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I have never done it and never will!
Makes no sense. I mean if a guy has lots of sexual conquests he is a stud, everyone likes him and wants to be him. I never, EVER, heard a guy get slut shamed. If anything they recive high fives. And believe me they don't care if girls call them players, because that fame actually atracts more girls.
Pass to the girls side and if she has a lot of sexual conquests she is called a slut. Girls start to outcast her, guys look at her as damaged goods and not a high five in sight.
So what if a girl wants to have fun? That does not make her lose value as a potencial date! She can a have many past partners and be an incredible and loyal girlfriend.
More often than not guys who do this actually resent her for not for them and girls feel jealous they can't do the same. So girls have your fun and to hell what everyone thinks or says!
for not going for them*
Ignore some of the resentful idiots that posted here. That is all they are resentful. Slut shaming is their way of getting back at girls for rejecting them
guys may not get shamed, but they can definetly get rejected for it, i don't like manwhores and i wouldn't date one.
@emmily2396 I have a friend that is a manwhore as you call him. And this topic came in conversation one time. He said more a less this:
- I already had girls that rejected me because they heard what I had done to a friend of her's. But I also had girls coming to me saying "I heard what you did to that girl, do it to me!".
He gets rejected for it no question, but also gets some because of it so he couldn't care less.
I don't think that pointing out a fact of a thing, no matter what the thing is, equates with "shaming." That's dumb. If a person who happens to be short is called "short," that isn't "short-shaming," whatever the fuck that would even mean. If a girl is called a slut, and she IS a slut, and she views that as a negative, she always, you know... has the option to not be a slut. That's up to her. If a statement of fact is seen as "shaming," then the problem is with the fact itself, not the utterance of it.
I have the ability to speak and write-- that's what gives me "the right." I don't even know what that's supposed to mean. By the same token I could ask you what "right" you have to be saying the things ^ you just said up there. Anyone has "the right" to discuss something. I didn't say their choices were my business, or anyone else's. ... that isn't the question you asked.
... But, as I said, I disagree that a simple statement of fact is a "negative comment." "You're a piece of shit" is a negative comment, because it's figurative-- whoever you are calling a piece of shit is not ACTUALLY a piece of shit, right? If you tell a tall person "you're tall," that's not a negative comment-- it's a simple statement of fact. I get tired of hearing the phrase "slut-shame" because it makes no sense; if a girl doesn't want to be called a slut because she doesn't think being a slut is a good thing, then she has the option to not be a slut. However, I will say that that label-- slut-- is often over-used and miscategorized, and that is what we need to be careful of.
Um, well, no... obviously physical violence isn't okay. I don't know exactly what you're referring to, but of course it's uncalled for entirely.
Okay then let me give u a scenario. A girl is walking down the street and she’s wearing a tight dress or something a bit revealing. She walks past a group of guys and hears them whispering about her, but she chooses to ignore and keep walking. They start calling after her and she ignores so they start calling her names like “slut” or “whore” and they follow her for awhile while they continue insulting her. Do u think that’s okay?
Um, no. Of course not. Of course, where would such a scenario take place? And you really think a group of *guys* would be the one doing that? No, I don't think so; it's more likely a group of girls would do that. Girls call girls sluts way more than guys do.
That was just an example, doesn’t really matter who does it or who the one getting attacked is. My point is that people should just be more respectful towards each other, because no one is really getting hurt by how some people dress or act. But of course cheating on someone or breaking up another relationship is another story..
Thanks for MHO
Slut
(Noun)
-a woman who has many casual sexual partners.
Has another definition yet it’s not-so relevant.
It’s fairly common for the subject to be correlated to fashion choices despite it having no relation to it at all. ‘Slut’ has been used quite frequently by both women and men.
People who use this term to address women/men by their clothing of choice simply lack knowledge as we evidently know it equals to the individual’s high number of sexual partners.
But does the term apply to every semi-naked woman/men?
>Not really, unless you are wary of the number of casual sexual partners the individual has had.
E. g: It would be relevant to call a prostitute a ‘slut’ as they tend to have a high number of sexual partners.
Like @s2firestar suggested:
You don’t need to say anything unless it’s affecting you personally.
Shaming others is just hate. Why waste time with something so negative if you are trying to have a good day? It's good to be discerning, but judging other people for the choices they make and looking down on them is a form of disassociation (possibly linked to superiority complex) that is not helpful or beneficial to anyone. In fact, these imperfections and challenges that we face are what expand our soul and teach us deeper lessons. If someone has something to say about what others are doing, that person talking shit is just hiding from facing themselves in order to make themselves feel better. Find compassion for them, yourself and lets all just try to move on. We can all focus on bigger issues together <3
@xccccccwc I don't know, I don't have a 3 year old son.
@xccccccwc I'm not a mom, I don't have experience on this subject. I only speak from experience, I wouldn't feel right just making assumptions.
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I had a guy tell everybody I was a whore and convince 90% of them it was true when I was a virgin. I was 22 at the time and he wanted me for himself. I'm now 33 and still a virgin but nobody thinks I'm a slut cause the guy who slandered me left the country.
People shouldn't be ashamed of their clothes (or any way they choose to express themselves) but only of their behavior...
Only actions show who someone really is and if it's bad, then shame is a proper thing
I never shamed sluts, I used them. Here's where issue en-lies with what people consider "slut-shaming". Girls who sleep around seem to deem judgement as slut-shaming, which is false on so many levels. We're all entitled to our judgement when it comes to choosing romantic partners. We also should use judgement to weed out those who are not worthy or compatible in whatever way. I slept around a ton in college, and I didn't cry when other girls saw it as a red flag and turn off. I accepted it for I accept reality, and reality says that people will judge you negatively if you sleep around. It's just the way the world works. Those girls saw me less suitable for a relationship as the chance for me to cheat is much higher tagged along with the chance of me having STD's and/or low morale. They didn't like the values that they saw I had, and therefore decided it's not a match. Oh fucking well. On to the next one. People who go out of their way to shame others in any way are typically insecure, but we need to change the definition of what actually constitutes "slut-shaming".
