My thoughts on "slut" and "cuck" shaming and slurs in general - particularly on G@G.

[CheerGirl38139]

To clarify, I don't give two shits if anyone reads this, or agrees with me on this or not. I'm simply tired of being constantly misquoted about shaming and the use of slurs. This is primarily for me to vent - and to copy and paste a link when I'm misquoted or intentionally misrepresented.

Not to mention what seems to be the intentionally obtuse mischaracterization of my thoughts about MFM vs FFM, somehow weaves its way into me being a proponent of women abusing and feminizing their husbands into submitting to being cuckolded and humiliated.

Do you know the difference between a "Stag" (husband of a "HotWife") VS a "sissy cuckold" husband?

Or how pathetic the average G@G reading comprehension is to the point that people confuse the word "vocabulary" with the word "dictionary". Really? ... smh....

Why we need to eliminate the word "slut" from our vocabulary.

I spent a ton of time on that, and it turned out to be a cluster-fuck of epic proportion...and taught me that putting a lot of thought and time into a MyTake here was a complete and utter waste of time.

The MyTake that I wrote about being from "the South" (Southern USA, "Dixie") confirmed that, as the fucktarded masses flocked to the image of the Confederate battle flag, and went on and on and on ad nauseum about shit they had no clue about.That was the last real MyTake that I wrote that I put serious time and thought into. Fuck me....

DIXIE - A Few Things You May Have Wrong About It. A Take By A Southern Girl On The American South

Perhaps I'm at least partially to blame. However, I've never been (seriously) referred to as an inarticulate person. In fact, all throughout my scholastic years, I always got A's whenever I had to write essays, stories, and even commercials for marketing classes.

A Satirical Look Into My Life: Yes, It's All About ME :)

I've been called a bitch, a racist, a sloot, a catfish, among other things I can't even remember here. Guess how many fucks I give if you think I'm one or all of those things?

Over the four years I've been on G@G, from time to time there will be some fucktard that is obsessed with trolling me, trying to discredit me, making fun of my university or even suggesting that I'm not a college graduate. I'm not sure what compels these fucktards to obsess over my G@G life - but they always give up when they finally realize that it won't work. I never have, nor will I ever, let some internet basement dweller effect my life or what I think or say. Ever.

In addition to those morons, I've had THREE real life stalkers that came from Internet communities, the last two of which was this one, G@G. Scary shit, police reports filed, so no...I won't send you pics or tell you my real name. I'm done. If that makes you think I'm fake - IDGAF. You think what you think.

Think I didn't graduate from Haslam Business College, University of Tennessee, Knoxville?

Do you think I work at McDonald's or 7/11? Yeah that makes sense.

You can try to guess which one is me, or tell yourself that none of them is me. Don't care.

Now, back to the title subject...

SLURS: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/slur

Definition of slur
a : an insulting or disparaging remark or innuendo : aspersion
b : a shaming or degrading effect : stain, stigma

WHY? Why do you feel the need?

HOW? How is it your place to use words to insult people that you're unaffected by?

WHO? Who in your life taught you that was appropriate behavior?

WHAT? What are we teaching people when we use slurs toward others?

What Are We Teaching Our Children... And Each Other... About Name Calling?

I don't care what you say, "cuck" and "slut" are SLURS - just as "n!qqer" and "F@gg0t" are. They may not be "as bad" to YOU - but to the person they're directed at - they very well may feel just as bad. And for what? What did this person do to YOU to give you the "right" to do that to them?

And don't waste your time ASS-uming that I'm in favor of "safe spaces" or any similar politically correct mamby-pamby BULLSHIT....I'm not. Life is hard, put on a helmet. Yet, there's still just no logical reason to take it upon yourself to try to shame other people for what they choose to wear, or what they do in the privacy of their bedroom.

Why is it usually the same men that have FFM threesome on their fantasy or bucket list are the same ones to scream "CUCK" to some guy that is OK with doing a MFM with his wife and another dude?

Duplicitous Much?

Contrary to what I've been misrepresented here on G@G as being "into" - I am NOT turned on by a man that gets off having his wife humiliate him by fucking other men, or him licking their sperm out of her vag or whatever. That straight up grosses me out!

I believe men should be masculine ("manly"), not feminine ("sissy") guys.

