When a guy says "let's watch a movie at my place" does he actually want something more?

he and I have known each other for almost 1 year. we are good friends and hang out alone together some time already. I like him (but I really am not sure if its as just a friend or not). I feel something from him and possibly he likes me romantically. we have been planning to hang out together again as usual and this morning, he texted me ''let's watch a movie at my place" . does it mean he thinks we are more than friends? and expects something more?

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  • Definitely he is thinking you as something more than simple – just friend, but not necessarily he is expecting something more at the moment – particularly sex. This is the natural progression of dating. Sometimes girl or guy in friendship zone may not know if the other is planning for something different. If you do not know what he is planning in reality - than you need to SPEAK up before going over there. Ask him in light mood and flirting tone - what his intentions are in a flirty kind of way. This gives him the chance to flirt back or tell you no no nothing is going to happen just hanging out. If that is the case than you can plan your visit accordingly. Usually it is best to trust him and be sure that nothing fishy will happen. It will be a great time together to discuss your future relations. You or - you both together may cook some food, talked a lot and have just innocent fun till midnight. If he ask just YOU to watch a movie with him, he may have some idea of getting close or doing something surprising – then simply watching a movie – he definitely wants something more in relationship – but he may not ask directly for sex. But if he brings a group of friends along, he might be introducing you with his friends or family members and it will be a pleasant part of his character. Ask him that what movie he is planning to watch? A horror film? An action film? pretty much will depend on what he has planned. Ask him. You can keep yourself in control because he may probably going to put on a movie with sex scenes and if he tries to have sex with you and you do not want to do it. If you are ready to get physical with him, just ask him what he thinks about you during dreams and it will indicate you what he wants to see, what he does real Curious. He is not going to rape you, he may ask you for sex and if you do not agree – he will respect you. Ask him if you need to bring anything for that party – some drink? Snacks? (Lube?) to make the evening memorable.

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    • If a girl offers to watch a movie or tv show at your place, does she actually want more?

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  • Sounds like the natural progression of dating. Sometimes though one of the parties involved may not know if the other is into them. If you don't know he is into you than you need to SPEAK up before going over there. Be flirty.. ask him what his intentions are in a flirty kind of way. This gives him the chance to flirt back or tell you no no nothing is going to happen just hanging out. If that is the case than you know.

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  • To be honest it depends on a lot of things:

    1) what movie - is he choosing one because he knows you'll enjoy it or because he thinks you'll both enjoy it?

    I had a very dear friend in my 20s who came round to my place every week to watch movies - specifically Clint Eastwood, and another who came over to watch Friends. There was never a romantic issue with either of them.

    2) is it JUST a movie or is he making dinner as well? In this instance look at what he's making for food. The more complicated the food, the more likely he's asking for a date, not just a movie. If he's made soufflés and lobster then you can probably assume it's a date. If he's just warmed up oven chips (fries) and a frozen pizza, not so much!

    3) what's he wearing when you arrive? Track pants and a t-shirt with no shoes, it's probably just the movie. Semi-smart casual - especially if he's used a bit of cologne - and he may be hoping for more.

    Of course there is always the radical notion that you could ask him. It might make things awkward for a bit if you're not wanting to go in the same direction with the friendship, but open communication is never a bad thing.

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  • Depends on the guy, really.

    If the guy is not a criminal nor does he have a serious behaviour problem, I would not advise against going if you wish.

    Go there. Watch for his signals. Pick up what he actually wants. If he just wants to watch a movie with you, do that. If he initiates something else, go along with it, if you wish.

    If you want to initiate something, well, okay!

    Just don't be tensed. Be relaxed.

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  • Well... you may go over there and if you do you two may watch a movie, but what's gonna happen after that? Are you just gonna say, "oh well great movie I better head home now". Lol that would be kinda weird... to me. but if it's strictly and friendship thing then I guess that can be all that happens. But if it's not strictly friendship. mmi say he's going to be thinking about something else lol...

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    • how can I know if he thinks we are strictly platonic friends... haha
      I am so confused

  • It depends on the guy. I hate being stereotyped in this way, myself. I just want to get to know a girl. I would be the one that would be upfront about intimate stuff. I would not mind a cuddle but if you want space I'm not going to stop you, I simply just want the company.

