If you So cheats on you I see no problem with that kind of slut shaming if you get what I mean. Now, I don't agree with interefering with people's lives as long as they don't bother me.
When I told one of my friends I was seeing ONE guy "fwb" he started bitching about me behind my back and another friend said mentioned it off-the-bat, without me even bringing up anything towards sex. Now a few people think I am a slut. It is a small ridiculous trigger.
There is no shame in sex but I do not agree with sleeping with multiple people frequently. I do not agree with a male sleeping with multiple people when he has a friends with benefits situation. It makes the female feel low and unflattering.
“Keep your head up, legs closed, eyes open.” - Tupac
unnecessary bullying... unless the woman is breaking up marriages, or relationships it is her body and her choice. If promiscuity makes her happy idc what she does.
Slut shaming is not a bad thing.. its a natural reaction of a functioning society that pushes people to act accordingly to a general cultural standard.. wish we still can have healthy societies instead of the actual mainstream bs with lack of all responsible thinking. when short term interests beat long term interest is when human values rapidly decline.
My girlfriend was one of those girls who got labeled a slut. I suppose this is a good thing, but absolutely nobody wanted her, even though she is angelicly beautiful. I am so happy that I gave her a chance 😊
I think people who slut shame show more about themselves than the person they’re insulting. A person’s sex life is no one business but their own. And I agree with you, they need to be concerned more about their own lives than anyone else’s.
Bottom line I think it’s retarded, do you people care what others wear. I mean if you are one of those people with no self confidence and judge others then you need to get a life and focus on your issues you buried. I am no white knight or what terms people use these days but let me dress how they want and sleep with however many people they want just bc you can’t get any quality partners.
I feel like it’s a horrible thing to do. Regardless of wether or not you agree with someone’s actions it doesn’t give you the right to drag their personal business out in public.
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It’s fucking dumb.. but the worst is when they wanna call a girl who’s not even a slut one.. for what kissing one or two guys In her life doing something dumb at a party Nd bully her.. like there prefect fucking dumb. real sluts usually don’t care about the word anyway..
Sluts should be ashamed. Male and female alike. Don't do shameful things and then you won't have reason to feel shame. If you do shameful things than feeling shame comes with the territory.
We are a society which means we have social norms. People get pushed to follow them which can come off as slut shaming, fat shaming and all the other things such as wearing the wrong clothes such as too formal or too casual or out of style etc.
Social norms will always be with us although the may change from time to time. Get over it, get out of society or get used to it.
It’s justified if the girl in question actually is a slut (sleeping with a ton of different people), and slightly justified when it comes to particular fashion choices (like if a girl chooses to wear shorts her ass cheeks fall out of, she may not be a slut but she certainly is slutty), but not if they date different people or if they reject a specific person.
You’re wrong. What others do with their life and body is none of your business so as long as they’re not breaking any law, you have no right to comment on it.
It’s not for no reason. It’s for undermining the importance and the intimacy of sex or for exposing intimate parts of their bodies to the public. I can have my own life and still judge others for their lack or morals and for their poor life choices. Again, nice try.
And what exactly do gain from voicing such negative opinions? You can judge whoever u want and have whatever opinion you want, no one really cares. But it really isn’t that hard to shut down the negativity and just be nice to people who have done nothing wrong to u.
Just because I identify someone as fitting the definition of the word “slut” doesn’t mean I scream in their faces that that’s what they are and that that’s all they’ll ever be. It doesn’t mean I can’t be nice to them and treat them the same way I treat people I have respect for.
I can honestly only see one way possible for me to feel about it. It's cruel, it's a messed up and the fact that it exists is indeed a sad reminder of the society we live in today!
Stats show the more promiscuous a girl is before marriage the more likely she is to divorce. I think slut shaming should work both ways, toward men and women who excessively sleep around.
@Blightly i think people should mind their own damn business and let people sleep with whoever they want and how many they want! But I agree with you to the extend, that it should not only be something related to women, if anything, of course there should be the exact same precedence for men!
