Why do bad things happen to good people?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I went out with this girl three times, we kissed, made out, and on the third date she gave me head.

After that however she texted me about being my girlfriend. I couldn’t tell her that I was already in a relationship (she seemed like a good person at the time) so I texted back and said, "Sorry, no, it's not working out”.

I sent the text, deleted the chat logs, and forgot about her until today.

After a week of silence. I was home alone enjoying my Saturday, when there was a knock on the door. Assuming my girlfriend returned from work early, I naively opened the door, and was greeted to a HARD kick in the balls by my ex (I had never given her my address). There was a loud pop, and the pain was unbearable. When I was on the floor, she walked into MY apartment, located an expensive bottle of wine from the pantry, opened it and poured it on my head, not before pouring herself a glass of course.

I was on the floor for a 1/2 hour, before I finally was able to stand up and limp to my car to go to the ER (completely forgetting about the huge wine-stain which has probably seeped through the hardwood floor). I’m being told that both of my testicles have ruptured, and that the doctors may or may not be able to repair them with surgery. I told my girlfriend that I acquired these injuries in a bicycle accident, but I have no idea how I’m going to explain the wine stain (any ideas?).

Also, I don’t have any information about this psychopath aside from her first name (Sophia). I don’t even know her phone number because all of our online conversations were through Tinder (and I promptly deleted these conversations from my phone after attempting to cut all ties with her).

I consider myself a good person. I am true to myself, I am true to others, and I am, most importantly, true to God. The thought that something as evil as this could happen to ME is unbelievable, due to these three aforementioned traits. My surgery begins in an hour. Pray for me.

Updates

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Bad news. Unfortunately the surgery didn’t work, and I had to have both of my testicles removed. This means I will never be able to have children, and will be impotent for the rest of my life. My entire life has been destroyed by a girl I had only dated for a few weeks. My heart broke when I read your responses. I weep for humanity if you truly believe that people should have their lives ruined due to minor transgressions. If there is a God, may He save your souls.

[Journeyman11]

The dude is a scumbag for cheating, but everyone who justifies this desecration of a human body, of men, is even more disgusting.
What if it was the other way around?
What if a guy stuck a fucking knife up his cheating girlfriend's vagina, ripping it to shreds and making it scarred and useless, like this woman did to him?

Would you be celebrating this? Would you be laughing and making fun of her, telling her she deserved it? No, of course not.
Because she's not just a worthless male, huh?

And don't tell me this is not the same. His most vulnerable spot, the phyical manifestation of his manhood, the seat of his sexuality and a big part of his identity, got brutally desintegrated FOR EVER in the blink of an eye.

And if this is nothing to you, if you think that a man forfeits his worth as a human being just by hurting a woman's feelings, then how can you expect someone who is of so little value, of no holiness to the people around him, who deserves NO forgiveness for his mistakes ever apparently, to care about someone else's feelings?
Disgusting. Just disgusting.

Please try to imagine that the genders were reversed.
Then look at the reactions to this post.
Then imagine how desensitized and uncaring a person HAS to be, in order to be able to live, while being looked at like that by his fellow humans.
How can you expect a person who is cared about so little by others, who can't allow himself to feel, to care about someone else's feelings?
And why is he so much worse than you, when he doesn't?

[djmzes]

Wait
Do u really. consider yourself a good person?

U deserve it
Cuz u hace cheated on your girlfriend... so u deserve it

Learn for it and let other learn for it.

[SaffronTowers]

I hope you enjoy every miserable, pathetic second of the rest of your life you cheating sack of shit. You aren’t a victim, Sophia retaliated against your psychopathy and gave you a lesson you’ll never forget. You’re going to lose your balls, your girlfriend, and best of all, your massive ego when you realize that no other girl will ever want anything to do with your shriveled, useless dick.

P. S. Go fuck yourself.

[SaffronTowers]

Don’t expect anyone to feel bad for you, we all agree that you had it coming. We are happy that you’re going to die alone. Alone and filled with regrets. Imagine what your night would be like right now, if it weren’t for Sophia. You’d be sleeping next to your girlfriend (who undoubtedly no longer loves you due to your impotence and infidelity), in your comfy bed, in your fancy apartment. Sure beats lying alone in a hospital bed, fearful of what awaits you when you check out. Your girlfriend had to have been a beautiful girl, since you didn’t just use her for sex like the others. You must have had some kind of warped, sociopathic form of love for her, but you’ll probably never touch her again. If only you had been loyal. Now your life is ruined, and you have nobody to blame but yourself.

