Personally speaking, yes— for the reasoning that I tend to be on the introverted side. I also used to be shy as well, but I’ve gotten a bit less, erm, socially awkward over the years. I would have more in common with a sweet shy girl than a feisty bad girl.
I’ve generally found that shy people (myself included) aren’t usually shy forever. Shyness usually manifests itself in new situations, and shy people tend to warm up and be more talkative with people they are familiar with. That being said, they are still more on the quiet side. This sort of “comfortable to talk to, but not overwhelming” matches super well with me.
It turns me off if someone is so social that they’re constantly in my face or overbearing. I had someone who was crushing on me in high school like that, and it made it really hard to talk to them. I think I may have hurt their feelings too, because it seemed like I kept running away from them.
Regarding sweetness vs the “bad girl,” I’d choose sweetness over that. For better or worse, I’m relatively tame in my vices I believe, and someone wanting to live on the edge may not match well with me. I know some people like that (courtesy of being a musician in the heavy metal scene lol), and while I may befriend them, I wouldn’t date them. Someone like that probably wouldn’t want to date me either. I’d be too boring for them most likely haha— our personalities wouldn’t match.
Ultimately though “sweetness” is a pretty vague term and likely relative to the individual. Of course, in the end, it’s going to matter ultimately if one— I find the person physically attractive, and two— I find the person’s personality attractive. An attractive personality generally means common ground... so common values and ideas that seem ideal for the other, and that will only be known via talking with the person.
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Sure, lots of guys do. For me, personally, it's not just the personality, but her interests that come into play. If she has some interests in common with me, then her personality is viewed in a different light- a girl who has nothing in common with me isn't really that interesting to me.
Okay I have question for you how long do you think will keep wall and mind of purity up, I like to take stab out this topic, your trying too many hats at once, your a A) submissive girl or B) girl who just listen to them all day, C) your trying find virgin dude who hasn't had sex and wants to marry him, you know there is no prince charming... the guy went extinct, you have to come terms that guy is either have be non-alcoholic, non-smoker type and has be athletic guy... so your virgin man your looking for you should probably find gym or sporting competition... where wholesome guys will exist.
Bad side or feisty? Bad side just says bitch and all hot and good guys stay away like crash site, feisty... making smarty remarks is consider feisty not sure I never got that far on online chat forum it goes bad quick. I tried feisty once but wouldn't recommended it. staying neutral is dull and boring... but works staying pure makes weirdos come in bulk no pun intended for anyone.
Word of warning stay away from open relationship they already boyfriend sorts and married types... you could be third wheel best keep in mind if your doing any online or out there dating, they looking for friends only...
They like the concept of a sweet, shy girl.
However, most, not all, guys, rather date a more outgoing girl. But when guys are ready to "settle down" and get married, then they come hunting for the quiet, sweet girls. They've been with the wild girl and know they rather not spend the rest of their lives with such a woman...
I was the "sweet, good" girl in my teens and 20s- ask me how many guys approached me?
Hint= 0
It wasn't until got older, became more confident, and was forced to be more social due to my job, did guys start to approach me.
I mean I'm still single BUT guys do talk to me so that's progress! Lol
I'm not saying change yourself, AT ALL. Just wait for the right guy that actually appreciates you.
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The sweet and nice part is fine, but I do not like shy, quiet women at all. I need a lively, courageous woman in my life.
Um... I never understand these types of questions.
I'm going to make this really, really simple. Guys like ONE type of girl in particular-- pretty/hot/attractive ones. That's it. Whether they are "shy, good" or not, or "bad" or whatever the hell any of that means, is completely secondary and sometimes even irrelevant. We only notice if a girl is "shy, good" if she's pretty. If she's sitting alone not talking to anyone and not approaching us in any way, why would we notice her if she's not hot? It's no different than with girls looking at guys-- a guy is only "mysterious" or whatever if he's attractive. So they don't actually care about being mysterious or being shy or whatever... they care about the guy being tall dark and handsome. This is very simple. Humans are animals and we care about physical attraction first and foremost.Sure there are. But they might not necessarily be on the prowl in the same way that the short-term thinking guys are.