Glad you admitted it
Oh and you can’t use sluts especially if you’re one yourself
I think people who do it are very insecure in their own life or just egotistical. It's easier to put the focus on others by shaming them instead of dealing with their own shame or insecurities. And then you got the egotistical people that think everyone should be like them because after all, they think they are fabulous. For some reason they can't seem to understand that people are different. There are guys out there that find a sexually free woman who likes to wear tight clothes that show cleavage as beautiful, sexy, and attractive. Then there's guys that find a conservative woman as beautiful, sexy, and attractive. The point is there is plenty of what you guys like out there to where you don't have to act so butthurt and shaming that we aren't all what you are attracted too. And for the ladies I'm glad you think how you are is fabulous. You should be happy with yourself. But don't be egotistical about it to where you think every other woman should be like you to the point you shame her choices. My best advice to those who get shamed. Whoever is shaming you, you can't take them serious. They have issues that cause them to do it. So feel sorry for them that they are so closed minded and unable to see beyond themselves.
I get everyone has the right to make their own choices in life and do as they please, including sex. But at the same time I'm not a fan of sluts and if you expect to be allowed to do as you please then you must be willing to let others do as they please. Even if this means shaming people for being sluts.
For me I don't like slutty women and have no interest in dating them. So slut shaming has a purpose. It is a good way of letting me know of a woman's sexual past without wasting my time getting involved. I can know before had she has slept around and I then know not to waste my time on her. It also helps as a deterrent for younger women not to sleep around. Since they know that they will be shamed for it. Since, to me at least, it seems like there are way to many slutty women now days. It's hard to find a decent girl who hasn't given herself to even guy she had even a slight interest in. I want more decent, less slutty women. Since now it seems like those women are as about as common as seeing a mythical creature. Odds are if you meet a girl now she has a slutty background, it leads to a lot of wasted time by us guys getting to know them only to find out they are sluts and not what we want. So I'm all for slut shaming. If they can't handle being labeled as such then they should have made better decisions and thought about that before being a slut.
I think "slut shaming" is Orwellian new speak. It is not intended to describe something so much as push an ideology. The term was concocted to pander to women and use them as political pawns. It works like this. Some communist realizes that women get flack about being sluts , he also realizes it's something women complain about. He sees an opportunity to get women on his side, get them out knocking on doors, bringing his doctrine into their homes, teaching it to their children. So he takes a simple human foible rooted in nature and human evolution and makes a political issue out of it. The heroic Marxist out to change the cruel , crude and primitive world with his superior mentality and new way of living. This scoundrels most powerful weapon is false empathy, he'll go right for the biggest THOT who probably gets "slut shamed" quite a bit ( because she's got it coming). He'll tell her how unfair it all is and let her cry on his shoulder, become her best friend. Just imagine , a vile murderer capable of almost anything playing the comforter. It's an almost comical situation if it didn't actually represent predator and prey. When he's done with the dumb THOT she'll be out on the street dressed in black hurling Molotov cocktails at the police, she might even pick up a rifle and use that so sure she has become of her belief in the fundamental evil of the society she lives in.
I think it's funny when manwhores have a problem if a woman wants to whore out like them. Like you can't have your cake and eat it too either you want girls to be easy to sleep with you or you want girls to not be easy. I realize as women we need to avoid manwhores they try anything to get in your pants lie, be rude, manipulate you. I honestly think if a woman or a man is willing to sleep with a stranger I wouldn't really trust them when they say "I love you" because if you slept with 100 people how am I different? how I know you not just saying that so I be 101? then you ghost me and ignore me and never speak to me again?
Before anyone gives me shit I always had manwhores who never leave me alone and eventually their behaviour turns into sexual harassment and they don't stop the only time they stop when we no longer in contact so I have a right to say my opinion about manwhores base off my experiences with them.
any shaming whether it is done to poke at someone's sexual preferences/history or whether it is done at looks or mental state, it is wrong and the only one's who need to be shamed are those who do it to belittle and berate others cos they get some kinds of enjoyment out of it or simply cos they got refused... which oddly enough I've seen that happen all too often where a guy/girl will shame someone cos even though they had an active sex life (whoopee do), they weren't attracted to them or something that those types did or said came across as unappealing... so automatically they are a slut or a piece of shit...
people have more chance at getting along with someone if they didn't try and berate them
Clothes... eh... it's all relative and if you deviate from social norms... its realistic to expect to be judged. E. g. ordinary western wear in an extreme Islamic state. As to whether it's a good thing... I dont want to see naked people.. so I suppose a limit must be drawn.
As for the acting like a slut/sleeping around. It's a double standard that's been there since the beginning of time. Guys get to be guys and need "sluts" to mess around with and "good girls" to marry at the end of the day. Do I think it's right? Absolutely not. But neither is poverty, war or any of the myriad issues that seem to come with being human...
Having read some of the responses... I have to add. I can understand men who think neither sex should sleep around. Thats logical. But guys who think men can and women can't... who or what do they sleep with then? 💁♀️🤦♀️
Slut shaming for reasons like clothes or dating count is assumptuous, but assumptions based on observation are all people have to judge by really, if they dont know the person. That being said, slut shaming for this reason can be rude and excessive. It is jumping the gun and judging someone you don't know. So you should be careful about that, even if they do dress like a slut. Sometimes they're just teases or want attention or don't realize it, you know?
Slut shaming because a girl is a slut? Well that makes sense. If they're a slut I assume they expect to be slut shamed. That's kind of part of the territory. I mean, if you're doing something shameful, and people catch on, then I would hope you do get shamed at least a little bit. Going so far as to be violent or sexually assault the lady is just too far though. It's called free speech not free for all. Violence is never okay I that situation.
Slut shaming for getting rejected is just pathetic. And that's coming from me.
Being what people consider to be a slut isn't shameful to all anymore. I'm guessing a woman who has multiple sex partners is what most consider to be a slut. My question to you is if she's living her life, doesn't feel shame in it, and she's happy, why go out of your way to put her down just because you think she has to live by your standards? No one is making you date her or even be friends with her. I'm willing to bet you live your life doing things that not everyone agrees with. And as long as it's not hurting anyone do you feel you should be shamed for it?
@PinkMichae Actually having multiple sex partners makes monogamy less of a priority, discourages family units and encourages doing it 'for fun' and teaches kids it's okay-- which breaks down families of the next generation. Not to mention divorce rates and kids left without one or both parents because either someone didn't like being tied down to one partner, the condom broke (that happens, especially high odds the more sex you have) and they aren't ready-- or fit to be a parent. Also sexually transmitted diseases ho uppp. So. Ya.
