I work 35+ hours a week and my boyfriend says he doesn’t love me as much anymore because of that.
But he works about 60 hours and I still love him and want to date him still because I know he has worked hard for that job.
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Oh god no. What would they even do with all the extra money, when they have no free time? 😬 I'm all for minimum work hours, as long as I can afford living.
I’m doing like 80-90 right now, and i sure wouldn’t date me lmao. Especially since I’m on salary, not like I’m even being compensated for the extra time, and I wouldn’t date a sucker, which is apparently what I am nowadays lmao.
I'd be concerned they are a hardcore feminist that insists on working ridiculous hours to prove her worth as equal to men. Someone like that, well they are all work and no play so I'll pass.
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I would, but first I need to understand why is he working so much for. Is it a career goal? To be able to make ends meet? To save money for some other goal? It’s important for me to know if I could be of any help as well and to understand his mind and priorities.
I easily reach up those hours since I often bring the work home, so I'd be an hypocrite to not date someone who does the same.
That said, my girlfriend doesn't work that much and has the mentality that when the shift is over, the work it's over.Yes, even though it would be difficult to not have a lot of time to share with them.
Only if I was in the mood for the worst LDR ever!
"Working more than 40 hours a week is associated with increased alcohol and tobacco consumption, as well as unhealthy weight gain in men and depression in women. Little productive work occurs after 50 hours per week. ... Those who work 60 hours per week have a 23 percent higher injury hazard rate."
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No... no thank you.My ex worked 40 hours a week and I worked (officially) 60 hours a week (adding in my night work it was around 80 hours).
Honest answer? If I had normal hours then yes I would. The hours I had? No.
My hours off was devoted to my partner and my family. Usually cooking for both, but my partner completely understood when I would collapse in his arms and I felt so safe. He would use my work hours as game hours so it worked out fine. When he moved in with me he helped me with chores while I looked after my dad.It's hard to say.
I probably would not, only because I wouldn't see them very often because they'd either physically be at work and, because they work so much, they'd also be at work mentally probably for just as long.
I've known people who consistently work that many hours or more per week and I don't know how they do it. Most of the conversations they have seem to only be about work or work-related (admittedly I do hear some pretty funny "today I had a customer who..." stories). There's never any non-work-related conversations. Additionally, there's very little time to do anything fun, like go out to a movie with them or enjoy dinner because they're always plugged into work and expected to be on call 24/7.
So that being said, I probably would not date someone who worked that much because it would be boring and I would not see them much.It would depend on two factors:
- If he has kids, no. I’m not against dating guys with kids, I have kids myself, but 60 hours of work a week plus kids... leaves practically no time for anything else. So, no.
-The type of job he has. If he has a job that lets him keep in touch with me through the day, sure, why not. But if he’s let’s say a surgeon, who has to be out of reach for hours, pretty much the 60 hours he’s working... no. It’s not going to work.I do about that many hours a week. My ex couldn’t deal with it, I always tried to compromise, and organise stuff to do together. But it didn’t work. Now I have nothing else so work actually keep me busy. But I’ll definitely cut out hours when I’ll find someone.
Find the right balance and keep the relationship going.Depends. Long work hours aren’t good for anyone. Especially as one ages. It would be most dependent on whether I was a priority or not. Working long hours is one thing but avoiding other aspects of life is another. Quality time is more important than quantity so most likely yes I would
That would depend. Why? Call me lazy if you want but i just don't have any desire to work more than 40 hrs. A week. If i had toi would. But if ican afford my lifestyle with 40 i'm not going to work anymore. And i wouldn't do well with someone who was really matwrialistic.
My guy does.
Can't say it's easy. It was a lonely Shabbat today because he had to travel last night.
But he has to work, and my duty is to support him. I just try my best to make it easier for him and for both of us.Yes I would, it wouldn't always be easy but if I loved them, I'd make it work. If they love their job then I can't complain, it's up to them how they want to work. If they hate their job then I'd try my best to help them find a more suitable job.
I work 35-80 hours a week. It'll be less this summer due to circumstances 😋😁. But I just worked 50 hours in 4 days. Approximately 70 hours in a week's time total this week. (rolling week, Wed-Wed).
But I don't pick up extra shifts as much when I want to spend time
with someone. I'll be working less than 50 consistently for the next few months nowI'd like to hope that you can earn a pretty decent salary doing less than 50 hours per week. Ideally less than 40.
Problem is, if you factor in commuting, and extra study, then it really does suck up your day. I don't think I'd date a total workaholic. I'd find it too frustrating, I'd want some quality time. There's definitely more important things than work. It's about balance.I have and it isn’t that great. Because I rarely saw him and whenever we finally got to hang out he always ended up sleeping most the day. He didn’t want to go out or anything which I understood. But it wasn’t much of a relationship. Just there to cook and then see him sleep.
Yup. My boyfriend works 70 hours plus a second job on the weekends. I don't see him as often as I'd like, but usually a few times a week, even if it's only him stopping in for an hour to have supper with me last minute.
If her pay rate is also good, yes. If not and she is working 60hours a week because she struggling the only way that relationship is ever going to work is she cuts down to 38hours a week and moves in with me, I'll pay her living costs on the condition she educates herself in the other 42 hours per week
As long as our schedules sync up, that's OK because I dip work 60+ hours per week. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to, but I have to.
I currently am and its kinda hard bc ion see him as much as id like, but im also a very busy girl so we go together and make time for eachother (:
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