Goodnight Mr. Eunuch, have a nice life.

[MrCrewCut]

Honestly, I don't think you are pure from shit either. I personally want to meet this dude, have a talk with him. He has done bad things yes but look at all the devilish words you wrote, it makes me sick. Hate leads to more hate. I wish you a good day!

[Journeyman11]

I read about a girl who was fucked with a knife by her boyfriend for cheating on him! That bitch got what she deserved! Right? RIGHT?

[SaffronTowers]

@journeyman11 creep

[Journeyman11]

How is that different from what you said?

[Journeyman11]

How is kicking a guy testicles so hard they fucking tear apart better than sticking a knife in a woman's vagina? Are men just less worth than women? What is it?

[Journeyman11]

Genius, how you call ME a creep, while saying the same shit about men, like it's not even on the same level. One is a precious human being with flaws, the other a worthless cheating man, huh? Hypocrite.

[SaffronTowers]

Expressing joy about a cheating scumbag getting his comeuppance = being a man-hating feminist who believes that all men should be castrated?

[Journeyman11]

I'm just asking you whether you would react the same way if the genders in this story were reversed, and instead of a man's testicles being kicked to a pulp, their tissue being torn apart by the blunt trauma, a woman's clitoris and labia would be kicked beyond repair, forcing surgeons to remove them and leaving nothing but a scarred, desensitized mess down there.

Or is it better to cheat on men? Or to mutilate their genitals?
I mean, if you're happy about that, I can be happy about instances where men hospitalize their cheating girlfriends, right?

[Journeyman11]

And I said nothing about feminism. That's just a word. People either think that men and women are worth the same, or they don't. People who call themselves feminist are found in both categories.

If you think that men deserve to have their genitals mutilated fot cheating, but women not, you think that men are less worth. I don't need to know whether you call yourself a feminist or not to find that despicable.

[SaffronTowers]

First of all, there’s a vast difference between kicking a guy in the balls and raping a girl with a knife. If Sophia had done anything similar to what you’re describing, I would disapprove. However, considering that a guy’s kick could rarely cause desensitization or tissue rupture within the vagina. I’d consider a kick to be fair revenge.

[Journeyman11]

No. We're talking about a case where a guy's kick DOES cause tissue rupture and desensitization.
We're talking about the exact same scenario, but with reversed genders. And the woman LOSES her labia and clitoris. Surgical removal.

A guy being mutilated is not the same as a woman being sore between the legs for a few days

[Journeyman11]

Is that fair, in your eyes? Something to be celebrated? If a man did this to a woman for casually cheating on him?

[Journeyman11]

Forget about the knife thing.

[Journeyman11]

didn't think so

[Journeyman11]

Still waiting for an answer

[Journeyman11]

Hello? Do you think that a woman who cheats deserves to lose parts of her genitals too? To be kicked so hard in the crotch that they just tear apart, just as you think that men deserve it?

[SaffronTowers]

Hello! No. I agree that there is a double standard here. However, men have the upper hand with most things, so I have no problems with taking advantage of one of their only weaknesses. Especially when they deserve it (just like the guy above who lost his manhood).

[Journeyman11]

Well, what you deserve depends on what you did, doesn't it? So if a guy and a girl do the same wrong, they deserve the same punishment, don't you think?

Your real answer is: "No, women don't deserve that, because both their feelings AND their bodies are far more worth than mens'. My relationships to men turn out to be shit for some reason. Why can't they just accept that they are worth less than me? Why don't they value ME more than I do them? Why don't men want to be with a girl who thinks that they are less worth than her? The world is so mean to me. I deserve so much better than men, because I have a vagina."

[Journeyman11]

By the way, the only thing were women don't have the "upper hand", is INCOME. And that is almost entirely by womens' choice. You still SPEND more than men, for some magical reason. I wonder how that can be. You live longer. You're happier. Healthier. More educated. Have more social connection. Get 30% lesser punishments for the same crime. You're more than half of all voters. Your emotions are far more acceptable. Violence against you is far less acceptable.
You're 3 times less likely to be a victim of violence and 5 times less likely to be murdered.
You initiate more than half of all domestic violence. Then you cry when YOU are the ones going to hospital (which is why MEN are the ones getting arrested and appearing as perpetrators in the crime statistics).
You commit more than half of all child abuse and child murder.
You make up only 10% of all suicides.

Just shut up. You're a pathetic manhater. You resent men DEEPLY, even though your life will be far better on average.

