I've gamed for a little over 7 years now, and I've nearly been falling out of the practice due to some other life motivation, etc. I would lay off any bad habit for the girl I cared for. (of course if it was reasonable)
If there's one thing I know about a hardcore gamer's personality, is that his main hobby is, amof, gaming! If you want him to back off of it while you're around then you need to devise a plan, or something you two could do together, that would also interest him.
If he doesn't lay down his time for you though, make it a clear point to him if you haven't already. Make him know what he's missing out on.
Kick him to the curb if he doesn't respect your time, because I'm sure that if a gamer doesn't want to be interrupted with other matters, then he surely won't.
Nothing wrong with you wanting him to put it away but do you offer anything in that time to keep him occupied or his mind stimulated. I mean what do you guys do when he's not playing games? Does it match up to how he feels when he does play games.
My girl complained about me playing games too much so long story short we ended up playing chess instead (which could get heated at times lool) but at least we was doing something together and the chess gradually became more interesting than when I play games. From it all we would communicate and interact more.
I wouldn't ask him to cold turkey give them up. What I might do if I were you is play with him or ask him to teach me if it's a game I'm unfamiliar with. Obviously I wouldn't want to play video games every single moment we spend together but I don't see the bad in supporting something that he likes or might be passionate about. If not you should just tell him that you think Fortnite is taking up time from your relationship and that he should cut back a bit from it to be with you. Don't make a big deal over it though because it's something really stupid to have a fight about. Best of luck!
Lol my boyfriend cutback but he prob won't ever give it up. We just had a convo about our future kids and he was like, “if they want something that i’ll surely say no to, then they better ask for it while im playing the game.” Im just like ughhh you’d still be playin that 😭 he loves paragon, fortnite, and rainbow six. GTA and N4S were prob all we had in common. When we first started dating, he played the game 6 hrs straight. It was ridiculous. But now he's cut down to 3 hrs after i had to get a little strict
Lol i told my boyfriend last month i’d try that one day haha. He told me he’s gonna throw the controller across the room 🙈😂
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I don't play video games anymore, just phone games. But if I did I would just do it when she's not around.
No.
But is she asked me to do so, she'd quickly find out that I would give up her for my games.
It isn't even that games are that important to me. I've probably played 20 hours worth of games in the last month, and that is a great deal more than previous months. I don't have time for them, sadly.
It's the principal. I despise this bullshit idea that men should have to grow up, men should have to abandon their "childish hobbies," or their "immature friends," or whatever other fucking garbage some woman thinks she has the right to demand of us, but should any man ask, let alone demand, that a woman give up some hobby, or some associations, or anything else, that he didn't like, and found boring, boorish, and a distraction that occupied too much of her time, than all of a sudden, he's an oppressive control freak.
No, honey, I will not give up my games, my friends, etc. Just like I don't demand you give anything up. If the fact that I will not deprive myself things in my life that make me happy, because you demand it, makes YOU unhappy?
Leave.
I wouldn't give up games entirely, but I wouldn't mind playing less around you.
Also I don't think league or fortnite is a game to introduce to a new player. Those games generally require you to understand the basics of the gaming culture to enjoy, a high bar to cross. It's kind of like reading a book, kids don't just pick up a novel and understand it immediately, they generally read picture books and slowly learn to read. It's the same with video games.
I promise you, if you learn to enjoy gaming, it will be loads of fun. You will certainly be more popular, you will probably have a deeper relationship with your boyfriend, and you will understand more of people and art.
Some entry level games that you could enjoy with little or no knowledge are Portal, the Stanley parable, papers please, Minecraft, the last of us, and my personal favourite Nier Automata (if you have a controller or playstation). They all teach you different basics of gaming and some tell a very good story while doing so.
You probably need a pretty good computer or a console to play these games. I'm sure your boyfriend will be more than happy to let you use his computer and teach you the medium. If he doesn't, I will because I think games can be enjoyed by everyone!