Oh they can sleep with whomever they want. But they should know that having slept around is not a valuable or commemorable trait. the way we express that is to show disagreement with their actions. You can call it slut shaming, you can say their personal worth is devalued, you can say their supply is meeting demand and it's tanking the price of [insert person's name]. It's all the same. However, you can't police my or other's opinions of their actions, because at the end of the day whomever they decide to "spend the rest of their lives with" will need to accept the fact that they likely have a future divorce on their hands. For a guy, it's detrimental. I don't agree with a slut's actions and honestly one of the worst decisions I could make is to get married to said person. Just like single moms, once you've committed (esp at my age), you're out.
@Blightly I find that incredibly bigoted ! Nobody is forcing you to marry a person, so if its that big of a deal, don´t get involved with said kind of people in the first place! You say "they should know that having slept around is not valued or commemorable". For you, maybe! Some people might feel different, but either way, I don´t think that gives anyone legitimacy to publicly shame other people that you have an opinion about how they have conducted their personal life! So what is someone was curious and experimented with sex in their younger days. Maybe they have gotten it out of their system and is ready to settle down. Might even see it as an advantage, a way to avoid a typical mid-life crisis affair later on, because there was no uncertainty left there. I am not policing anything! Quite the opposite. I am just saying, that people should have the right to have sex with whoever they want WITHOUT someone is standing in a corner screaming slut or whatever. Just as I would expect people to make their own decision when it comes to marriage and decide for themselves whether they are okay with his/hers partner to be have slept with one or one hundred people! "Will have to accept the fact" you say. Well, yes. But the thing is; No one is making them!! Walk away if you don´t appreciate it!! And of course you are just as entitled to your opinion as I am mine, I am not arguing that at all. I just wish people would spend more times looking at their own damn lives sometimes instead of being in such a hurry when it comes to others... And one last thing; If you picture getting married to "such a person" one of the worst decisions you could imagine in your life, then you really have a lot in store for you in this life, young man! People that generalize and is prone to bigotry like that is just another type of modern day racist you might just as well say...
Funny little thing is: I have had so many different partners when I was a younger man, that you would probably condemn me to hell this very instant. I have had few genuine relationships, but all 4 of them adds up to 13-14 years. All of them with one thing in common. I have never, nor would I ever dream of being unfaithful to a partner whom I had chosen to be with. I have zero respect or tolerance for people that cheats. Even more funny thing is, I had a girlfriend that cheated on me. So while it´s ever so easy to just point your finger at the delinquents, the pervs and promiscuous when it comes to your divorce statistics, we could try starting in a different place. Society perhaps- or the fact, that the younger generations today simply is spoiled and don´t bothers to fight things that matter. They quit when faced with tribulations. Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from... so when they get bored, they just shrug their shoulders and moves on to the next thing that may keep them entertained. How about that for an argument? Or does everything in this society today just has to be about sex?
Oh god get off your high horse dude. I fully admitted that I don't agree with it, and won't involve myself with it and you're gonna sit here and chase after me for my opinions on how I live my life? Kinda ironic isn't it buddy.
Statistically, someone who slept around with increasing numbers of people (also helped by an earlier starting age) has a drastically less likelihood to be able to hold a stable relationship. Research shows that it is likely that they will leave their partner. Don't start assuming things like the typical optimistic idiot, look at facts and research.
You are policing my and everyone else's ability to disagree and disapprove of people who sleep around. And people do have a right to sleep around, but it's not a commemorable trait what so ever.
How is it not a horrible decision? With increasing amounts of partners, the chance of divorce rises from 25% (at 4-5) to 33% (at 10+). If you have a child with this person, that child will have a very discerning possibility of having to deal with a divorce solely due to the promiscuity of the partner. Do you want to lose half of everything you've earned in your life because you married someone who made these life choices and influenced their ability to hold a stable relationship? Do you want to drag your kid through that?
This has nothing to do with cheating. I don't know where you're going with cheating but I never said these promiscuous people are more likely to cheat. For some reason, data trends show men have the capability to hold stable relationships after having multiple partners but women have a harder time with it.