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  • Not necessarily, a guy had asked me the same once before and I agreed, nothing fishy happen and we had a great time, we watched movies he cooked some food, talked a lot and I was back at my place before midnight

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    • Yes that can happen. This type of question is difficult to answer as nobody understands the guy more than the girl. How can a girl not understand if a guy she is dating is trying to get in her pants? It's pretty obvious if you ask me. I make my intentions known pretty early that I wanna fuck,

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    • I agree with you. Some guy's might not take rejection very well. I know I used to not. But now that I'm older, I accept the fact that I might not be the one for that girl.

    • 😊 nice to hear that

  • If you keep it friendly he won't expect anything more from you. However if you give him the opening he will go further. Typical guy move is to make it possible for you to show him the opportunity of more while playing it safe enough to give you an out. Don't over think this. Because of #metoo guys are happy to be alone or platonic.

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  • Yep, he probably expect some kissing and maybe even some cuddling to take place as well, because if not he would jjust have asked you out to go to a theatre or semething like that, so he definitely is kind of expecting some degree of physical contact to happen most likely, but it is up to you having or not physical contact with him.

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  • I like this, because of how there is a time frame given which allows you to develop doubts, questions, or concerns before getting into a committed relationship. I do wonder if when you guys do hang out, is there any flirting happening and where the hang outs actually take place. Does he bring up conversations that seem like there is more thought put into them, rather than general “How was your day”. Do you notice his overall mood around you or even through this year, have you been able to see any distinguishable features that implies how he is interested now compared to how he was before.

    Also just because you’re alone with somebody does not necessarily give you that space to establish an emotional connection if that time isn’t used effectively. But what is almost certain is the way guys act in relation to how girls do in the people they do want to pursue. Girls often time drop a ton of subtle hints in the hopes that a guy will pick them up and affirm their calls, if not they try to save face and act like it’s a “thing” they do with everybody. Guys on the other hand will also drop clues but in the form of initiatives they do take, in that case it essentially forces the other side to give them more direct answers.

    You see for women, you’re trying to fit puzzle pieces together and with men you have steps of information that subsequently leads to the next. All of which are hopefully trying to create a perfect equation that makes sense. If however, one party is able to pick up what the other side is doing, it makes it easier to accept what is happening if you realize this is what you want.

    From that, it’s not wrong to assume that he may want more. Depending on the guy and my experience being one, most of the time we don’t usually watch movies with our friends at our homes, alone, in the dark, naked
    So a precaution you may want to take which invalidates basically everything that I’ve said is to ask ahead of time is what movie did he plan on wanting to watch. Depending on what he says, you’ll almost know for certain, if he says something direct like “guardians of the galaxy” then he hasn’t picked up that signal and it’s just a hangout. But if he says something like “You’ll see when you get here”, then you know what that means. If you decide to do this, make sure it’s by either a phone call or video message, that way it doesn’t give him enough time to pick up on the clue and the response is instinctive.
    If you do decide to go though, make sure to watch

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  • If he said that, he's looking for hints to know if you like him, or just hang out realy XD. If you start like touching him on the arm just do it, if if wants something he will descretly do the same or hold your hand softly. At least I do that. C ya I hope I helped you

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  • It means you go to his place and you watch a film. Hopefully something you have an interest in watching.
    Does he want something more? Is that what you want? These are questions you need to have an adult discussion about with him. Why are you trying to second guess what's going on when you can just be honest about where you are and get things out into the open.

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  • Well when u watch a movie u relax and cuddle with your so... and might hold each other and kiss..
    But yes it can mean your so does want something else... but I would be cautious if i was you...
    Yeah he been your friend but you can't honestly tell what he feels inside of him and what he is thinking...

    But go watch a movie and carry something to protect you..

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    • If they are friends, he most likely won't force himself upon her. But yes a no might mean that the friendship might be in danger.

  • it depends on the guy. When i say it means sex. For a guy you're "just friends" with for a year, probably something, but not nothing.
    I don't watch movies with my friends at home... since 11 years old

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  • Do you know how many people dream for what you've described. "Friends First"
    After a year, it's time to just put the question out there. Does he want the boundaries to remain friends-only? Or would he like to be FWB? Or would he like to start dating.
    Most of all, make sure you're both going to stick to the rules you agree on.