And to that end, if a masculine husband wants his (willing) wife to blow the dust off of his Army buddy's balls...then she should. He's not being a "sissy" - albeit, technically a "cuckold". He's not being humiliated. He's not licking up the aftermath. He's watching her perform for him. To some degree, she is the one being used, not her husband. FFM is okay for a large percentage of you, but somehow (hetero) MFM is the end of the world and might to you into "a gay".

For all of you misinformed, here's the definition of "cuckold":

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cuckold

Definition of cuckold
: a man whose wife is unfaithful
—cuckold
transitive verb

It's pretty basic. ANY man, who's wife EVER cheated on him (without permission mind you) IS IN FACT, a "cuckold". So any of your "bros" that you pump iron with at the gym, who've had a wife that cheated on him even once...you need to call your innocent friend "a cuck". Otherwise, you don't understand the word.

This one is the best ever, "slut": https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/slut

Definition of slut
:disparaging + offensive : a promiscuous woman : a woman who has many sexual partners

How many is "many" anyway? And who the hell made it YOUR business?

OR....you could just be a decent human being that minds your own business, and not use slurs towards other humans.

It is my sincere hope, that any of you that use the slurs "slut" and "cuck" to belittle people that you don't understand, that you yourself become a "cuck" when your "slut" significant other cheats on your insecure, insensitive, condescending, judgmental ass.

tl;dr?

Don't care. I wrote it for ME.

From now on, every time some fucktard misquotes me about "sluts" or "cucks" - this will be my copy/paste reply.

[Philyouup]

This is great! I have been called gay for certain proclivities i may have, and people have no clue what they are talking about when they start with the attacks! Particularly since I am not gay. Your post addresses the troller pretty well. Not that these knuckle draggers actually affect me, I don't give a fuck. Also, your right, its a tough world, and you have to have some skin in order to live through it.
As always, you put an awful lot of thought into your posts, and its well appreciated!

[CheerGirl38139]

thank you. Still wondering how long it takes for G@G to upload the images I posted. The cover photo shows up in my profile page.

[Philyouup]

Generally it is immediate, or somewhat so.. hmmm

[CheerGirl38139]

thats what I was wondering.

[Philyouup]

why an edit feature would be nice :)

[Philyouup]

Thanks for the MHO, if it was you that in fact choose me..:)

[CheerGirl38139]

I rarely choose MHO's, but on this one I did. You're welcome. :)

[SketchForger]

I never really understood why people needed to call someone a cuck, or even a slut for that matter.

It doesn't even feel good to say, nor does it make me feel better than anyone.

G@G is a cesspool of the most insecure types of people, myself included, so it's bound to have those who's egos are so fragile that they need to put others down.

[CheerGirl38139]

"Slut" was en vogue when I first joined here. It's still common of course but it was nonstop back then.

For the last few months..."cuck" has been the slur of choice.

I think it's a case of monkey see, monkey do... and it begins with a handful of users that post often.

[goaded]

The closest thing to proof that we didn't evolve from monkeys; some people are still monkeys! (It's just not literal poop they throw any more.)

[SarahsSummer]

Good stuff!. But are you saying "dictionary" and "vocabulary" are NOT the same thing?

[CheerGirl38139]

Yes. I am.

[SarahsSummer]

Hmm, you are always so enlightening.
CheerGirl for President!!
<3 U

[SarahsSummer]

I saw an interesting story in the news this morning about Rachel Hundley. A Sonoma County councilwoman, who was being internet s! ut shamed to drop out of the election race. Her description of the term when asked went as follows
Slut shaming
“An attempt to use women’s sexuality against them and turning it into something negative based solely on the thought that it should be shameful.”

[CheerGirl38139]

Perfect

[SarahsSummer]

Thanks for the MHO💟

[Elliegirl]

So glad you posted this! Way to go!

[CheerGirl38139]

thanks!

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never chased after a woman and told her that I think she is a slut. If she wants to conduct herself that way, she doesn't need my approval pr permission. She won't hear my opinion unless she specifically asks for it. But. . . I will certainly form opinions and take those into account in my interactions with her. I will also form opinions regarding male sluts and keep them private.

I am a "live and let live" guy but that doesn't mean that I must accept and endorse others who live their lives contrary to the standards that I have for myself. I simply make my decisions and exclude those of whom I disapprove, again without offering explanations unless requested.