Have a nice day! :D
Unless it BECOMES an unhealthy addiction. I'd never expect that. Its something they really enjoy. It can releve stress. Besides I like watching my husband play and some games I really like myself. As long as it doesn't turn into something that he gets irritable for a long time over or never wants to do anything else EVER, Im fine with it. My husband has collected game systems and all that since I met him 7 years ago. I knew what I was getting into. If I had a problem with it I wouldn't have been with him.
I have my own likes that could be comparable as well in the form of books.
I don't think there's anything wrong with that, you just want him to let you know you're worth his time and not second to his games.
But if they're a big part of his life, then it's as if it's a part of him you should learn even a little bit about. You don't have to play the game or make it one of your hobbies, but knowing a bit about how it's played or some of the characters to a long way.
You should let him know that you want more time when you're together away from him playing games because you don't really have an interest in them.
Maybe even have more dates or get used to spend ding time together but doing separate things you enjoy individually.
Cut back? No problem. I usually do in a relationship anyway (girls have much more interesting buttons to press than videogames).
Stop entirely? I might do of my own volition. Sometimes Ill go quite a while without really playing anything (about three years at one point)... but if the hypothetical "she" ever mandated it, I would leave pretty rapidly. Partners having hobbies and things they enjoy should be encouraged (within healthy limits), and someone trying to force, or coerce their partner into having less hobbies is always a bad sign for things to come.
I wouldn't quit playing them but I've never really played them a lot when my girlfriend was around. However so. e situations do take precedent such as if I had been waiting to play a game and I finally had a day off where I could play it and she called and asked what I was doing and I said "nothing just having a lazy day playing this game I've been waiting to play", and if she wanted to come over it would be under the understanding that I was still going to play that game. I'm not selfish at some point I'd put a movie on but I wouldn't just stop because she came over.
I think for someone to completely cut off a hobby that someone enjoys is a pretty selfish thing to do.
But it honestly depends on how much time your spending on video games... sure if it’s ALL day I would say something but to put someone on the spot between choosing a video game over a relationship is a bit harsh.
My boyfriend plays fortnite and many games. Sometimes if he's really into it, I watch with him and lowkey get interested too 😂
He probably would stop playing for me, but I wouldn't want to put him in a position where he has to choose between someone he loves and something he likes to do. Just as I expect him to respect my hobbies, i respect his?
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO.
Fuck. No.
I used to hate myself as a kid for loving video games and apply the male stereotype to myself (build houses, kill bears, drink scotch, dance, pay money, lots of money, expensive gifts, tuxedos, cigars, fix cars, big beard, get all the women, hate video games, hate chocolate, hate cartoons blah blah blah) and think that that's how I should be and I am forced to love being like that and hate everything else otherwise I won't ever be loved and I'll die alone.
So fuck that. Video Games are one of my greatest hobby. Super fun, super exciting and always a great opportunity to bond with other people who play. A place where you are a hero, not a usless piece of shit like the world makes you to be. A place where stories have meanings and morals rule over money. I'm never quitting them. Fuck you.
Being uncomfortable with somebody's hobby and changing the person (aka pressure them to cut down on their hobby) seems weird to me, why even be with them then?
Unless it's a case where they're obsessed and put their hobby waaay above you, won't spend time with you without doing their hobby at the same time, or, try to pressure YOU into loving their hobby. Of course.
No, in this case the girl will have to go. I seek a partner who respects me and my lifestyle. If the balance is off to the point where she feels neglected i dont mind finding a better balance but if she doesn't respect one of my passions she has no place as more then a friend.
Amen to that 🤙
I had a crazy break up with a dude that chose to play video games to the point where we did absolutely nothing whenever I saw him. I wouldn't want anyone to give up playing, as I play myself, but time management is big part of being an adult. If they can balance the amount they play versus the amount we do actually chill together , then everything will be fine.