[SaffronTowers]

Wow, it’s like you took a journey through my subconscious, and transcribed all of my deepest inner thoughts.

I’m tired of debating you, my opinion won’t change.

[Journeyman11]

Of course not, because you "feel" that men are less worth than you and deserve what they get.
Because of your awesome female "feelings" *cough cough self absorbed narcissism paired with an inferiority complex cough cough*.
Oh how great you emotional band width is, I, a male, could never begin to understand you complexity and suffering.

WE are the ones who are big and strong, but YOU are the ones with all the "feelings", right?

Good luck finding a man who can bear to be with a girl who resents him and deems his life, health and feelings less worth than hers.
I'm sure you'll find one. But he'll probably only be in it for the pump and dump.
Being the sane individual you are, I'm sure you'll castrate him for that and feel good about yourself.

[SaffronTowers]

Imagine not being able to walk through the streets at night without a companion. Imagine always having to watch your drink at the bar, to make sure nobody roofies it. I’ve had close friends who have been assaulted and raped. If I didn’t know how to defend myself, the same thing would have happened to me a year ago at a house party. Don’t try to tell me that females are the superior gender in society.

[Journeyman11]

I am NOT safer in the street at night. I know how it feels to be robbed by 4 guys with a kitchen knife pointed to my face.
I have a friend who got beat up so bad his face looked like a fucking hamburger, AFTER they took of the bandages at the hospital.
My BROTHER was roofied and missing for a day, and me and my family were scared shitless, until we finally got a call to pick him up in the middle of nowhere with black eyes and no wallet or phone, after he woke up in the gutter.

Sexual harrassment or assault is something I'll most likely never experience, at least not the way girls do, I'll admit that.

But being kicked in the balls so fucking hard that one POPS IS DEFINITELY an assault on my genitals, my sexuality, my sense of safety and on my feeling of being seen as a PERSON, as a being of WORTH.

[Journeyman11]

And you seriously think that bad experiences give you the right to assault people?
You think some man out there will find it any easier to be seen as disposable, just because YOU had it rough?
YOU had it rough, and that was terrible, so OTHER PEOPLE have to have it rough, and THEN it is justice?
As I said. Good luck finding a guy with ANY spine AND respect for you, who can love a girl who thinks he is less worth than her.
Who can love you even though in your eyes, just because he hurt you or lost his utility to you, he becomes so worthless that you find joy in him getting CASTRATED.

Could YOU love someone like that? Who holds a grudge against YOU for the wrongs that were done to him in life? Who takes those wrongs to justify injustices committed against YOU?
Who would be happy to hear that a woman got MUTITLATED because she cheated?

People don't keep scoreboards. Noone thinks "Oh, this person had it rough, so I'm totally fine with her looking at me like I'm less worth. I love her!"

[SaffronTowers]

You’re asking me way to many questions at once. One at a time.

[qxqxqxqxqx]

the fair one would be if the guy just fucking rips open her lower abdomen and starts hitting and yanking her eggsac like a lunatic until she's infertile, you can't compare that to a kick to the vagina dumbass

[qxqxqxqxqx]

so is this all about you feeling less than what men are that you expressed it with celebrating a man getting a horrible misfortune over a not so equally horrible mistake, well boo hoo cry me a river

[PunKin93]

Lol you got what was coming to ya. Play with fire, get burned.

[PunKin93]

Sometimes the repercussions for poor decisions are more extreme than the original offense. It happens to people all around the world all the time. We are all guilty of making poor decisions resulting in something worse and out of our control. That is life, karma whatever you want to call it.

You refusing to see how your choices lead to this situation indicates you have learned nothing.

Learn from it and grow. Be more mindful of your actions and the people around you.

And you can always adopt, the world has enough children.

[Journeyman11]

Haha lol I read about this girl who was fucked with a knife by her boyfriend for cheating on him! Shouldn't have played with fire! HAHAHA

[Journeyman11]

Sure, it was more extreme than what she did, but that's karma for ya! LOL Well, I'm sure she'll learn from it. She can't just treat men like this. What she did is just soo wrong.

[PunKin93]

Maybe she should have seen the signs that she was dating a psycho. That was also her bad, instead of cheating she should have left.

[Journeyman11]

Yeah, she should learn from it and not cheat again. That knife-fucking though... she got burned good! XD lol

[PunKin93]

Ok.. you're disturbed.

[Journeyman11]

Why? You loled at a guys testicles exploding from a kick. You said the same stuff. How is that different? In both cases genitals get ripped, scarred, and put through intense pain.

