Would you girls break up with your boyfriend - if he takes video games way too seriously?

[Anonymous]

Yes, f that I would dump his a**

No, that’s cool with me

I have another opinion 👇🏻

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm a gamer, so dating a gamer wouldn't bother me at all- if anything that would be a turn on and give us something to do together!

I would only break up with him if he put his gaming over the relationship. It's called balance: there's a time for gaming, and a time for real life obligations.

[Asker]

Sounds fair! The reason I asked is because I have met many friends whose girlfriends can’t stand gaming at all.

[Cynicaldreamer]

You know what their problem is? They need to date a gamer girl! 😆

I know that's easier said than done, but realistically that would make dating a lot easier for you. I know if I date again, I'm going to make sure he's a gamer. That way if a new game is released and I spend hours playing it, or I have a raid night and I can't spend time with him? He understands.

[Asker]

Where can we meet gamer girls though?

[Cynicaldreamer]

In games of course!

For example, I mostly play WoW. I raid on a team that's full of women. But unless you hear us talk in discord, most people assume I'm a guy, lol.

Most women don't advertise their gender in game for obvious reasons. Outside of finding one in game, you can meet us at cons, online gaming forums... just don't reek of desperation!

One of my coworkers met her now husband in a game- yes, really. They've been together for over 5 years. And they met running in a pug of all things!

So yes guys, it is possible to meet and date gamer girls.

[Asker]

This gives me so much hope, thanks a lot for sharing. I sometimes run into women in RDR2 and it’s always fun and exciting when that happens.

[minasama]

Same

[Cynicaldreamer]

See asker- another gamer girl! We definitely exist 😊

[Asker]

@minasama @Cynicaldreamer i apricare you girls! You never know, we might run into each other in some game

[Asker]

Appreciate *

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It depends on what "way too seriously" looks like.

I'm someone who's put hundreds of hours into her favourite video games, but I balance it out with other hobbies and taking care of normal things I need to do to be a functioning adult.

If his "way too seriously" means he schedules a few nights a week to playing his favourite game, but still makes time to workout, engage in his other hobbies, take care of his/our house, and have fun with me (possibly combining our time with game time if we both like a coop/mmo game), then no problem.

But if, like my ex (and somewhat concerningly, as I'm discovering, my current partner), he finds himself basically addicted? Complaining he "has no time" for working out or cooking his own food or cleaning, then that's not good.

But if all "way too seriously" means is I have to hear about him ramble on the best item or the coolest move he pulled off, then no worries.

[Asker]

I guess the “way too seriously” part is subjective now that I think about it. To some (not me but people I know), it means gaming for 12 hours straight everyday (no showering, no cooking, ordering food from outside, etc.)

To me, it means being a little angry when losing in certain games. I would watch conspiracy theories about the developer of the game and why their game is scripted and rigged 😂

In any case, I believe gaming should take a small portion of the day, if it was a daily occurrence to begin with. If it starts to become an addiction with someone I know, I would brandish an intervention banner and have a sit down with them.

[Account]

Nope unless he starts throwing stuff whenever he loses. I like video games too. I am currently playing The Witcher 3.

[Asker]

That’s cool! Do you like it? I started it last year but had to stop

[Account]

In the beginning I couldn't stand the gameplay, but now I got used to it

[Asker]

Same! In the beginning it was too hard to fight

[callmex3na]

So here's the thing. I love video games! But I don't play it 24/7. I have stuff that I need or want to do besides just playing video games. I dated guy who lived and breathed video games. Always played for hours and hours, then he watches other gamers livestream play the same game, watch tournaments of the same game, etc. It would be a burden for me to ask him if I ask him to go out for lunch and talk. One time we had sex and literally RIGHT AFTER SEX HE TURNED ON A LIVESTREAM OF THE DAMN GAME. I broke up with him because he didn't want to do anything with me or anything at all except gaming. There's a limit.

[Asker]

Thats annoying! Reminds me of many of my friends.. I don’t get the point of watching other players play. I mean I get t that gamers learn from streamers and all but like you said there are limits. Good on you, you deserve better

[GrimmGothBabe]

Yes and no. I'm also a gamer so it would have to be pretty bad to create a breakup. Things that would be a cause of a breakup from video games would be -the inability to turn off a game for activities including [sex, dates, eating, bathing, work or sleep]
- being unable to change games so we could play together
- being unable to handle me beating you in your favorite games in front of both friends or stranges or online players.
I have dumped a dude over games before because if he was playing and I walked in front of the screen naked asking for sex the game was more important so I said have fun fucking an electronic box cuz this pussy is finding a man to grab hold and take charge.