The man who marries you will be extremely lucky but I will still also pray for him, as you are one of the most strong willed women I have ever encountered! :) :) :)

[CheerGirl38139]

and why does a "male slut" need a gender qualifier?

[OlderAndWiser]

I discussed female sluts earlier in the paragraph and I wanted to make it clear that I also include guys within that label.

[CheerGirl38139]

no... to be fair... you mentioned a woman as "a slut" without a gender qualifier.

You added "male" when referring to guys/men.

So why not take the word out of your PERSONAL VOCABULARY (not the English language).

If you think a PERSON (male or female) is overly promiscuous, and you don't care for that, then think it without the slurs or gender qualifiers.

Just sayin'. :)

As I type this on my break at 7/11.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, I see the distinction you are making. Yes, I would not refer to women as "sluts" and men as "male sluts." That is not what I was trying to suggest with that choice of words. Sluts are sluts.

[CheerGirl38139]

LOL ok grandpa. Keep your slur.

You've had it for too long to let go of it. :)

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think it's a slur if it is a purely private opinion.

There is also a distinction between judging people on the basis of characteristics over which they have no control - like national origin - and judging people on the basis of their behavior which they can control.

[CheerGirl38139]

I will agree with you to a point.

Maybe you can't call racial slurs "slurs" either - if they don't come out of your mouth or off of your keyboard.

[CheerGirl38139]

this editorial looks ridiculous without the photos.

[OlderAndWiser]

You had photos in this that did not post when you uploaded it? I've done myTakes with 10 pictures; I don't get why that happened to you.

[CheerGirl38139]

you're an editor.

Yours go up without being checked by admins.

[CheerGirl38139]

Funny enough, there's a graduation pic with me in it. You'll appreciate it if they ever upload it.

[CheerGirl38139]

Apparently there was a glitch.

Thanks to @xHoneyxBeex for getting it fixed for me. 👏👏👍👍

[OlderAndWiser]

So which one are you in the graduation picture?

[CheerGirl38139]

Pffft

[OlderAndWiser]

Obviously not one of the blondes. Can I have the audience vote on the choices?

[CheerGirl38139]

Let's not feed my troll club.👌

But one of four non-blondes is correct.

I have a lot of blinde I'm my hair at the moment. I got bored with my natural color 😎

[PT1911]

I had to. go and make sure that I was not of the Ass-using asses on your take about the south. Turns out you wrote after i took a hiatus. Glad to be back.

You've certainly been busy. The term cuck became. popular after somebody on 4chan posted on a thread "Dont insult me or my wife's son ever again!". Being the trolls that anons on 4chan are, they assumed he got off to his wife fucking other dudes, and proceeded to happily raise the affair baby. So yes, trolls used it as an insult in online forums. This then progressed to using it as a political insult as well. (Calling liberal men "cucks" for their apparantly lack of manliness)

Me, personally, real men dont kink shame, but Goddman there is a lot of fucked up. shit out there that should seriously call into question a person's sexual and. mental well being. Ala what you mentioned, just... ew. As for the FFM, I couldn't do it... because then I got two emotionally pissed off women to deal with instead of one! Loljk. But I hope you catch my drift

Slurs are slurs. I just kindly tell everyone I meet to. fuck off. And for some reason, I feel compared to share the following quote from our SECDEF.

Also, hope you grabbed popcorn. I did, because the ensuing shitshow from the can of worms you just opened with this is going to be golden.

And yes I read the fine print: you did it for yourself:)

[CheerGirl38139]

Pfft.

I don't spend much time on G@G "shit shows" like I did in my early days.

I just want G@G to upload my fucking pics. :)

[PT1911]

I know right? All we want is our funny pics. At least they uploaded this one

[ShortCircuit]

You've made it abundantly clear that you believe using offensive language is ethically wrong, and on that, I agree with you wholeheartedly. However, there are a few things that need to be clarified...

Do you believe offensive language should be punishable under the law? If yes, you are simply wrong and we can begin that debate if you please. If no, there ceases to be much utility in discussing offensive language, beyond discouraging it in hopes that whatever viewers you manage to reach change their behavior of their own free will.