I wouldn't want my boyfriend to give up playing when he enjoys it. I enjoy playing video games too, just different games. I've tried playing league with him and I wasn't into it. But he can play it and I won't mind. However, he and I play fortnite together and it's super fun.
@pinksock1 I can't argue with you there lol there are definitely a lot of toxic players that are hard to avoid. I know some people really like that game but I personally don't. But it's fine, everyone is different
"I ask cause I don't think I will ever truly wrap my head around League of Fortnite"
So you're asking someone to stop doing something they enjoy because you don't understand it? I mean I get it if you don't get to see much and when you do he spends most of it playing video games, but if he's only playing like an hour or two a day then I think you're the one being completely ridiculous.
I would never ask someone to give up a hobby. But, I do expect our time together to be about us. When he's alone or with his friends he can do what he wants but I'm not sitting there watching him play video games. If it gets to a point where getting him to put the controller down is like pulling teeth then we are over. I'm not going to force someone to spend time with me but I'm not going to waste my time with someone who would rather play video games either.
My close friends ex (thank God he’s an ex) would flat out ignore her when she was over to game. He once texted her “I miss you baby”. When he was three fucking feet away. I personally love video games, and if he wants to play them, I would like to be included in his party. But if I was wanting to spent more quality time with him, I would like him to put away the controller for a bit.
Nope if your going to stop me playing video games with a bunch of dudes you are telling me I can't have me time. There's nothing to be upset about unless someone is straight up ignoring you... but if they are you probably did something they aren't to happy about either.
I wouldn't... I let my boyfriend play whenever he wants... I would be mad if he restricted me of my hobbies or the things I loved doing. But there's a limit. If your relationship is getting affected or neglected extremely... then I would say.. it's a problem.
I agree. Perfectly worded!
Dude, I meant that I agree with her post repost from earlier. I don't know who you are or what your deal is, but best of luck and have a good night.
I kinda have. I like them but my girlfriend only does a bit so when she is around i only play games that she plays with me. Which if fine but she always wants to be with me and i really like being with her too but that only leaves random pockets for me to play other games. Which if fine but i would like to play more of other games. She says that i can like play games with friends but then i would have to tell her not to come over and i really dont like doing that
I think he needs to cut at least a little to be with you
But over all maybe he also needs to find a game you can both play
I don't get LOL or Frontire my self but I can play a decent Brahalla or Overwatch
I think over all games is a good way to have fun and know someone in a more agrasive wzy 🙄
If you guys don't live together and don't get to see each other every day then yeah he needs to cut back or not play when you're around. That's not fair to you. If you lived together and/or saw each other every day then it would be a different story.
And I will never wrap my head around that game either and I'm a gamer. I really don't understand the hype over it.
I wouldn't want the guy I am with to give up something he enjoys. Maybe limit the time. on that activity. I don't play video games but simpler games like Mario cart, etc I have played with a guy. I also like to lay on the couch while he plays and put my feet in his lap or rub his neck
Every evening, I play exactly 2 multiplayer rounds of Halo 5 after work; sometimes only 1.
I would just definitely cut down for my significant other, but I wouldn't give it up completely.
However, she comes first; always! People always first; things and leisure come 2nd, 3rd, or 4th.
I think so. Why? Was it supposed to be dead?
My boyfriend won’t. He’s admitted his addicted.
He goes to work and the moment he’s home he’s gaming. I cook the dinner, he comes down to eat it, and he’s back on until ged. At weekends he games for 12-18 hours per day. And then he blames me for us not spending enough time together.
Wow. That sounds irrational... But of he wants to try and blame you, than maybe you should just go ahead and pick a weekend away or even just a little date night and then let him know. If he refuses your plans, than you can remind him of that the next time he tries to blame you for not spending enough time together.
I've seen some people who love gaming. I do as well, but I also don't wanna play nearly that many hours a week. That's pretty up there.