Obviously these things aren't being rapidly effected by just one person considered to be a slut. And no I'm not going to go out of my way to shame them. But I'm not going to defend them either. And at least what I'm doing I'm actually working on and realize it's not good. So even if I were shamed for it it wouldn't do anything. Lots of sluts (as you said) literally think it's a good idea to be one. So.. at least, a little bit of shaming can remind them it's not good. Obviously harassment is bad.
Hopefully that made sense or/and I probably can off like a real jerk. But it's not a double standard. Men shouldn't do it either. So there I didn't make the double standard shaming people mad.
I'm not talking about people cheating. I'm talking about single people having sex for fun. My having sex for fun led to meeting the love of my life. And to be honest with you men had been having sex for fun for many years before women caught up. I don't agree it ruined anything. I'm sure you've made choices that people could say you're hurting the world with too. I just think you don't like that there's less women out there that you could consider ok to date because they are sluts in your eyes. It's ok to want and believe what you want. But don't push your personal choices on others. And its laughable you think shaming people is gonna be the way to persaud them to believe what you believe.
You say:
"YOU'RE A SLUT AND RUINING THE WORLD!!"
You think shaming will result:
"OMG! I'm sorry. You're so right. I better stop having casual sex. YOU SAVED ME!!
Thanks for calling me a slut."
Reality:
"You're a jerk that uses you're beliefs to excuse bad behavior toward others."
And I'm sure they would tell you 🖕.
You ain't saving the world by shaming hun.
@PinkMichae I Never said you were talking about cheating. Ya it's casual sex. And if you support casual sex then whats so important about staying monogamous? Seriously, if its casual its no more important than, like, going on a picnic. Or playing catch. So.. why should you stick to just one person? Really? Can you tell me why if sex is really just a casual event, then why stick to one person?
But besides that...
I drank underage. That's basically it. And I don't recommend it I know it can cause damage now. That's the difference you don't seem to know. It's like, two people holding guns...
EXTREMIST ANALOGY TIME~
Two people holding guns and one (A) thinks both are loaded and one (B) thinks neither are. We don't know whether either of the guns are loaded. They are standing in a crowd. Now, if person B is playing with the gun and pointing it at people, and person A runs up and slaps it away from them and yells at them to cut it out, is that okay? Say person B doesn't think so, gets mad and they get into a fight. Person A is shocked that person B does not think that their gun is loaded, but the crowd around them says person B can use their gun however they like. So person A just leaves. While, person B is shocked that person A thinks it's any of their business what person B does with an unloaded gun!
Person A is left with a smaller crowd, and refuses to fire their gun ever because they believe it is loaded. Person B stays in the big crowd and will fire the gun when they want to, because they believe it is not loaded. Neither speak to each other again and the guns are never opened and checked to see if they're loaded. Any damage caused is unknown. The end.
Now... I'm not trying to be a jerk here. I know that example is extreme but I like to think I'm person A, and Id like you to please not get offended if I tell you I think your gun is loaded and you need to be careful with it! Does that make sense? Can we talk about it? Or is it just gonna end like the analogy did?
I've had casual sex during my single years then met someone special. Been with him 4 years, have a great, connection and sex life. That's usually how it works. It's not like people who have casual sex can't go on to have a wonderful monogamous relationships. Most couples I know all had casual sex and went on to have a monogamous marriage or relationship. Most also started having sex in their teens. So by my experience I disagree. And casual sex isn't always meaningless. You end up connecting on some level and have fun together. Feel a passion. I believe sex when you're in love absolutely has more meaning and is the best.
And guess what? No ones making you live a life with casual sex. And maybe for you a life without it is best. But what works for you doesn't work for everyone. You can think your way is right and mind your own buisness when it comes to others who are perfectly happy doing things their way. The only people that should be shamed are the ones that don't do it responsibly and don't take responsibility when they were irresponsible. Now you can go on shaming people for their choices but it's not like you're teaching them anything. They aren't gonna say thank you I will wait till marriage now. They are just gonna see you as an a$$hole with a giant ego.
@PinkMichae oh my gosh will you answer these three questions please!
1: WHY is being monogamous important when sex is onlu casual-- even if the relationship is not casual but serious? I really don't understand this. If see is a casual activity when you are single, then what suddenly makes it so special when you get into a serious relationship? (Also congrats) Sex doesn't change just because of who you're doing it with.
2: I do not go around yelling 'shame on all you goddamn sluts you're going to hell and killing babies and poisoning society now thank me for opening your eyes and all that crap!!!' I'm just trying to reason with you-- can you have a discussion with me please without calling names or anything? Like, actually will you try to explain to me why casual sex is good and I try and explain why it's bad and we legitimately try to see it from that perspective to see if possibly either of us is wrong? ?
3: Do you really think that teenagers having a bunch of sex is a GOOD idea? Because at the least we can agree that different people view sex differently, and I think a text who thinks casual sex is a good idea may very likely regret it when they do get into a serious relationship, even if some don't. It's like age of consent. Because kids are kids. And personally I don't think teens should be encouraged to have tons of sex...
Omg! Calm down. Lol!
Being monogamous will always be important not because people do it out of obligation but because it feels good to be in love and commit yourself to one person.
Next casual sex doesn't kill babies and so on. Irresponsible people do. That's like saying guns kill people as if they can run around on their own shooting people. But they don't. People are responsible for killing people. So you haven't opened my eyes to a damn thing. Casual sex is good because it's still a connection that feels good. Not to mention physical sex is good for people. The endorphins lessen stress and it gets the heart rate up. Mentally it feels good. If it was such a bad thing people wouldn't enjoy it.
And last I think a teen should hold off until they are ready and responsible to have sex whether they end up doing it casually or wait to be in a relationship.
As far as calling you names I'm saying that's how people view someone who shames people. They learn nothing and will think you're an a$$hole. So I didn't directly call you a name. I just explained the reality of how people react.