And why do you think that short attention span driven in today's youth is such a problem? You said it yourself, "Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from" its all too available. IE too many idiots are selling themselves out for easy sex. IE male and female sluts
thank you for adding another point to my argument out of your own volition
I agree, Shamers need to focus on their own lives. What someone chooses to wear or decides to do in the privacy of their own bedroom is not my concern in the slightest
@Милашка If you express that "dislike" to another person choosing to life their life as they want, or tell them how they should or shouldn't live, and imply their life or lifestyle is wrong, yes, that's shaming and not acceptable. It's really quite simple, Just focus on your own life. Practice laissez faire.
Im not confused. I wamt to undestand your logic. Do u know that telling me to focus on my life doesn't stop me from feeling diisgust for sluts? I can feel disgust and still live my life.
I think it's stupid, someones sexual life is no reason for shame -putting aside extremes such as criminal sex offences- I don't see a problem with not being with someone due to their number but it's no reason to shame them.
Yes they should definitely get a life. As long as they are being safe and only having sex with people that are single I could not care less. It's their life.
Women slut shame other women more than any male does. But women who are whores should be shamed. It's a disgusting personality trait. Men are shamed for everything. Our sexual interest, sexual fantasies, our sexual activity, etc. So women can take responsibility for their choices, they can deal with the fallout or shame of their actions.
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If you So cheats on you I see no problem with that kind of slut shaming if you get what I mean. Now, I don't agree with interefering with people's lives as long as they don't bother me.
And that’s exactly my point!✋🏽
It hurts.
When I told one of my friends I was seeing ONE guy "fwb" he started bitching about me behind my back and another friend said mentioned it off-the-bat, without me even bringing up anything towards sex. Now a few people think I am a slut.
It is a small ridiculous trigger.
There is no shame in sex but I do not agree with sleeping with multiple people frequently.
I do not agree with a male sleeping with multiple people when he has a friends with benefits situation. It makes the female feel low and unflattering.
“Keep your head up, legs closed, eyes open.” - Tupac
unnecessary bullying... unless the woman is breaking up marriages, or relationships it is her body and her choice. If promiscuity makes her happy idc what she does.
Slut shaming is not a bad thing.. its a natural reaction of a functioning society that pushes people to act accordingly to a general cultural standard..
wish we still can have healthy societies instead of the actual mainstream bs with lack of all responsible thinking.
when short term interests beat long term interest is when human values rapidly decline.
hate it... women can do what they like with their vaginas as far as im concerned
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=htGAdlkStv8i see a man disagrees but can't put it into words why.
Just because you don't want her, doesn't mean that someone else won't... why try to ruin her for someone that might value her?
Exactly
My girlfriend was one of those girls who got labeled a slut. I suppose this is a good thing, but absolutely nobody wanted her, even though she is angelicly beautiful. I am so happy that I gave her a chance 😊
And you’re awesome for not being an ass lol
I think people who slut shame show more about themselves than the person they’re insulting. A person’s sex life is no one business but their own. And I agree with you, they need to be concerned more about their own lives than anyone else’s.
Bottom line I think it’s retarded, do you people care what others wear. I mean if you are one of those people with no self confidence and judge others then you need to get a life and focus on your issues you buried. I am no white knight or what terms people use these days but let me dress how they want and sleep with however many people they want just bc you can’t get any quality partners.
I feel like it’s a horrible thing to do. Regardless of wether or not you agree with someone’s actions it doesn’t give you the right to drag their personal business out in public.
It’s fucking dumb.. but the worst is when they wanna call a girl who’s not even a slut one.. for what kissing one or two guys In her life doing something dumb at a party Nd bully her.. like there prefect fucking dumb. real sluts usually don’t care about the word anyway..
Sluts should be ashamed. Male and female alike.
Don't do shameful things and then you won't have reason to feel shame. If you do shameful things than feeling shame comes with the territory.
No sympathy from me.
