Maybe you will try to ask him why he don't wanna say "goodbye"to his ex? If he don't want to answer, ask what is stopping him and say if he will not stop doing all this shit until the end of a week or smth like this. You find a guy who will thinking and care about you. I think all that he doing to his ex now is disrespect to you. Don't waste your time and nervs at him and his crazy ex. If I we're you I would let him go because he doesn't respect my wishes. Don't think too much about this relationships just talk with him
In short, get to the bottom of what's going on between them and ensure and be sure again and again that there's nothing more than "conversation" between them. If so there is you might need to consider moving on. Also in a sensible manner you could also try having a three way relationship with them. If that doesn't work, you need to start focusing on you and move on and move out.
If he can't tell her to stop or tell her to stop in front of you, this may mean he may still want her in her life. You're not being unreasonable. You don't want to feel like a third wheel and that's entirely understandable. May seem hard and argument provoking, but call him on it and ask if he still has feelings for his ex. This isn't going to be pretty, but there's ultimately a reason why he's taking the position he is in and being "non confrontational is not an excuse
Sounds like he's trying to keep her on the line. If he made it a point to say to you that he's not going to do it and gave a real reason like she's a close friend and you have to accept he has female friends. Then I'd get it. But him just saying you're overreacting and blocking her number with out saying anything is telling me he wants to keep her around in case, or he likes the attention and wants to maintain that.
When it comes to dating, I don't think people should trust a person who stays in contact with their exs. Had an ex girlfriend who did that and I tried to trust her, dumb move lol.
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Your boyfriend is part of the problem. You gave him mature advice to give her closure and tell her that he’s now in a relationship, things are done plain and simple. That shows that you have patience for what’s going on and trust.
But he blocked her which although can be immature (depending on the scenario) it’s also a clear cut signal it’s over. But she’s not handling that rejection too well.
But something sounds fishy about this. I think your boyfriend is enjoying the power trip of being sought out by multiple women. He also might secretly like seeing this get under your skin (and I don’t blame you). Or he things being a dick to her will keep her in his back pocket.
If he can't understand that there is a block button on his mobile, and or that he even answer them let alone reads and responds to them, tells me he has more respect for her than he does you, and that unfortunately speaks volumes on his behalf. Bad volumes if you kmow What i mean
See, it's his relationship with the other person. I understand you want him to abandon her; but you can't influence someone else's relationships. If he pays no attention to your protest and goes on talking to that woman, you may be sure he always keeps a few women around. Which is good for him but not for you.
She’s not being unreasonable... i would be ditching this guy. She doesn’t want him having anything to do with his ex. An ex is an ex for a reason MOVE ON
Not going to lie... if this we me and it was a new boyfriend, I would just leave. I feel like if a guy is really into you & he senses someone trying to get with him, in my experience... the ones who care let her go WITHOUT me saying anything & the ones who don’t, keep them around
I would tell him that he’s a jerk tf.. why would you not tell ur ex to leave you alone especially if ur in a relationship. That’s disrespectful to you! If he was still constantly letting her text him then we would break up. That obviously mean u miss her and u still want her if ur not even gon let her leave u alone. But that’s just me 🙂
you need to respect everyone's right to be themselves, even if you don't like what they are doing or not doing. state that you feel insecure about the situation, then take care of your daily routine. Don't spend your time changing people. change yourself if needed. That may mean accepting him at a lower level than you want him to be- such as a friend whom you respect.
There are many possibilities. 1 Either that ex is trying ruin your relationship with him and getting revenge. 2 Your boyfriend is making you jeleous. 3 He regrets and wants her back as girlfriend. 4 He wants her as a friend not as girlfriend. 5 He is still confused to decide who is/was better as girlfriend. 6 He wants to get rid of her but doesn't have the guts to tell her straight as she is acting like a friend.
Walk to the bathroom with his phone in hand, stand over toilet drop it and go 'oops it slipped'.