No matter what it should be about love and mutual respect whether its casual or not. Our hearts should guide us. Not obligations and contracts telling us how we should be. I don't care if people want to be polyamorous. As long as people are happy is what it comes down too. I only have this one life so no one is gonna tell me I can't be happy as long as I'm not hurting anyone. And me being responsible about my choices doesn't hurt anyone. I have a teenage son. He knows I wouldn't shame him if he felt he was ready to have sex. Only if he was irresponsible about it by not using protection which I have an open dialogue with him about being responsible. And not just about wearing a condom but also having respect for girls and considering her feelings. He knows not to deceive a girl just to get laid. But at this point he feels he wants to try and wait till marriage. And I'm proud of him for that. But if he changes his mind and is responsible about it, I'm still gonna be proud of him.
@PinkMichae you're very confusing rn. You said that you should love and respect the person, and that doesn't seem very casual to me. So now what do you mean by casual? Because if you're going around seriously loving people, casually, then I think that you're gonna be emotionally drained and quite often hurt. Unless literally most people love you back. Because that's not generally something that's casual-- I think. What exactly are we talking about here anyways? Is casual sex having sex with people whenever, or having sex with your boyfriend and just having had a lot of boyfriends? Because that's a big difference. And unless boyfriend just means a guy you ate dinner with a few times I don't really think that its casual to have sex with someone that you love and respect. That just doesn't seem casual to me. I thought we were talking about something else. And why is that not a serious relationship? I mean? Seriously how is that casual? ? ?
((Also I said i do **NOT** say they go to hell and kill babies and crap. That was what I don't say. Because I know that's being a jerk. I'm trying to reason with you here not throw names around I guess it was the same as what you doing hypothetical I guess? But ya just discard that it wasn't taken the way I meant it so just ya..))
I don't condone slutting oneself out, male or female. However a study shows the more promiscuous a girl is the more likely she is to end up getting divorced within 5 years. The best investment is to find a girl who's been with 0 or 1 partner, and at a reasonable age. Truly a rarity in these days.
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Girls shouldn't be slut shamed at all anymore, they don't deserve it & unfortunately they've had way more than enough of it. While Guys are still not getting slut shamed enough, not as much as they deserve! so yeah, manwhores need to be slut shamed more, more systematically, effectively and efficiently!
you are insane
@ScottSummers having a double Standard like this makes you comment I'm insane, why won't wiseass guys like you comment on other hoes holding double standards to support slut shaming women exclusively?
I don't care about it.
Society is going to ridicule whatever doesn't conform to the behavior of the time. It is what it is. If you want to dress in a certain way, be it with exposed skin for a fur suit, doesn't matter, just be prepared for ridicule. You do you, but don't expect society to not judge you, because that's not how people operate.
I think it's narrow minded bullshit. Don't judge a book by it's cover and all that. You don't know what kind of life that person has lived just by focusing on a number, or on the shape of their shirt.
Slut shaming as reaction to rejection is just pathetic. How on earth does saying no make someone slutty?
If you don’t like sluts you don’t like good sex. All women are sluts. Let them be sexual so we can benefit from their freedom to fuck us. Instead we slut shame women and bam, it just gets harder and harder to find a girl for more and more guys. Just embrace that shit. Women are whores. It’s beautiful. You could have your own little dirty fuckin whore breaking her neck on your dick every night but you’re a little bitch who cries that women like sex because they don’t want sex with YOU. But I’m fucking these hoes. It ain’t hard. They want to fuck. They want to get dominated and held down and choked and slapped and have their pussies beat the fuck down with dick! That’s the god damn truth and how could you be upset about that? You want women to not want sex? Well how will we fuck them then? Oh I see, you want socialism sex. You want to even distribute the pussy because you can’t get it in your own.
(Not saying this to you OP)
Honestly it's hilarious like I'm a slut if I have sex with a guy but if a guy goes and sleeps with 20 different girls his pals pat him on the back. I don't care who people sleep with and they shouldn't care who I do either
I think shaming someone for it is wrong however there is nothing wrong with not wanting to date them. I personally don't consider girls who've been with more than 3 guys to be girlfriend material, that doesn't mean I shame them. I just wouldn't be in a committed relationship with them
Only problem is if you dont slut shame its only a matter of time before 99% of women are sluts. Then who you going to date? Thats why im proud to put down and shame any and all sluts. They are trash and no man will ever want that except disgusting losers they will cheat on... because they sluts. Lol
@bamesjond0069 Just because a girl had many sexual partners before doesn't mean she can't be a loving, caring and loyal girlfriend. You know that right?
@ThisIsMyOpinion It does mean that though. I know a lot of people like you and many of their girlfriends have tried to cheat on them with me. So... you can believe that if you like but I know for a fact in general its not true. Sure one may but MOST won't. And I won't put myself at risk of divorce and heart break just so a woman can "have fun".
@bamesjond0069 You are talking about a very restrict type of girls. Even among the ones that had many sexual partners in the past the rotten ones are not the majority. I stand firm that a girl that had many sexual partners before doesn't mean she can't be a loving, caring and loyal girlfriend.
I can asure you don't know guys like me that had their girlfriends trying to cheat on them with you. Because guys like me don't chose girls just for their appearance or sweet talk. We know how to pick them
@ThisIsMyOpinion You pick hos. They act like hos. lol. Promise.
@bamesjond0069 I didn't pick a girl that used to have night stands. But it wouldn't be a factor to me. If she had told me that, in the past, she had several partners I would still be with her. And I know she wouldn't cheat on me
If you're NOT a slut, then just ignore it. Say you're not a slut ONCE, walk away, & leave it at that. If you ARE a slut, then you've clearly made that life choice & are most likely not ashamed of it. If so, then why are you paying any attention to the haters?
It's very concieted and selfish to think that anyone should be allowed to act or dress however they feel like. Plus, with that kind of logic, you can't then go attack a guy for being naked infront of children. That type of contradiction in logic can only infer that one is even more selfish and concieted than whats already apparent.
If you So cheats on you I see no problem with that kind of slut shaming if you get what I mean. Now, I don't agree with interefering with people's lives as long as they don't bother me.
It hurts.
When I told one of my friends I was seeing ONE guy "fwb" he started bitching about me behind my back and another friend said mentioned it off-the-bat, without me even bringing up anything towards sex. Now a few people think I am a slut.
It is a small ridiculous trigger.
There is no shame in sex but I do not agree with sleeping with multiple people frequently.