The best way to filter guys is to make it clear to them that they will not be having sex with you anytime soon. If you wait on sex and see how long they stick around, that tells you what they are sticking around for. It's a very simple method.When I hear sweet, wholesome, and shy. I think of a girl who is naive and close minded. Yet on the other hand feisty and badgirl, I think of defiant, impulsive, and reckless.
I would like to find a girl who is kind, open minded, adventurous, stable, and some balance between shy and outgoing. I definitely don't want a girl who takes hours or days, or weeks simply to open up to me. But I also don't want someone who is ready to jump up on a table and start dancing for no real reason, other then their own impulsive fun.You have to be the best you can and want to be. Guys will cross your path and depending on your lifes routines, will depict the kind of men you meet. Be patient and be the best you can be. Someone with similar qualities will seek you out with because of your attitude and spptiach to all situations.
I think it is all up to personality, I would be all up for a good shy girl. I actually believe overtime that good shy girls become more confident anyway. From experience, a lot of good shy girls that I have met, overtime become confident given the right circumstances. But even then, I would be still interested in dating a sweet shy girl
Sweet and shy girls don't get as much attention, I assume that from this same question being asked a lot on GAG and also in some personal experience.
Guys like sweet and shy girls, the guys who make the extra effort are the ones who do like them, but I guess your experience says otherwise but I think there was misreads.Of course there are. I am one of them. Sweet girls are keepers. The men you dated probably did not have the maturity to see it or maybe they were not serious about long term relationships or marriage in general and are still stuck in their playing and flirting. That is a stage most men pass through and usually get out of but i do know some of them who are married and have kids but are still stuck there.
I would eat even a woman's poop. They are superior , smart , great people. I love to serve a woman as slave, washing her feets, giving food to her , giving my money to her and to make her happy basicially. Feel free to humiliate me and swear at me if you are a woman. I would love it..,
Yeah of course. there's loads of guys who hate the way that most girls are and they want a sweet wholesome girl. As you said you've dated the wrong men and I'd agree. Its just most women do not find the kind of guy who likes these girls attractive. For whatever reason.
In some ways, yes they are sweet. But they always seem unconfident, insecure, and have issues around getting intimate so I'd rather find a real woman who isn't afraid of sex otherwise they just become a friend of sorts.
Sweet wholesome girls... in 2018
Once a guy told me that guys prefer sweet, shy, innocent looking girls because these girls seem more trustworthy and warm hearted, i mean better at emotional support and i think guys somehow think a shy, sweet girl won't cheat or break their heart
Yeah definitely but she should have a definite personality. I mean she should be sorted with her ideas and philosophies and should never be 'i never thought about it' . What I'm saying is it be better if she's feisty when you get close to her but sweet and shy on the outside , I think that's perfect
Of course! Why would I not? I think that being a good person is one of the most important aspects of your personality. So important that I wouldn't even consider something serious between me and someone who isn't. And well shy girls are generally cute. The only problem I have with dating a shy girl would be that I'm very shy myself thus it'd be very hard for either of us to make the first move :/
I MUCH prefer women who are sweet and wholesome. They are so much more attractive than most "modern women". Yuck!
It sucks that you have been treated badly by assholes. I hope you don't let that change you. And I hope you can find a good guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.Wholesome good girls are the only types I like. Being "bad" is overrated and gets boring quite fast. Good girls are the types that will stay loyal to you for the long run.
Very much. It makes for an interesting relationship. Getting to know you more is so rewarding because you're actually beginning to open up and that can make someone feel special.
Brutally honest speaking, guys like the idea of them but in real life they are hella underrated.
Personally, I like the sweet shy girls; I'm just not confident in asking girls out😅. I'm pretty sure the problem is the majority of the guys who like it are too scared to ask you out.
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