Would you date someone who works 70 hours a week?

[coachTanthony]

[Cynicaldreamer]

Sure, why not? As long as when he's off he spent a little time with me, I'm good! Plus he can text me on his work breaks.

And before anyone says, "What's the point in dating someone you barely see?" If you like them enough, you make it work. For example, I work with doctors: some of them work nights (7pm-7am) for two weeks straight! Meaning they're basically asleep when they're home, so their partners barely see then.

They still make it work.

No, it's not ideal for everyone, especially if you're clingy or needy in a relationship. But I'm a loner, so I honestly wouldn't mind a partner like that... again, that's just me. I know some of you can't function with partners that work long hours like that.

[electromagnetic]

Let’s say 14hr a day at work, 8hrs to sleep, 2hrs commute (round trip) there’s 24hrs..

I think not.

[Avicenna]

Not if I wanted a really serious relationship

[Sheriblossom]

This semester, I worked 30 hours a week, took 3 classes, and was actively applying to another internship/ career searching. I do like my job, enjoy my classes, and have a passion for what I do. But needless to say, sleeping and eating regularly was basically impossible. Trying to maintain a social-life or just my sanity was driving me nuts. Everyone has a different stress tolerance though, so there’s definitely people who could’ve handled my schedule better than I did. My boyfriend and I only see each other once a week, and this is the way it’s been since we started dating 2.5 years ago. His schedule is way worse than mine. Way worse. We really enjoy our time together, but still, we often vent about how shitty things were that week, and I think the attitude/ negativity from both of us is transferred to the other person. When something bothers me, I can’t shut up about it until it is resolved. So if I worked 70 hours a week I probably wouldn’t be a very fun person to be around. Same goes for the person I date. I’m here to listen if they need me, but I don’t want to be their emotional punching bag when things go seriously wrong.


If the person I dated chose to work 70 hours a week, I would try to understand the reason behind this time commitment, and talk about the potential issues that could arise because of this decision. If it’s part of their education, or they need to do this in order to make a living then I would be cool with it. Maybe I’d even try to find ways to help out. But I also value quality time together, so the reason for working so much better not be “work is just more important than you”. Passion is cool, but not when someone flaunts it in their partner’s face and sees their work as more valuable than the relationship.

[Screenwriter]

I don't see how you CAN date someone who works 70 hours a week. If that's part of a 5-day work week, then that person only has 10 hours left per day to do anything. If 7 to 8 of those hours are devoted to sleep, and the other 2 or so might need to be spent cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, grocery shopping, maintaining a car, garden or checking email.

When will there be time for someone else? Rarely, I'd say.

In addition, a 70-hour job sounds all-encompassing and exhausting.

It would appear dating would not be practical.

[Roronoa_Zoro]

Agree

[Anonymous]

Having worked in management and been on call, I've been that person, and I didn't date because I didn't have the time and I was literally exhausted dealing with hundreds of people and endless BS all day with the last thing I wanted was to have to get dressed up for a date and pretend to be some version of myself that wasn't those things. It's also the reason I realized that job would kill me and any hope of a social life if I didn't leave soon, which I did. Of course in life, never say never, blah blah, but it would certainly make me think twice.

[matchrestore]

I'm married to someone who regularly has to work 70 hours a week. At least once a month. I also have to work 70-80 hour weeks occasionally. We work in theatre and live events so our schedules are nowhere close to normal. It balances out though for me. This week for example I'm only working 25 hours.

[Apple1996]

70 isn't a lot in my opinion. I'm married to someone who works about that much if not more on a slow week but that's just how the military is. Either extremely long hours or he's gone for weeks/months at a time training/doing school/being deployed. It's something I'm use to but for others it might seem like a lot.

[Levin]

Fuck no. More to life than work. Someone working that much basically does have time for a relationship, in my opinion.

When I have 50 hour weeks I'm still fairly knackered on the weekends (although to be fair I still had assignments to do on the weekends).

[WonderBell99]

I spend nearly 15 hours studying every day (including college). My sleep schedule is super messed up and I’m surviving only on caffeine, I don’t think I have any time to date someone. A person who works 70 hours a week is probably the same as me - they wouldn’t have time for a serious relationship either.

[WonderBell99]

I study only for around 5 hours on Sundays though.

[Levin]

I'm fascinated by this idea of studying 15 hours per day. Can you actually use that time, 15 hours, to get quality study though?

Like the concept of diminishing returns in economics. I would probably rather study an hour, take an hour break, study an hour, repeat, a few times. I doubt I would take on any more information after 4 hours of study a day. The rest would be grinding, ie a waste of time.

[WonderBell99]

@Levin 15 hours on average including college. I spend nearly 7 hours in college (obviously, i don’t have lectures for 7 hours straight. We have practicals and dissections as well). I study for around 7-8 hours at home (including breaks. I take a 20 minute break every one hour). I study a bit more advanced so that it’d be much easier for me to focus and understand during lectures. Besides, my dad helps me with some topics and he delves in too deep sometimes. I need to keep revising constantly because some topics are vast, especially in anatomy and it takes a while for me to clearly understand complex topics. Also, we have sessionals here, so it’s not like I can cram everything 3 days before the exam.

[WonderBell99]

Thanks for your concern though, but I’m doing just fine. However, I do plan to work on my sleep schedule some time soon (=

[Levin]

Oh yeah, you gotta do what you gotta do. Self-care will probably become more prominent for you at some point.

Anyway, if you ever need my body for a dissection, lemme know.

