Have you ever had sex on the first date?

[Logorithim]

Yes

No (includes those who have never dated)

[Mandycandy42]

Happened a couple times with me, though didn't intend to. One thing led to another and next thing, we're having sex. Have had similar ONS situation too, but thats when I would be too horny for a while to hold back

[desidoll]

Yes, but I have been talking to him for a few months before we met.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO

[aaronbw]

Yes. It definitely complicated things. I usually suggest waiting a week or two, or on a mutually agreed time.

[Sixgun77]

I put yes, though it was the night we first met. It wasn't technically a date.

[Logorithim]

That Counts, too.

[Sixgun77]

Her: I have a huge mohawk fetish
Me: I have a huge mohawk, have a seat.
H: it's soft, I thought it would be hard
M: keep touching it and give it a minute

3 hours later we were in bed. A little less than a year later we broke up.

[Logorithim]

Nice...(the fast hookup)

[Sixgun77]

Oh shit, I just remembered, there was a second one. Okcupid date gone horribly wrong. Girl showed up at the marina where I live. Showed up kind of drunk got naked in front of everyone at the hot tub. That night made me famous there. There was a bunch of sex later on that night. I felt bad about ghosting her, but she told me about all the addictions she had and it would not have been healthy for her to be around me and my friends.

[ak667]

More often than not, yes, including with my wife. I kind of made it happen though, like with my wife I jammed an emergency stop button on an elevator and kissed her. She wasn't necessarily the type to do that all the time.

I was pretty physically frisky starting from the first date. It's really about what the girl is comfortable with doing. But I liked to place my hands on a girl as soon as she'd let me (but initially gently of course, always reading her body language, always giving her room to refuse).

[ak667]

Might also be a cultural thing. In Japan and many other parts of Asia and Europe that I went to, that idea of deliberately waiting to have sex didn't seem like such a common thing. If two people want to have sex, they have sex. I think the idea of deliberately waiting when two people want it is far more prevalent in the US than anywhere else I've been.

[Logorithim]

This is a good point, but Japan is considerably more liberal on sexual matters than other Asian countries, as is Europe vis-a-vis the US (albeit to a lesser extent).

[ak667]

Had somewhat similar experiences in Taiwan and Korea, though in those cases I might have just picked up some loose ones in those cases since I was into drinking and partying. :-D

[Logorithim]

Yeah, I can confirm in the case of Korea, that was because of how and where you met them. Normal Korean girls are pretty conservative.

[DarkAngel97]

I've never slept with anyone on the first date, that being said I've only ever slept with one guy... the guy im with... But we did sleep together on the second date. Its not like I've never been asked for sex before or guys tried to make advances but it just never felt right until I met the guy im with today, that's why it didn't take tons of dates before we slept together. Doesn't matter when you sleep with someone, be clean, safe and hey have fun! lol

[katiesmuff]

There were a few times we would do something like a movie or some food before fucking but most were just plain old ONS. Couple of them turned into dating for awhile. None took and were short lived.

[SelfishGuy]

There should be something in between yes and no.
There were lot of touching, kissing and stuff. Now adult dates doesn't really count as first dates does it?

[Anonymous]

Not really, I did have sex with a girl I’ve known for a few years on a first date, so probably wouldn’t count.

I haven’t had on any other occasions.

[Juxtapose]

That's standard practice for me. I'll go slower if she wants but no longer than a few months unless she's really sick or the like.

[Anonymous]

Second once but never first (not sure the second is much better though).

[Opinion Owner]

We’d been talking for a long time prior though and I was very attracted to him so that’s why that’s one happened that way.

[chrisbigman]

No, and I don't believe I ever will. Which is fine with me, because I'd rather not.

[JackJPershing]

In my younger days, often without or before a first date.

[lehsoj]

Dont really want to ruin the first part of getting to know someone.

[buga1savage]

I’ve never been on a date before nor have I had sex at all

[sinastyle]

Yes i happens but he was too attractive

[Skali9119Liska]

Shallow bitch 🙃

[Logorithim]

@Skali9119Liska: That's uncalled for. A lot of People do for that very reason- it doesn't make her shallow- it means she's human.

[Skali9119Liska]

Humans are shallow

[Cask23]

Classic female behavior for an Alpha male that knows game. Women will drop the panties on the first date just to bang an Alpha.

[Gena-Midwest]

Yes, sure. It's not like a goal or predetermined thing, but it happens.

[ecfresh]

Nope. I don't like to have sex with strangers.

[WillyD]

No. And most likley any woman that tried there would be no second date.

[Johnnie1000]

Are pickups at a party a first date?

[Logorithim]

For the purposes of this discussion, yes.

[Johnnie1000]

Then yes I have and more than once. That's why I went to the party. And them too.

[winniethepoah]

I have on the second date. And I have fooled around on a first date but other than one night stands I've never had sex on a first date.

[Mikecorn22]

Being a highly sexual guy with a big mass of 11 and 1/2 inch dick sprinkler looking it says it's a priority when a woman dates me sex on the first

[monkeynutts]

Yeah I banged away on em like it was a steel pan drum.

[PM_ME_PUPPERS]

I almost did several times.

[pitzi]

Nope and I wouldn't either. Not my thing.

[QueenofCups]

Once.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Lol. I'm not gonna lie. When I saw this question my initial thought was, "QueenofCups probably has"

[QueenofCups]

@ZeussLightningBolt only once, dude. My Spidey sense told me he was The One.

