Do you think slut shaming is okay?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Going to be honest, I don't think being a slut is a good thing and a lot of societal problems today are a result of hook up culture. There is a huge percentage of single motherhood. It's not good for kids to grow up without a father, and I know the first instinct especially for women, is to blame men for not saying with her to raise the child, but you CAN'T trap a man into staying with you just because you had sex and a baby was conceived! You just can't do it.

You NEED to build a relationship first. You need commitment. You need to choose a GOOD, responsible man. Not these deadbeat manwhore, stoner dudes that are in the local ghetto clubs and bars every weekend. So what if they're an easy lay? Short term boyfriend material? Easy to blame for a failed relationship? Ditch that mindset. Blame yourself for your OWN foolish decisions, be HONEST with yourself!

THINK. LONG. TERM. ALWAYS think long term! Find a good man, abstain from sex, UNTIL you know it is right! I know it isn't the popular thing these days, but there has been a huge social movement to encourage "feel good behavior" and "instant gratification" and "female empowerment, we're just like men!" and that life is always supposed to be "fun." YOLO right? No. Do the right thing. DO what's best. Stand up for what's best.

Honestly, I think most people are disgusting, because of how trashy, illogical and impulsive they are or can be, and how quick they are to blame others and not themselves. They seemingly have no conscience or self awareness until it's too late, when they dig themselves into a hole that they can't get out of, and they realize that no one is there for them.

It's so hard to find a respectable, lady-like girl in these times. Most girls are out playing the field just like men, which to clarify, isn't right for men either. We NEED to be better than this!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is very ok

ertyuiopa · Accepted Answer

I get a kick out of the guy on this site that posted about a million slut-shaming posts.
But then he'll sheepishly admit to being on Tinder, and asks for advice on how to get a slut! lol
I seriously think that 90% of slut-shaming, is about jealousy. Women are terrified that the sluts will steal their men, and men are just pissed that they can't get one! lol

DublinRollerGirl · Accepted Answer

If sluts are out there passing around STD's with each other, and therefore to innocent others they may fuck, why shouldn't they be shamed? Wouldn't you shame some person passing around anthrax or something. There are also some old cases where some people with Aids infected others purposely for some reason. People shame everything except for casual sex by sluts.

GirlfromSweden97 · Accepted Answer

It won't give the expected affect. The person you are slutshanibg will want to do it even more. So its better to explain it i n a better way

Cammy137 · Answer

I think it's perfectly acceptable to shame certain behaviours and attitudes. Let me explain what I mean by that: I have nothing wrong with people being promiscuous. Provided everything is consensual, why should any of us have any sort of say in what people do in the bedroom?
That being said, where I'm from we used the term slut not so much as a label for promiscuous people but rather because of their actions that led to such behaviour. For example, someone who sleeps with their friends partner might get called a slut or someone who knowingly spreads an STD would certainly get called a slut.
So those sort of behaviours should definitely be shamed but when someone is choosing to sleep with people for their own pleasure, what is wrong with that? Provided they take the necessary safety precautions, I certainly see no problem with it.

BlueCoyote · Answer

No, I don't. I generally don't think it's okay to shame people for being promiscuous. I hate this arrogant, judgmental attitude some people display. You can prefer living monogamously for your entire life or you can even live as a nun, that's totally cool. But you shouldn't go around being a total asshole towards other people just because they chose to live their life differently from what you consider to be "proper" and "righteous".

* By "you" I am referring to a generic you here, not you-the-asker.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Everyone has a different definition for the operative term. What is your definition of slut shaming? (Hint; I don't need for you to define the word "slut.")

MlleCake · Answer

No. It's terrible.

Shane_B · Answer

It's not ok, or something to be proud of either.

Sluts have no morals, or respect for their body and let any guy get in bed with them.

Yes, sex is normal, and ok to have sexual diseres and needs, but being a slut isn't normal, the same can be said for fuck boys ina way...

They may as well be pornstars and get paid for it, then them being every guys cum/ spunk bucket... And end up with STD's, but they cry about it when they find out they catched something off someone from having lots of unprotected sex...

Average_but_not_Joe · Answer

I'm a conservative guy and I believe that people should only have sex after marriage.

That being said, there is no reason to go around shaming people for such behavior. If you want to have a debate about that topic, keep it to the debate room. If you want to have a discussion on it, keep it private.

Really, what's the goal behind the act of shaming people for stuff like this? It's not like people will change if you embarrass or berate them in public for it. Since that's not the case, then really, the only possible reason for why people shame others is to make themselves feel better.

It's not about helping the other person, it's about putting them down and making yourself feel superior.

