How do u feel about slut-shaming?

Some girls and even guys get slut-shamed because of their fashion choices, they date a lot of people or simply because they reject a someone... So how do u guys really feel about slut-shaming? I personally think that people who go around slut-shaming, or simply focusing too much on others should get themselves a life cause what others do is really none of their business.

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  • I have never done it and never will!

    Makes no sense. I mean if a guy has lots of sexual conquests he is a stud, everyone likes him and wants to be him. I never, EVER, heard a guy get slut shamed. If anything they recive high fives. And believe me they don't care if girls call them players, because that fame actually atracts more girls.

    Pass to the girls side and if she has a lot of sexual conquests she is called a slut. Girls start to outcast her, guys look at her as damaged goods and not a high five in sight.

    So what if a girl wants to have fun? That does not make her lose value as a potencial date! She can a have many past partners and be an incredible and loyal girlfriend.

    More often than not guys who do this actually resent her for not for them and girls feel jealous they can't do the same. So girls have your fun and to hell what everyone thinks or says!

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    • for not going for them*

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    • guys may not get shamed, but they can definetly get rejected for it, i don't like manwhores and i wouldn't date one.

    • @emmily2396 I have a friend that is a manwhore as you call him. And this topic came in conversation one time. He said more a less this:
      - I already had girls that rejected me because they heard what I had done to a friend of her's. But I also had girls coming to me saying "I heard what you did to that girl, do it to me!".

      He gets rejected for it no question, but also gets some because of it so he couldn't care less.

  • I don't think that pointing out a fact of a thing, no matter what the thing is, equates with "shaming." That's dumb. If a person who happens to be short is called "short," that isn't "short-shaming," whatever the fuck that would even mean. If a girl is called a slut, and she IS a slut, and she views that as a negative, she always, you know... has the option to not be a slut. That's up to her. If a statement of fact is seen as "shaming," then the problem is with the fact itself, not the utterance of it.

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    • And what gives u the right to point it out? I mean if they choose to live their life that way then it’s their choice, which is none of your business. I’m just saying that you should focus more on yourself and your life rather than other’s.

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    • That was just an example, doesn’t really matter who does it or who the one getting attacked is. My point is that people should just be more respectful towards each other, because no one is really getting hurt by how some people dress or act. But of course cheating on someone or breaking up another relationship is another story..

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  • Slut
    (Noun)
    -a woman who has many casual sexual partners.

    Has another definition yet it’s not-so relevant.

    It’s fairly common for the subject to be correlated to fashion choices despite it having no relation to it at all. ‘Slut’ has been used quite frequently by both women and men.

    People who use this term to address women/men by their clothing of choice simply lack knowledge as we evidently know it equals to the individual’s high number of sexual partners.

    But does the term apply to every semi-naked woman/men?

    >Not really, unless you are wary of the number of casual sexual partners the individual has had.

    E. g: It would be relevant to call a prostitute a ‘slut’ as they tend to have a high number of sexual partners.

    Like @s2firestar suggested:

    You don’t need to say anything unless it’s affecting you personally.

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  • Shaming others is just hate. Why waste time with something so negative if you are trying to have a good day? It's good to be discerning, but judging other people for the choices they make and looking down on them is a form of disassociation (possibly linked to superiority complex) that is not helpful or beneficial to anyone. In fact, these imperfections and challenges that we face are what expand our soul and teach us deeper lessons. If someone has something to say about what others are doing, that person talking shit is just hiding from facing themselves in order to make themselves feel better. Find compassion for them, yourself and lets all just try to move on. We can all focus on bigger issues together <3

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    • @xccccccwc I don't know, I don't have a 3 year old son.

    • @xccccccwc I'm not a mom, I don't have experience on this subject. I only speak from experience, I wouldn't feel right just making assumptions.

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  • I had a guy tell everybody I was a whore and convince 90% of them it was true when I was a virgin. I was 22 at the time and he wanted me for himself. I'm now 33 and still a virgin but nobody thinks I'm a slut cause the guy who slandered me left the country.

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  • It’s justified if the girl in question actually is a slut (sleeping with a ton of different people), and slightly justified when it comes to particular fashion choices (like if a girl chooses to wear shorts her ass cheeks fall out of, she may not be a slut but she certainly is slutty), but not if they date different people or if they reject a specific person.

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    • You’re wrong. What others do with their life and body is none of your business so as long as they’re not breaking any law, you have no right to comment on it.

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    • And what exactly do gain from voicing such negative opinions? You can judge whoever u want and have whatever opinion you want, no one really cares. But it really isn’t that hard to shut down the negativity and just be nice to people who have done nothing wrong to u.

