I've gamed for a little over 7 years now, and I've nearly been falling out of the practice due to some other life motivation, etc. I would lay off any bad habit for the girl I cared for. (of course if it was reasonable)
If there's one thing I know about a hardcore gamer's personality, is that his main hobby is, amof, gaming! If you want him to back off of it while you're around then you need to devise a plan, or something you two could do together, that would also interest him.
If he doesn't lay down his time for you though, make it a clear point to him if you haven't already. Make him know what he's missing out on.
Kick him to the curb if he doesn't respect your time, because I'm sure that if a gamer doesn't want to be interrupted with other matters, then he surely won't.
Nothing wrong with you wanting him to put it away but do you offer anything in that time to keep him occupied or his mind stimulated. I mean what do you guys do when he's not playing games? Does it match up to how he feels when he does play games.
My girl complained about me playing games too much so long story short we ended up playing chess instead (which could get heated at times lool) but at least we was doing something together and the chess gradually became more interesting than when I play games. From it all we would communicate and interact more.
I wouldn't ask him to cold turkey give them up. What I might do if I were you is play with him or ask him to teach me if it's a game I'm unfamiliar with. Obviously I wouldn't want to play video games every single moment we spend together but I don't see the bad in supporting something that he likes or might be passionate about. If not you should just tell him that you think Fortnite is taking up time from your relationship and that he should cut back a bit from it to be with you. Don't make a big deal over it though because it's something really stupid to have a fight about. Best of luck!
Lol my boyfriend cutback but he prob won't ever give it up. We just had a convo about our future kids and he was like, “if they want something that i’ll surely say no to, then they better ask for it while im playing the game.” Im just like ughhh you’d still be playin that 😭 he loves paragon, fortnite, and rainbow six. GTA and N4S were prob all we had in common. When we first started dating, he played the game 6 hrs straight. It was ridiculous. But now he's cut down to 3 hrs after i had to get a little strict
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I don't play video games anymore, just phone games. But if I did I would just do it when she's not around.
No.
But is she asked me to do so, she'd quickly find out that I would give up her for my games.
It isn't even that games are that important to me. I've probably played 20 hours worth of games in the last month, and that is a great deal more than previous months. I don't have time for them, sadly.
It's the principal. I despise this bullshit idea that men should have to grow up, men should have to abandon their "childish hobbies," or their "immature friends," or whatever other fucking garbage some woman thinks she has the right to demand of us, but should any man ask, let alone demand, that a woman give up some hobby, or some associations, or anything else, that he didn't like, and found boring, boorish, and a distraction that occupied too much of her time, than all of a sudden, he's an oppressive control freak.
No, honey, I will not give up my games, my friends, etc. Just like I don't demand you give anything up. If the fact that I will not deprive myself things in my life that make me happy, because you demand it, makes YOU unhappy?
Leave.
I wouldn't give up games entirely, but I wouldn't mind playing less around you.
Also I don't think league or fortnite is a game to introduce to a new player. Those games generally require you to understand the basics of the gaming culture to enjoy, a high bar to cross. It's kind of like reading a book, kids don't just pick up a novel and understand it immediately, they generally read picture books and slowly learn to read. It's the same with video games.
I promise you, if you learn to enjoy gaming, it will be loads of fun. You will certainly be more popular, you will probably have a deeper relationship with your boyfriend, and you will understand more of people and art.
Some entry level games that you could enjoy with little or no knowledge are Portal, the Stanley parable, papers please, Minecraft, the last of us, and my personal favourite Nier Automata (if you have a controller or playstation). They all teach you different basics of gaming and some tell a very good story while doing so.
You probably need a pretty good computer or a console to play these games. I'm sure your boyfriend will be more than happy to let you use his computer and teach you the medium. If he doesn't, I will because I think games can be enjoyed by everyone!
Have a nice day! :D
Unless it BECOMES an unhealthy addiction. I'd never expect that. Its something they really enjoy. It can releve stress. Besides I like watching my husband play and some games I really like myself. As long as it doesn't turn into something that he gets irritable for a long time over or never wants to do anything else EVER, Im fine with it. My husband has collected game systems and all that since I met him 7 years ago. I knew what I was getting into. If I had a problem with it I wouldn't have been with him.
I have my own likes that could be comparable as well in the form of books.
I don't think there's anything wrong with that, you just want him to let you know you're worth his time and not second to his games.
But if they're a big part of his life, then it's as if it's a part of him you should learn even a little bit about. You don't have to play the game or make it one of your hobbies, but knowing a bit about how it's played or some of the characters to a long way.
You should let him know that you want more time when you're together away from him playing games because you don't really have an interest in them.
Maybe even have more dates or get used to spend ding time together but doing separate things you enjoy individually.
