuck buddy relationship with a guy knowing that I just wanted sex on demand and he was really attractive. Now I can just get sex whenever I want and don't want to put in any effort for a relationship

[redrocket68]

Yeah. That's how they start but I've never had one not catch feelings they always end up wanting more.

[Anonymous]

I want a relationship

[redrocket68]

So you don't get in fuck buddy situations?

[Opinion Owner]

No I don't want.

[Opinion Owner]

Unless I don't want a commitment

[redrocket68]

See for me its not even about commitment... I just don't like getting hurt and I am learning its impossible not to in relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah understand. But not every relationship gonna be the same to the one that you got hurt by. If you see the signs, then break up with them. So you don't get hurt

[redrocket68]

Those signs are almost always present to varying degrees and reading online I've learned im not alone...

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok. Yeah it's hard founding the right one. Maybe try older women like 1 year or 2 years. I am 25 and don't want someone my own age, I want an older guy as it might be better.

[redrocket68]

Thats silly you're limiting yourself

[Opinion Owner]

No I am not. Just want a mature guy.

[SomeGuy965]

I love having them I have 6

[BeWithMe]

Oh yes, they are real, just like Unicorns!

[Bonitaermosa]

May be...

[redrocket68]

Maybe=yes lol

[Bonitaermosa]

I have lots of options so if a guy wants more from me ando dont then... it'll be hard on him not me. So that's why may be.

[redrocket68]

All women have lots of options what does that have to do with wanting a fuck buddy or not? The question is do you ever truly JUST want a fuck buddy to remain a casual fuck buddy or do you enter this arrangement hoping in the back of your mind that you can change this guy and make him like you?

[Bonitaermosa]

Then no.

[_QueenOfTheDank_]

Not really..

[redrocket68]

You think deep down you're hoping you'll like him enough to make it more than just fuck buddies?

[_QueenOfTheDank_]

I don't want a fuck boy in the first place.

[redrocket68]

Yeah I know. And thats your way of shaming him. Maybe he has enough experience and is smart enough to know that investing in you emotionally doesn't pay off and it's generally not a great idea unless he likes having his heart ripped out of his chest for no real reason.

[ausernameforgag]

Yes.