We are a society which means we have social norms. People get pushed to follow them which can come off as slut shaming, fat shaming and all the other things such as wearing the wrong clothes such as too formal or too casual or out of style etc.
Social norms will always be with us although the may change from time to time. Get over it, get out of society or get used to it.
It’s justified if the girl in question actually is a slut (sleeping with a ton of different people), and slightly justified when it comes to particular fashion choices (like if a girl chooses to wear shorts her ass cheeks fall out of, she may not be a slut but she certainly is slutty), but not if they date different people or if they reject a specific person.
You’re wrong. What others do with their life and body is none of your business so as long as they’re not breaking any law, you have no right to comment on it.
I have every right to comment on it. Commenting on it isn’t breaking the law either. Nice try though.
No it isn’t, but it just proves that u have no life so u choose to go around hating on others for no reason.
It’s not for no reason. It’s for undermining the importance and the intimacy of sex or for exposing intimate parts of their bodies to the public. I can have my own life and still judge others for their lack or morals and for their poor life choices. Again, nice try.
And what exactly do gain from voicing such negative opinions? You can judge whoever u want and have whatever opinion you want, no one really cares. But it really isn’t that hard to shut down the negativity and just be nice to people who have done nothing wrong to u.
Just because I identify someone as fitting the definition of the word “slut” doesn’t mean I scream in their faces that that’s what they are and that that’s all they’ll ever be. It doesn’t mean I can’t be nice to them and treat them the same way I treat people I have respect for.
I get slut shamed allllll the time. People are jealous that I'm attractive.
No, people are laughing because you think your act as a girl is convincing, when in fact you're a guy with a girl's profile.
^^ see, jealousy.
I can honestly only see one way possible for me to feel about it. It's cruel, it's a messed up and the fact that it exists is indeed a sad reminder of the society we live in today!
Stats show the more promiscuous a girl is before marriage the more likely she is to divorce. I think slut shaming should work both ways, toward men and women who excessively sleep around.
@Blightly i think people should mind their own damn business and let people sleep with whoever they want and how many they want!
But I agree with you to the extend, that it should not only be something related to women, if anything, of course there should be the exact same precedence for men!
Oh they can sleep with whomever they want. But they should know that having slept around is not a valuable or commemorable trait. the way we express that is to show disagreement with their actions. You can call it slut shaming, you can say their personal worth is devalued, you can say their supply is meeting demand and it's tanking the price of [insert person's name]. It's all the same. However, you can't police my or other's opinions of their actions, because at the end of the day whomever they decide to "spend the rest of their lives with" will need to accept the fact that they likely have a future divorce on their hands. For a guy, it's detrimental. I don't agree with a slut's actions and honestly one of the worst decisions I could make is to get married to said person. Just like single moms, once you've committed (esp at my age), you're out.
@Blightly I find that incredibly bigoted ! Nobody is forcing you to marry a person, so if its that big of a deal, don´t get involved with said kind of people in the first place!
You say "they should know that having slept around is not valued or commemorable". For you, maybe! Some people might feel different, but either way, I don´t think that gives anyone legitimacy to publicly shame other people that you have an opinion about how they have conducted their personal life! So what is someone was curious and experimented with sex in their younger days. Maybe they have gotten it out of their system and is ready to settle down. Might even see it as an advantage, a way to avoid a typical mid-life crisis affair later on, because there was no uncertainty left there.
I am not policing anything! Quite the opposite. I am just saying, that people should have the right to have sex with whoever they want WITHOUT someone is standing in a corner screaming slut or whatever. Just as I would expect people to make their own decision when it comes to marriage and decide for themselves whether they are okay with his/hers partner to be have slept with one or one hundred people! "Will have to accept the fact" you say. Well, yes. But the thing is; No one is making them!! Walk away if you don´t appreciate it!!
And of course you are just as entitled to your opinion as I am mine, I am not arguing that at all. I just wish people would spend more times looking at their own damn lives sometimes instead of being in such a hurry when it comes to others...
