Would a guy be disappointed if you don’t kiss him on the first date?

[Anonymous]

Had a first date with a guy and we didn’t kiss at the end.

He hugged me twice, and I think he was hoping for a kiss. But I’m a little shy, plus the moment just wasn’t right.

I just hope he doesn’t think I like him. by the way, he did ask me out for a second date.

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+1 y

WOW major typo.

***I hope he doesn’t think I don’t like him***

[LeeVonWhite]

Now is not the time for trying to turn this guy into a mind reader! Next time kiss him if you like him! No guy, especially not the kind of brave and hopeful guy that asks for a second date without a clue as to how that might go, has ever got mad at a girl for trying to kiss him. Because... We are dumb. We don't pick up on y'alls subtle hints. So if you like us and don't want to play games you need to S P E L L I T O U T for us AND hit us over the head with it.

Would a guy be disappointed without a kiss on a first date?
Hell ya he would be. He must seriously like you, or you are lucky or something. Because I think I speak for most guys guys when I say, without a kiss on that first date - I am going to spare everyone the embarrassment of asking for a second date and keep walkin'...

[Logan-5]

Let him kiss you for the second date; otherwise, he might think you don't like him or aren't romantic and that could end the relationship. That happened to me--the girl ghosted me after the second goodbye was kissless.

Make sure you're standing close to each other at the end of the date. Lean in and make eye contact, to show him you're open to a kiss.

Better yet, initiate it. Kiss him when you feel like it. I know your'e shy, but after the first date, I think the girl is considered free to just kiss whenever she wants, and set the tone and speed that she wants.

[xxlilly]

I had a similar experience. Went on a date with a guy who tried to kiss me and I wasn’t ready and kind of backed away. I tried to tell him I was interested and meet up again but he never texted me again. It made me feel so bad cause I was attracted to him.

Fast forward, I met another guy who I liked and didn’t try to kiss me on the first date. He could tell I was shy so we just hugged. I liked him so it kind of just happened on our second date.

If he rejects/gives up just because you didn’t kiss him on the first date, he’s not worth it. Everyone’s different with intimacy and you shouldn’t feel bad just because you didn’t kiss him.

[Moonchild714]

If he's a decent guy he gets going slow would be better for both of you. There's no need to rush into anything physical. So don't listen to anyone saying a kiss on the cheek would've got the message to him, those people can't understand other forms of communication. He asked you out again he gets you like him. Slow and steady wins what matters...

[Logan27]

"Slow and steady" - most girls these days will do everything with a guy on the first date. What are you talking about...

[SarahsSummer]

Why wouldn’t you want him to think you like him?

[Asker]

I actually meant to say I don’t want him to think I don’t like him lol. I actually do like him!

[SarahsSummer]

So when he asked you for a second date you said yes right?

[Asker]

Yes I did!

[SarahsSummer]

Do you think you’ll want to kiss him on date #2?

[Asker]

I’m honestly not sure. See, we met through a dating app. And I just don’t feel I know him enough to kiss him yet. Does that make sense?

[SarahsSummer]

Absolutely. 100%.

[Asker]

That being said, would it be okay to not kiss on the second date if I’m still not ready? Some people are saying I should, otherwise he’ll think I’m not interested

[SarahsSummer]

Of course. Just let him know you do really like him, had fun, etc and hope to get to know him even better on your next date.

[Asker]

Okay perfect. By the third date I should definitely be ready. But if it feels right on the second date I’ll certainly go for it

[SarahsSummer]

Don’t put any pressure on yourself. It’s right when it’s right. Or it’s just not.

[Asker]

You’ve been so helpful. Thanks for all the advice. I feel much better about everything now

[SarahsSummer]

Good luck💟

[achezc]

No, I'm kinda old school, pretty old school, you know, when real gentlemen back in the 19 Century even used to give an acquaintance card to the woman they were interested in, so for me I rather a kiss on the third date, sadly are nowadays, some, women who rather even to fuck just to have a one night stand…, so it depends on every one, it sounds like he did wanted to kiss you on the first date, and he did think you like him, that's why he asked you out for a second date, if you didn't liked him don't give him fake hopes, and by the way it's never the "right moment" those we create them ourselves if you wait for the "right moment" it will never come

[happyhippo]

One guy once got offended for me not kissing him on a first date (that's when we also met for the first time). But I guess your guy could be a bit disappointed. Anyway, he invited you to a second date, so it's not that much of a disappointment, even if there is some.

