Older men can provide more security to a girl. Since they already know where they are in life, they've established some kind of career, they're mature most of the time and can make a girl feel safe, which is what Every girl wants from a relationship.
And from what I've seen most younger guys are waaaay too immature. They mostly don't know how to care for a girl, and just want the relationship without knowing their responsibilities in it. (Spoken from a girl who's attracted to older as well as younger men.. but I like mostly guys who are at most 6yrs older or 2-3years younger)
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My old man is poor, but he wasn't scared... Guys my age huddled in the corner grumbling about why they can't talk to me. The difference is like trying to talk to children in a foreign language, all you can do is make soothing hand gestures and speak in a monotone voice to prevent them from throwing a tantrum... Then handles the child and understands what you are saying completely, the only person to ever speak your language.
Most women do date men around their age, but it is true that it's pretty common to see a woman dating an older man and it is for the reasons that you listed. Most women like more dominant men of higher status, and they can usually find that in older men. One of the things young guys have to do to many women is to prove to them that they are a man and not a boy, older men don't need to do this.
Women in their twenties that want to date older men want to date them because they think they are more mature, something that is absolutely not true. If an older man wants a younger woman, he's either taking advantage of a younger woman, or he thinks he can connect with a young woman, which if that's the case, how mature can he really be if he needs someone so young to connect with?
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younger woman don't have a lot of life experience and are often weak and insecure. They want a stronger guy who is wiling to take care of them and provide for them and a younger guy can't usually afford to do that.
My girlfriend is 21 and we've been together since a few weeks after she turned 20. I am older than her mother. The average age of women I date is 23 and that hasn't changed since I was 25 myself.
On every first meeting I always ask, "Why do you like older men?" The number one reason is, "They don't make me pay [for a date]". They appreciate being taken care of. Why should they be with a guy who thinks she ought to pay half (or more) when there are plenty of gentlemen who know it is the man's responsibility.
The number two reason is, "They know what they are doing [in bed]". One 20 yo I was with complained how boys her age only cared about getting off as quickly as possible, leaving her to fend for herself. When we had sex (our 2nd date), after I had been going down on her for over 20 minutes and she had finally had enough orgasms, she exclaimed, "That's why I like older men!" I have been with several young women who had never had an orgasm with a guy (neither intercourse nor oral) and even two who never had one at all before they were with me. One beautiful 19yo I was with a few years ago never had one. We had sex a few hours after we met (via a mutual acquaintance) and she had it. I did not have nor did I ask for her number. I did give her mine. The next morning, just as I expected, she txted me and wanted to know if she could see me again.
Other reasons are "They are not clingy" "I am busy and older guys understand that and give me my space" "Young guys immediately want to get married and I just don't want that right now" "Older men are not possessive or jealous" "I can learn a lot"Ever since my very first date in my teens, I've never dated a guy older (not even a minute) than me. I didn't give much thought to their money, maturity or experience then. I just wanted a guy to have fun with and was respectful. I always promised myself that I'll take care of myself and not depend on and use any guy for his money, maturity and/or experience.
From personnal girlfriends of mine, those guys tend to threat them like princess... like a queen.. they are not fuck boy... they know how to appreciate a women.. and used their experience to make them feel special... nothing wrong with that... but it would explain why... when compared to young fuck boy... the choice is easy
Well I'm in my late 20's and I don't know anyone who is in their 20's who is dating anyone over 35.
However, older men are more adult than many men our own age, many guys in their 20's are still too interested in going out with their bros and getting wasted and aren't at all interested in getting their life together for my liking, that's why I may date an older guy.My boyfriend is 12 and a half years older than me. I didn't seek it or it plan that, we just met and clicked right away. However, it makes sense to me because I was also attracted to the maturity as myself am really mature and often struggle relating to a lot if people my age anyway. Can't speak for everyone but that may have something to do with it
I’m 25 and wouldn’t go for anyone my age or younger. I honestly think men my age aren’t as matured as I am. I think it’s the same with most men. It takes longer for me to grow up than women. That’s what they say anyway 😂.
Security, stability, maturity. When you think 20 year old you dont think stable and mature
I don't know, I don't. I prefer guys my own age or only slightly older and I'm also okay with younger guys.
Not every women want to date or feel they're dating a baby, they one really masculine guy, like feel they are dating with a MAN
Has something to do with
They know what they are fucking doing...
They know how to "treat" a woman...
The list goes onThey’d rather leech off a guy who has made it rather than make it themselves.
I don't, never have. For me it's same age or younger.
Money.
Maturity.
Security.
Confidence... etc.Because older men can treat you better than the young ones. But that's only my opinion
my girlfriend is 31 i am 58. she see and feels love like never before. sex is much better
It's for status and money.
They tend to have more money.
Sexual experiment or respect
Money, or they have a side guy
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