Personally speaking, yes— for the reasoning that I tend to be on the introverted side. I also used to be shy as well, but I’ve gotten a bit less, erm, socially awkward over the years. I would have more in common with a sweet shy girl than a feisty bad girl.
I’ve generally found that shy people (myself included) aren’t usually shy forever. Shyness usually manifests itself in new situations, and shy people tend to warm up and be more talkative with people they are familiar with. That being said, they are still more on the quiet side. This sort of “comfortable to talk to, but not overwhelming” matches super well with me.
It turns me off if someone is so social that they’re constantly in my face or overbearing. I had someone who was crushing on me in high school like that, and it made it really hard to talk to them. I think I may have hurt their feelings too, because it seemed like I kept running away from them.
Regarding sweetness vs the “bad girl,” I’d choose sweetness over that. For better or worse, I’m relatively tame in my vices I believe, and someone wanting to live on the edge may not match well with me. I know some people like that (courtesy of being a musician in the heavy metal scene lol), and while I may befriend them, I wouldn’t date them. Someone like that probably wouldn’t want to date me either. I’d be too boring for them most likely haha— our personalities wouldn’t match.
Ultimately though “sweetness” is a pretty vague term and likely relative to the individual. Of course, in the end, it’s going to matter ultimately if one— I find the person physically attractive, and two— I find the person’s personality attractive. An attractive personality generally means common ground... so common values and ideas that seem ideal for the other, and that will only be known via talking with the person.
Sure, lots of guys do. For me, personally, it's not just the personality, but her interests that come into play. If she has some interests in common with me, then her personality is viewed in a different light- a girl who has nothing in common with me isn't really that interesting to me.
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Okay I have question for you how long do you think will keep wall and mind of purity up, I like to take stab out this topic, your trying too many hats at once, your a A) submissive girl or B) girl who just listen to them all day, C) your trying find virgin dude who hasn't had sex and wants to marry him, you know there is no prince charming... the guy went extinct, you have to come terms that guy is either have be non-alcoholic, non-smoker type and has be athletic guy... so your virgin man your looking for you should probably find gym or sporting competition... where wholesome guys will exist.
Bad side or feisty? Bad side just says bitch and all hot and good guys stay away like crash site, feisty... making smarty remarks is consider feisty not sure I never got that far on online chat forum it goes bad quick. I tried feisty once but wouldn't recommended it. staying neutral is dull and boring... but works staying pure makes weirdos come in bulk no pun intended for anyone.
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They like the concept of a sweet, shy girl.
However, most, not all, guys, rather date a more outgoing girl. But when guys are ready to "settle down" and get married, then they come hunting for the quiet, sweet girls. They've been with the wild girl and know they rather not spend the rest of their lives with such a woman...
I was the "sweet, good" girl in my teens and 20s- ask me how many guys approached me?
Hint= 0
It wasn't until got older, became more confident, and was forced to be more social due to my job, did guys start to approach me.
I mean I'm still single BUT guys do talk to me so that's progress! Lol
I'm not saying change yourself, AT ALL. Just wait for the right guy that actually appreciates you.
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The sweet and nice part is fine, but I do not like shy, quiet women at all. I need a lively, courageous woman in my life.
Um... I never understand these types of questions.
I'm going to make this really, really simple. Guys like ONE type of girl in particular-- pretty/hot/attractive ones. That's it. Whether they are "shy, good" or not, or "bad" or whatever the hell any of that means, is completely secondary and sometimes even irrelevant. We only notice if a girl is "shy, good" if she's pretty. If she's sitting alone not talking to anyone and not approaching us in any way, why would we notice her if she's not hot? It's no different than with girls looking at guys-- a guy is only "mysterious" or whatever if he's attractive. So they don't actually care about being mysterious or being shy or whatever... they care about the guy being tall dark and handsome. This is very simple. Humans are animals and we care about physical attraction first and foremost.
Sure there are. But they might not necessarily be on the prowl in the same way that the short-term thinking guys are.
The best way to filter guys is to make it clear to them that they will not be having sex with you anytime soon. If you wait on sex and see how long they stick around, that tells you what they are sticking around for. It's a very simple method.
