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Why is it seen as shallow to not want to date someone who's shorter than you? (Page 2)
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All these guys getting offended must be the short ones😂 And I feel the same, not so much as it's traditional but more because if I was taller it would make me feel like I was the 'man' in the relationship. I don't want to be a protector, I want to be protected if that makes sense. Having him shorter than me would really screw up my sense of who is more dominant
Just because a woman is taller doesn't mean she is physically stronger than him.
I never said that did I? I just said I don't like being the more dominant one and that's what it feels like if I'm taller than someone.
I guess I should have used the word dominant then to make my point.
it's as shallow as not wanting to date someone with small breasts.
those are the primary markers of fertility (among other things) and if you don't have those, people will feel less of an urge to procreate with you. this primal biology but since many people feel like we're so much better as animals (which we aren't), they assume we should be "better than that" and define such behavior as "low".
Never seen a male dog check out his females dogs tits to make puppies. Or cats or cows. Society has made breasts a sexual thing and not just a part of animal instinct to feed a baby. Wowzers.
@Thedivinechic a male dog doesn't check out a female dogs tits, because female dogs pretty much as any other species doesn't grow excessive fatty tissue in the chest to have big tits in order to attract males. i'm no expert on dogs but dogs will have other fertility markers that they look for, as they differ from species to species for dogs i could imagine it would be more of a smell thing than a "looks" thing. for humans, it is the tits, for some birds, it's the size of their cockscomb or the redishness of their belly,, so:
Tl;dr: it's different markers for every species but the mechanism is still the same.
in fact it is by comparison that we know there is no biological reasons for humans having "tits" other than it being an attractiveness marker, cause functionally, even the smallest breast will easily feed a baby.
I know but imagine cats and dogs checking out boobies to mate? I guess they are smarter than us lol
@Thedivinechic they are indeed smarter than us in a way. they go for their species versions of "tits, ass, hight" or whatever and they don't act like they're better xD they just go for it, knowing who they are, not living in denial just to feel sophisticated.
The female downvotes tell it all. They want to have their cake and eat it too
@jessture well guys are the same sometimes. they claim not to be superficial xD... yeah right.
@jessture it's funny actually, cause i got into a drunk argument with a girl, cause i said something like "ugh why are all chicks on tinder fat and ugly except the fake ones?" which got her super triggered, calling me superficial asshole... but when i asked how it comes that her boyfriend wasn't fat and ugly, she didn't find a good answer to that xD
There's a youtube video other there where they interview a ton of women and ask what they felt about men selecting women based on breast and butt size. Cue the whining, complaining, etc. They then asked the same women if height is important to them and they all gleefully said yes, the guy has to be taller.
Best part is when the interviewer ask why women can have preferences but not men and they all just sit there in stunned silence, I laughed so hard
Meow. Woof. Moo lol
@jessture people are oftenoblivious to their own flaws. it doesn't even occur to them that it's a sexual preference, cause they don't want it to be, cause that would make them double standarted about attacking men for that reason xD
@Thedivinechic you got it xD
You can always get your boobs done tho
@Thedivinechic yes you can and now you know why women do it and men don't like it right?
I don't really see it as shallow, but it does hurt to be rejected because of something that a man can't do anything about. Same if it were a woman and a guy says I only date white girls or I only date petite girls or she has to have big boobs or it's a deal breaker. Those are things a girl has no control over and it hurts because it doesn't matter how good you are, just because of one of those things, you are rejected.
Actually an girl's boobs size can changed sometimes, but in many cases it stay the same.
I don't think that's shallow at all. It's a personal preference and there's nothing wrong with that. It looks odd if a guy is shorter than a girl. Majority of the ones who complain about a PREFERENCE are probably just short guys themselves who are insecure about it
It is shallow but so is the initial stages of the dating process. There's nothing wrong with it. It is wha tit is.
Thing is though there is a difference between preferences and standards and for a lot of women their preferences = their standards. If one box is unchecked then the guy is no good. If a woman is like this she's is only hurting herself and undermining her own happiness in the end.
The perfect mate doesn't exist and they should keep true core standards (important things) while compromising a bit on preferences. Though if a woman doesn't men should respect that and honestly not care. Mainly because she's living the life she wants and whether or not it works out for her and makes her happy or makes her miserable it's really nobody else's concern.
So full disclosure : I am 6 ft and have a shorter girlfriend.
However, I think considering height is stupid since it is completely about how you are seen in public and in photographs. These should be at best peripheral concerns, compared to mutual attraction and compatabity.
It's pretty hard for a guy to be shorter than me, being 5'2. That said, even being the same height as me or one or two inches taller is kind of a turn off. I wouldn't want to date them unless they really impressed me in some way. Maybe it is shallow, but attraction is attraction.
At least you are honest about it, and ya generally a guy should be taller than the girl. :)
Thats why you are alone
@milantb1 lol, not really. I'm guessing my message offended you because you're short? :P
Im 6ft4 it offended me because who the hell do you think you are. At 5ft2 i know you aren't that good looking so why do you think you deserve brad pitt? Pretty sure brad pitt wants a 5ft9 woman not some half dwarf
Loved the way you tried mocking my height when you yourself are pretty much a legal midget
@milantb1 I'm proud to be a midget! Lol. And you really don't need to take it so personally, it was t directed at you.
