I like this, because of how there is a time frame given which allows you to develop doubts, questions, or concerns before getting into a committed relationship. I do wonder if when you guys do hang out, is there any flirting happening and where the hang outs actually take place. Does he bring up conversations that seem like there is more thought put into them, rather than general “How was your day”. Do you notice his overall mood around you or even through this year, have you been able to see any distinguishable features that implies how he is interested now compared to how he was before.
Also just because you’re alone with somebody does not necessarily give you that space to establish an emotional connection if that time isn’t used effectively. But what is almost certain is the way guys act in relation to how girls do in the people they do want to pursue. Girls often time drop a ton of subtle hints in the hopes that a guy will pick them up and affirm their calls, if not they try to save face and act like it’s a “thing” they do with everybody. Guys on the other hand will also drop clues but in the form of initiatives they do take, in that case it essentially forces the other side to give them more direct answers.
You see for women, you’re trying to fit puzzle pieces together and with men you have steps of information that subsequently leads to the next. All of which are hopefully trying to create a perfect equation that makes sense. If however, one party is able to pick up what the other side is doing, it makes it easier to accept what is happening if you realize this is what you want.
From that, it’s not wrong to assume that he may want more. Depending on the guy and my experience being one, most of the time we don’t usually watch movies with our friends at our homes, alone, in the dark, naked
So a precaution you may want to take which invalidates basically everything that I’ve said is to ask ahead of time is what movie did he plan on wanting to watch. Depending on what he says, you’ll almost know for certain, if he says something direct like “guardians of the galaxy” then he hasn’t picked up that signal and it’s just a hangout. But if he says something like “You’ll see when you get here”, then you know what that means. If you decide to do this, make sure it’s by either a phone call or video message, that way it doesn’t give him enough time to pick up on the clue and the response is instinctive.
If you do decide to go though, make sure to watch
Sounds like the natural progression of dating. Sometimes though one of the parties involved may not know if the other is into them. If you don't know he is into you than you need to SPEAK up before going over there. Be flirty.. ask him what his intentions are in a flirty kind of way. This gives him the chance to flirt back or tell you no no nothing is going to happen just hanging out. If that is the case than you know.
Definitely he is thinking you as something more than simple – just friend, but not necessarily he is expecting something more at the moment – particularly sex. This is the natural progression of dating. Sometimes girl or guy in friendship zone may not know if the other is planning for something different. If you do not know what he is planning in reality - than you need to SPEAK up before going over there. Ask him in light mood and flirting tone - what his intentions are in a flirty kind of way. This gives him the chance to flirt back or tell you no no nothing is going to happen just hanging out. If that is the case than you can plan your visit accordingly. Usually it is best to trust him and be sure that nothing fishy will happen. It will be a great time together to discuss your future relations. You or - you both together may cook some food, talked a lot and have just innocent fun till midnight. If he ask just YOU to watch a movie with him, he may have some idea of getting close or doing something surprising – then simply watching a movie – he definitely wants something more in relationship – but he may not ask directly for sex. But if he brings a group of friends along, he might be introducing you with his friends or family members and it will be a pleasant part of his character. Ask him that what movie he is planning to watch? A horror film? An action film? pretty much will depend on what he has planned. Ask him. You can keep yourself in control because he may probably going to put on a movie with sex scenes and if he tries to have sex with you and you do not want to do it. If you are ready to get physical with him, just ask him what he thinks about you during dreams and it will indicate you what he wants to see, what he does real Curious. He is not going to rape you, he may ask you for sex and if you do not agree – he will respect you. Ask him if you need to bring anything for that party – some drink? Snacks? (Lube?) to make the evening memorable.
I don't know what more clear sign can be that he is williing to probably NOT watch a movie with you :D. I mean yeah, there are some guys who really have that in mind, but what are the chances, I mean he is inviting you to his house.. My advice - If you like this guy, go for that movie, accept his suggestion, but offer some day in the middle of the week, not on weekend. If he has intention of just sleeping with you, watch that god damn movie and leave, explaining you have to go to school/university/job tomorrow and something like "I'm feeling really tired, it's been a long day today" to have a control of situation. Unless you want to just sleep with him :). It all depends on his reactions and actions mostly, you won't get a better chance to understand what he is expecting from you :)
If you know each other for almost a year and you are still friends I don't see why asking to watch a movie at his place should indicate otherwise... but you never know, maybe in the future things can change.
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YES. MOST LIKELY. unless he's gay.
To be honest it depends on a lot of things:
1) what movie - is he choosing one because he knows you'll enjoy it or because he thinks you'll both enjoy it?
I had a very dear friend in my 20s who came round to my place every week to watch movies - specifically Clint Eastwood, and another who came over to watch Friends. There was never a romantic issue with either of them.
2) is it JUST a movie or is he making dinner as well? In this instance look at what he's making for food. The more complicated the food, the more likely he's asking for a date, not just a movie. If he's made soufflés and lobster then you can probably assume it's a date. If he's just warmed up oven chips (fries) and a frozen pizza, not so much!
3) what's he wearing when you arrive? Track pants and a t-shirt with no shoes, it's probably just the movie. Semi-smart casual - especially if he's used a bit of cologne - and he may be hoping for more.
Of course there is always the radical notion that you could ask him. It might make things awkward for a bit if you're not wanting to go in the same direction with the friendship, but open communication is never a bad thing.
Guys always "want more", whether they say they do or not.
He may never initiate more than just a friendship with you, but I'd bet big money that if you initiated it and made it abundantly clear your serious and want more, he'd go as far as you're willing to go with him.
Straight guys and girls cannot be truly platonic friends. One or the other would go all the way if the absolute perfect opportunity presented itself.