I do not agree with a male sleeping with multiple people when he has a friends with benefits situation. It makes the female feel low and unflattering.
“Keep your head up, legs closed, eyes open.” - Tupac
unnecessary bullying... unless the woman is breaking up marriages, or relationships it is her body and her choice. If promiscuity makes her happy idc what she does.
Slut shaming is not a bad thing.. its a natural reaction of a functioning society that pushes people to act accordingly to a general cultural standard..
wish we still can have healthy societies instead of the actual mainstream bs with lack of all responsible thinking.
when short term interests beat long term interest is when human values rapidly decline.
hate it... women can do what they like with their vaginas as far as im concerned
Just because you don't want her, doesn't mean that someone else won't... why try to ruin her for someone that might value her?
My girlfriend was one of those girls who got labeled a slut. I suppose this is a good thing, but absolutely nobody wanted her, even though she is angelicly beautiful. I am so happy that I gave her a chance 😊
I think people who slut shame show more about themselves than the person they’re insulting. A person’s sex life is no one business but their own. And I agree with you, they need to be concerned more about their own lives than anyone else’s.
Bottom line I think it’s retarded, do you people care what others wear. I mean if you are one of those people with no self confidence and judge others then you need to get a life and focus on your issues you buried. I am no white knight or what terms people use these days but let me dress how they want and sleep with however many people they want just bc you can’t get any quality partners.
I feel like it’s a horrible thing to do. Regardless of wether or not you agree with someone’s actions it doesn’t give you the right to drag their personal business out in public.
It’s fucking dumb.. but the worst is when they wanna call a girl who’s not even a slut one.. for what kissing one or two guys In her life doing something dumb at a party Nd bully her.. like there prefect fucking dumb. real sluts usually don’t care about the word anyway..
Sluts should be ashamed. Male and female alike.
Don't do shameful things and then you won't have reason to feel shame. If you do shameful things than feeling shame comes with the territory.
No sympathy from me.
We are a society which means we have social norms. People get pushed to follow them which can come off as slut shaming, fat shaming and all the other things such as wearing the wrong clothes such as too formal or too casual or out of style etc.
Social norms will always be with us although the may change from time to time. Get over it, get out of society or get used to it.
It’s justified if the girl in question actually is a slut (sleeping with a ton of different people), and slightly justified when it comes to particular fashion choices (like if a girl chooses to wear shorts her ass cheeks fall out of, she may not be a slut but she certainly is slutty), but not if they date different people or if they reject a specific person.
I have every right to comment on it. Commenting on it isn’t breaking the law either. Nice try though.
It’s not for no reason. It’s for undermining the importance and the intimacy of sex or for exposing intimate parts of their bodies to the public. I can have my own life and still judge others for their lack or morals and for their poor life choices. Again, nice try.
Just because I identify someone as fitting the definition of the word “slut” doesn’t mean I scream in their faces that that’s what they are and that that’s all they’ll ever be. It doesn’t mean I can’t be nice to them and treat them the same way I treat people I have respect for.
I get slut shamed allllll the time. People are jealous that I'm attractive.
^^ see, jealousy.
I can honestly only see one way possible for me to feel about it. It's cruel, it's a messed up and the fact that it exists is indeed a sad reminder of the society we live in today!
Oh they can sleep with whomever they want. But they should know that having slept around is not a valuable or commemorable trait. the way we express that is to show disagreement with their actions. You can call it slut shaming, you can say their personal worth is devalued, you can say their supply is meeting demand and it's tanking the price of [insert person's name]. It's all the same. However, you can't police my or other's opinions of their actions, because at the end of the day whomever they decide to "spend the rest of their lives with" will need to accept the fact that they likely have a future divorce on their hands. For a guy, it's detrimental. I don't agree with a slut's actions and honestly one of the worst decisions I could make is to get married to said person. Just like single moms, once you've committed (esp at my age), you're out.
@Blightly I find that incredibly bigoted ! Nobody is forcing you to marry a person, so if its that big of a deal, don´t get involved with said kind of people in the first place!
You say "they should know that having slept around is not valued or commemorable". For you, maybe! Some people might feel different, but either way, I don´t think that gives anyone legitimacy to publicly shame other people that you have an opinion about how they have conducted their personal life! So what is someone was curious and experimented with sex in their younger days. Maybe they have gotten it out of their system and is ready to settle down. Might even see it as an advantage, a way to avoid a typical mid-life crisis affair later on, because there was no uncertainty left there.
I am not policing anything! Quite the opposite. I am just saying, that people should have the right to have sex with whoever they want WITHOUT someone is standing in a corner screaming slut or whatever. Just as I would expect people to make their own decision when it comes to marriage and decide for themselves whether they are okay with his/hers partner to be have slept with one or one hundred people! "Will have to accept the fact" you say. Well, yes. But the thing is; No one is making them!! Walk away if you don´t appreciate it!!
And of course you are just as entitled to your opinion as I am mine, I am not arguing that at all. I just wish people would spend more times looking at their own damn lives sometimes instead of being in such a hurry when it comes to others...
And one last thing; If you picture getting married to "such a person" one of the worst decisions you could imagine in your life, then you really have a lot in store for you in this life, young man! People that generalize and is prone to bigotry like that is just another type of modern day racist you might just as well say...
Funny little thing is: I have had so many different partners when I was a younger man, that you would probably condemn me to hell this very instant. I have had few genuine relationships, but all 4 of them adds up to 13-14 years. All of them with one thing in common. I have never, nor would I ever dream of being unfaithful to a partner whom I had chosen to be with. I have zero respect or tolerance for people that cheats. Even more funny thing is, I had a girlfriend that cheated on me.
So while it´s ever so easy to just point your finger at the delinquents, the pervs and promiscuous when it comes to your divorce statistics, we could try starting in a different place. Society perhaps- or the fact, that the younger generations today simply is spoiled and don´t bothers to fight things that matter. They quit when faced with tribulations. Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from... so when they get bored, they just shrug their shoulders and moves on to the next thing that may keep them entertained.
How about that for an argument? Or does everything in this society today just has to be about sex?
Oh god get off your high horse dude. I fully admitted that I don't agree with it, and won't involve myself with it and you're gonna sit here and chase after me for my opinions on how I live my life? Kinda ironic isn't it buddy.