Personally, I quite simply could not care less about the dynamics of another couple's relationship. However, hell will freeze over before I will stand for a third party (male or female) being introduced to my romantic relationship, and I reserve the right to terminate said relationship at the mere suggestion of such a thing. Do you or do you not defend my right to do so?

I suspect that you neither want to make offensive language illegal nor infringe on anyone's rights to decline threesomes, however, I thought it would benefit you to officially answer those questions so as to avoid unnecessary arguments.

[CheerGirl38139]

Of course I don't think use of language should be legislated.

There have often been users here that suggested that making cheating on your spouse a criminal offense.

We have enough laws. What we lack, is more people treating others decently.

[Trollfather]

You're not going to force people to act nice. It's just not going to happen. They will either grow spiritually and act nice on their own or they will not.

[CheerGirl38139]

@Trollfather you're right. And that starts with education.

I never understand how people like you connect the dots that when someone like me writes about their thoughts on such things... that we are trying to "force" people to anything.

No... just asking them to reconsider their behavior ✌

[matchrestore]

I bet it felt good to get all of that off your chest. I agree with everything you're saying here. I don't insult people unless what they're doing is hurting someone else, emotionally or physically, so in essence the people who use those slurs, who are ignorant, insensitive, judgmental, closed-minded assholes who could use a little enlightenment. You and I don't agree on everything, but we don't slur each other when we don't. Imagine that!

[CheerGirl38139]

bravo.

[matchrestore]

Fuck that was a run-on sentence. Sorry about that.

[CheerGirl38139]

I'm too tired to be a grammar nazi tonight. :)

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Regarding the word "slut", that term is dying off, but unfortunately, it has been replaced by "hoe", and now the newest term (past two years, or so)-THOT.

I've never heard "Cuck" outside of the internet. I only see that word on this website, and Redd. com.

I know I've mentioned this to you before, but I love eastern Tennessee in general, and I've been on the University of Tennessee-Knoxville campus. I'll take a guess, and assume you're the second girl from the left.

Great MyTake.

[CheerGirl38139]

Thanks

[CheerGirl38139]

FYI... I'm not blonde. 😎

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Yet, that cartoon profile photo has a dirty BLONDE girl in it.

Well, then I'll change my guess to the girl furthest on the right.

[CheerGirl38139]

You should click on the profile image sometime...

[QueenofCups]

I do not do threesomes, but I firmly support those who do.

I hate slurs of any kind.

[CheerGirl38139]

thanks.

Damn I had like 5 pictures included, they're not showing up. :(

[laurieluvsit]

You got my up vote Ms CG, your the best! ... in more ways than one! ... lol

[wingattebaby16]

wow...

and i always love your posts... pithy and often misleading unless you actually read it...

[CheerGirl38139]

Lol thanks

[wingattebaby16]

the beaver one was one of my favorites!!

[Logorithim]

Well, actual cucks are pathetic, so I don't see why they should be spared some criticism (for their own good).

[CheerGirl38139]

Thanks. You're blocked. 👋

[BobboTheSnake]

"Cuck" is a general purpose insult that is rarely actually directed at men whose wives have cheated on them, just like how "bastard" is rarely actually used to insult an illegitimate.

[CheerGirl38139]

Welcome to GaG for your fill of the abnormal ✌

[BobboTheSnake]

huh?

I call people "cuck" all the time, and it never has anything to do with being cheated on.

It's just a way to insult a man who you view as weak and wimpy, and one of the few ways to accomplish that that isn't homophobic.

[CheerGirl38139]

Omg FFS. That's like a white person calling another white person the N word and thinking it's ok because the person they said it to isn't black.

Please stop posting. 👌

[BobboTheSnake]

Because cuckolds were definitely enslaved for 250 years and then segregated for another 100.

Nice try.

[CheerGirl38139]

Last time I'm gonna ask. Please stop.

Some GaG takes and questionsare posted for purposes of starting debate. This one clearly was not one of them.

It's simply about people thinking it's OK to hurl slurs at others. Pick a slur. Any slur. Call a homosexual person a f@gg@t. Whatever...

I'm not "pc" "safe place" person. But slurs are hurtful and unnecessary... and serve no useful purpose.

A man who wants his wife to fuck other men is not by definition "wimpy". So you calling someone a "cuck" meaning wimpy... is wrong.