    • Just because I identify someone as fitting the definition of the word “slut” doesn’t mean I scream in their faces that that’s what they are and that that’s all they’ll ever be. It doesn’t mean I can’t be nice to them and treat them the same way I treat people I have respect for.

  • Sluts should be ashamed. Male and female alike.
    Don't do shameful things and then you won't have reason to feel shame. If you do shameful things than feeling shame comes with the territory.

    No sympathy from me.

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  • I don't care about it.

    Society is going to ridicule whatever doesn't conform to the behavior of the time. It is what it is. If you want to dress in a certain way, be it with exposed skin for a fur suit, doesn't matter, just be prepared for ridicule. You do you, but don't expect society to not judge you, because that's not how people operate.

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  • I never shamed sluts, I used them. Here's where issue en-lies with what people consider "slut-shaming". Girls who sleep around seem to deem judgement as slut-shaming, which is false on so many levels. We're all entitled to our judgement when it comes to choosing romantic partners. We also should use judgement to weed out those who are not worthy or compatible in whatever way. I slept around a ton in college, and I didn't cry when other girls saw it as a red flag and turn off. I accepted it for I accept reality, and reality says that people will judge you negatively if you sleep around. It's just the way the world works. Those girls saw me less suitable for a relationship as the chance for me to cheat is much higher tagged along with the chance of me having STD's and/or low morale. They didn't like the values that they saw I had, and therefore decided it's not a match. Oh fucking well. On to the next one. People who go out of their way to shame others in any way are typically insecure, but we need to change the definition of what actually constitutes "slut-shaming".

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  • If you So cheats on you I see no problem with that kind of slut shaming if you get what I mean. Now, I don't agree with interefering with people's lives as long as they don't bother me.

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  • When single moms get off fucking welfare and when sluts stop getting tax paid abortions you may have a point but until then no. Sluts are causing the government deficits. They are worthless human garbage that's why no men want to wife them up.

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    • No one is asking u to wife anyone up, just mind ur own business instead focusing too much on others..

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    • The sluts you talk about sound so stereotypical, the one who have so little respect for themselvess that is actually hard to believe, almost like they didn't exist...

    • @ThisIsMyOpinion sometimes i dont believe it either but then i get a text or something so crazy i have to show my boys and we just fucking laugh.

  • I think people who slut shame show more about themselves than the person they’re insulting. A person’s sex life is no one business but their own. And I agree with you, they need to be concerned more about their own lives than anyone else’s.

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  • Honestly it's hilarious like I'm a slut if I have sex with a guy but if a guy goes and sleeps with 20 different girls his pals pat him on the back. I don't care who people sleep with and they shouldn't care who I do either

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  • Girls shouldn't be slut shamed at all anymore, they don't deserve it & unfortunately they've had way more than enough of it. While Guys are still not getting slut shamed enough, not as much as they deserve! so yeah, manwhores need to be slut shamed more, more systematically, effectively and efficiently!

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  • I feel like it’s a horrible thing to do. Regardless of wether or not you agree with someone’s actions it doesn’t give you the right to drag their personal business out in public.

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  • Just because you don't want her, doesn't mean that someone else won't... why try to ruin her for someone that might value her?

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    • Exactly

    • My girlfriend was one of those girls who got labeled a slut. I suppose this is a good thing, but absolutely nobody wanted her, even though she is angelicly beautiful. I am so happy that I gave her a chance 😊

    • And you’re awesome for not being an ass lol

  • I think people who do it are very insecure in their own life or just egotistical. It's easier to put the focus on others by shaming them instead of dealing with their own shame or insecurities. And then you got the egotistical people that think everyone should be like them because after all, they think they are fabulous. For some reason they can't seem to understand that people are different. There are guys out there that find a sexually free woman who likes to wear tight clothes that show cleavage as beautiful, sexy, and attractive. Then there's guys that find a conservative woman as beautiful, sexy, and attractive. The point is there is plenty of what you guys like out there to where you don't have to act so butthurt and shaming that we aren't all what you are attracted too. And for the ladies I'm glad you think how you are is fabulous. You should be happy with yourself. But don't be egotistical about it to where you think every other woman should be like you to the point you shame her choices. My best advice to those who get shamed. Whoever is shaming you, you can't take them serious. They have issues that cause them to do it. So feel sorry for them that they are so closed minded and unable to see beyond themselves.