And one last thing; If you picture getting married to "such a person" one of the worst decisions you could imagine in your life, then you really have a lot in store for you in this life, young man! People that generalize and is prone to bigotry like that is just another type of modern day racist you might just as well say...
Funny little thing is: I have had so many different partners when I was a younger man, that you would probably condemn me to hell this very instant. I have had few genuine relationships, but all 4 of them adds up to 13-14 years. All of them with one thing in common. I have never, nor would I ever dream of being unfaithful to a partner whom I had chosen to be with. I have zero respect or tolerance for people that cheats. Even more funny thing is, I had a girlfriend that cheated on me.
So while it´s ever so easy to just point your finger at the delinquents, the pervs and promiscuous when it comes to your divorce statistics, we could try starting in a different place. Society perhaps- or the fact, that the younger generations today simply is spoiled and don´t bothers to fight things that matter. They quit when faced with tribulations. Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from... so when they get bored, they just shrug their shoulders and moves on to the next thing that may keep them entertained.
How about that for an argument? Or does everything in this society today just has to be about sex?
Oh god get off your high horse dude. I fully admitted that I don't agree with it, and won't involve myself with it and you're gonna sit here and chase after me for my opinions on how I live my life? Kinda ironic isn't it buddy.
Statistically, someone who slept around with increasing numbers of people (also helped by an earlier starting age) has a drastically less likelihood to be able to hold a stable relationship. Research shows that it is likely that they will leave their partner. Don't start assuming things like the typical optimistic idiot, look at facts and research.
You are policing my and everyone else's ability to disagree and disapprove of people who sleep around. And people do have a right to sleep around, but it's not a commemorable trait what so ever.
How is it not a horrible decision? With increasing amounts of partners, the chance of divorce rises from 25% (at 4-5) to 33% (at 10+). If you have a child with this person, that child will have a very discerning possibility of having to deal with a divorce solely due to the promiscuity of the partner. Do you want to lose half of everything you've earned in your life because you married someone who made these life choices and influenced their ability to hold a stable relationship? Do you want to drag your kid through that?
This has nothing to do with cheating. I don't know where you're going with cheating but I never said these promiscuous people are more likely to cheat. For some reason, data trends show men have the capability to hold stable relationships after having multiple partners but women have a harder time with it.
And why do you think that short attention span driven in today's youth is such a problem? You said it yourself, "Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from" its all too available. IE too many idiots are selling themselves out for easy sex. IE male and female sluts
thank you for adding another point to my argument out of your own volition
I agree, Shamers need to focus on their own lives. What someone chooses to wear or decides to do in the privacy of their own bedroom is not my concern in the slightest
is disliking promiscuity slutshaming?
@Милашка If you express that "dislike" to another person choosing to life their life as they want, or tell them how they should or shouldn't live, and imply their life or lifestyle is wrong, yes, that's shaming and not acceptable. It's really quite simple, Just focus on your own life. Practice laissez faire.
Is disliking their lifestyle means I don't live my life? Lol
@Милашка It means you are focusing some of your attention on someone else's life. NOT YOUR CONCERN> FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE. Lol
how my negative views on them means I care about them and who are you to tell me where to focus?
With Capital letters.
Lol
@Милашка you were confused about slut shaming. I'm answering your questions, helping you to understand. You are welcome.
Im not confused. I wamt to undestand your logic. Do u know that telling me to focus on my life doesn't stop me from feeling diisgust for sluts? I can feel disgust and still live my life.
I think it's stupid, someones sexual life is no reason for shame -putting aside extremes such as criminal sex offences- I don't see a problem with not being with someone due to their number but it's no reason to shame them.
Simple
Yes they should definitely get a life. As long as they are being safe and only having sex with people that are single I could not care less. It's their life.
Women slut shame other women more than any male does.
But women who are whores should be shamed. It's a disgusting personality trait.
Men are shamed for everything. Our sexual interest, sexual fantasies, our sexual activity, etc.
So women can take responsibility for their choices, they can deal with the fallout or shame of their actions.