[Asker]

The last part... damnnnnn! You did the right thing though. I know a few dudes like that. One of them was my neighbor and his girlfriend literally dumped him last month because of gaming. I heard a lot of fighting and cussing about his PlayStation and his sick addiction to it and then I heard him shout in pain. Later I found out she bit his elbow and left for good 😂

[Prettygurl12]

I would never tell my husband he cannot play video games. I would, however, refuse to buy (I am the sole income in our home) him new controllers and systems if he breaks them because he threw a tantrum because the pictures in the tv didn't do what he wanted them to do.

[Asker]

Lol that’s fair, and god bless you for your hard work 💪🏻

[hi_it_is_me123]

One question? What your boyfriend does in the relationship since you are the breadwinner and he does not sound he do much household chores or any work

[Prettygurl12]

@hi_it_is_me123 My husband is a full-time law student. He also is the one who cooks all our food because I don't know how to lol

[evangeline777]

I would break up if he was showing off his feet! :) I have a feet phobia. :)
Otherwise no. I'd play with him sometimes.
Although, it's within reason! If he practically lives in a game, that's not mentally healthy. Still I'd just try to get him to do other stuff too sometimes.

[Asker]

My feet are clean though lol but ya sorry about that. And that’s fair limits should be set

[Yads_Is_Back]

I want a guy with a good social life. Most people with great social lives don’t spend much time on video games. No, get up off your butt and do something. As one of my favorite characters said, “You’re wasting your lives! Get a job, kiss a girl, do something!”

[Yads_Is_Back]

So I want a man with a real life, not a life in a screen.

[Asker]

I understand what you’re saying and that’s a fair ask but even gamers can have a life. By “way too seriously” I meant that he gets angry not that he games all day.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Ahh yeah, either one of those turns me off

[Asker]

Lol yeah I know! It’s annoying to everyone around and to the gamer themselves after they’ve realized what havoc they’ve wreaked

[Thatasianlove16]

Key word is take it too seriously. I love video games and I will take a day just to play a game till the end. But i wouldn’t let it get in the way of my relationship. I would run if he gets aggressive and start throwing shit level of too serious. Or he plays games for the majority of the day for majority of the week too serious. But other than that play your heart out

[Asker]

That sounds totally fair. Some games test your limits though and with that nothing is guaranteed lol. I mean worst that could happen is a broken controller.

[Thatasianlove16]

Right but honestly only people with a dependency on video games is a problem. People that just really enjoy playing is never an issue unless the person they are with are jealous that there SO has a passion

[Asker]

I actually agree with you. My ex was into belly dancing. I always encouraged her. She did the same. It’s important for partners to encourage each other, given that their passion isn’t becoming a negative addiction.

[PinkGraffiti]

I’m not a hardcore gamer by any means, but I have been known to indulge. I wouldn’t care, probably start gaming with him.


I did know this couple who were hardcore gamers, but she wasn’t having any success getting him to sleep with her. They both liked World of Warcraft, she went through extreme attempts to have relations. She actually dressed up as a blood elf from the game, and still struggled. I think when it goes that far, I think the gamer themselves need to seek help.

[Asker]

Oh God! That’s actually scary. No I’m not that extreme. I will never ever be.

[PinkGraffiti]

Lol! That’s good. I think of it this way in the terms of stoners. There’s such thing as a stoner and a burnout. I’ve seen successful rich people smoke pot, but I’ve also seen stoners (burnouts) have no life purpose. So long as games ain’t doing that, I see nothing wrong with it.

[Asker]

That’s a nice way to think of it and I agree. Personally I don’t smoke weed, and I never will, not even once.

[PinkGraffiti]

I smoked for years when I was in Cali. But I quit. I just try to stay on a path of sobriety now. I miss it tho, as it wasn’t really destructive for me. But after wanting to connect with God more, I stopped for that. You seem like you have a great head on your shoulders. 😁

[Asker]

I don’t judge you at all! We all have our indulgences. It just wasn’t my thing I guess. And good on you, it’s better to quit now than later.

[Anonymous]

I hate playing video games. I think it began when my ex brother in law spent every waking moment gaming. His addiction made it where he wasn’t a partner anymore. He never left his home, and eventually asked my sister for a divorce (what she should’ve done years before). However, my current boyfriend plays video games. I don’t see an issue with casually gaming for an hour a day or a few times a week. Gaming is a hobby, and if they keep it as such, I wouldn’t dump them.

[Asker]

Sounds fair! There’s a thin line between gaming and addictive gaming honestly, so one must be conscientious

[Anonymous]

Nope! My ideal relationship is living together and having a console in two rooms so we can both play online and talk shit to eachother from across the way😂

[Asker]

Haha, sounds like the best kind of life.