Plus I was horny and seriously crushing on him.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

My Spidy sense has told me that 10 times and it's always wrong.

[QueenofCups]

@ZeussLightningBolt same!!!

[Logorithim]

@QueenofCups- personally, I wouldn't hold that against a Woman, anyway. Both of the first Dates I had sex with became my girlfriend, and it was clear that the personal chemistry was off the Charts, so why should we have Held back?

[QueenofCups]

@Logorithim I felt the same way at the time.

[Logorithim]

Completely Logical and reasonable to me.

[WillyD]

Because you just met that person. No matter how alike you think you are in reality how well do you know them? Not very! Just my opinion.

[QueenofCups]

@WillyD I knew him for a week before our first date.

[WillyD]

Yeah, i still wouldn't have sex with someone i've only known for a week.

[QueenofCups]

@WillyD good for you dude

Romeo and Juliet fucked after two days

[WillyD]

lol Queen

[BronzedAdonis]

do 1 night stands count?

[Logorithim]

Yes, they do

[BronzedAdonis]

then yes

[TheRealQuestion]

Dude, where's the "before the first date" option.

[Logorithim]

Well, that wasn't what I was interested in here, but kudos to those that do.

[TheRealQuestion]

I did it once. Kinda starting to feel like it was a mistake.

[Logorithim]

Why only "starting to"?

[TheRealQuestion]

It went great for awile, but then she developed feelings for me, and I didn't.

[Logorithim]

OK, too bad

[JoyKJ7]

Why is it bad to have someone like you and care for you? People work really hard to find that and you threw it away

[TheRealQuestion]

@Logorithim. Yeah, i seem to be good at hurting people lately.

They always develop feelings, and i never do.

[TheRealQuestion]

@JoyKJ7 because it isn't fair to stay in a relationship with them if they never get loved.

[JoyKJ7]

So you just NEVER want a relationship?

[TheRealQuestion]

@JoyJK7, no, thats not it all, a relationship is what i want most, but i can't have a serious relationship with someone i dont love.

[JoyKJ7]

Yeah but when do you know you love someone or when you could never love someone? I feel like a friends with benefit thing only sets you up to fail because you try to keep emotions out of it and might get clouded by the intentional suppression

[TheRealQuestion]

I fell for a girl almost a year ago. She told me that she loved me, then she dumped me.

She slept with at least 3 other guys in the month that followed. She got pregnant, she is giving birth to a baby boy literally right now.

[TheRealQuestion]

I kinda feel broken inside, like I'll never fall in love again.

[JoyKJ7]

You need to find someone that you connect with intellectually rather than sexually. You’re trying to fill a void with someone that’s only going to make you feel emptier. It’s hard to get over someone but things happen for a reason. The fact that SHE left is a weight off your shoulder because there’s nothing worse than leaving someone and feeling like it’s the biggest mistake you’re ever gonna make. And the fact that life ran it’s course and gave her a kid and whatever means that it’s trying to get you to close that door. You might not see it, but life handed you a very great hand to play with. It hurts but it gave you reason to close that door and not keep thinking “what if” or wonder if they’re gonna come back thus having you wait for them

[TheRealQuestion]

Lol, she and i never had full on sex, and honestly part of me wishes i was holding her hand right now.

[JoyKJ7]

Was this recent? I’m telling you, you’ll find someone that’ll love you hard. Be open to it and don’t let it slip away because you’re thinking about holding someone else’s hand. That’ll hurt you more than this entire situation

[TheRealQuestion]

It was December last year. She was my first girlfriend.

[JoyKJ7]

It’s still a fresh wound. Time will heal you.

[TheRealQuestion]

Yeah, but I'll probably break more people's hearts until I do heal. Even my friends with benefits started getting feelings for me.

[emmily2396]

So many of these problems wouldn't take place if people would sleep only with people they want a relationship with.

[TheRealQuestion]

Yeah, except the only girl I wanted a relationship with, didn't want me.

[Anonymous]

When i was 14 I had oral sex with my first boyfriend on my first date

[Eryxx]

Never been on a date.

[emmily2396]

No and I would never do it.

[ChloeStarfire]

Nope I went on my first date couple weeks ago

[andreasderjuengere]

No. Usually, it is the second date.

[humptydumpty01]

Never been on first date

[aa180]

Nope, but I've had sex without going on a date

[AbdKilani]

Never had a date 😅😅

[Lance1965]

Yes, that has happened a few times.

[Philyouup]

Never.. had a one night stand..

[KimmyWhimmy]

I tried to shove him off but he wouldn’t move

[avalonbob]

Yes, in high school and college.

[classywafineass]

Kinda

[ZeussLightningBolt]

How do you "kinda" have sex? You either have sex or you didn't.

[classywafineass]

It wasn't a date but during the meeting we had sex. E assim meu amigo that's how you "kinda" have sex.

[moonpie89]

Yes. .

[LegateLanius]

No. It would take the right conditions.

[JoyKJ7]

What are the right conditions

[LegateLanius]

@JoyKJ7
I'm not sure of that myself. I haven't even had a kiss on a date. I think i would know during the date as opposed to right now.

[Anon-ymous1]

Yep. Glad I did.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Never.

[MariaTheGreek90]

No I got trust her first.