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  • If you find yourself asking this question, the answer is almost always yes.

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    • so if I am sure that I like him as a friend,
      is it better to suggest another plan?

    • That would be a good idea. Just remember that guys take it really hard and personally when they get friend zoned. Best thing you can do if you wish to remain friends is give a very specific and honest reason why it can't be more.

      Bad reason = "I uh... just don't see us that way."

      Good reason = "I'm not sexually attracted to you, and I want to make that clear, here and now."

  • Not always.. but its also not like he didn't think of more at least once. If he won't try anything other than watching a movie, its probably because he's aware that he shouldn't and not because he wouldn't. Or he's gay.. then this is a completely different story.

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  • If you know each other for almost a year and you are still friends I don't see why asking to watch a movie at his place should indicate otherwise... but you never know, maybe in the future things can change.

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  • It depends what u want... he want progress but how much it's in your hand.. i suggest move slowly not immediate sex but start a romantic relation and in a few more dates u can go... not make a flare and that's just gone but as I said it depends upon what u want

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  • You can keep yourself in control because she's probably going to put on a movie with sex scenes if he tries to have sex with you and you do not want to do it

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    • If you try to get physical with you just ask him if he masturbates when he thinks about you he will say yes then you tell him you want to see what he does real Curious this way he will masturbates himself and you will not be able to rape you

    • If they are friends, he most likely won't rape. If a sexual advance is made it doesn't necessarily end up in rape. If your friends can be potential rapists then you need to rethink who your friends are. But yes a no to an advance might mean that the friendship might be in danger.

  • That's depending on the guy, not the situation. However, if the guy is a gentleman, the answer is no. It just means he is budget concience, but would still like to kick back with you. If he's a dog, then yes, he's just to cheap to spend money on taking you out to wine and dine you.

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    • The bottom line is you both want more or you wouldn't be dating to begin with

  • Unless you have reason to feel unsafe in that situation, why not go for it? If he makes advances and you find yourself not into it, let him know. Despite popular opinion, most guys aren't actually into rape. How he reacts to rejection is completely unique to him though. Rejection sucks and some people (men and women) don't handle it well. I wouldn't let that keep you from hanging out though.

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  • This is the predating phase. It's when you spend time with each other and see how you feel in each other's company and how compatible you are... But if you really feel something with this guy then talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to go on a date with you...

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  • What movie are you both planning to watch?
    A horror film, an action film?
    Fifty shades of gray series?
    It pretty much depends on what he had planned. Ask him

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  • If he sees you as a friend, you could just be a friend and he might just want to watch a movie... I know crazy right? Go to the movie with him and see then

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  • It's possible he want more but it can also be he just want to spend some time with you as a friend, if you know what movie your gonna watch than you can think if he want's more or not

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  • It’s ok to watch a show at his place. But let a friend know. If he tried more then tell him you don’t want that. If he doesn’t listen leave! Bring pepper spray or a taser for protection if he’s a new guy

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  • Obviously he mean
    "lets put on a movie, pretend to watch it for a moment, then give my peepee your undevided attention"
    But most men will actually watch the movie and.. chill, you know, if you're not quite ready to reach all the way to the bottom of the popcorn bag.
    Young men and every teen boy will watch as many shitty movies as it takes and make all the text book corny stuff. With men over 35 you've got about till the end of the opening credits to make a move before they lose interest.

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  • What he wants is a nice quiet night to relax and spend time with his girl. Not every date has to be public, nor does it have to be fancy. If he does anything you don't like or aren't ready for, tell him.

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  • On the surface he seems to want more than just watching a movie. But he could just want to spend some time together. It's like the question do you want to come up for coffee it can be taken both ways. It comes down to do you want to put your self there to see. You never know you may really enjoy the time !!!

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  • If I said let, s watch a movie it would be more like subway and chill. We, d watch the shining or some other great classics. We, d be binging on game of thrones, we, d be rile playing gone with the wind, we, d laugh till we had fun tears. That s what I call ,, watching movies,, with your friends.

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  • I had a guy I met at a nightclub say that to me before the club closed. My girlfriends told me it was a bad idea and invited him to their house instead for my safety. I think it definitely means they want to Netflix and Chill if ya know what I mean.