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  • Simple

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  • Women slut shame other women more than any male does.
    But women who are whores should be shamed. It's a disgusting personality trait.
    Men are shamed for everything. Our sexual interest, sexual fantasies, our sexual activity, etc.
    So women can take responsibility for their choices, they can deal with the fallout or shame of their actions.

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  • I think "slut shaming" is Orwellian new speak. It is not intended to describe something so much as push an ideology. The term was concocted to pander to women and use them as political pawns. It works like this. Some communist realizes that women get flack about being sluts , he also realizes it's something women complain about. He sees an opportunity to get women on his side, get them out knocking on doors, bringing his doctrine into their homes, teaching it to their children. So he takes a simple human foible rooted in nature and human evolution and makes a political issue out of it. The heroic Marxist out to change the cruel , crude and primitive world with his superior mentality and new way of living. This scoundrels most powerful weapon is false empathy, he'll go right for the biggest THOT who probably gets "slut shamed" quite a bit ( because she's got it coming). He'll tell her how unfair it all is and let her cry on his shoulder, become her best friend. Just imagine , a vile murderer capable of almost anything playing the comforter. It's an almost comical situation if it didn't actually represent predator and prey. When he's done with the dumb THOT she'll be out on the street dressed in black hurling Molotov cocktails at the police, she might even pick up a rifle and use that so sure she has become of her belief in the fundamental evil of the society she lives in.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3qkf3bajd4&t=173s

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  • I think it's narrow minded bullshit. Don't judge a book by it's cover and all that. You don't know what kind of life that person has lived just by focusing on a number, or on the shape of their shirt.

    Slut shaming as reaction to rejection is just pathetic. How on earth does saying no make someone slutty?

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  • Slut shaming is not a bad thing.. its a natural reaction of a functioning society that pushes people to act accordingly to a general cultural standard..
    wish we still can have healthy societies instead of the actual mainstream bs with lack of all responsible thinking.
    when short term interests beat long term interest is when human values rapidly decline.

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  • unnecessary bullying... unless the woman is breaking up marriages, or relationships it is her body and her choice. If promiscuity makes her happy idc what she does.

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  • I get slut shamed allllll the time. People are jealous that I'm attractive.

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  • If you're NOT a slut, then just ignore it. Say you're not a slut ONCE, walk away, & leave it at that. If you ARE a slut, then you've clearly made that life choice & are most likely not ashamed of it. If so, then why are you paying any attention to the haters?

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  • It's very concieted and selfish to think that anyone should be allowed to act or dress however they feel like. Plus, with that kind of logic, you can't then go attack a guy for being naked infront of children. That type of contradiction in logic can only infer that one is even more selfish and concieted than whats already apparent.

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  • I can honestly only see one way possible for me to feel about it. It's cruel, it's a messed up and the fact that it exists is indeed a sad reminder of the society we live in today!

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    • Stats show the more promiscuous a girl is before marriage the more likely she is to divorce. I think slut shaming should work both ways, toward men and women who excessively sleep around.

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    • Funny little thing is: I have had so many different partners when I was a younger man, that you would probably condemn me to hell this very instant. I have had few genuine relationships, but all 4 of them adds up to 13-14 years. All of them with one thing in common. I have never, nor would I ever dream of being unfaithful to a partner whom I had chosen to be with. I have zero respect or tolerance for people that cheats. Even more funny thing is, I had a girlfriend that cheated on me.
      So while it´s ever so easy to just point your finger at the delinquents, the pervs and promiscuous when it comes to your divorce statistics, we could try starting in a different place. Society perhaps- or the fact, that the younger generations today simply is spoiled and don´t bothers to fight things that matter. They quit when faced with tribulations. Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from... so when they get bored, they just shrug their shoulders and moves on to the next thing that may keep them entertained.
      How about that for an argument? Or does everything in this society today just has to be about sex?

    • Oh god get off your high horse dude. I fully admitted that I don't agree with it, and won't involve myself with it and you're gonna sit here and chase after me for my opinions on how I live my life? Kinda ironic isn't it buddy.

      Statistically, someone who slept around with increasing numbers of people (also helped by an earlier starting age) has a drastically less likelihood to be able to hold a stable relationship. Research shows that it is likely that they will leave their partner. Don't start assuming things like the typical optimistic idiot, look at facts and research.

      You are policing my and everyone else's ability to disagree and disapprove of people who sleep around. And people do have a right to sleep around, but it's not a commemorable trait what so ever.