Statistically, someone who slept around with increasing numbers of people (also helped by an earlier starting age) has a drastically less likelihood to be able to hold a stable relationship. Research shows that it is likely that they will leave their partner. Don't start assuming things like the typical optimistic idiot, look at facts and research.
You are policing my and everyone else's ability to disagree and disapprove of people who sleep around. And people do have a right to sleep around, but it's not a commemorable trait what so ever.
How is it not a horrible decision? With increasing amounts of partners, the chance of divorce rises from 25% (at 4-5) to 33% (at 10+). If you have a child with this person, that child will have a very discerning possibility of having to deal with a divorce solely due to the promiscuity of the partner. Do you want to lose half of everything you've earned in your life because you married someone who made these life choices and influenced their ability to hold a stable relationship? Do you want to drag your kid through that?
This has nothing to do with cheating. I don't know where you're going with cheating but I never said these promiscuous people are more likely to cheat. For some reason, data trends show men have the capability to hold stable relationships after having multiple partners but women have a harder time with it.
And why do you think that short attention span driven in today's youth is such a problem? You said it yourself, "Too many possibilities and too many things to chose from" its all too available. IE too many idiots are selling themselves out for easy sex. IE male and female sluts
thank you for adding another point to my argument out of your own volition
I agree, Shamers need to focus on their own lives. What someone chooses to wear or decides to do in the privacy of their own bedroom is not my concern in the slightest
@Милашка If you express that "dislike" to another person choosing to life their life as they want, or tell them how they should or shouldn't live, and imply their life or lifestyle is wrong, yes, that's shaming and not acceptable. It's really quite simple, Just focus on your own life. Practice laissez faire.
I think it's stupid, someones sexual life is no reason for shame -putting aside extremes such as criminal sex offences- I don't see a problem with not being with someone due to their number but it's no reason to shame them.
Simple
Yes they should definitely get a life. As long as they are being safe and only having sex with people that are single I could not care less. It's their life.
Women slut shame other women more than any male does.
But women who are whores should be shamed. It's a disgusting personality trait.
Men are shamed for everything. Our sexual interest, sexual fantasies, our sexual activity, etc.
So women can take responsibility for their choices, they can deal with the fallout or shame of their actions.
Slut-shaming is the practice of criticizing people, especially women and girls, who are perceived to violate expectations of behavior and appearance regarding issues related to sexuality. The term is used to reclaim the word slut and empower women and girls to have agency over their own sexuality.
It's ridiculous. It's a toss up which is the bigger offenders of doing this, too. Women I noticed can be VERY critical of other women. Women they do not even know. I get the feeling when guys do it, they do it more out of some perceived short coming they have within themselves- insecurity.
Just my thoughts.
I judge harshly but silently. I only voice my opinion if it affects me personally.
E. g. if a girl has a too high headcount or easy behaviour for my taste. I will then tell that this is a deal breaker for me.
It is their problem if they take offense. I am entitled to my own preferences based on any arbitrary criteria I make up.
Otherwose, I keep my opinion to myself, and, again, judge silently, but harshly.
If you dont shame them they will not change. And sluts love to tell good girls to slut it up. Misery loves company.
But I don't care about them. At all.
As in, as long as they do not cross me, I will have a good inner laugh then move on.
I don't give a fuck big enough to do something about them.
I was about to say i dont care because i ain't a slut and i dont slut shame other people, but i thought being a slut only meant a sleazy who sleeps with anybody and everybody... knowing people is being judged as a slut because of how they dress well eh maybe i have been slut shamed because of it but I don't know i dont really care still. As long as i ain't hurting nobody with the way i dress, i just couldnt care less of people who’d judge.
Its kinda funny thinking bout it lol.
It's disgusting and rude and mean beyond belief, Its something that needs to stop ASAP, Ladies just like to enjoy there youth while they can.
Biologically women want the best male they can get and pair bond with him. What has usually happened throughout human evolution theoretically is that those "high quality" men were less common and so they found themselves selected by many women and produce multiple offspring at once. This could be why men aren't slut shamed as often as women. I don't know
produced*
Anyway I think we should encourage monogomy and serial monogomy either. So do I like slut shaming? Not really, no, but I think it's better than the opposite; because polygamous societies do tend to be more violent. Plus what we've been doing as of late seems to brought us to where we've got more single parent American households right now two parent households. That's not good for children to say the least. So we should do a better job of encouraging commitment, seriousness, and responsibility and not merely the negative of slut shaming.
and not serial monogamy either*
I have the mentality of men and women can love sex as much as the next person but i draw the proverbial line at sleeping with anything that moves
Tbh although i would never publocally slut shame. If i feel someone needed a dose of reality to kick theor arse into gear i wouldn't be afraid to bring it up and use it
You may call it a low blow. Thats cos it is, it would be used to snap someone out of it as it were
I think it's pathetic, whether a woman or man does the shaming.
It makes you look weak and insecure. It also reeks of jealously by men and women.
It a weird problem, I guess people don't like when someone gets a lot of people crushing on them or when people just have particular tast and date a lot of guys/girls cause they wanna find the perfect match.
It happens and I'm not interested in stopping it. I don't agree or disagree with it because if someone is actually confident in their fashion choices, they wouldn't give a damn what other people think.
If a woman is promiscuous and some one says as much, I see nothing wrong with that, your suppose to judge people on behavior and its part of existing in a society.
When single moms get off fucking welfare and when sluts stop getting tax paid abortions you may have a point but until then no. Sluts are causing the government deficits. They are worthless human garbage that's why no men want to wife them up.
Girls are not geting abortions left and right you know?
Except they are. You're 18. I don't know what you get up to but the typical life of a slut is be a slut and then when you get to be in your late 20s to early 30s all a sudden you get bored of it and want a family. Youve had plenty of hot fun sexy men so you feel entitled to now marry a man like that. Except. No men like that will have you. The only men who want you are fat and broke and terrible in bed and not sexy at all. So what do you do? Annoy the shit out of us good looking successful men and berate us for not giving you a chance. But see... we already gave you a chance when you were 18 and you shot us down. Game over. Im sick of late 20s hos calling me pedophile and telling me im a wimp and getting in my face. y'all nasty asf at that point. Nobody wants your shit no more. Bye felicia. Utter worthless garbage with nothing to offer. On the other hand there are tons of girls from 18 to 24 that will date fuck or otherwise pay attention to me. So wtf do i want with some run through old lady.