Ok be proud to be a midget but dont expect any tall guys to look at you lower your standards to your level. I dont want to be walking around with someone half my size
@milantb1 Lol, the funny thing is you think I actually would care what a stranger on the internet thinks. Please get a life.
It is shallow because there is almost nothing you can do about your height, no workout, no food, not even drugs.
Almost all other factors are controllable to an extent, height on the other hand can't. Even gender can be solved with a sex change/hormone procedure.
That being said, nothing wrong with having a preference, but it is unmistakably, shallow as a street puddle.
I'm so sad:( I like taller girls, taller girls are awsome. Why can't you share your awsomeness with someone who'se... shall we say... height challenged? What if he loved you that much more to make up for it, or even better?:) What if he valued you more, would it change you're impression?
It is a preference. I'm calling this heightism until you change your mind...;)
She didn't said that she tall, and she likely don't want a guy who looks weaker than her.
@Berethor I'm being a little funny in writing, hope she got that, sometims doesn't come across. Some short guys cast a strong power image (Napoleon?). It's her preference for whatever her reasons:) e. g. I had a girl 5'8, with heels whatever... and she didn't go for me because I'm shorter a notch. I was bummed! that's life...
I don't know why people are so bent out of shape about height preferences being shallow, because a face's attractiveness or someone's built (not weight) are equally shallow since you can't control those things either.
I don't think that if something can be changed or not has any effect on "shallowness".
Being shallow is focusing on things that don't really matter, especially looks. And that's exactly what you're doing. There are other things that are way more important to look for in a partner. Height is irrelevant.
Woah! A woman with some common sense! Glad to see that.
Of course looks matter, wanna have sex with someone ugly and repulsive?
Looks matter on a biological level because it signals healthy genes so that your kids will be healthy
Girl, it’s shallow 😂 it may be traditional and socially acceptable but it is still shallow behavior. What you want is definitely a preference, but it’s still shallow 👀 nothing you can do about that. It is what it is.
It's seen as shallow because it is shallow.
You could meet some amazing guy with the best chemistry, super appealing in looks, wonderful person, etc. and you are going to cross them out as a potential partner because he's a few inches shorter than you'd like?
You can have whatever you want as a preference, but once those preferences start becoming a long list of deal breakers, then you will have some pretty slim pickings.
Height shouldn't matter. It doesn't to me. Do I have a general preference, sure, but it's never a "deal breaker". I'd never reject someone based solely on their height. It would be like rejecting them or anything else physical, breast/penis size, weight, hair color/style etc. It has nothing to do with the type of person they are and that is what's important (for me).
Because it is shallow!
You can't redefine what is shallow just because you don't like the word or the meaning.
Still it's your choice to have that preference.
You have to rethink have overseeing and accept of others that is uncomfortable for you otherwise are you a hippocrit.
Would u say its shallow to not want to date a midget?
Depends on the real reasons.
It doesn't matter if it is or not. it's the person's choice, that person should be okay with their choice otherwise is it a choice they shouldn't have made.
with other words if that person get internal conflicts that person should rethink the whole thing and skip the justification going in in their mind to make it feel right when it isn't.
So why is it shallow to not want to date a midget but it is shallow to want someone to be over a certain height
Read it again.
Ask yourself.
Did he write anything about if ot was or wasn't.
I just think its dumb because when I was growing up my mom was 5'10" and my dad was 5'7" so I was raised in a house where the woman was taller than the man so height differences never really mattered to me and I dont have a preference on tall or short girls.
Women generally scoff at men for having physical preferences. But yet their, and your, first requirement is usually height.
So in other words, women like to tell men we are awful people for having preferences on breast size and overall body shape, but then they want to have their own preferences.
Nothing wrong with it, we just hear from women constantly that selecting people on physical preferences is mean, just to watch women select based on physical preferences
That's how feminism works, many women have an fairly big case of 'moral myopia'. :)
tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MoralMyopia
Yeah those women are hypocrites. I accept that men have physical preferences just like women and there's nothing wrong with it.
not sure what you look like in real life but say if you're are obese and weight over 200lbs. how would you feel if you're crush or someone you want to date suddenly reject or evade you because you're "too fat?"
is obviously not gonna make you feel good. but if you think about it expecting your crush to be short could be a lot miserable because if you're obese you can simply change that exercising and changing what you eat. you height in other hand you can't really change
tall*
It's fine to have preferences. I'm 6' and I prefer girls 5' to 5' 4" the most. Anything above 5' 8" starts to take away from her attractiveness to me, and anything below 5' 4" adds to a girl's attractiveness to me.
Having preferences is perfectly fine. I think it would actually be worse to be with someone that you didn't like their height because then you would always be disappointed and they would realize you would never actually be content with them.
Ya I am also not a fan of dating a girl who are not short enough by my standards.
It's a preference which you are entitled to have.
But it's shallow because the guy may tick every other box you want in a relationship yet you'll refuse him on the face value of height.
Having preferences is fine.
But having too many requirements isn't.
The difference being preferences are things you want but could live without 1 or 2. Requirements you can't live without.
People aren't made to order, most people won't tick all your boxes yet can still be great partners.
So you say it's "not fine," but what does that entail?
It's not acceptable.
You can still do it but people won't think highly of you for it.
Not all preferences on the same level, tallness tend to be high on the list for girls.