I am 5'6 and I have had plenty of women say NO WAY you are way too short. Now how does that make me feel? Indifferent to be honest. I get it. It's not shallow it's simply a preference. It would be the same if a woman was 6'4. Shouldn't I be allowed to say that is too tall? If you are seeking someone to spend the rest of your life with you better know what you want and don't be ashamed to go after it. Societies opinion doesn't count when it comes to what YOU WANT.
u I have never heard a height queen say that guys shorter than her are not attractive. Most girls who worry about height are concerned about how it appears to others and they are concerned about how it looks when they wear high heels, etc. It is an obsession with how it appears to others.
I think you might lose opportunity with some amazing men none of us got to choose our height... plus a lot more important things in life.. you could find a tall guy be everything you could ask for but could have an accident and now can't walk would you leave him cause he is now shorter?
Because you think it's traditional for a man to be taller than the girl. That's shallow. If it's your preference, then don't let that dictate what kind of person you want. Would it bother you if he was an inch taller than you or does he have to be as tall as the building?
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Because it isn't what makes them a good partner and compatible with you.
Besides, you would have to be really tall to seem like a giant next to even a shorter guy.
I've provided the definition of the word "shallow" in order to help you understand it's meaning so that you can see it too.
Everyone has a right to their opinion, as well as, to their preferences. Just because you feel entitled to your preferences does not mean that you are an exception that's void of the factual meaning of word "shallow".
I will further explain why having a limiting preference is defined as shallow. Having a preference for a specific anything is limiting behavior considered (positive/reverse) discrimination/favoritism/bias/prejudice/etc (you know your synonyms, right?). If this is part of your grocery list of what you need in order to love another. What you are experiencing is conditional love or "practical" love. This is the practice of limiting to benefit yourself. It's opportunistic behavior, it's exploitive... Another word for "exploitive" is "utilizing" (if you are blind to harsh truths and can't accept something about yourself that you deem as "bad")
If you feel bad about it, that's on you. Maybe don't judge yourself or others, but you cannot ignore facts. No one is perfect and we all experience a balance of polarity where we have some "bad" and "good" traits. Learn to accept yourself, but definitely don't hide from the truth because you'll only be hurting yourself.
I have "bad" traits, it's all subjective to different people. What someone says about me doesn't mean it's my truth, same goes for you and everyone else. It just means that is someones limited experience of me or you and it's okay. Not everyone is going to know everything about us and if someone is going to limit you by labeling you, they are also limiting themselves. There is no need to feel like you've won in every situation or with every person.
"You may be the juiciest peach but not everyone is going to like peaches" - dita von tease.
It's just part of life. You can't please everyone and no one is going to 100% please you. It would be unwise to expect perfection from anyone. Superiority is a complex based on a fragmented internal self in order to find a sense of control in order to feel safe. No one is safe. Not me, not you lmao. Just find your internal peace because you can't control others behaviors. good luck <3
because your ignoring EVERYTHING else about the person. You don't care about the personality, what kind of man he is, you care that he is tall and that's it everything else is the "icing on the cake" so to speak instead of everything else being a requirement and him being tall is the icing on the cake. Now most wouldn't care that much if it where not for the fact that because your fixating on an immutable characteristic that doesn't suggest anything else about his character (for instance, if a woman is obese, that suggests she is unhealthy, that she is probably not particularly motivated etc. A man being short suggests absolutely nothing, he is just short). So what that says is that your not really their for him, if something where to happen and he was in an accident, would you stick around if said accident affected his height? No, no you wouldn't because again, that was your priority. Its the fact that its a priority and it supersedes everything else that makes it shallow. Again, no different then a man who only cares about a womans looks, she has to be perfect then we can guess rather accurately that the second she stops having that singular trait, he will abandon her and people cannot trust that kind of person. Personally I don't care what you do, I only hope that you are judged in the same exacting fashion as you judge others, as long as your fine with that outcome I personally don't care.
Mhhh, it's just a preference or shallow according to how the person behaves about it.
If a person tends to almost always date tall people they have a preference for tall people, and probably between a short and a tall person would feel more attraction for the tall. However, that doesn't mean they have never felt attraction or could never feel attraction for someone short. In case of not liking someone short would never be only because of height and would usually be other reasons aside (also physical but may be psychological too) to reject them. That's preference.
A shallow person denies instantly the possibility of liking something outside their main preference. They don't let attraction happen subconsciously and natural, they try to control their feelings instead of let them flow. A shallow person would reject a person because of height even if the rest of that person it's very attractive according to their ideal partner. Shallow people don't have a preference, have a severe fetish or obsession with a quality. However it's a free world, they can be shallow if they want.
Curious: should people just date someone...because they are shorter, and for that reason alone? I mean, if we're going to yell about a guy being tall, then I'm going to yell about a guy being short. Should we "have to" give everyone in the world a shot at dating us no matter what their thing is just because they exist and that would be fair to everyone. (Hold for sarcasm).
You are the only person who gets to decide who you date. Call it shallow, call it whatever you want, but you cannot force anyone to like anything they just don't like. You don't see me going into the zoo and yelling at a Walrus for picking the biggest fastest strongest Walrus over the weaker smaller ones because all animals select traits that they like and that will biologically speaking, help their future generations to survive and get the upper leg in life. For all the (fill in the blanks) complaining about this---if you know yourself that being short or any other thing that doesn't exactly get your dozens of dates, and that has been a detriment to your dating life---why are you so surprised that a woman wouldn't want to date you based on that? Talk to small boob women, and extremely tall women, and obese women, and people with severe acne---these are traits that don't tend to put one at the top of the dating food chain visually, but certain traits are, and each culture decides what those things are.