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  • No and yes... he can get something more if you wanna give and he can't have if you don't want to. . I know you like ourselves but he is trying to tell you something today... if he don't confess dont give him the taste of you... my opinion

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  • I'm guessing he's hopeful for more but in case things go wrong he can always claim that it was just an innocent movie night.

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  • Guys always "want more", whether they say they do or not.

    He may never initiate more than just a friendship with you, but I'd bet big money that if you initiated it and made it abundantly clear your serious and want more, he'd go as far as you're willing to go with him.

    Straight guys and girls cannot be truly platonic friends. One or the other would go all the way if the absolute perfect opportunity presented itself.

    But neither would say/do anything unless that opportunity was present for fear of losing their friendship if the other doesn't feel the same.

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  • It is possible that he wants to be more than friends and simply wants to get you alone for a heart to heart.

    It is also possible that he doesn't want to spoil a great friendship with romantic involvement but still really enjoys cuddling up.

    It clearly depends on the movie and setting.

    Scented candles, romantic music then it is clearly something more that he wants.

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  • It just depends on the guy and circumstances. For instance I have a really close female friend that I would invite over for a movie night, and neither one of us would give it a second thought.

    Our relationship started out with me expecting more, but we talked about it early on and agreed on just friends. Now we're best friends which is totally awesome. As some other guys have already said, the only way you will know is to go over there and watch the movie!

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  • Depends on the guy. I, personally, would love to show some of my female friends Tarantino simply because his movies are awesome. I would also ask my male friends to watch tarantino with me. Doesn't mean I want to fuck anyone.

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  • Well that depends on you. The question is: Do you expect something more? You can play this off as just friends watching a movie or you could do whatever.

    Besides, that guy is a genius for setting things up like that for you. This way you can decide what happens next.

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  • As you said that he seems to be attached romantically with you, there is a significant probability to have more than watching movies. My guess is that movie would be very romantic and when the romantic scenes appear, you two also act or perform like the scene and have a good time. You could not but have intimate time. If you like him go for it dear. More to know about these sort of circumstance, knock my snapchat @blueshombit.

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  • Not definitly. If you both like similar movies why not catch up somewhere you don't have to pay and etch them. Suggest doing it in the afternoon. That way after a pizza dinner you have the perfect excuse to naturally head home rather that watch episode w and stay

    Of course he may be sensing you confusion and giving you a safe place to choose to act on it

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  • Not always, sometines the guy just wants to watch a movie and have company, not every guy just wants to have sex. Now needless to say that it never hurts to be aware, look for tell tale signs that he wants something more.

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  • Could be, if your comfortable about it, go for it.. if not tell him your not comfortable... don’t read too much into things.. if things happen, and you want it too, then great. If not, tell him no and move on.

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  • See that’s a tough one guys do sometimes expect more because the two people are so close but yet not all guys are like that and they just like to have someone to hang out with

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  • He probably does like you, and really wants to watch a movie witchu to get closer to you.. Not necessarily do somethin more like sexual but something more subtly romantic..

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  • Carry on like it's just a movie, but be prepared in case he has "alterior" motives.

    I would assume he wants more.

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  • If he ask just YOU to watch a moive with him, I pretty sure he wants something more. But if he brings a group of friends along, that might not be the case i think.

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  • If he tells you that, it's basically saying "Wanna Netflix and Chill at my place?" It means he wants to be more than just friends and wants to go to the next level of your relationship very romantically! If he invites you, go!

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  • *Expects* something more? No. *Wants* something more? Yeah, probably. He probably wants to make out with you at the minimum. Though he likely also actually wants to watch a movie, lol. At least part of it.

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  • Are you attracted to him? If not you need to make sure he knows that. Guys are always looking for physical contact with a woman. Can you blame us. It maybe that he is attracted to you but feels insecure and through fear of losing your respect can't bring him self to tell you. It's time to sort this situation out one way or another. Cards on the table in a mature way which obviously means (since men ain't imotionally mature) you straightening things out. Got to sort your own feelings out first. And in there could be the problem?

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  • He hopes for more, but whether or not there will be more will be your decision.
    He probably wants to be alone to touch, kiss and snuggle on the couch.

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  • Depends on the movie. If i put on one of my favorite movies for a girl we are watching that damn movie

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