When I hear sweet, wholesome, and shy. I think of a girl who is naive and close minded. Yet on the other hand feisty and badgirl, I think of defiant, impulsive, and reckless.
I would like to find a girl who is kind, open minded, adventurous, stable, and some balance between shy and outgoing. I definitely don't want a girl who takes hours or days, or weeks simply to open up to me. But I also don't want someone who is ready to jump up on a table and start dancing for no real reason, other then their own impulsive fun.
You have to be the best you can and want to be. Guys will cross your path and depending on your lifes routines, will depict the kind of men you meet. Be patient and be the best you can be. Someone with similar qualities will seek you out with because of your attitude and spptiach to all situations.
I think it is all up to personality, I would be all up for a good shy girl. I actually believe overtime that good shy girls become more confident anyway. From experience, a lot of good shy girls that I have met, overtime become confident given the right circumstances. But even then, I would be still interested in dating a sweet shy girl
Sweet and shy girls don't get as much attention, I assume that from this same question being asked a lot on GAG and also in some personal experience.
Guys like sweet and shy girls, the guys who make the extra effort are the ones who do like them, but I guess your experience says otherwise but I think there was misreads.
Of course there are. I am one of them. Sweet girls are keepers. The men you dated probably did not have the maturity to see it or maybe they were not serious about long term relationships or marriage in general and are still stuck in their playing and flirting. That is a stage most men pass through and usually get out of but i do know some of them who are married and have kids but are still stuck there.
I would eat even a woman's poop. They are superior , smart , great people. I love to serve a woman as slave, washing her feets, giving food to her , giving my money to her and to make her happy basicially. Feel free to humiliate me and swear at me if you are a woman. I would love it..,
Yeah of course. there's loads of guys who hate the way that most girls are and they want a sweet wholesome girl. As you said you've dated the wrong men and I'd agree. Its just most women do not find the kind of guy who likes these girls attractive. For whatever reason.
In some ways, yes they are sweet. But they always seem unconfident, insecure, and have issues around getting intimate so I'd rather find a real woman who isn't afraid of sex otherwise they just become a friend of sorts.
Sweet wholesome girls... in 2018
Lol... that's funny haha
Once a guy told me that guys prefer sweet, shy, innocent looking girls because these girls seem more trustworthy and warm hearted, i mean better at emotional support and i think guys somehow think a shy, sweet girl won't cheat or break their heart
Yeah definitely but she should have a definite personality. I mean she should be sorted with her ideas and philosophies and should never be 'i never thought about it' . What I'm saying is it be better if she's feisty when you get close to her but sweet and shy on the outside , I think that's perfect
Of course! Why would I not? I think that being a good person is one of the most important aspects of your personality. So important that I wouldn't even consider something serious between me and someone who isn't. And well shy girls are generally cute. The only problem I have with dating a shy girl would be that I'm very shy myself thus it'd be very hard for either of us to make the first move :/
I MUCH prefer women who are sweet and wholesome. They are so much more attractive than most "modern women". Yuck!
It sucks that you have been treated badly by assholes. I hope you don't let that change you. And I hope you can find a good guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
Wholesome good girls are the only types I like. Being "bad" is overrated and gets boring quite fast. Good girls are the types that will stay loyal to you for the long run.
Very much. It makes for an interesting relationship. Getting to know you more is so rewarding because you're actually beginning to open up and that can make someone feel special.
Brutally honest speaking, guys like the idea of them but in real life they are hella underrated.
I'd say it's more about some guys don't want to put in the effort required to get through to a shy girl
Maybe. Or they can't easily spot such a girl because... They are shy. They're not always around for you to notice.
@mistert123 @CubsterShura both of you couldn't of said it better lol
Personally, I like the sweet shy girls; I'm just not confident in asking girls out😅. I'm pretty sure the problem is the majority of the guys who like it are too scared to ask you out.
Oh yes. Absolutely. This is why I believe the human race is doomed. Becuz the best sign of attraction is lack of interest. Completely ignore someone, and you're virtually guaranteed to live happy ever after. Makes no sense to me.