Cut back? No problem. I usually do in a relationship anyway (girls have much more interesting buttons to press than videogames).
Stop entirely? I might do of my own volition. Sometimes Ill go quite a while without really playing anything (about three years at one point)... but if the hypothetical "she" ever mandated it, I would leave pretty rapidly. Partners having hobbies and things they enjoy should be encouraged (within healthy limits), and someone trying to force, or coerce their partner into having less hobbies is always a bad sign for things to come.
I wouldn't quit playing them but I've never really played them a lot when my girlfriend was around. However so. e situations do take precedent such as if I had been waiting to play a game and I finally had a day off where I could play it and she called and asked what I was doing and I said "nothing just having a lazy day playing this game I've been waiting to play", and if she wanted to come over it would be under the understanding that I was still going to play that game. I'm not selfish at some point I'd put a movie on but I wouldn't just stop because she came over.
I think for someone to completely cut off a hobby that someone enjoys is a pretty selfish thing to do.
But it honestly depends on how much time your spending on video games... sure if it’s ALL day I would say something but to put someone on the spot between choosing a video game over a relationship is a bit harsh.
My boyfriend plays fortnite and many games. Sometimes if he's really into it, I watch with him and lowkey get interested too 😂
He probably would stop playing for me, but I wouldn't want to put him in a position where he has to choose between someone he loves and something he likes to do. Just as I expect him to respect my hobbies, i respect his?
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO.
Fuck. No.
I used to hate myself as a kid for loving video games and apply the male stereotype to myself (build houses, kill bears, drink scotch, dance, pay money, lots of money, expensive gifts, tuxedos, cigars, fix cars, big beard, get all the women, hate video games, hate chocolate, hate cartoons blah blah blah) and think that that's how I should be and I am forced to love being like that and hate everything else otherwise I won't ever be loved and I'll die alone.
So fuck that. Video Games are one of my greatest hobby. Super fun, super exciting and always a great opportunity to bond with other people who play. A place where you are a hero, not a usless piece of shit like the world makes you to be. A place where stories have meanings and morals rule over money. I'm never quitting them. Fuck you.
Being uncomfortable with somebody's hobby and changing the person (aka pressure them to cut down on their hobby) seems weird to me, why even be with them then?
Unless it's a case where they're obsessed and put their hobby waaay above you, won't spend time with you without doing their hobby at the same time, or, try to pressure YOU into loving their hobby. Of course.
No, in this case the girl will have to go. I seek a partner who respects me and my lifestyle. If the balance is off to the point where she feels neglected i dont mind finding a better balance but if she doesn't respect one of my passions she has no place as more then a friend.
I had a crazy break up with a dude that chose to play video games to the point where we did absolutely nothing whenever I saw him. I wouldn't want anyone to give up playing, as I play myself, but time management is big part of being an adult. If they can balance the amount they play versus the amount we do actually chill together , then everything will be fine.
I wouldn't want my boyfriend to give up playing when he enjoys it. I enjoy playing video games too, just different games. I've tried playing league with him and I wasn't into it. But he can play it and I won't mind. However, he and I play fortnite together and it's super fun.
"I ask cause I don't think I will ever truly wrap my head around League of Fortnite"
So you're asking someone to stop doing something they enjoy because you don't understand it? I mean I get it if you don't get to see much and when you do he spends most of it playing video games, but if he's only playing like an hour or two a day then I think you're the one being completely ridiculous.
I would never ask someone to give up a hobby. But, I do expect our time together to be about us. When he's alone or with his friends he can do what he wants but I'm not sitting there watching him play video games. If it gets to a point where getting him to put the controller down is like pulling teeth then we are over. I'm not going to force someone to spend time with me but I'm not going to waste my time with someone who would rather play video games either.
My close friends ex (thank God he’s an ex) would flat out ignore her when she was over to game. He once texted her “I miss you baby”. When he was three fucking feet away. I personally love video games, and if he wants to play them, I would like to be included in his party. But if I was wanting to spent more quality time with him, I would like him to put away the controller for a bit.
Nope if your going to stop me playing video games with a bunch of dudes you are telling me I can't have me time. There's nothing to be upset about unless someone is straight up ignoring you... but if they are you probably did something they aren't to happy about either.
I wouldn't... I let my boyfriend play whenever he wants... I would be mad if he restricted me of my hobbies or the things I loved doing. But there's a limit. If your relationship is getting affected or neglected extremely... then I would say.. it's a problem.
I kinda have. I like them but my girlfriend only does a bit so when she is around i only play games that she plays with me. Which if fine but she always wants to be with me and i really like being with her too but that only leaves random pockets for me to play other games. Which if fine but i would like to play more of other games. She says that i can like play games with friends but then i would have to tell her not to come over and i really dont like doing that
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