[WonderBell99]

@Levin I agree, self care is indeed important. I find comfort in skincare. I’d like to think of it as a form of self care (=

Thanks for the reminder though - I’ll try to study more effectively. (=

Lmfao. Good one. xD

[cocobellass]

Depends on pay and looks? If they're a little ugly it's ok bc I won't see them as much also am I going to be spoilt with love and gifts etc since I won't be able to see you as much? If 1 love language fails the others need to be made up for. So with physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation are on the back burner. Axts of service and receiving gifts need to step up big time.

[Anpu23]

If I'm working 70 hours and she's working 70 hours when would we ever get a moment to get together.

[coachTanthony]

It really only takes one to work that many for it to be almost impossible.

[Anpu23]

exactly, I work 3 jobs (more or less) and have almost no time.

[ShadezMcgee]

No, I wouldn't. Their life is just work, sleep and money. They have no time for or are not available to be in a relationship as it would be one sided and neglected.

[Drumlin2001]

Depends what 70 hours. And if they can make time for us. I have 2 young kids so would have limited time if single. If we couldn't schedule time together and they didn't prioritise our relationship then it wouldn't work

[Dinklex3]

A lot of people in my field work long ass hours.

At my first clinic I worked 65-75 hours a week 🤡

I wouldn’t mind, but I’d prefer it if they were 24 hour shifts.

[Jackj]

Certainly,

I think if both are willing and have matching goals and visions for the relationship, what can stop you.

I would think that the longing for each other and the appreciation of the "few" moments you have together, by not always being together, would increase a lot and even be beneficial to the relation.

[OfMiceandMen]

Nope, everyone needs that bit of time away from work to change things up and recenter. I can't see someone working those hours being able to spend much time in a relationship either.

[jshm2]

When will you be dating exactly? You'll only see them for an hour in the morning before they go to work, and about 2 hours when they get back and into bed.

[Bricealan]

Sure... why not? That would make her more worthwhile... if she makes all that money... I could just live off of her and not work... Coach!

Kidding... yes I would, gladly...

[DizzyDesii]

Ideally my future partner would work 40-50 hours a week

[BoopBoopBeep]

I have. Never again. Absolutely useless around the house. Pretty much slept all the time.

[tiajoka]

Well yeah if she’s working that much… what did you do around the house 😂

[BoopBoopBeep]

@tiajoka I already did all the shopping and cooking because I'm better at it, the garden was all mine, as was the orchard, I did most of the straightening up, all of the laundry, fed the critters, we have a dishwasher so nobody "does" dishes, but I was usually the one to load and unload it. Made the bed every morning. Made coffee for both of us every morning, handled the investments for both of us, while holding down my job, which was actually the higher paying one that paid all the bills.

So yeah, I think I carried my weight around the house. Thanks though :P

[tiajoka]

You did that while also working 70hrs?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@tiajoka No she worked 70. I worked 50.

[BoopBoopBeep]

and to clarify, she had a 40 hour job, she just wasn't very good at it so she took longer than needed

[exitseven]

Nah, people that are obsessed with their jobs are usually not very interesting

[WhitneySnow]

Yes, when I get old enough. I would respect them for that. But I would also insist that they devote at least some time each week to me and to our relationship. If they couldn’t do that, then I would be just friends with them.

[Vegasrunner]

Literally the best kind of women to date. They don't have time to take up all your time and all they usually want is some good dick.

[Anonymous]

Yes but the sad thing is that most people are just to get by.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

10 hours the average day? Nu, that’s a lot, but I do hope they would have some time for me.

[Surely]

As long as it isn’t a permanent thing or they have vacation time off.

[PointTaken]

I work about 80. Soon that will cut down to about 60. I'm hoping.

[Nikki1989]

My husband does those hours some weeks. It is one of the reasons I waste so much time on here.

[Simslover92]

We would barely have time together so that would more than likely be a no.

[Mangospacho]

They have weekends off, right? Sure, why not

Pretty much any executive or attorney works or travels enough to add up to 70 hours per week.

[Anonymous]

I would certainly not date someone, who spends 70 hours a week on an Internet forum asking boring, inane, cliche and sexist questions

[TonyMetal___86]

Hell no! I'll date someone who loves becoming a housewife so that the majority of her time will be mine

[AnusNdaPainus]

Hell no! I work 80 and I have no time at all for my family

Id rather be at the zoo with my daughter

[Anonymous]

I can just provide for them. So yeah, as long as they quit their job.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

70 hours? Is that even legal...

[coachTanthony]

Sure.

[Iron_Man]

Do they even have time to come home just to sleep

[Rangers]

It wouldn't work, we wouldn't have time for anything

[Yannishka]

When we dating? Is what I want to know

[captain_voidwalker]

Nope, because I work 70 hours a week so when would we even see eachother

[HM1189]

No, for obvious reasons, she won't have time for you

[TacosRAwesome]

Would consider it

[Unit1]

Yeah, i'd ask if i can work 70+h too.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell no. We'd never have any time to hang out!

[Wise4myage]

Nope, what's the point?

[BLP11520]

I work about 66

[Anemone978]

Nah that is too much time..

[Miristheiss]

Absolutely not.

[FunkyMonkee]

When would she have the time?

[Christoff92]

Depending of the relationship

[BrookeS]

Sure, i see no reason not too

[nateyoder23]

No way. I would never see them.

[msc545]

no, why bother?

[Roronoa_Zoro]

It's complicated

[LazerBean]

Nope.

[Abdulwahh]

No, thats too long

[Jazzy54]

Probably not.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nope.