[Journeyman11]

Oh, right, I get it. I'm talking about a woman and you're just talking about a man, so I am disturbed, but you're normal.

[Journeyman11]

How is tissue tearing apart because of blunt force better than a cut?

[PunKin93]

I doubt that she repeatedly kicked him in the knuts till they were mashed potatoes. I never said what she did was right so dont twist it. What you're talking about is someone someone grabbing a weapon and forcing it internally inside someone repeatedly knowing full extent of what damage it would do. Lol sorry you can't see the difference but i wouldn't expect someone of your mental capabilities to understand the different levels they are at. They are both violent, i won't deny that. And him and this chick both are in the wrong either way. You can say whatever fucked up shit you want, it won't change my mind.

[Journeyman11]

You laughed about the consequences, not the intent.
An injury is not worse for a person, depending on how much the perpetrator intended to inflict it.
So let's say a man kicked a woman in the vagina for that so hard, that her labia and clitoris would have to be removed, leaving nothing but a scarred, desensitized mess down there, would you lol at that too?
Would you tell her, how she should learn from that? How she got what was coming to her?

[Journeyman11]

And you can't say that that wouldn't be on the same level.

[Journeyman11]

Lovely, by the way, how you call ruptured testicles mashed potatoes. A mutilated vagina is minced meat, then? Or sliced bacon? Or meat salad on a side of ketchup?

[Journeyman11]

( LOL #Karma #Boypower )

[PunKin93]

Lmao its funny how you want to make this about gender. It is funny he got kicked in the testis. I never said it was funny about the damage. Its was funny how a Man considered himself a god loving good Christian, can cheat on his girlfriend and wondered what he did to deserve it.

At the end of the day he made a poor decision and it cost him dearly. And yes i would say the exact same thing if it were a woman. You are trying to make a point that failed.

#awomanhurtmenowihatethemall
Obviously you have women issues. Good luck with that I'm done replying to your nonsense.

[Journeyman11]

I just don't believe you. I don't believe you would talk like this to a woman who lost her labia and clitoris because a man kicked her there, because she cheated on him.
I guess I have issues then.

[Journeyman11]

You're lying to yourself. You would never say the same thing if a man accidentally mutilated a woman's genitals in an intentional assault on them for cheating. And if I have issues for wanting to be worth as much as women, so be it.

[Anonymous]

If you are such a good person, and so true to God, why are you getting head from a girl other than the one you are in a relationship with? And if you are such a good person, why are you lying to your girl friend, asking for help, to effectively lie to your girl friend, about the wine stain? It seems to me, that this problem was one you asked for, by being duplicitous. Don't blame God, for what you make happen.

[MrCrewCut]

You already had a girlfriend when going with this chick (the nutkicker)? Not good man...

The world isn't a fair place so bad things happen to everyone, that is just the way it is. To me it seems like you lie to yourself, if you are true to others as you say then why did you do all of this anyway? You even lied to your girlfriend! If your loyal to God and his word, then you should know that you stay loyal to your girlfriend too.

I feel bad for your balls though, I hope the surgery was a succes!

[Anonymous]

Good? You said you were already in a relationship and you got involved with somebody else and done all those things, clearly shows you are a cheater. Why did you get involved with somebody else and had sexual contact while you were already in a relationship with somebody else?

[Opinion Owner]

Why did you receive oral sex from this girl when you were already in a relationship with your current girlfriend? As far as I can tell this is Justice. What goes around comes around. You lucky your current girlfriend have not discovered the truth behind your injuries and what you had done behind her back, yet. But I sure hope she finds out eventually. I hope that other girl you cheated with will tell her everything about what you did and how and why you are now.

[ajadx]

I’m not even sure if this is a true story, it seems slightly unbelievable but assuming it is real, allow me to deviate slightly from what seems to be the standard response. You are a cheating scumbag, that’s not the deviation. She should be locked up for what she did to you.

[Massageman]

Let's see - you broke commandments number eight, nine and ten: and you feel you are true God? Sorry, no. You think you are being true to others when you sell out your girlfriend? Sorry, no. You think you are being true to yourself because you think you are getting the bum end of the deal? Sorry, no. Three strikes, you're OUT!

[FunkyMonkee]

There's a lot of assholes out there that take advantage of good people!

[FunkyMonkee]

As for your story, sue her as for completely wrecking your sex life!! That was COMPLETELY uncalled for!! You should give her a swift kick in the cunt!!

[Anonymous]

Religious people would say "it's gods plan". But, I have a hard time believing that shit

[Pamina]

Why wouldn't they?