Talking on my experience, If you happen to be attractive yeah, they'll like you... I used to be shy in my early teenage years but now that I'm far from that shy and sweet girl I get way much more attention that I used to get
I don't know shy girls know how to hide. I met many sweet women. Well sweet enough. But shy? I wouldn’t know if she shy or not
I think a lot of guys are attracted to the kind of woman you describe.
Depends how shy you are lol, but If there is a girl that has great morals and good qualities then I’m totally into you... don’t be to shy though at least try and make some kind of chat lol
Of course. There's tons of guys out there who would love that. You're only 28; you've got a bit of time. I'm sure you'll find someone soon. :)
The answer is YES. I always appreciate women who are sweet not only be words but also by actions. I women who are actually and genuinely sweet.
i still like sweet girls. I like calm and peaceful environments and good moods. Bad attitudes and feisty is something I'm not going to deal with because I think it'd bring out the worse in me and I don't won't to be mad all the time.
I guess in the first glance yes, because we think that we are going to have a nice relationship. but after if you are just shy and sweet it is start to getting bored. That is why nice guys dont get a chance because girls wants have fun.
Hmmm let me think? No
Because there are no sweet shy good girls there are girls who pretend to be sweet shy good girls but are evil on the inside and reaveal that at the worst of times.
So no we don’t like sweet bla bla bla girls.
Shy? Not really.
But sweet and kind? Absolutely. When it comes to relationships, i would say thats what most men prefer
They act like they do... but they don't rofl don't listen to all the lies.
Sweet? Well, that isn't really important. Shy and good? Yes. But also sarcastic. I know, what a combo.
Love them as long as their shyness doesn't make them standoffish.
Not the guys I know for sure or I wouldn't still be single
Yes, it's easier for a guy to try get a girl to open up.
Sure. If you're attractive, guys will like you, period.
I'd love to date a girl like that, as long as she doesn't lowkey wanna be dominated like every other girl does.
I think some guys do but girl it’s 2018 and guys don’t even care.. most guys only want one thing. Don’t matter if you a shy girl, party girl, etc. Not saying all guys are like this.
Only if you go for a ride on my boat occassuonally😊I like sweet shy wholesome girls. They're more interesting than girls who just blab all day long about nothing.
Sweet, shy good girls are always more appealing. I like the idea that a woman like that can be different with me than with anyone else because we are together.
Bad girls usually do bad things... wholesome is always good.
I appreciate those qualities very much, actually in this case I noticed opposite attracts, and reason for this I have learned is to balance it out.
I love sweet girls, especially if she takes pleasure in taking care of me. Its just that they're difficult to get to know.
I am not a label, yet guys tag me with this "sweet & wholesome" type. I'm following.
Most people like sweet wholesome girls. The issue is when they have to act in the same way to get that person interested in them. Eventually you get tired of acting. This also happens with women as well.
It depends on taste. Some guys do and some don't. I can appreciate different qualities in different contexts
I guess it just depends on person by person..
we know opposite attracts that how things work mostly.
I enjoy them, I always like to be a guy that helps a girl I like become less shy and is sweet and good,
yes i do im with one like this in a relationship for 5 months
bitchy girls i hate those
Both are attractive
But a sweet shy girl is a keeper
YES, I'm perfect evidence, I don't like women with a bad side, I'd only date sweet good girls.
Hell yea and if they have a crazy side that is a plus
Affectionate, loving and kind type of sweet yes but willing to take action and being socially aware.
Speaking as someone that still needs to work on the last bit.
Normally very shy people are in relationships with less shy people.
I think that's because people that are equally shy or even more shy can't work up the courage to ask them out
I'm a shy guy, so if you're shy we would end up never speaking.
Of course. A genuinely sweet woman is the best thing ever. So rare unfortunately. Wait for the right man. He'll be so lucky.
Ofcourse. Now I hope girls like sweet, shy good guys. Lots of them always go for confident bad guys because we're boring.
Depends on the guy.. i think theh like out going girls more and notice them more
Hell yeah, why would I want a stuck up, self-centered girl who talks too much? 😂
In my opinion, I prefer shy and quiet girls. Just of me being an introvert in a way 😅
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