Anyway. That's it. Thanks for stopping by. 👋

[BobboTheSnake]

Don't post things if you don't want people to call you out on your bullshit.

Cuck is an insult, not a slur.

Cuckolds are not a marginalized group in our society, thus it's impossible for there to be true slurs against him.

For the same reason "golden showers" isn't a slur against urine fetishists.

[CheerGirl38139]

I can post whatever I want bro. So can you. Only now you do it elsewhere.

And it's not "blullshit".

This was a speech, a rant, and a tool. for me to copy and paste into replies to people that think calling people "cuck" and "slut" is ok.

It was never intended to debate back and forth ad nauseum with fucktards.

See ya. 👋

[Charlotte_May]

"scholastic years"

damn son you from the 13th century?

[CheerGirl38139]

Youd rather me say what?

"Years in school"?

I guess that would help seeing as most people on GaG read at about a 3rd grade level. 👍

[Charlotte_May]

I don't know business schools are shit anyway. Teach you how to leech off' blue collar workers' money. I don't know about that.

[CheerGirl38139]

You do realize that your profile image is a still from a porn video... right?

"Business schools are shit".

I suppose you are a nuclear physicist... 👌

[CheerGirl38139]

Pfft.

👋

[cjs31380]

Do you think cuckolding will ever be considered a normal acceptable thing?

[CheerGirl38139]

Nope. Nor will swinging or FFM threesomes.

Most people will never consider those things "acceptable" and they shouldn't have to.

[cjs31380]

No but the people who were into that stuff shouldn't have to be shamed for it should they?

[CheerGirl38139]

I don't care for any type of shaming. It serves no useful purpose.

If a certain behavior is criminal... we already have punishment for that.

If it's not... we should all mind our own fucking business.

Personally, I don't understand same sex attraction or transgender people. But what they do is none of my damn business. ✌

[cjs31380]

Exactly I don't understand a lot of that stuff either but don't judge people who do

[cjs31380]

I mean I've been to a lot of weird things that other people don't get

[GoldCobra]

Nice take. Did you actually file a police report on people here? 😱

[CheerGirl38139]

two.

[CheerGirl38139]

NOT for cyber stalking, physically stalking in REAL LIFE

[SEXslave1]

This is really dramatic and complicated for G@G! Hahahahahahaha:)!

[Trollfather]

The 1st Amendment gives me the right to insult you. Sorry.

If you don't like it, block me or ignore me.

[CheerGirl38139]

Actually, the First Ammendment has absolutely nothing to do with that.

Secondly, just because you believe you have a "right" to do or say something... doesn't make it RIGHT to do so.

But there are always people online that repeat this same lame mantra... so there is no point in going over and over it. ✌

[Trollfather]

Oh yeah? Do explain the 1st Amendment to me. Please.

It does guarantee that I can say whatever I want, whether you like it or not. Who gets to decide what's right or not?

[CheerGirl38139]

Your guarantee is wrong. Sorry.

https://youtu.be/BapzjxDfXBU

As far as saying what you want when you want to whom you want... try yelling fire on an airplane and see what happens.

Or a person coming up to your mom in a public place and screaming at her that she's a bleep bleep bleep whore etc.

Even this PRIVATELY OWNED website has RULES about what you can and can't post. The First Ammendment is all about "Congress shall male no law..."

It never says that you as an individual can say what you 2amt when you want to whom you want. Someti med there are rules about those things (racial slurs on school for instance) and sometimes they can be a criminal offense... depending on what you say where or to whom.

I'm not gonna waste any more time arguing with you about this. People are so ignorant.

Educate yourself.

[CheerGirl38139]

Make* no law.

And because I know you're going to forgo watching the video and come back with more arguments based on your personal misunderstanding of the First Ammendment... yes. I think I'll black you to avoid the aggravation. 😎

[BillieJean1070]

You go gurl

[CheerGirl38139]

thank you.

and special thanks to my fan club member for the down vote. ;)

I love you too cupcake.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

FUCK YO THOUGHTS!!!

[CheerGirl38139]

😘😘
🍆

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take

[CheerGirl38139]

Thanks

[Kelly6]

I’m cuckquean and I’m not shamed of myself

[Anon_af]

Nice mytake

[CheerGirl38139]

Thank you

[Anon_af]

You’re most welcome 😊