Why’s he being so short with me?

[Anonymous]

Why would he be so short with me after saying that? He’s my boyfriend, we were talking about my oral surgery I had today.

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Hey so update on this, he brought me a smoothie after his class and came over. I asked him about last night and he said he was really tired and didn’t mean to brush me off. He was acting his normal self just tired. He took a nap with me while we watched a movie he brought over.

[Ananylantor]

Alright... have no fear...
i highly doubt there is an attitude here... us guys not always the most texty guys.
He could have at least thanked you, that is true, but it could also be that he is very tierd, busy or dostracted. Keep in mind that this conversation is taking place at 2AM.

[Asker]

I sent my texts around 12. He only responded at 2 am.
And yeah it’s true he might be tired, he’s got class tomorrow and I’m seeing him after he gets out. It’s just normally he sends me a snarky remark or rolled eyes at a compliment. Something, since it took him so long to reply I thought I might’ve done something wrong 😕

[Ananylantor]

Nothing wrong, likely he fell asleep, give a shoter version of that complement to him in person and watch as everything is going as usual

[Asker]

Alright.. I’ll see how he reacts tomorrow.

[Ananylantor]

There we go :)

[phantomD]

is he a gamer?
if yes we can say that he was playing in the time u was texting him, if not u be ready to be dumped. lets hope not and say that he got a good reason that made do that

[Asker]

We’re both gamers yeah, and he wouldn’t dump me he loves me. I thought maybe I just upset him somehow.

[phantomD]

did he explain why he is speaking like that if not ask him but it may cause a problem so u need to ask him in a smart way

[Asker]

No he didn’t get to ask, I’m seeing him today though so I can try to ask

[phantomD]

Ask him and tell us what is happening because i am curios

[pras016]

Maybe because he doesn't like compliments. Or probably he was just busy or got some urgent work at the moment? Also tell me what he talks to you tomorrow.

[Asker]

Yeah he doesn’t take compliments well but he’ll normally address it with a joke or something.
And alright I’ll try and let you know.

[devilish-cutie]

its ok, as long as he is ok w you in real life its fine
people text differently, maybe he prefers to talk in person

[Asker]

Maybe that’s what he meant, but he read my texts at 12 ish when I sent them and replied at 2:30 am. I don't know it feels like I did something wrong.

[devilish-cutie]

could be either he is a bit annoyed at you or annoyed in general about something
best you can is talk to him when you see him, i think its best to talk it out face to face

[Asker]

Yeah guess so, I’m seeing him tomorrow so I’ll see how he is and try to ask about it without annoying him

[devilish-cutie]

👍 sounds good!

[SarahsSummer]

Maybe because it was 2:30 in the morning on a school night and he was tired/wanted to sleep.

[Asker]

I sent my text at 12, he usually stays up really late. He’s the one who read and responded at 2

[SarahsSummer]

he didn't see it till 2 and responded. Have you had any further conversations since this 2:30 Am event?

[Asker]

No, I finally got to sleep this morning, I just woke up. I’m in a ton of pain from my surgery. He’s at school right now and is coming by after he’s done there.

[SarahsSummer]

good, So you think everything is fine?

[Asker]

He texted me today asking what kind of smoothie I wanted. And that he’ll be here soon. I guess he’s ok.

[SarahsSummer]

Ok good. you need to not be so insecure.

[Asker]

I’m not insecure? I’m just worried about him

[SarahsSummer]

What about him worries you when he's being short with you?

[Asker]

That he may be in trouble or something. His mom isn’t very nice

[SarahsSummer]

Him swing short with you makes you think he’s in trioubke? I don’t understabd that leap. No response for a couple days I might think that but if a guy is being short with me, I’d be more inclined to think he didn’t like me or was upset with me.

[Justacatlady]

Maybe he thinks the drugs your on are causing you to say things you normally wouldn't

[Asker]

I’m normally supportive and loving so I dont know why he reacted that way. i feel totally normal even though I’m on pain killers. I just really wanted to let him know how proud I was. I don't know what I did wrong 😕

[Justacatlady]

You didn't do anything wrong. That's not how you should view this. Perhaps he is trying to give you time to rest. Or maybe something is happening and he doesn't have time to chat. Don't read so much into this short conversation. Just wait and see how the next interaction goes.

[Asker]

Alright, I’m seeing him tomorrow so I’ll see if he’s acting normal or not.

[Anon-ymous1]

... He's not. He doesn't want to have a big long involved conversation via text message, because that takes way too much time and it's better to just talk talk, or he was busy. It's pretty simple. He'll talk to you tomorrow.

[Asker]

Long text conversations are his thing, he’s done it often where he sends me paraphrases of how much he loves me.
So maybe he’s was just busy or something.

[Anon-ymous1]

Perhaps.

[PrettyRegular]

Maybe he didn't have anything to say. If you start wondering things like that, that's all you're gonna do then.

[Asker]

It was just out of character for him.

[Anonymous]

It seems like you’re praising him a bit much, I couldnt handle that anyway although I’d probably just change the subject

[Asker]

I guess I could be yeah.
I was being genuine though he’s been going to all these different interviews and spending hours on homework/going to the library.
Honest I’m genuinely really proud of him cause I know it isn’t easy.
I don't know I love him and wanted to let him know all his hard work isn’t fruitless you know?

[Opinion Owner]

I get why you’re praising him, it’s just hard for some guys to take praise, but I’m probably just projecting my own issues onto him, I have no clue tbh

[Asker]

That’s alright, thank you for your input

[Anonymous]

Wow it's really a very rude behavior I think. But we don't know him, so why don't you ask him his problem?

[Asker]

Well I went to bed at 12 ish when I sent the texts. And he saw it at 2 responded at 2:30. He normally answers me as soon as he sees it so I felt I must’ve done something wrong. I can’t ask rn cause it’s 4am. The pains keeping me up.
I am seeing him tomorrow though.

[Opinion Owner]

You should ask him. There's no other way. Really.

[banditobabe]

That was a little rude in my opinion

[Asker]

Yeah it was out of character, I was worried I had said something wrong or something 😕

[Effie91]

Maybe he rather be in person not text.

[Asker]

Yeah could be

[Anonymous]

Its gettin longer with someone else

[Asker]

He’s not cheating he loves me, I think I just said something to upset him or something