      How is it not a horrible decision? With increasing amounts of partners, the chance of divorce rises from 25% (at 4-5) to 33% (at 10+). If you have a child with this person, that child will have a very discerning possibility of having to deal with a divorce solely due to the promiscuity of the partner. Do you want to lose half of everything you've earned in your life because you married someone who made these life choices and influenced their ability to hold a stable relationship? Do you want to drag your kid through that?

      This has nothing to do with cheating. I don't know where you're going with cheating but I never said these promiscuous people are more likely to cheat. For some reason, data trends show men have the capability to hold stable relationships after having multiple partners but women have a harder time with it.

      And why do you think that short attention span driven in today's youth is such a problem? You said it yourself, "Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from" its all too available. IE too many idiots are selling themselves out for easy sex. IE male and female sluts

      thank you for adding another point to my argument out of your own volition

  • Bottom line I think it’s retarded, do you people care what others wear. I mean if you are one of those people with no self confidence and judge others then you need to get a life and focus on your issues you buried. I am no white knight or what terms people use these days but let me dress how they want and sleep with however many people they want just bc you can’t get any quality partners.

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  • People shouldn't be ashamed of their clothes (or any way they choose to express themselves) but only of their behavior...
    Only actions show who someone really is and if it's bad, then shame is a proper thing

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  • hate it... women can do what they like with their vaginas as far as im concerned
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=htGAdlkStv8

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    • i see a man disagrees but can't put it into words why.

  • Yes they should definitely get a life. As long as they are being safe and only having sex with people that are single I could not care less. It's their life.

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  • If a woman is promiscuous and some one says as much, I see nothing wrong with that, your suppose to judge people on behavior and its part of existing in a society.

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  • It's disgusting and rude and mean beyond belief, Its something that needs to stop ASAP, Ladies just like to enjoy there youth while they can.

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  • People can do what they want, if you want to be a slut no problem, but people can criticize and you should expect it because all people are not on the same page. Society and people will not be the way you want it to be, this goes for everything.

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    • Exactly. Best reply so far. Everyone is just whining because they wanna act how they want with no repercussions.

  • We are a society which means we have social norms. People get pushed to follow them which can come off as slut shaming, fat shaming and all the other things such as wearing the wrong clothes such as too formal or too casual or out of style etc.

    Social norms will always be with us although the may change from time to time. Get over it, get out of society or get used to it.

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  • I agree, Shamers need to focus on their own lives. What someone chooses to wear or decides to do in the privacy of their own bedroom is not my concern in the slightest

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    • is disliking promiscuity slutshaming?

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    • @Милашка you were confused about slut shaming. I'm answering your questions, helping you to understand. You are welcome.

    • Im not confused. I wamt to undestand your logic. Do u know that telling me to focus on my life doesn't stop me from feeling diisgust for sluts? I can feel disgust and still live my life.

  • I think it's stupid, someones sexual life is no reason for shame -putting aside extremes such as criminal sex offences- I don't see a problem with not being with someone due to their number but it's no reason to shame them.

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  • Biologically women want the best male they can get and pair bond with him. What has usually happened throughout human evolution theoretically is that those "high quality" men were less common and so they found themselves selected by many women and produce multiple offspring at once. This could be why men aren't slut shamed as often as women. I don't know

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    • Anyway I think we should encourage monogomy and serial monogomy either. So do I like slut shaming? Not really, no, but I think it's better than the opposite; because polygamous societies do tend to be more violent. Plus what we've been doing as of late seems to brought us to where we've got more single parent American households right now two parent households. That's not good for children to say the least. So we should do a better job of encouraging commitment, seriousness, and responsibility and not merely the negative of slut shaming.

    • and not serial monogamy either*

  • It happens and I'm not interested in stopping it. I don't agree or disagree with it because if someone is actually confident in their fashion choices, they wouldn't give a damn what other people think.

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    • someone saying they either like or dislike something is one thing but if you are condoning verbal abuse thats totally different.

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    • @wankiam If it was sexual harassment, then that's a different situation entirely and I'd agree a form of intervention is needed. Simply put, that's my general take on the whole thing.

    • thats cool, i just wanted to clear that up which is why i mentioned it.

  • Slut-shaming is the practice of criticizing people, especially women and girls, who are perceived to violate expectations of behavior and appearance regarding issues related to sexuality. The term is used to reclaim the word slut and empower women and girls to have agency over their own sexuality.

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  • I judge harshly but silently. I only voice my opinion if it affects me personally.

    E. g. if a girl has a too high headcount or easy behaviour for my taste. I will then tell that this is a deal breaker for me.

    It is their problem if they take offense. I am entitled to my own preferences based on any arbitrary criteria I make up.

    Otherwose, I keep my opinion to myself, and, again, judge silently, but harshly.

