Have you ever rejected a good person because you felt they deserved better?

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rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

You're not even rejecting them in that context. You're rejecting yourself. You're saying you're not good enough and therefore it's not going to happen. Perhaps just semantics, but it's a useful distinction.

And I've definitely done it before. You only need to be insecure for a moment for you to make that choice. I remember this crippling hot girl I met in D. C. last year. Tall, light skinned, brunette who looked like a model by profession. Met her at The Brixton. She was super engaging, great eye contact, smiling, giggling, touching my chest/shoulders and just flirting as we had a good time. Super exciting bit of time. A guy walked up who was like 6'5, fitness model type build, equally attractive dude. And I just assumed he knew her AND came here to meet this exceptionally hot girl I was talking to. Told myself a story without thinking, "exceptionally hot girl, exceptionally hot guy. Came to meet here, this just makes sense."

So when he walked up I just let him have her, not knowing he didn't actually know her. He just saw a hot girl and went in, when she was interested in me already. He didn't even leave with her at the end of the night. But because for a moment I rejected myself I lost out on a potential good thing. Bah. She was so fine lol

nblanch23 · Accepted Answer

You must learn to love yourself there is no such thing as a broken person anyone can grow and change it’s not that they deserve better it’s you don’t see your own value there is only one you and I hope you can see that good luck to you

Miss_Savanna_Dry · Accepted Answer

Yes, I thought he deserved someone that wouldn't hurt him, when in reality I ended up hurting myself. Biggest regret. It was 4 years ago. I think we would have fit well together, if only I gave it a shot back then

xjesssx · Accepted Answer

Yes... I never feel good enough :/

coachTanthony · Answer

It's not you... it's me... I am not worthy of your love. You deserve better then me. The lie that people use to get out of something is more likely then somebody doing this legitimately.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Nope. But I've had a guy I confessed my feelings to use that line on me,

"I'm not good enough for you, you deserve better!" He says as he tries to pursue a relationship the same day he rejected me 🤦‍♀️

That's just a weak line people use to let you down gently.

My thing is this: if I think you're good enough and have feelings for you, then that should mean you're good enough! At least to the person that wants you.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I met a guy who had never dated anybody before because he was terrified of woman - we met and I thought - if I kiss him - I could make myself his first girlfriend - but he said he wanted to marry the first person he dates and I wasn't sure I wanted to be with him so I decided I wouldn't steal his first kiss from him. He wanted to save his first kiss for his future wife and I wasn't sure I wanted that role so I didn't kiss him even though I could have.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

I haven't rejected him because of it but I've definitely asked him on a few occasions to really consider his decision to be with me.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes... They deserve someone so much better than I am...

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Had a really amazing girl come on to me in college. Straight A’s and going to grad school at 22 years old. She was beautiful and was a virgin and a goody type of girl. We vibed right away. I rejected her because I was a steroid using bodybuilder who slept around with sluts and partied. I felt she was too good for me and I’d just end up hurting her somehow. Also had money at the time. Biggest regret tbh. I still check out her IG now and then. Sometimes think about sending that DM, but have never done it.

aicarg · Answer

Yes. The guy was more quite and reserved. He was more put together than I was where I was still figuring out myself and pushing my boundaries. I knew him from church though he went to the same highschool as me. He was the one that made better decisions and had his head on his shoulders, but never rated me out to my dad about all the crap I'd do. He intimidated me in how he was able to see past my BS and my act. When my first relationship ended in flames, he called me and stayed with me on the phone, made me laugh with just taking my mind off the pain. I knew he liked me, and I did like him. I just never felt I measured up to him. We've always remained friendly. He's engaged now.

sexyasianboi26 · Answer

Yes. We had a short term fling. When she wanted to get serious, that’s when I rejected her. She would have made the perfect wifey. But she already had 2 kids with 2 different dudes.

That’s the extra baggage I can’t deal with. It’s a skeleton in a closet. I wouldn’t be able to sleep every night thinking about her 2 kids and the whereabouts of their fathers.

So that’s where I drew the line. I deserve better. And she deserves a better man. A man with a strong back to carry and tough out all her extra baggage.

krogaan · Answer

everybody make this mistake and choice's 4 the other person oo his to good for me oooo his out of my league ooo am ugly ooo am not good for him or her how about you let the other person decided am not say your not going going to get rejected you going get rejected a lot listen we did not go to the MOON with one rocket we blew up thousands of rockets before we got there so strap in your in for a ride nothing is ever easy in life we do thing because it's hard but we tend to take the easy path LOL aka LAZY

muliebrity · Answer

I rejected a person not because I myself wasn't enough so he deserved better. I rejected a person because I myself am enough and realizing I have no energy to give to him. He is looking for something more serious than I can provide, and wouldn't be fair.

djmzes · Answer

Simple What you deserve is what you have created with your own hands and actions. So what are you creating? A grave or palace.

Bellarina6 · Answer

No I rejected a good person because even though we had a ton in common, he was nice and he knew he wanted to be with me, I didn't feel that spark I'm supposed to feel. I know when I really like someone because I'm crazy about them and I wasn't with that guy

StephenCF · Answer

No! Who even cares about what these people “deserve” or not? Try to love yourself for a change and take whatever opportunity and see how it works out first.

I’m a commoner myself. Kate Middleton is royalty. As if I’d say “You deserve better” if she approached me during my visit to Buckingham Palace and asked me to do the deed with her while Prince William was away 😂

fonduegirl · Answer

truthfully, I don't attract good people. But when I do, when I draw them in like a moth to a flame, it's always to teach them a lesson of life : Love Ruins You.

If a person like me is too good to be true, well its probably true then.

