What are some signs you have romantic chemistry with someone?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I think I had it with my first boyfriend. It was like a feeling of comfort, like talking to him was as easy as if he were my best friend, and trusting him was so simple. Everything was really simple, it didn't feel likewe were playing a bunch of modern dating games and yet I had more fun with him than anyone else. I could be myself and he could be himself too. Knowing that I could do things with him without fearing being judged and knowing that he would like me even more for just being me was exhillerating. And believeing that it was possible to be myself and still be accepted came from how much I accepted him for who he was. He wasn't even my type, but the chemistry made me reevaluate what was my type. I wanted that in everybody after we had broken up, and the things I once found "attractive" in a guy were completely invalid after I had met him. I no longer valued abs, or sweet words, or money, or muscles. I valued a guy who was totally himself and someone I could just adore for being the way he was. It was a feeling of "they're special". Its how I imagine you would feel if you found a HUGE shiny diamond after searching for the best rock in a world of brown rocks The thing that makes them special is how effortless it is to love everything about them. Them loving you back seems like a priveledge, but the mutual love is literally as close to what I can assume is "that spark" or "that feeling you just get" when you meet your soulmate.

[glenns]

No one replied to this? Hmm.

This reply is well stated. It's pithy, so I learned something from every sentence I read. I really liked the comment, ".. them loving you feels like a privilege..." And doesn't it though? And little does one know that the love you hold in such high esteem; their love for you which is at once tenuous and fragile, yet also a source of great psychic power, is cheap to them--yes, that love, which has brought about nothing less than the complete perfection of your soul, is cheap and in great abundance!
Indeed, once this fact becomes learned, the union of both personas is spiritually complete.

[HUNTRESS800X]

@Anoynomous I feel like almost every word is describing my bestie/crush and I. I know what we have is crazy and special, but I just couldn't ever really put it accurately into words before.

[dragonfly6516]

Romantic chemistry, is the precursor to "falling is love", which requires compatibility on 3 levels: mental, physical, and emotional.

Mental chemistry requires similar level of intelligence, similar goals and morals, similar hobbies and interests.

Emotional requires similar love languages. The ways you both show love and affection. Some people prefer to be more physical with touching, other are more verbal with words, and others like to do things to show love such as favors and gestures.

Physical chemistry can happen one of two ways. The first being the most obvious, you find them pleasing to the eye. The second is health and general wellness. Do they take care of themselves, do they groom and bathe, do they smell nice etc.

Once you've met these three criteria, it really comes down to availability and interest.

[Papi_Trey]

The conversation just flows. Attraction is obvious and the tension just rises. You're both laughing and having a good time. The touches that were once quick become lingering touches, more like rubs than pats. Eye contact is locked tight and breathing gets heavier by the minute. You start to pay attention to way the touches feel against your skin and lose focus on everything else.

[winterfox10]

Chemistry is really quite simple, and not all that profound. I don't know why people throw up all these road blocks The person should excite you, FFS. You should want to be around the person. THAT is chemistry, not some life changing come to Jesus moment that makes you question if reality is worth experiencing without the person.

[Spahija]

Some of us had non social childhoods and learned from extremely disfunctional parental relationships and behaviors. We've repressed our emotions down so far in order to not be hurt that we feel numb to good things happening to us as well. It's helpful to talk about it. FFS we want to be happy but opening up and connecting takes practice.

[ciaojujuu]

@Spahija agree

[Tall_and_longbeard]

It SHOULD be simple but as @Spahija wrote it is not always. There is a reason that "signs a girl/boy is interested in you" floods the social media.

[winterfox10]

@Spahija believe me when I say that I know a thing or two about growing up in dysfunctional environments.

[grega239]

according to this, i would be in a relationship with my best female friend...

[winterfox10]

You probably could! At the end of the day, what is a friend but someone who you love but you couldn't or wouldn't bang? My best friend is a guy, great guy, love that dude, but I would definitely pass on a night with him.

[grega239]

we did have a conversqtion about it and she said no.

[winterfox10]

Mmh, I feel your pain. See, she feels chimstry with you, but for whatever reason you don't turn her on

[grega239]

well duh i have no intention of tuning her on. she said no, i accepted it and didn't bring it up again

[kalanifisher]

How they look at you, from my experience, you can just kind of feel it, if they try to do certain things to make you jealous shows that they care because if you do get jealous than they know that you like them as well, and if theyre more protective of you

[Rissa95]

You guys are flirting and trying to talk to each other on any occasion. He might become tongue-tied, clumsy and stumble over his words. Teehee 😁

[pleasestopthis]

You think a lot about that person, you guys smile at each other and seem to want to be close to each other.

[DeathHawk3595]

When that person finds you funny and charming which has happened for me countless times. Or if you both mentally click together like legos.

[ciaojujuu]

This 👍🏼☺️

[nakhrewali]

they actually like talking to you and go out of their way to make time for you 🙃 not give you 5 min every couple days

[Ephemera1]

Nice

[cheatersgoncheat]

You can feel it in your bones and see it in eachothers eyes, you also both smile a lot at eachother and feel the urge to touch eachother in a sensual way.

[allialli18]

You feel like you can trust them. When reading something with no description of the people you think of yourself and that guy. You always want to be near them and it seems they feel that way too

[simplyaramdomgirl]

It's just a feeling. There are no "signs". You simply feel the connection. A look, a touch, anything can set off chemistry between two people.

[SirRexington]

You want to be around them, you want to have sex with them but it isn't your primary goal, your goal is simply to be with them and feel calm.

[kitty71]

sex has nothing to do with hit. sex is just like lust

[SirRexington]

@kitty71 incorrect. Valuing sex to list is why we have so many problems. They aren't the same, but are sadly being treated like they are

[TennisFlo]

Smile around each other, wanting to be in each other’s presence

[The_Dale]

Heart beating fast, their the first thing you think of when you wake up, and the last thing you think of before bed. Connections are important.

[Tall_and_longbeard]

Actually I find it easier to see the signs that other people have romantic chemistry!
Some, although not many, I have afterwards found out that a woman I was talking to was interested. Maybe that is the function of a wing-person?

[Anonymous]

if they say this to you

https://youtu.be/94p_pLwV-uk

[Anonymous]

U wanna fuck them and feel like they want to do the same to you too

[kitty71]

That is not to have a romantic chemistry with someone that is just LUST, anything romantic about that at all

[shigz]

What she said 👆😂

[Opinion Owner]

Lolol

[Jake47]

I don't know but when me and my girlfriend see each other we starts blushing.

[Anonymous]

If u have a chemistry. U will know it... if u ask about then u dont have it...

[Nikkismith]

BUTTERFLIES

[Anonymous]

Her nipples get hard.

[laughinglad999]

l am a very romantic guy

[Seppelson]

You feel that. It's a feeling.

[DeFrontier]

A conversation where both feel comfortable

[Chillybeary]

You want to be around them

[Bianca914]

Locking eyes

[Anonymous]

If you make out during chemistry class

[Parecious]

Eye signs