[strokinandsmokin]

It depends on what generation he's from if he's in my generation which is a baby boomer no. If he's a generation behind me we're about 25 years old yes cuz they're very selfish at that age if they're generation below that they're just going to want to f*** that's all they care about

[GingerGuy]

For me it's never happened, nor do I "expect it" to. But it would be nice if it did. But only if she wanted to and really liked me. Hugs are good! And if the date went well otherwise, I wouldn't think anything of it. But if you're worried about it, just ask him for a second date, that would show you like him still.

[Poppykate]

‘It wouldn’t happen’! Lol 😂 do you hold her down until she agrees! Lol 😂

[gunducci]

Did you enjoy the date?
Kissing isn't mandatory. If you aren't comfortable with it, there's no reason to do it.
There is no such obligation.
As for the guy, just let him know you had a great time and would love to go out on a second date (if you liked the first date, that is).
This would end his disappointment.

[TPI93]

If he's upset you didn't kiss, probably a red flag that he's not a nice guy haha. You could just flat out tell him you would like to kiss him sometimes as your interested but the end of the date just wasn't the right moment.

[RetNavySailor]

Well, I had a perfect response up until your last sentence. You said you hope he doesn't think that you like him. This is a confusing statement based on your question. Therefore, before you request an answer, can you clarify if you liked him or not?

[Asker]

Thank you for pointing that out. I meant to say I hope he doesn’t think I DONT like him. Lol I do like him a lot

[FinalVow]

um wtf I would never kiss someone on the first date. hell I wouldn't even hug them without actually seeing if they were okay with it. I wouldn't even kiss a girl until it went to exclusive and we were both ready for it to happen.

[jackster95]

He might be slightly disappointed, but if he's confident in himself it wouldn't undo him or make him run away.

Kissing doesn't have to be unspoken, when you're comfortable you could let him know you want a kiss.

[Jesslin412]

We didn’t kiss until the third date. It was the right moment. We hadn’t met before the first date so we barely knew each other

[Logan27]

Most girls will fuck and do anal with a guy on the first date though...

[karolines97]

Probably, but who cares? He must understand that it's better to wait for the right time than to rush things. If he likes you, he'll wait for your moment.

[BCRanger10]

I'm not in favor of kissing on the first date. I usually recommend waiting until after the relationship has been solidly defined.

[MikroMichael]

It always leaves a sense of accomplishment if you kiss, so even though he might have been dissatisfied it's only temporary. If you don't kiss at like the 3rd date then you might bid farewell to him unless he is desperate

[AdrianMacias]

You do you
If your not upfront he'll expect more of you and that will be a very awkward date if things go south
Be honest to yourself and think about what would happen if you said you like him and latter on he finds out you went out with him just because you felt pity for him

I tell you this by experience as a teenage guy

[Butch6120]

I wouldn't. I would prefer it shows you want to take thing slow not jump in bed. If he gets disipointed than he's probley wanting something if you was to give in it could go there. my maw maw always said it takes 2 to tango Keep having the respect for yourself

[BigRob420]

Your question contradicts itself. If you don't like him don't kiss him or go on the second date.

[Asker]

That was a typo. I meant to say I don’t want him to think I don’t like him.

[BigRob420]

He asked you out again so he wasn't disappointed.

[Asker]

Perfect:)

[ScaryCool]

Nah it happens, but I definitely would want reassurance that she enjoyed the date and still was interested.

[Travis247]

It sounds like there was no chemistry there for yer trial date with this guy to me. The true disappointment lies with the lack of a will for a second date and show of no chemistry held in my opinion. There dosent need to be touching of any kind really on a date.

[Asker]

I actually meant to say I don’t want him to think I don’t like him lol. I actually do like him!

[Travis247]

That's a funny misconception there lol😂

[Travis247]

Missunderstanding*

[Asker]

Yeah after seeing everyone’s responses i had to re-read my post lol. I do definitely like him

[Travis247]

What do you like about him if you don't minde me asking?

[Asker]

Everything! We have great chemistry and a lot in common. When I met him I was getting out of a relationship with a who didn’t treat me right. He sort of swooped in like my hero

[Travis247]

Swiped in like a hero on yer first date and no kiss?

[Travis247]

Swooped*

[WhistleForTheChoir]

I'd like to say I wouldn't be, because that's rational, but honestly, I'd probably assume she wasn't interested, because when it comes to dating I'm irrational. I'd still ask her on a second date, but my confidence would be shot.

[Drumlin2001]

Lack of a kiss won't matter, as long as the night went well, and you follow up with second date in a reasonable timescale just enjoy it and let things happen when you're comfortable with them.