I frankly don't care how many thumbs down I get on this answer but I gotta keep it honest for this one.

AcidT0y · Answer

I like to tell myself that's what I was doing when I broke up with my first girlfriend. But honestly if it was because I thought she deserved better then I would have been better.
She did end up finding someone better suited to her in the end though so it all worked out anyway :D

sonnysunshine · Answer

Funny how women ask this question so much more often than men. They reject the good guy and then run off to some asshole who “excites them”, get screwed over and then complain about men in general. They have no problem jumping ship because they are slaves to their emotions.

At least 50 percent of women are like this and I have zero sympathy for them. Fortunately my girlfriend has better judgement than most.

Motivation_Girl · Answer

It’s the opposite of me. I’ve had break ups because of being too good for them and being told I deserve someone better. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard the same thing I eventually grew tired of hearing the same thing and stopped trying.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

Yeah, most definitely. I know that I'm honestly not the best person for a lot of people. And I've rejected simply because the fact I think they'd be miserable with me.

Hurlyburly · Answer

I think it's not up to me to decide if I am "good enough" for someone else or not.

easterngold · Answer

Yes. He was everything I would’ve wanted at one point in life, but after going through heart break with someone else, I felt like I was too damaged and sunken into the darkness to be with someone as great as him. I rejected him and everyone thought I was crazy, some people even assumed I did it out of arrogance, but honestly, it was quite the opposite, I thought and still think he was too too good for me.

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Yes. I did not feel ready nor was I in a good place to be with him at the time. The timing was really bad and I had let him go. If I tried to keep it going it would have been selfish of me because I would have been nonexistent in that relationship.

ColoradoKid · Answer

Only once. She asked me why and when I told her she looked at me and said that she felt the same way about me. Later on we dated after both of us had seen some other people. But in the end we just ended up friends.

Luzonensis · Answer

I used to think that way but I've grown up since then so I don't cut myself short anymore unless they are already with someone, in which case I'll wait.

shimmeryns · Answer

No, I have never done that. I feel like it is just an excuse to somehow soften the blow when rejecting someone.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yeah I straight up told him I was t shit at the time and I’d probably end up using him and I didn’t want to do that I didn’t find him attractive at all. He’s super sweet and we’re still friends.

spartan55 · Answer

Why would I ever feel like I didn't deserve someone to the point of dumping them? Just seems idiotic to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I was rejected for being better which is in evey aspect in theory but I didn't care and told him I'll accept him with his faults as past and start over with higher standards. He became a better version of himself and we are still together.

sarahburberryy · Answer

if i reject you it is only because i think that i deserve better then you.

JohnAlaska43 · Answer

No why would I. Im not perfect but if I love her I wouldn't want anyone with her but me. Plus I've never thought anyone was to good for me.

Dulshah · Answer

No, instead i would try to be the best i can be for her and improve constantly

billybobthornton500 · Answer

Yes because in your heart you know you want other shit than what their offering, or your to afraid to tell them what you really want for fear of rejection so you reject them first in your mind to spear them

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Hellz no. I only dump girls if I deserve better. If I think they deserve better, then I'll try to be better, but if they deserve better then they're doing something right and I have no reason to reject them.

morimeme1 · Answer

No, I am confident enough and know that I am worth it.

IamErla · Answer

Nope, but I haven't dated all that many guys. So give it time lol

311WasAnInsideJam · Answer

Yes, and we haven't spoken since. It's better for her that way.

Juxtapose · Answer

That would be one of the dumbest things I could possibly do if I encountered a really good partner lol. Only people with low self-esteem or liars say "you deserve better."

McKellar · Answer

1 girl said this to me once,... then after all of that, she just came very bluntly right out & said "There's no feeling". Yep, such as my pathetic luck.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

That is ofttimes just an excuse people make for not wanting to give the relationship serious effort.

NineBreaker · Answer

No. I'm no rare catch, but my self-esteem never sank to that level.

LuWe22 · Answer

No that's just a silly excuse and means that you are not willing to put effort in the relationship so you say they can get something better. That it is complety BS is obvious

Anonymous · Answer

I tried this with my now husband, he just said that it's his choice if he thinks i am good enough for him and he gets to choose who he loves.

DDpsy · Answer

No I never used that stupid line as an excuse for my refusal to actuly put the effort in to make things work.

Pulimuli · Answer

Nope i jump on that oppertunity before they realize their mistake!

TheSikuu · Answer

I'd be lying if I said yes, since I'm the best out of the nearly 4 billion men on the planet.

genericname85 · Answer

no. but i rejected a "good" person cause i wasn't sexually attracted.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes his life seemed too in order and I felt we would never be equal.

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

I have not because I usually think I am one of the best people for women as I help them more so than other men help women.

Sofie1979 · Answer

Yes but that because the guy agreed with everything I said was a yes man I could tell he be type a girl would walk all over him.

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Yeah, I felt really bad because they were sad about it, but we stayed friends and hung out for a few years afterwards until they moved away.

I-Wondoer · Answer

Never reject someone because they deserve better you reject them because you don't like them

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No. I only reject because we are romantically incompatible.

Logorithim · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Which doesn't make since why she would be crying. She's the filthy whore. Not him. Gosh.

Máiiréad · Answer

Yes, actually... I have.

Salsacumbia · Answer

No never, but i had it done to me instead.

SexyAshh · Answer

Like everyday of my life🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

The_researcher · Answer

Nope lol. Im the Best they Can get

Browneye57 · Answer

It's all about the FEELZ. ;)

Pejtu · Answer

No i haven't why would i ever do that

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

I reject everyone irrespective.

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