Yes I’m 18. I dress however I want whether u call it slutty or modest. You can slut shame me all u want cause I couldn’t care less bout anyone’s opinion. However there are people out there who get deeply hurt by such comments so what do gain from it? No one is forcing to date any “run through old lady”.
let me guess... You have been reject a lot by girls, feel bitter now and so you say that girls in late 20's are worthless as your way to get back at them for rejecting you. Something like that?
Look dude, girls can have their fun! That does not make them lose any value as a person or a life partner.
Guys can fuck as many as they want right? Why girls can't? Let them do what they want with their lifes.
You really think they are doing anything wrong just for liking sex? As long as they are not in a relationship and they are using protection what is the problem?
@ThisIsMyOpinion Well you can marry some 30 year old who fucked 100 dudes. I think I will stick with a girl who never slutted around who is 20 instead.
My problem is these 30 year old skanks pester me all the time to date them. Then I tell them politely no and they get in my face or keep pestering me. Then I say well tbh I dont date hos or single moms and then they have a shit fit. Gtf out of my face dude is all i got to say to a ho.
1. Well I was in a relationship for 9 years. I am proud of that.
2. Men and women are judged differently. Facts. If you think its a double standard then I guess you are double standarding too when you think a man needs to protect his girlfriend. How dare you shame us. Maybe we feel like running and are scared. You know men are judged on that and women are not. Double standards exist for a reason. Simply being one doesn't mean its wrong.
I never said that a man needs to protect his girlfriend, and I don’t think I’ve shamed men or women for anything. I know that men get judged for things that women don’t get judged for, and I totally disagree with those things as well. So if you think I’m trying to attack men and defend women here, then you’re wrong.
Well I think men should be men and women should be women. I would shame a man for not protecting his girlfriend. In fact I told my buddy the other day he needs to drop some weight and go hunting with me. How he going to protect his girl if he is too overweight to run and can't shoot or get food if needed? But on the other hand many many many women expect us to do masculine things just as many many many men expect women to do feminine things. Not being a ho is one of those things that men find attractive more than almost anything else.
1. I really doubt that you have many girls after you.
2. Many girls are actually hotter in their late than early 20's. Gyms exist
3. People can be whatever they want and do whatever they want. As long as they are not hurting anyone is nothing of your business
4. You clearly have issues. Go work on them
@ThisIsMyOpinion
1. I can't help being attractive, and everything else in my life i've done mostly the right things. And if girls didn't want me so much maybe I would have to be less picky but at my age and where I am at I can afford to be as picky as I want.
2. IDGAF how hot a girl is. If you don't have morals and share my values, ya trash.
3. They can do what they want. And so can I. And I want to treat them like trash because I think they are trash. If they don't like it they shouldn't hang out with me or try to date me or anything like that at all.
4. I always am working on myself. Read every day, gym or other activity 5x a week, work to grow my business every day, practice at least one hobby every day. Anyone who does this year after year will be much more attractive for a relationship than someone who gets shitfaced and sleeps around constantly for a few years. Man or woman.
So everyone who has an opinion diferent then your's is trash? And you say you do not have issues? Right
So I guess I am trash since I don't think girls should be shamed for having one night stands.
Remembre when I said "As long as they are not hurting anyone is nothing of your business"? When you treat people like trash you are hurting them so no what you do isn't right.
Still you do you and nany girl that keeps coming for more clearly has problems too.
@ThisIsMyOpinion the thing about sluts is the more you treat them like trash the more they want you. They know they are trash and they respect a man who treats them like trash. If you date them or wife them up they think something is wrong with you for accepting them and then since they don't respect you for choosing them they will cheat on you for a dude who treats them like trash. Happens all the time. I literally have girls I've told to their face they are disgusting worthless human garbage and yet they still text me and want to hookup and stuff. This is typical slut behavior.
The sluts you talk about sound so stereotypical, the one who have so little respect for themselvess that is actually hard to believe, almost like they didn't exist...
@ThisIsMyOpinion sometimes i dont believe it either but then i get a text or something so crazy i have to show my boys and we just fucking laugh.
I don’t know because im not a girl, But i think it still happens and i can understand it would be hard for a woman to ignore it and seems like the majority of slut shaming comes from other women which is just a harsh reality.
People can do what they want, if you want to be a slut no problem, but people can criticize and you should expect it because all people are not on the same page. Society and people will not be the way you want it to be, this goes for everything.
Exactly. Best reply so far. Everyone is just whining because they wanna act how they want with no repercussions.
i don't feel about it. could care less about this feminist agenda... but yes say no to sluts. it's not that sex is wrong, it's that the girls have this kinda "i'm a slut and fuck you if you don't accept me, you're just jealous." attitude that is REALLY annoying. there's nothing inherently right or wrong about being a slut. everyone is different and wants different things, but if you're only good at casual sex and not relationships, there's something wrong with you. END OF STORY
I love it. It's the only thing keeping women's ego from shooting through the ceiling.
Women aren’t the only ones who get slut shamed, and it does nothing to women’s egos either
@Attractivegirl899 mostly women are affected, though there are attempts from the feminist movement to slutshame men, example, "fuckboy"and "player" - but these are fundamentally different things. Men DON'T like sluts - we might want to fuck them, but we don't want them in out lives, in fact we are repulsed by them. Women who call certain men "fuckboys" LONG for their company, even knowing they will be exploited.
As for whether women's ego is hurt by slutshaming, my experience tells me otherwise.
@Bened affects both sexes and it just makes women want to sleep around more lmao
@Attractivegirl899 No. it doesn't. You can't wish away facts. You call a woman a slut, and if left to think for herself, her conscience WILL get the better of her. Just like you. Let me guess. You like being a whore, don't you? Collecting STDs, sucking stranger's dicks, being a disgrace, the scum of society... That's what you are. A dirty whore.
Sluts are still able to fuck guys so why would they care? They don’t lol they are still able to get dick ya just mad you can’t be a slut
@Attractivegirl899 "Sluts are still able to fuck guys so why would they care?"
Because they will be throw away like rags by mem when their beauty fades. And then they will transform from sluts to social outcasts.