Or you could message her and find out what's going on. Part of me thinks if you talk to him about it he'll be like why are you nagging me? Or why are you jealous?
If he's a good boyfriend he won't respond. If he does it's time for you to run SPRINTTTT!
Yes, you're being unreasonable. He's your boyfriend, not your pet. You don't get to take control of all his relationships with anyone else. Nr does he get to do it to you. He's establishing boundaries. "I will go this far, but you are not in charge of my relationships or my life. I will not feed your jealousy." If he let you walk over him, you'd kick him to the curb as a wimp.
I think if he is trustworthy he must talk infront of you.. thay can be friends but why to talk secretly.. and if you dont trust on hi just leave him and tell him that first get over her and than talk to you.. only if you are not in anyother relationship..
If he’s blocked her then let it go for now, if it continues or he begins talking to her again then tell him straight up, I don’t think you should be talking to her because she does not respect our relationship. His reaction is your answer
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I think, first thing you should do is make him realize how bothered you are by this. Then, make him block her or at least ask her to stop messaging him. If he doesn't do that then you should re-consider your relationship cause I really don't see a reason why he would hide that he is with you from her.
Tell your man to shoot you her # then call her and tell her "look you stupid Bitch I ain't the one you want to be fucking with and neither is my man now if you try to get at him one more time I'm going to fuck you up I don't play like that you fucking Tramp." then hang up on her don't give her a chance to respond..
Just tell him to delete and block her number and then wait a couple of weeks if he sees her behind your back then dump him. I had the same thing happened to me with my ex girlfriend and she got engaged to him behind my back. But yet I still love her and want to marry her.
i would come right out and ask him like I've had to do before, by the way I'm a guy. But besides the point, what's the property together split money on a dog or cat or adopt a child I would ask him, why is she calling you. You're probably going to have to get him an ultimatum
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Maybe you will try to ask him why he don't wanna say "goodbye"to his ex? If he don't want to answer, ask what is stopping him and say if he will not stop doing all this shit until the end of a week or smth like this. You find a guy who will thinking and care about you. I think all that he doing to his ex now is disrespect to you. Don't waste your time and nervs at him and his crazy ex. If I we're you I would let him go because he doesn't respect my wishes. Don't think too much about this relationships just talk with him
In short, get to the bottom of what's going on between them and ensure and be sure again and again that there's nothing more than "conversation" between them. If so there is you might need to consider moving on. Also in a sensible manner you could also try having a three way relationship with them. If that doesn't work, you need to start focusing on you and move on and move out.
If he can't tell her to stop or tell her to stop in front of you, this may mean he may still want her in her life. You're not being unreasonable. You don't want to feel like a third wheel and that's entirely understandable. May seem hard and argument provoking, but call him on it and ask if he still has feelings for his ex. This isn't going to be pretty, but there's ultimately a reason why he's taking the position he is in and being "non confrontational is not an excuse
Sounds like he's trying to keep her on the line. If he made it a point to say to you that he's not going to do it and gave a real reason like she's a close friend and you have to accept he has female friends. Then I'd get it. But him just saying you're overreacting and blocking her number with out saying anything is telling me he wants to keep her around in case, or he likes the attention and wants to maintain that.
She wouldn't be contacting him if he gave her reason not to do so.
When it comes to dating, I don't think people should trust a person who stays in contact with their exs. Had an ex girlfriend who did that and I tried to trust her, dumb move lol.
Your boyfriend is part of the problem. You gave him mature advice to give her closure and tell her that he’s now in a relationship, things are done plain and simple. That shows that you have patience for what’s going on and trust.
But he blocked her which although can be immature (depending on the scenario) it’s also a clear cut signal it’s over. But she’s not handling that rejection too well.
But something sounds fishy about this. I think your boyfriend is enjoying the power trip of being sought out by multiple women. He also might secretly like seeing this get under your skin (and I don’t blame you). Or he things being a dick to her will keep her in his back pocket.
