Have you ever rejected a good person because you felt they deserved better?

[Anonymous]

[rjroy3]

You're not even rejecting them in that context. You're rejecting yourself. You're saying you're not good enough and therefore it's not going to happen. Perhaps just semantics, but it's a useful distinction.

And I've definitely done it before. You only need to be insecure for a moment for you to make that choice. I remember this crippling hot girl I met in D. C. last year. Tall, light skinned, brunette who looked like a model by profession. Met her at The Brixton. She was super engaging, great eye contact, smiling, giggling, touching my chest/shoulders and just flirting as we had a good time. Super exciting bit of time. A guy walked up who was like 6'5, fitness model type build, equally attractive dude. And I just assumed he knew her AND came here to meet this exceptionally hot girl I was talking to. Told myself a story without thinking, "exceptionally hot girl, exceptionally hot guy. Came to meet here, this just makes sense."

So when he walked up I just let him have her, not knowing he didn't actually know her. He just saw a hot girl and went in, when she was interested in me already. He didn't even leave with her at the end of the night. But because for a moment I rejected myself I lost out on a potential good thing. Bah. She was so fine lol

[nblanch23]

You must learn to love yourself there is no such thing as a broken person anyone can grow and change it’s not that they deserve better it’s you don’t see your own value there is only one you and I hope you can see that good luck to you

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

Yes, I thought he deserved someone that wouldn't hurt him, when in reality I ended up hurting myself. Biggest regret. It was 4 years ago. I think we would have fit well together, if only I gave it a shot back then

[wantagf]

Are u single

[MoneyBeets]

Enough of the zero it’s time to get with the hero ;)

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

🤣🤣🤣 @wantagf you're asking all the girls if they're single.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

@MoneyBeets he was definitely not a zero 😣 I was stupid back then

[MoneyBeets]

Oh so you’re the idiot lmao another win for men!

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

Yes one added win and now the score is 1 - 100000000 for women. Sorry not sorry

[MoneyBeets]

Totally winning! We are taking score according to golf rules.

[xjesssx]

Yes... I never feel good enough :/

[MoneyBeets]

🎶guess your best wasn’t good enough🎶

[coachTanthony]

It's not you... it's me... I am not worthy of your love. You deserve better then me. The lie that people use to get out of something is more likely then somebody doing this legitimately.

[McKellar]

Yep, I very much concur. It's all bullshit what they do & it's very true as to what you just said.

[smg99]

Your advice is usually I love reading after all the noise. Yours is most sound logical advice.

[coachTanthony]

@smg99 Hey thanks!

[Cynicaldreamer]

Nope. But I've had a guy I confessed my feelings to use that line on me,

"I'm not good enough for you, you deserve better!" He says as he tries to pursue a relationship the same day he rejected me 🤦‍♀️

That's just a weak line people use to let you down gently.

My thing is this: if I think you're good enough and have feelings for you, then that should mean you're good enough! At least to the person that wants you.

[jennifer_bloom]

I met a guy who had never dated anybody before because he was terrified of woman - we met and I thought - if I kiss him - I could make myself his first girlfriend - but he said he wanted to marry the first person he dates and I wasn't sure I wanted to be with him so I decided I wouldn't steal his first kiss from him. He wanted to save his first kiss for his future wife and I wasn't sure I wanted that role so I didn't kiss him even though I could have.

[AJC997]

That’s so sweet, like super sweet

[007-Tarzan]

Wow that's really sweet of you.

You had the chance to totally mess a guys life up... but you didn't...

Or maybe you were just afraid you'd creator a stalker for life 🤣

[StingRayxoxo]

I haven't rejected him because of it but I've definitely asked him on a few occasions to really consider his decision to be with me.

[bklynbadboy1]

Wow I'm shocked

[StingRayxoxo]

I'm a hot mess, emotionally. That's taxing on someone else.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes... They deserve someone so much better than I am...

[Logorithim]

Nope

[MoneyBeets]

This dude fucks

[TonyBologna25]

Had a really amazing girl come on to me in college. Straight A’s and going to grad school at 22 years old. She was beautiful and was a virgin and a goody type of girl. We vibed right away. I rejected her because I was a steroid using bodybuilder who slept around with sluts and partied. I felt she was too good for me and I’d just end up hurting her somehow. Also had money at the time. Biggest regret tbh. I still check out her IG now and then. Sometimes think about sending that DM, but have never done it.