Life has never been fair and like everyone else, you just try to do the best you can and hope for the best in life or that you'll find that someone who does like 100% you.
I don't mind girls who don't want to date guys shorter than you, since statistically there will always be girls for the overwhelming majority of guys, as girls oj average are shorter.
My problem is when shortnor average girls pine for tall dudes only, and never even considee guys that are as tall as them or slightly taller. This megalomania takes away possible short women from short (but still taller than the girl) men, and it leaves tall women without a partner too.
Size queens ruin things for everyone else.
So, first you say "it's traditional" meaning "it's expected by other people", but then you ask "why can't it be a preference?", so now you've shifted the domain of judgment from other people to yourself. Like, are you demanding of yourself that you gravitate ONLY towards taller men because that's what you prefer or because you are desperate to reinforce into your life the stereotype that "women only date men taller than them" in order to "fit in"?
It would seem like the latter, because social validation is a strong motivator. After all, "if everyone jumped off a bridge and I want to be like everyone else, I should jump off as well..." but I'm curious to see how you respond.
Probably because unlike weight, people can't change their height.
It's naturally for people to feel aggrieved at being excluded from a potential relationship because of something outside their control - like their height, or skin color, or the shape of their nose, or perhaps because of the shadowy history of their family members. They could be the most intelligent, most courageous, most virtuous person in the entire word, yet can be completely undone in the dating department because unfortunately, God decided to make them 5'.
Having said that, humans will be humans. Short men who complain that women don't want to date them may rail against the unfairness of it all, but all complaining does, and will ever do, is give them a sore throat. Is it unfair for them to be judged on something they can't control? Sure. But as everyone knows, life is unfair. The best they can do is make the most out of the hand they've been dealt.
Because this is coming from the thought of how you LOOK mainly to others and also yourself, instead of focusing on internal things like how he makes you FEEL or how capable or courageous he is so he could give you the protection that you might need, height just gives a false feeling of being protected. What will I do with a six feet tall man that runs away from danger?
Preference is another thing. I also prefer taller man. But rejecting someone because they aren't your preferred height is normally what's deemed as shallow, though I don't think this applies to dwarf people.
But then, no use of forcing yourself to be with a person you don't prefer or like simply because you don't wanna force yourself to prove that you aren't shallow. Seriously, just be with someone that genuinely makes you happy even if the person isn't necessarily 100% your preference, you don't have to prove anything to others
Actually it's not only a matter of tradition but it's also biological, men tend to be naturally taller than women, that's why it's looks odd and unmasculine when a man is shorter than a woman. Some people think that only men are allowed to be "shallow", and even though most women prefer tall men, many women don't like to talk about it, they are rejecting an short guys and say that it's because of their personality.
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Because someone's height is not a factor that contributes to their well-being, their personality, or their emotions. It's completely genetic. If you're short... you're short. If you're tall... you're tall. Nothing can be done about it.
Some things I understand. Maybe a girl prefers muscular men. Muscles are something a person can achieve. And it shows he works out and is healthy.
Height though? Height has nothing to do with someone's life. It's just the way you're born.
So yeah... TOTALLY shallow. You can meet a great short guy... you can meet a great tall guy.
Because it is shallow. It's a preference but still shallow. Just like a guy would definitely be called shallow for rejecting a girl just because her boobs are smaller than he prefers. Why are women so obsessed with height anyway? A lot don't just want the guy to be taller. They want him to be x amount of inches taller. I've heard so many short women talk about how they're only attracted to guys 6ft and up
I get it, and I have no problem with it. Woman usually want a taller man, and men usually want a shorter woman. It all works out in the end.
Now, would it be a double standard to criticize a man who says he wants a girl with a big butt or big breasts?
Well men are frequently called shallow for not wanting to date women based on their weight which is usually a result of their own life choices and within their power to change. Meanwhile height is genetic and can't be changed without an extremely expensive, painful, and risky surgery.
So from my perspective, refusing to date a guy based on his height should at the very least be considered equally as shallow as refusing to date a girl based on her weight.
Any time these days you express a preference on a physical characteristic about your partner someone will think its shallow.
When you say you wouldn't date a transgender, you're shallow. You like blondes? you're shallow. Prefer physically fit... you're shallow.
The answer is do whatever you want... when people say you're shallow. You just say, sure if you say so.
So, you use the justification that it's OK because "it's traditional"? How do you think it would go over with most women, especially feminists, if men used that very same justification for the expectations they have about women?
Gotta love the hypocrisy and double standards of women today.
It can be a preferance, but it IS shallow since it's not something he can change, it's just what it looks like. there are many couples of same height or when a girl is taller, noone cares. if you don't like shorter guys, no big deal, just don't be offended is someone doesn't want to date you because something lacks in your appearance.
Nothing wrong with preferring a taller guy. It's only when a girl has a minimum amount of inches taller he has to be. That's when it's shallow. No one got to choose how tall they are. I mean, on the other side of the spectrum, I'd have zero issue dating a girl taller than me.
I don't care about height. In my opinion though, I think it's more intimate when couple are closer in height for obvious reasons. Plus, things line up much better 😉😉
Height is such a small, superficial part of a person and shouldnāt affect your relationship that much. Having a preference for tall men is fine but turning away a perfectly suitable guy for no other reason than his height would be pretty shallow.
Everyone has a preference, so don't feel bad about yours! Although your preference is one that is pretty common, there are some girls that prefer shorter guys or just don't care. There's someone out there for everyone, and there's nothing wrong with having preferences for what you want that someone to be!
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