"They don’t lol they are still able to get dick ya just mad you can’t be a slut"
Men can't be sluts.
And good luck ruining your own life, riding that dick caroussel. When you hit the wall, I'll laugh so hard at you ;-(
@Benedek why are young hot men having sex with women who’s beauty has faded? Get off the crack guy. You are obviously just jealous that these women won’t fuck you, you are also jealous that women are able to have sex with multiple hot guys. Being jealous is unattractive, probably why you are single now.
@Bened yes you are also jealous at the fact that you can’t be a slut because you aren’t attractive enough. Get over it Average guy
@Attractivegirl899
"why are young hot men having sex with women who’s beauty has faded?"
They aren't, you just watch too many romcoms. Young attractive men are too busy fucking tight, young pussies.
"You are obviously just jealous that these women won’t fuck you"
Fucking lol. Nah, I have better options than some dirty whore.
"you are also jealous that women are able to have sex with multiple hot guys."
I am jealous of having the opportunity to be fucked by guys? Nah, babe, I'm heterosexual.
"Being jealous is unattractive"
No. Being a used up slut is unattractive.
"yes you are also jealous at the fact that you can’t be a slut"
I could actually be a player if I really wanted to, but I'm not about that life.
@Bened I know attractive guys aren’t yet that’s what you were trying to say which is stupid. How is being a slut unattractive when men are the main ones saying they would prefer to have sex with a slut? How is it unattractive when sluts are still able to fuck guys including guys like YOU who try to talk down on them? Pathetic jealous. You’re just not hot enough to be a slut.
@Attractivegirl899
"know attractive guys aren’t yet that’s what you were trying to say which is stupid."
What? I don't understand you. That sentence has an unfinishes predicate.
"How is being a slut unattractive when men are the main ones saying they would prefer to have sex with a slut?"
Men only want to pump and dump sluts. And that's how you have 3 abortions before the age of 30, and that's how you become a crazy cat lady. Because those men will move on, and you won't see them again. They got what they came for, and since you are a slut, you have nothing more to offer them.
Being a slut is like playing poker with only all-ins - you might take one or two rounds, but sooner or later you will find that you have lost everything.
"Pathetic jealous."
Fucking lol. The only jealous person is you becayae you've realised you're wasting away your dignity, and you'll be a used up cumrag by the time you realise maybe you should have been more austere and chaste.
"You’re just not hot enough to be a slut."
Is that supposed to be an insult or something?
@Bened your English is trash. You said hot young guys would sleep with ugly women I said they wouldn’t. “Men only want to pump and dump sluts” SLUTS ARE STILL ABLE TO FUCK GUYS. THEY DONT CARE ABOUT NEGATIVE HYPOCRITE OPINIONS AS THEY ARE STILL ABLE TO FUCK MEN. SO OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE. YOU ARE JUST JEALOUS THAT YOU can't SLEEP AROUND WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE ATTRACTIVE. Nor would sluts fuck you. You’re a joke, haha, sluts will probably still be able to have more sex than fuckboys. The jealousy is strong with you.
@Attractivegirl899
"your English is trash. You said hot young guys would sleep with ugly women I said they wouldn’t."
Actually it seems YOUR English is trash. Let me quote you (and then myself):
You: "why are young hot men having sex with women who’s beauty has faded?"
Me: "They aren't, you just watch too many romcoms. Young attractive men are too busy fucking tight, young pussies."
You: "You said hot young guys would sleep with ugly women I said they wouldn’t."
Did you get a stroke halfway through the discussion? I heard sucking dick can cause dementia...
"SLUTS ARE STILL ABLE TO FUCK GUYS. THEY DONT CARE ABOUT NEGATIVE HYPOCRITE OPINIONS AS THEY ARE STILL ABLE TO FUCK MEN."
So? I told you - you WILL care when you'll hit the wall, and you'll no longer be able to whore yourself out because you are ugly and old, and you will realise that you have no redeeming qualities. You'll be just a used up, dirty cumrag.
"SO OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE."
Thank you for agreeing with me that sluts are not attractive ;-P
*SO OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE ATTRACTIVE TO GUYS. Meant to fix that lmao and I’m not gonna argue with a hypocrite you just can’t be right. Who would still let a so called slut smashed. “How you hating from outside of the club? You can’t even get in, let go”
@Bened you can’t be a slut. Too unattractive. Unless you go buy prostitutes, which makes you more unattractive.
@Bened no you just can’t sleep around. That’s like saying women literally can’t be bitches, bitches are dogs, yet men still call women bitches. Do you see how dumb you sound by saying men can’t be sluts? Many of you are desperate sluts. Fuckboy is the exact derogatory term for males who sleep around. It’s very obvious you are jealous of women who sleep around, as you can never in your wildest dreams get as much sex from hot people as them. Get over it.
@Attractivegirl899
Slut:
1) A woman who has many casual sexual partners.
2) A woman with low standards of cleanliness.
Thus, a man can't be a slut.
"Fuckboy is the exact derogatory term for males who sleep around."
No, it is a made up term by insecure, weak willed women to blame their promiscuity on men. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, therefore men can't be sluts - having sex is an achievemnt for them, bit a weakness.
"It’s very obvious you are jealous of women who sleep around"
Why would I be jealous?
@Bened you and your stupid hypocritical sexist agenda will never make any sense. Many guys are desperate fuckboys. A slut will always be able to get into a relationship quicker than a fuckboy. Most apparent sluts have with hot guys while many fuckboys just fuck anything moving. That’s disgusting and those guys should be shamed. Get over it. Sluts will always win.
By the way fuckboy isn’t made up at all. It’s a 100% real word that describes a man that has many sexual partners. It’s a derogatory term for a reason, it’s not attractive at all.
I think it's dumb. If she wants some dick, let her get all the dick she can... As long as she's not getting people sick with STD's knowingly i think she can get all the dick she wants.
i think it's completely stupid, men love sex and don't get slut-shamed for having a shit ton of it, but when women have a ton of sex they are obviously sluts/whores xD i don't get it
I just dont get it. How someone dresses or someone elses sex life doesn't impact you so maybe mind your own business.
How i see it is that only people who dont command authority are slut shamed. If you can pull of that outfit, nobody will slut shame you.
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