[TonyBologna25]

Also had no* money at the time. She came from wealth.

[aicarg]

Yes. The guy was more quite and reserved. He was more put together than I was where I was still figuring out myself and pushing my boundaries. I knew him from church though he went to the same highschool as me. He was the one that made better decisions and had his head on his shoulders, but never rated me out to my dad about all the crap I'd do. He intimidated me in how he was able to see past my BS and my act. When my first relationship ended in flames, he called me and stayed with me on the phone, made me laugh with just taking my mind off the pain. I knew he liked me, and I did like him. I just never felt I measured up to him. We've always remained friendly. He's engaged now.

[sexyasianboi26]

Yes. We had a short term fling. When she wanted to get serious, that’s when I rejected her. She would have made the perfect wifey. But she already had 2 kids with 2 different dudes.

That’s the extra baggage I can’t deal with. It’s a skeleton in a closet. I wouldn’t be able to sleep every night thinking about her 2 kids and the whereabouts of their fathers.

So that’s where I drew the line. I deserve better. And she deserves a better man. A man with a strong back to carry and tough out all her extra baggage.

[Thotkiana]

Stop it.

[Thotkiana]

How old was she?

[sexyasianboi26]

@Thotkiana 25+

[Thotkiana]

Remove my “stop it” comment, I read this wrong

[sexyasianboi26]

@Thotkiana how u read it wrong lol?

[Thotkiana]

I thought you said you weren’t good enough for her because u didn’t want to take care of her two kids, but then I reread and saw the part where u said “I deserve better”

[krogaan]

everybody make this mistake and choice's 4 the other person oo his to good for me oooo his out of my league ooo am ugly ooo am not good for him or her how about you let the other person decided am not say your not going going to get rejected you going get rejected a lot listen we did not go to the MOON with one rocket we blew up thousands of rockets before we got there so strap in your in for a ride nothing is ever easy in life we do thing because it's hard but we tend to take the easy path LOL aka LAZY

[muliebrity]

I rejected a person not because I myself wasn't enough so he deserved better. I rejected a person because I myself am enough and realizing I have no energy to give to him. He is looking for something more serious than I can provide, and wouldn't be fair.

[djmzes]

Simple
What you deserve is what you have created with your own hands and actions.

So what are you creating? A grave or palace.

[Bellarina6]

No I rejected a good person because even though we had a ton in common, he was nice and he knew he wanted to be with me, I didn't feel that spark I'm supposed to feel. I know when I really like someone because I'm crazy about them and I wasn't with that guy

[AJC997]

What spark? Like chemistry?

[Bellarina6]

Yes, that's what I meant. I didn't feel we had chemistry, even if the other person felt we did. I just know when I really like someone and when I don't

[AJC997]

Does it have a lot to do with looks?

[anon1903]

truthfully, I don't attract good people. But when I do, when I draw them in like a moth to a flame, it's always to teach them a lesson of life : Love Ruins You.

If a person like me is too good to be true, well its probably true then.

I frankly don't care how many thumbs down I get on this answer but I gotta keep it honest for this one.

[StephenCF]

No! Who even cares about what these people “deserve” or not? Try to love yourself for a change and take whatever opportunity and see how it works out first.

I’m a commoner myself. Kate Middleton is royalty. As if I’d say “You deserve better” if she approached me during my visit to Buckingham Palace and asked me to do the deed with her while Prince William was away 😂

[AcidT0y]

I like to tell myself that's what I was doing when I broke up with my first girlfriend. But honestly if it was because I thought she deserved better then I would have been better.
She did end up finding someone better suited to her in the end though so it all worked out anyway :D

[sonnysunshine]

Funny how women ask this question so much more often than men. They reject the good guy and then run off to some asshole who “excites them”, get screwed over and then complain about men in general. They have no problem jumping ship because they are slaves to their emotions.

At least 50 percent of women are like this and I have zero sympathy for them. Fortunately my girlfriend has better judgement than most.

[Motivation_Girl]

It’s the opposite of me. I’ve had break ups because of being too good for them and being told I deserve someone better. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard the same thing I eventually grew tired of hearing the same thing and stopped trying.

[CherryRoseChampange]

Yeah, most definitely. I know that I'm honestly not the best person for a lot of people. And I've rejected simply because the fact I think they'd be miserable with me.

[Hurlyburly]

I think it's not up to me to decide if I am "good enough" for someone else or not.