NO. Don't do it.
I know this question has been asked a lot on here, and I've yet to find a person that can justify how or why dating a coworker is a good thing. If anything, it can be a bad thing, especially if things don't work out between the two of you.
So a few years ago, I [stupidly] tried to date a coworker. Let's call him "John." John expressed interest in me and tried to pursue me first- I should have known that was a red flag considering no one ever pursues me, LOL. Anyway, I figured why not; he seemed like a nice guy. Boy was I fooled.
Long story short, he was just playing games and decided he only wanted to be friends with me and nothing else. So now I'm bitter and upset at this guy that works with me- of course that's going to cause some animosity. I'm serious when I say I wanted to kick his ass for leading me on and playing mindgames, to the point where if I saw him at work, I'd probably be fired for workplace violence; I was that ticked off.
Thankfully he works night shift so I NEVER have to see him as I'm on day shift. The only time I might come across him as in between shift change. Last time we ran across each, we both acted as if we didn't know each other and didn't speak to one another.
Now that was years ago, and I'm happy to say I've moved on but would I ever try to date a coworker again? Absolutely not. Because if for some reason it doesn't work out, you have that tension between the two of you now. Not to mention your coworkers might gossip about you (several people asked me who I was dating or trying to; thankfully I didn't tell anyone). Or just get in personal business.
I'll just stick to be rejected outside of work like a normal person.
Its a hell no for me. I did it once before when I held my first job and I learned the hard way just how stressful and regretful it would make me. The guy started off sweet and then once their full personality presented itself I realized that they were the type who enjoyed attention and having everyone in their business. Tried to create drama with me just so they could have something to talk about with coworkers, tried to be intimate with me at work ( gross ), was lazy about meeting up outside of work due to them having the convenience of being able to see me at work full time ( ughhh, cringe. )
so yeah, I promised myself to never bother dating where I make my money ever again. Under the conclusion that would be lazy of me to do so given the fact that I dont have to go out of my way to "look" for a viable candidate to find a mutual connection with. And more trouble than its worth given the fact that one can't calculate how one will react once the relationship goes sour. e. g. will they be the type to share every intimate thing that was shared between us two once it ends or hell! even during it?
Like you, I used to be all cards opposed to it because it is too risky.
But I've calmed down some and though I try not to have it that way I now think that if you can be mature about it and not be caught up in your own emotions or make it awkward then it shouldn't be a problem.
I am not at that stage. So I shouldn't even bother just yet. But at the same time, the more I work the harder it is to meet someone outside of work, because in all honesty dating-apps don't work in my favor (given up on those) and clubs/bars/festivals are usually just very temporary flings, I've heared.
Not exactly sure where to meet people.
And I don't live in the US or UK so I can't just ask people out, we don't do it like that here. Maybe only in the main cities.
So given the right situation and the right person I would date at work.
No for me. I take work very seriously, but I also take relationships very seriously. Combining those two just doesn’t seem like a good idea. I’m the kind of guy that wants to show my girl how I feel about her when she’s around me. And being forced to act polished and professional in front of her all day during work makes me feel like I’m putting on a performance. I also believe in having time away from each other. When you don’t see that person all day, it makes you long for their company. Which, in turn, makes seeing them again that much more exciting!
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A very big NO to relationship at work.
There are many girls I feel like connecting on a more personal level, but because they are from my class only, I am only friendly with them. Nothing more.
I honestly don't want any unnecessary tension in the class. Want to be on good terms with everyone possible.
Ima be tryna fck in the office. Real talk. And i hope all the walls is glass!! So yea, only if he not a scaredy cat 😂
I have gone out with a coworker before. It actually worked really well while we were coworkers. Then I left the job and his real side came out more often. Narcissistic as heck…🙄
I feel if “ground rules” are set and kept, it can potentially work without things getting too awkward if it doesn’t work out. Make an agreement of sorts before agreeing to go out. I would just take it really slow too in order to make sure it is worth risking the vibe in the workplace.
Since the boundaries that should be put in place will likely never be willingly kept and will therefore make things awkward for all…it is a terrible idea and you should not do it. 😂
I would say if it’s a job that you don’t really care about as much then NO don’t do it, because things can get messy. BUT if you are working in an area that is your profession/career I would say why not since you guys are both likely to be into the same things. Also that is one of the way you are likely to meet a potential someone, another one would be friend related but work is another way to meet people for relationships, but could also get messy.
I would be willing, but we'd need to be careful about rules and policies within the workplace.
Fortunately where I work, it is common for whole families to work for the same organization. We have clear cut policies to avoid conflicts of interest.
I would be willing to date someone I work with. At least I know they've got a stable job, lol!
I would totally date someone I work with, I see nothing wrong with it, we can even work together on some projects that will be fun 😊 or give each other space and wink at one another from a distance 🤔. but no seriously though i would not mind dating someone i work with at all.
I did. And my advice? Dont. Breakups dont go well. Everyone in the office knows. HR may get involved. And one of you ends up leaving or quitting. Feelings are hurt. Hearts are broken. Reputations are tainted.
Yeah, its not like it appears on TV.
Under no circumstance should you ever date someone you work with : this is a shit-storm waiting to happen. Think of the gossip, the distraction at work , the jealousy, the possibility of being dragged to HR and involved in some kind of harassment issue. Not too mention that you guys will soon get sick of each other because not only are you around each other at work but also off work.
Not a good idea and I would avoid - as they say : don't shit where you eat.
No, because its all men there
I do not want to sing the song its raining men
Yes but I wouldn't like people outside of my family knowing who I'm in a relationship with. They need to keep it cool when we're at work.
That's a pretty big iffy though. If 2 co-workers became a couple, then those 2 better make it work between them.
If they became a couple and they break up for some reason, that's when things become awkward for them both. That's when those 2 would have to change up their patterns just to avoid each other and it just becomes an awkward mess.
No chances are that business finds its way in the relationship and you also talk about work in your private life.
Plus it´s another way that people could get jealous of each other and both partners start to compare each other and how much they make and achieve.
Technically my boyfriend and I met through work, but we are students and work once a week teaching music classes at a school, and every teacher has their own room and stuff so I never technically worked with him.
I have once in the past and will never mix work and relationships again. Bad idea. Just don't do it lol. Unless neither of you don't really care about your jobs then I guess it doesn't really matter lol.
I'd like to say I wouldn't, but I guess if we both knew how to keep our work and personal lives separate, then I'd be fine with it.
When I was younger, I screwed some guys I worked with but never dated them lol. I am self employed now w/my husband and it gets annoying, but I'm used to it.
No I would not. I did back in my mid-twenties and it turned out bad. To the point where I got another job and left. I was looking to work elsewhere anyway, but that certainly speeded up the process.
If we're dating and then end up working together, that'd be different, but I would never look for a girlfriend in my workplace.
In my employee days I would have, now I think it's probably a bad idea lol. If I'm dating a girl then hire her that's something else
Hmmm. I have once and it was disastrous when he got fired. Put me in a bad light.
I would mostly say no.