But neither would say/do anything unless that opportunity was present for fear of losing their friendship if the other doesn't feel the same.
Are you attracted to him? If not you need to make sure he knows that. Guys are always looking for physical contact with a woman. Can you blame us. It maybe that he is attracted to you but feels insecure and through fear of losing your respect can't bring him self to tell you. It's time to sort this situation out one way or another. Cards on the table in a mature way which obviously means (since men ain't imotionally mature) you straightening things out. Got to sort your own feelings out first. And in there could be the problem?
He probably wants to. Being that guy before. I played it very carefully, I didn't want to lose them as a friend, but I also just can't really help it. They're attractive and we get along so my brain just goes "make baby". so if I didn't get the vibe back I would leave it at that. But then again. I don't think I ever made an offer like that to a (girl) friend unless she was down in the dumps or something and just wanted a friend to be with, OR we were already fwb's
If you're open to it possibly going that way then go. If you want to send the message that you're not into him like that, don't go.
Best advice in this case is to see how things develop. Participate rather than anticipate.
Friends go to each other's homes to watch movies. People in relationships go to each other's homes to watch movies. The activity is the same in either case - and certainly without more information than you provided there is no way to know which this is.
So, instead of playing guessing games, just accept his invitation as a friend and wait to see where things go. If he wants it to be more, he will show you. All you need to do is be alert to the signals.
However, based on who is going to whose house to watch a movie is simply too thin a basis on which to determine what kind of a relationship you have - or are about to have.
(As I'm saying this the percentage grows higher in my mind)
87% of the time, in my opinion YES. A man's mind is complex, yet so very simple. We know what we want but we have to think about how to get it even if it means sweet talk, listen FOREVER or worse wait for an extended amount of time to get it. But godforbid you make a man wait too long, they will find something else that will satisfy them with faster results. And promise, someone is always going to be faster than you, no matter mature you think you are.
Do you want something more? If you have been seeing him on and off, for a year, it’s definitely something he’s thought of. He may just wanna cuddle, make out, and be close to you — we’re human and it’s natural. If you don’t want something more, you may need to be just upfront with him. This will save both of you trouble in the long run. Most likely, if he is saying this to you knowing you a year, he’s liked you for awhile, but would like to be closer to you. Generally if a guy isn’t into you romantically, he probably won’t continue talking to you for a year without wanting something more, but I could be wrong.
If he's single, he's almost definitely trying to get intimate. "Hang out" is more akin to actually just wanting to hang out as friends. "Watch a movie" has romantic/sexual vibes for sure. Also depends on what kind of movie. If he puts on something you recommend or you would both enjoy but aren't particularly a huge fan of, then it's Netflix n Chill. For example, I love the movie American Psycho, and I wouldn't expect a woman to watch it with me unless she's a good friend or already my significant other. But if I put on something like a comedy or romance that I'm not crazy about, I'm trying to fuck
Well... you may go over there and if you do you two may watch a movie, but what's gonna happen after that? Are you just gonna say, "oh well great movie I better head home now". Lol that would be kinda weird... to me. but if it's strictly and friendship thing then I guess that can be all that happens. But if it's not strictly friendship. mmi say he's going to be thinking about something else lol...
It depends on the guy. I hate being stereotyped in this way, myself. I just want to get to know a girl. I would be the one that would be upfront about intimate stuff. I would not mind a cuddle but if you want space I'm not going to stop you, I simply just want the company.
Yep, he probably expect some kissing and maybe even some cuddling to take place as well, because if not he would jjust have asked you out to go to a theatre or semething like that, so he definitely is kind of expecting some degree of physical contact to happen most likely, but it is up to you having or not physical contact with him.
If he said that, he's looking for hints to know if you like him, or just hang out realy XD. If you start like touching him on the arm just do it, if if wants something he will descretly do the same or hold your hand softly. At least I do that. C ya I hope I helped you
Depends on the guy, really.
If the guy is not a criminal nor does he have a serious behaviour problem, I would not advise against going if you wish.
Go there. Watch for his signals. Pick up what he actually wants. If he just wants to watch a movie with you, do that. If he initiates something else, go along with it, if you wish.
If you want to initiate something, well, okay!
Just don't be tensed. Be relaxed.
That's depending on the guy, not the situation. However, if the guy is a gentleman, the answer is no. It just means he is budget concience, but would still like to kick back with you. If he's a dog, then yes, he's just to cheap to spend money on taking you out to wine and dine you.
Unless you have reason to feel unsafe in that situation, why not go for it? If he makes advances and you find yourself not into it, let him know. Despite popular opinion, most guys aren't actually into rape. How he reacts to rejection is completely unique to him though. Rejection sucks and some people (men and women) don't handle it well. I wouldn't let that keep you from hanging out though.
Not always.. but its also not like he didn't think of more at least once. If he won't try anything other than watching a movie, its probably because he's aware that he shouldn't and not because he wouldn't. Or he's gay.. then this is a completely different story.
Well when u watch a movie u relax and cuddle with your so... and might hold each other and kiss..
But yes it can mean your so does want something else... but I would be cautious if i was you...
Yeah he been your friend but you can't honestly tell what he feels inside of him and what he is thinking...
But go watch a movie and carry something to protect you..
It depends what u want... he want progress but how much it's in your hand.. i suggest move slowly not immediate sex but start a romantic relation and in a few more dates u can go... not make a flare and that's just gone but as I said it depends upon what u want
Do you know how many people dream for what you've described. "Friends First"
After a year, it's time to just put the question out there. Does he want the boundaries to remain friends-only? Or would he like to be FWB? Or would he like to start dating.
Most of all, make sure you're both going to stick to the rules you agree on.
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