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    • If you dont shame them they will not change. And sluts love to tell good girls to slut it up. Misery loves company.

    • But I don't care about them. At all.

    • As in, as long as they do not cross me, I will have a good inner laugh then move on.

      I don't give a fuck big enough to do something about them.

  • I think it's funny when manwhores have a problem if a woman wants to whore out like them. Like you can't have your cake and eat it too either you want girls to be easy to sleep with you or you want girls to not be easy. I realize as women we need to avoid manwhores they try anything to get in your pants lie, be rude, manipulate you. I honestly think if a woman or a man is willing to sleep with a stranger I wouldn't really trust them when they say "I love you" because if you slept with 100 people how am I different? how I know you not just saying that so I be 101? then you ghost me and ignore me and never speak to me again?

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    • Before anyone gives me shit I always had manwhores who never leave me alone and eventually their behaviour turns into sexual harassment and they don't stop the only time they stop when we no longer in contact so I have a right to say my opinion about manwhores base off my experiences with them.

  • I think it's dumb. If she wants some dick, let her get all the dick she can... As long as she's not getting people sick with STD's knowingly i think she can get all the dick she wants.

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  • I think it's pathetic, whether a woman or man does the shaming.
    It makes you look weak and insecure. It also reeks of jealously by men and women.

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  • If you dress like a slut and act like a slut why would you be ashamed of being called a slut?

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    • Because some people say that being a slut is shameful

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    • So I can walk around with a tattoo on my forehead and wear a male g string and put lipstick all over my arms. And you have no right to comment on it? GTFO hell yeah everyone would and should say whatever the fuck they want about it. That is how life works sweetie.

    • I feel like too many people today are shameless. Which is why they do such stupid things and expect nothing to happen.

  • I love sluts and sluts are usually smart to disregard social stigma.

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  • It's ridiculous. It's a toss up which is the bigger offenders of doing this, too. Women I noticed can be VERY critical of other women. Women they do not even know. I get the feeling when guys do it, they do it more out of some perceived short coming they have within themselves- insecurity.

    Just my thoughts.

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  • I love it. It's the only thing keeping women's ego from shooting through the ceiling.

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    • Women aren’t the only ones who get slut shamed, and it does nothing to women’s egos either

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    • @Bened you and your stupid hypocritical sexist agenda will never make any sense. Many guys are desperate fuckboys. A slut will always be able to get into a relationship quicker than a fuckboy. Most apparent sluts have with hot guys while many fuckboys just fuck anything moving. That’s disgusting and those guys should be shamed. Get over it. Sluts will always win.

    • By the way fuckboy isn’t made up at all. It’s a 100% real word that describes a man that has many sexual partners. It’s a derogatory term for a reason, it’s not attractive at all.

  • any shaming whether it is done to poke at someone's sexual preferences/history or whether it is done at looks or mental state, it is wrong and the only one's who need to be shamed are those who do it to belittle and berate others cos they get some kinds of enjoyment out of it or simply cos they got refused... which oddly enough I've seen that happen all too often where a guy/girl will shame someone cos even though they had an active sex life (whoopee do), they weren't attracted to them or something that those types did or said came across as unappealing... so automatically they are a slut or a piece of shit...

    people have more chance at getting along with someone if they didn't try and berate them

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  • Clothes... eh... it's all relative and if you deviate from social norms... its realistic to expect to be judged. E. g. ordinary western wear in an extreme Islamic state. As to whether it's a good thing... I dont want to see naked people.. so I suppose a limit must be drawn.

    As for the acting like a slut/sleeping around. It's a double standard that's been there since the beginning of time. Guys get to be guys and need "sluts" to mess around with and "good girls" to marry at the end of the day. Do I think it's right? Absolutely not. But neither is poverty, war or any of the myriad issues that seem to come with being human...

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    • Having read some of the responses... I have to add. I can understand men who think neither sex should sleep around. Thats logical. But guys who think men can and women can't... who or what do they sleep with then? 💁‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  • I have the mentality of men and women can love sex as much as the next person but i draw the proverbial line at sleeping with anything that moves

    Tbh although i would never publocally slut shame. If i feel someone needed a dose of reality to kick theor arse into gear i wouldn't be afraid to bring it up and use it

    You may call it a low blow. Thats cos it is, it would be used to snap someone out of it as it were

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  • Shaming can be good if used correctly, like in the old days...

    Nowadays people go a bit overboard...

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  • How i see it is that only people who dont command authority are slut shamed. If you can pull of that outfit, nobody will slut shame you.

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