Is it wrong to be picky when looking for an ideal partner? (Page 2)
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It's not wrong to be picky, you're looking for someone that you expect to like for the rest of your life, ideally, but being too picky can become a problem if it is over something that you can compromise over, or something that is trivial, and you end up missing out on a really great opportunity for one that may never come.
Being picky is not wrong, having unrealistic dumb expectations on the other hand is pretty counterproductive. Too many people miss out on great possibilities because they are stuck searching for that super hot sexy supermodel or their rich beautiful prince charming.
Be picky lots will hurt you more picky you are less you will get hurt! Dont lower your standards for anyone!
Depends. If the things you are being picky about are not important to you, then it is too much. If they are vital, then no you are not.
I am picky too, and I have a list. Some items are essential, and some are not. But it helps to clarify.
No, you can't date someone who's incompatible with your lifestyle/goals or someone you're not romantically/physically attracted to
Also no one's obliged to put up with anyone's whimsies. I'm a rather quirky person myself (for example, I don't drink beer and can't bear the odor of beer). I acknowledge that but I'd rather being alone than compromising
I don't like beer either.
@Jamie05rhs really? Cool
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It isn't about the morality of being picky, it is about realism/feasibility. There is a difference between only dating people that agree with you on whether or not to have kids and only dating albanian professional rugby players that live in swedon, have hazel eyes, blue dyed hair and speak 8 languages fluently. One is a necessary preference and the other is completely unrealistic. The trick is figuring out what preferences you can get away with.
it isn't wrong to be picky. I tend to only have a list of traits I don't want in a woman rather than what I do want in a woman and work from there. Usually tends to be good for me and I find myself dating a variety of women.
Same here, dawg.
It's not wrong. After all, this is someone you plan to spend your life with so you have to be somewhat picky. You just got to remember no one will ever be the perfect fit. They will not meet everything on your checklist.
For me I feel like being attracted to the person is wayyy more than just looks. I may seem I don't know arrogant, but I like a guy to be smart. Someone who can connect on a similar level as me. Otherwise it’s just talking to an attractive wall.
I don't think it's wrong to be picky, but you can be too picky. I think that people just should realize that nobody is perfect, and therefore that the ideal partner doesn't exist. Everyone has flaws, but you are or aren't able to deal with them.
That's kinda the definition of ideal... perfect with no flaws. How can you not be picky when looking for perfection? Overlooking flaws means you're not looking for the ideal.
It's good to be picky cuz if yoir gonna put your nuts there u wanna make sure that no one is gonna dig them out and steal them
I don't have nuts lmao 😂
I do not think so as I am doing the same, do not settle for less than what you find ideal, otherwise, you will not be satisfied with your relationship.
It is good to be picky as you don't want to compromise your standards. No one is perfect so there is some give and take. But there are certain standards that you don't want to compromise on.
It's not wrong to be picky, but you need to know what is worth being picky about. If something is genuinely a requirement for you, then don't compromise, but you may want to take inventory and find out which things are "wants" and which are "needs."
Having standards and boundaries are fine as long as you don’t reach and look for something that’s nearly impossible to find in a partner.
Of course be picky, you don't want someone who is a bad fit. However, don't let picky get to the point of almost impossible. There are no perfect people.
No, within reason. You want somebody with whom you are compatible and make a good match. However, you don't want to set your standards so high that it is almost impossible for somebody to meet them.
Nope. You should be. I have high standards for a future wife, and there's nothing wrong with that. With all the crappy people filling this world today it's quite needed to be picky.
I personally think a lot of people make very superficial judgments and turn down potentially great partners but that's on them.
I'm pretty choosy myself but I will take anyone that I think is compatible with me realistically.
I admit that I judge people on little things, but I believe in marriage 'til death, so if you're with someone for that long then the little things matter.