And that? That's just wrong

Ayer93 · Answer

I'm definitely no feminist guy. I think that girls have it really good nowadays and they should not keep pushing for more. But slut shaming I find, is only for insecure, narrow minded guys that can't get girls themselves. So it's fine if guys go around fucking whoever and no one says anything about it, but as soon as a girl has sex more than a few times, she's a slut? That's ridiculous. Let people live their life how they want to. However I still believe that girls that sleep with a different guy every week or 2 are definitely sluts and that's dirty. What matters most when it comes to finding a relationship is similar experience otherwise it creates a superiority/inferiority gap that can become toxic. That's not to say it can't work, but it does happen a lot where it doesn't because that fact gets between them.

taleswapper · Answer

No. Shaming someone else is an exercise in hubris. It's not as if the shamer doesn't have sins of their own. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." and "Judge not, lest you yourself be judged." apply.

The whole idea of condemning someone for their sexuality is pointless, anyway. Unless they're going to have sex with you specifically, it's of no importance. If someone is so small that the only way they can lift themselves up is by putting someone else down, then they're no one important. Whenever I see a shamer, I look away, disgusted and disheartened by their pettiness. It puts no coin in their pocket, or food on their table.

chriscdi · Answer

The thing with many people now a days is that they take everything the wrong way, try taking it as constructive criticism, the reason many people do it is probably cause of the way you are acting, for example if a female has a lot of sexual experience and very low to no relationships, then of course you would look like a slut to many people, if you are being a slut sometimes the slut shaming opens eyes, its what people try to do when they call sluts out, there intentions aren't always to hurt your feelings but more to tell you that you are amking yourself look bad, I don't know if you know but sluts aren't relationship material so a guy seeking for a wife won't ever go for a slut cause they aren't woman in our eyes, they aren't wify material lets just say that, its why sluts are hated so much, they try and get things their way using their body or looks as a key

JMghow · Answer

Yup. Sluts are women who have lots of sexual partners, which means an increased chance of catching an STD and more sexual partners to pass that STD onto once they have caught one (or more, as the case may be). Spreading diseases in order to achieve hedonistic gratification is inherently shameful, and I can blame no one for avoiding such individuals.

normalice · Answer

Na. It's just jealousy - girls slut shame because they are jealous of the girl getting all the attention, and guys slut shame because they are jealous of the guys who get to have her.

In general, jealous/spiteful behavior isn't okay, no.

But in reality, actual sluts don't get slut shamed very often. It's usually girls who are not sluts that get shamed for it. Then it's not only an issue of jealousy, but also deceit. That's doubly not okay.

sawno · Answer

No, why would i be ok with shaming of any kind? People need to be allowed to be themselves. Treating someone different because of there sexual behavior should be fine where its relevant, you can for example refuse a relationship because of a past but purely openly shaming someone isn't morally ok by any means.

That said, people should have the liberty to legally do it if they desire. But we should condemn people for shaming others.

CaptRob · Answer

Eh... we have every right to judge people for how they act and the choices they make. That doesn't make their opinions and choices any more or less valid, just that everybody has the right to their own opinions.

Personally, I don't care how people dress. I don't care if people are promiscuous... I just won't date somebody who is... I'll sleep with them, but never date them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes 100%.
Females shame males all the time for endless reasons.
A female can call a male a barrage of names simply for showing interest in her. (Pig, scum, prick, asshole, pervert, creep, dick, gross, etc.)

If a female is a skank, she gets called a slut. If she doesn't like it, she can stop being a skank.

*FYI: Generally females call other females slut more than males call females sluts.

Poormanscomedian · Answer

Yes, if a person is a slut , she is a slut. Like the host on JTV that did porn. She is a slut. If you do two guys at the same time , you are a slut. If you do more than three guys in a calendar year , you are a slut. If you try to take a guy away from married couple or relationship, you are a slut. But you could also be a sexual addict. Sexual addict = sluts

PaeganGod · Answer

Yes. Sluts should be shamed for giving up their dignity for a few minutes pleasure

giovannimontolivo · Answer

I personally wouldn't go up to someone who is a slut and start criticizing them. I do not care enough about them and they can do whatever they want. However, I will definitely form a negative judgment about their promiscuity in my head and I would never date them or hook up with them.

ZestyWatermelon · Answer

Most definitely not. Whether you think promiscuity a good or bad thing is irrelevant, so stfu and let people live their lives.

nishasingh1234 · Answer

It's Not okay under any circumstances. A girl has all rights to sleep with anyone she wants under local law. People who shame her should be punished.

WhitePanther88 · Answer

Unecessary as being a slut is already shameful.

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