I would be careful.
If he can't understand that there is a block button on his mobile, and or that he even answer them let alone reads and responds to them, tells me he has more respect for her than he does you, and that unfortunately speaks volumes on his behalf. Bad volumes if you kmow What i mean
See, it's his relationship with the other person. I understand you want him to abandon her; but you can't influence someone else's relationships. If he pays no attention to your protest and goes on talking to that woman, you may be sure he always keeps a few women around. Which is good for him but not for you.
She’s not being unreasonable... i would be ditching this guy. She doesn’t want him having anything to do with his ex. An ex is an ex for a reason MOVE ON
Not going to lie... if this we me and it was a new boyfriend, I would just leave. I feel like if a guy is really into you & he senses someone trying to get with him, in my experience... the ones who care let her go WITHOUT me saying anything & the ones who don’t, keep them around
I agree with you but not everyone has that kind of respect anymore
Punch her out
I would tell him that he’s a jerk tf.. why would you not tell ur ex to leave you alone especially if ur in a relationship. That’s disrespectful to you! If he was still constantly letting her text him then we would break up. That obviously mean u miss her and u still want her if ur not even gon let her leave u alone. But that’s just me 🙂
you need to respect everyone's right to be themselves, even if you don't like what they are doing or not doing. state that you feel insecure about the situation, then take care of your daily routine. Don't spend your time changing people. change yourself if needed. That may mean accepting him at a lower level than you want him to be- such as a friend whom you respect.
There are many possibilities.
1 Either that ex is trying ruin your relationship with him and getting revenge.
2 Your boyfriend is making you jeleous.
3 He regrets and wants her back as girlfriend.
4 He wants her as a friend not as girlfriend.
5 He is still confused to decide who is/was better as girlfriend.
6 He wants to get rid of her but doesn't have the guts to tell her straight as she is acting like a friend.
Walk to the bathroom with his phone in hand, stand over toilet drop it and go 'oops it slipped'.
Or you could message her and find out what's going on.
Part of me thinks if you talk to him about it he'll be like why are you nagging me? Or why are you jealous?
If he's a good boyfriend he won't respond. If he does it's time for you to run SPRINTTTT!
Yes, you're being unreasonable. He's your boyfriend, not your pet. You don't get to take control of all his relationships with anyone else. Nr does he get to do it to you.
He's establishing boundaries. "I will go this far, but you are not in charge of my relationships or my life. I will not feed your jealousy." If he let you walk over him, you'd kick him to the curb as a wimp.
I think if he is trustworthy he must talk infront of you.. thay can be friends but why to talk secretly.. and if you dont trust on hi just leave him and tell him that first get over her and than talk to you.. only if you are not in anyother relationship..
If he’s blocked her then let it go for now, if it continues or he begins talking to her again then tell him straight up, I don’t think you should be talking to her because she does not respect our relationship. His reaction is your answer
I think, first thing you should do is make him realize how bothered you are by this.
Then, make him block her or at least ask her to stop messaging him.
If he doesn't do that then you should re-consider your relationship cause I really don't see a reason why he would hide that he is with you from her.
Tell your man to shoot you her # then call her and tell her "look you stupid Bitch I ain't the one you want to be fucking with and neither is my man now if you try to get at him one more time I'm going to fuck you up I don't play like that you fucking Tramp." then hang up on her don't give her a chance to respond..
Fuck yeah thanks brother.
Just tell him to delete and block her number and then wait a couple of weeks if he sees her behind your back then dump him. I had the same thing happened to me with my ex girlfriend and she got engaged to him behind my back. But yet I still love her and want to marry her.
i would come right out and ask him like I've had to do before, by the way I'm a guy. But besides the point, what's the property together split money on a dog or cat or adopt a child I would ask him, why is she calling you. You're probably going to have to get him an ultimatum