Best of luck!
@Jacquelinee94 I do that. But sadly I have no stable income and he earns £2,000 a month. My dad charges £200 rent and the rest is pocket money.
If I suggest plans he’s “too tired cause I’ve been working” (not too tired to drive 200 odd miles to see a friend or spend hours gaming).
I’m given up. I had dreams of marriage and children but I’ve buried those dreams. If he asks he’ll get a no. It’s my lifelong dream and he’s shat on it. I don’t him not to lead me on and he did exactly that.
If you're making time to see him, he ought to make time to spend with you, and ditch the games when you're around. With my ex I chose to skip various social events to spend time with her when I could. If all he's gonna do is play games then you should find something better to do with your time.
Well, I would eventually spend the most possible time with her, have fun time, everything my girlfriend could enjoy. On the spare time, I would play videogames, but with her too.
After all, girls also need to learn boy's stuff if they want us to do their things too. ;)
Honey I game too 😏 he doesn't have to give up gaming, he only has to play it with me. I'm totally upset if he plays league without me 😫
This is why gamers rarely have girlfriends. I personally would rather turn my girlfriend's knobs than those on a game controller. If I had a girlfriend that is the last time you see me playing video games. With that being said, my wife told me if I go skiing one more time she'll leave me. I'd be lying if I said I'm not going to miss her.
Well i wouldn't choose to play video games over spending time with girlfriend but i wouldn't give them up. You shouldn't make your partner girlfriend or boyfriend give up something or try controlling what they do. But id say it's not unreasonable for to want him not to play if your there.
I'd try and find a balance, I'd say for a lot of people guys and girls games are a pretty important part of our daily activities, I think it's unreasonable to completely cut out an element of your personality just for your significant other (unless dehabilitiating). For this I'd cut back a bit on time in certain games or try and see if there was anything we could both get into and enjoy games or otherwise
and for the update of the question if she started going down on me full attention to her
No lol cause to me everyone can have one interest they do very often (accept drugs or alcohol). My girlfriend loves to read and takes a few night a week to sit in our home office alone and read a good book. I hate reading for fun so I wouldn't do that. I let her read cause she likes it. I view it as my girlfriend and i have been together long enough to need our space so we let eachother do what entertains us and have me time.
When I go over to my boyfriends house, we sometimes take turns playing fortnite together and just have fun with it but he always goes to turn it off when I first arrive cause he knows I like attention.
Just try talking to him about it. He can do video games when you’re not around.
Would you give up your drama or any other female tv shows when he's around?
Her going down on me in the middle of a game is a pretty good reason to stop playing lol
Nope. Im a hard gamer playing 7,8 hours a day if I dont go to school (holidays, weekend). I would never quit playing games for someone But I have awesome girlfriend that supports me and even though she hates games she still playes them with me because she loves me.
Ofcourse when she is with me I give her all the attention and I cut my time playing to go out with her. But if you love games dont quit them for anyone just spend less time playing and more time with your loved ones
Ewww you said league of fortnite lol 20 hours. 20 hours is all it takes to get decent at something. Take 45 minutes a day and really read up to understand league of legends. Fortnite i still am terrible at atm. But read up and section it apart and learn about it that way and in 2 weeks you'll understand enough to actually start having fun with it. I wouldn't give up something i find enjoyable because i would try my best to incorperate her into it.
No, and I don't even play them that much. Unless it was somehow affecting her health (like of she were sick and I needed more time to take care of her) I'm not changing anything about me or my behavior for someone els. Exceptions include my child, wife, and other close family if It were absolutely necessary.(I'm not gonna ride a motorcycle or do any kind of drugs beyound lighy-social if I have a kid)
I cut back and try to spend more time with a girl when we are seeing each other. Its important that everyone has their hobbies but i feel putting a partner first is a must. To me, if you have a hobby he feels like takes too much time away from him its only fair he cuts back on a hobby that does the same and vise versa. Its all about compromise and communication
I'd never ask him to give them up, because we both enjoy gaming and I like watching him play, but mine literally chose COD over sex with me last night so just tell him that you feel it's important that you're also paid attention to.
