I’ve been seeing a guy for a little over 6 weeks. I’m falling fast and hard which doesn’t happen to me. We, at the moment, are “just friends and seeing where it goes”... but our actions and gestures and time we spend together say something more. I haven’t told him how I feel, out of fear he thinks it’s too fast. He wants something at a slow pace. And I don’t want to go too fast for him. His actions say he wants more too, but neither have said let’s do it. I think we’ve both been so hurt before and we’re at an age where we are ready to settle and be happy. We are 32 and 36. I think we’re just guarding our hearts. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be
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because we are afraid that they dont want us. I know personally i cna flirt with any guy that i dont care about but when it comes to the guy i like i shut down and probably won't eben talk to him.
i think it also has to do with self preservation. We're afraid that if they see our most vulnerable parts they will run the other way.
They're too afraid of getting hurt. This is common, i had a girlfriend that did it so often and it frustrated me. I understand where she's coming from, but if you make it clear you have a problem but then refuse to talk about it then you're not trying to hide something you're just trying to get attention.
The same as guys. They fear that the guy is not feeling the same and hope is better for them than knowing it won't work. This deystroys people tho. You need to doit either to have dream come true or to be free and get over it. Otherwise you could waif forever
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Afraid of rejection, or they had bad experiences in the past and that slows them down a bit.
BECAUSE they like the person. Sometimes it could be their friendship bond being too strong, sometimes it's fear of rejection, other times it may just be self-doubt/lack of self-confidence or even having a strip family. Everyone's different so reasons will differ also.
Afraid of getting cheated on again. Being hurt mote then once. I have trust issue with girls in the past because they like to try get my boyfriend to cheat or leave. by the way I am happy with my current boyfriend now .
shy, afraid of getting hurt, and unsure about the feelings of the other person
I kinda do the same but for me it is because I'm afraid of their judgement towards me or that he might not like me
Because you don't want to lose the person you love just in case they don't feel the same
Because communication is hard and no one wants that uncomfortable feeling of trying to express their emotions correctly
Men do that too and its cause we are afraid of rejection.
Scared of what will be the future consequences and being vulnerable!
Because that guy is usually a tool and it's better left a secret.
It’s obviously they don’t want others to know they like you but in fact they suffer by seeing them in some other arms
Bcz she don't want to provide any headache/tension to their loveones
Bc guys can be cold if they don't like you
I can usually tell how a girl feels unless she is with someone she doesn't trust or really likes.
Coz baby ua in luv wit them soo badly that u nvr want them to leave u ever nor never😋
Insecure they act on emotion like how we act on logic
For me its rejection.
Cause they are afraid to see what's coming next
We don’t want to end up looking stupid
cuz she may be rejected shevisnt sure
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