I'd let him and even play with him sometimes or just watch him play. I love video games myself and I'm never going to ask a guy to give something up for me. Hell I'd probably even buy him games and cause him to get an addiction
Haha never. I wouldn't date anyone who would make me give up something that beings me joy
Answer for the update on the question: I would try to hear her out, understand where she is coming from.
I mean, you can't force someone to give up something they enjoy doing
If a guy asked you to give up make up because he doesn't like you wearing it when he's around, would you? (League of Fortnite doesn't exist) I'm not say a guy can't wear makeup and a girl can't play video games, just putting in an example
LMFAO I wouldn't give up videogames for my boyfriend. So no, no expectation for that. However, I'd expect him to be inclusive if he is going to play around me. Time spent together should be spent TOGETHER, staring at someone play is never fun.
The simple answer is no. Games are the primary source of stress relief for me, and anyone who expects me to give it up is out of their mind. They're always there to pull me out of a rut and transport me to a happier place.
Update: Depends on the game.
Any hyper competitive game I'd say "stop, I need to win this" and then insult the enemy team.
If it's a more relaxed single player game, then I'd just go with the flow.
Stop playing while spending time with her..- HELL YES 😊
Give up playing it - HELL NO 😁
Not entirely, never. But I would not play games in the presence of my significant other than if she would want me to show her or something like that. And I get what you are feeling, you think that he is less interested in you and just wants to play vidya.
haha kinda sucks to be with someone who is waaay to addicted to video games but if we can do both then yayy seriously who wouldn't wanna like cuddle or something and play a nice video game with there bf/gf?
I would never ask my guy to give it up, would talk to him and work out a compromise when I am around where we can play games we both enjoy. There are other video games out there.
If you want your boyfriend's behavior to change, TRY. Attempt to play with him, do your homework about that games he is into... don't dismiss it as a hobby or a waste of time, be passionate about the things your man is passionate about and he will end up being passionate about you, too.
No. Purely because if I was in a situation where my girlfriend wanted that level of control over my life then we wouldn't be compatible. I wouldn't mind cutting back though
I would never allow my partner to give something up or me. That I'd who he is and it would be selfish as fuck. I love nerdy men and gaming.
Women and men who try changing their partners have problems.
Yes, I agree! My boyfriend loves his video games, but it's never been an issue. It's such an innocent hobby,
Lol ikr, looking cute playin games like a little boy (don't tell them that)
Haha oh yes! Star wars pj pants and all.
No i will never give on video games. They keep me alive
I’d never ask such a silly thing! My husband when he has time still plays his computer and ps4 games but I use to be a gamer too so I know how fun it is.
I wouldn't give up something I enjoy simply because she doesn't, but I wouldn't let it consume my life. She's more important to me.
Nope, I'm not changing for a woman. I also, play guitar, bass, write songs, I'm making a bass and guitar. Not giving up anything, she'd better get some hobbies or something
There's a pause button
Lol league is so awesome. But indeed guys always tend to play it when im around. But they try to show me how good they are.🙄 Just shut down the internet before they start😂
I could cut back. But my ideal girlfriend would like playing video games, too, so hopefully it wouldn't be too much of an issue for us.
I wouldn't give something up that I love for my partner, I'm sorry. I love playing games, and I find a partner that loves playing games as much as I do.
Nope. That's more of a thing that typically comes from women around my age. They tend to get upset if their guy plays games much, even when she is busy doing other stuff.
If someone asked me to stop playing them I would just tell her to leave.
I wouldn't. Why give up something that you like just because someone else wants you to? She don't like me playing video games then she can take a hike and I will find a girl that likes them. Life is to short to not do what makes you happy.
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