My boyfriend wants to finger me for the first time and I'm scared?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for a bit now and he's said on a few occasions he'll wait for me to be ready but he wants to show me a good time. He knows I dont want to have sex yet but he does want to finger me. I agreed for next time we seen eachother which happens to be a lot sooner then I realized. Im really scared about him not liking it, it making weird sounds (like the sounds people constantly make jokes about), bleeding, or not feeling pleasure from it. Honestly I'm scared about so many things those are just the main ones. What do guys think about the sounds from it being really wet and do guys actually like fingering girls? Also how do I handle these situations if it does happen? He is so understanding, I just dont want to let him down if that makes any sense at all. The closer we get to hanging out the scarier it gets and the more anxious I get.

[goodlongman]

Get rid of him, he is a self-centered little boy and has no care about you.

Save yourself for the one man worthy of you love. Someone who loves you enough not to spoil your virginity until your marriage bed. My daughter and her husband were both virgins until there wedding day. In her teens she decided to save herself for only one man. That man who would love her and her alone as she would love him and him alone. In her 20’s she stopped giving me full body hugs telling me it was no longer appropriate. They had their first kiss on the wedding day. I pray you too will maintain your purity until your wedding day.

Young lady, please listen to what I have to say and please take it to heart.

If I could my life over, I would never have sex outside of marriage and never look at pornography. It is said and in my case is true you take every sex partner and every fantasy to the bedroom with you and this adversely effects your relationship and sexual behavior with the one person you have chosen to be with until you die.

I know that seems unusual and extreme but please wait until you meet a man who is respectful, honest, loving and is worthy of your love. Trust me it will be worth the wait.

Your life partner is your best friend, for the man the sexiest lady, for a girl the greatest man. You deserve a man who loves you for you, who respects you and wants the best for you. A man who wants to protect you and provide for you. This is why we should not get into sexual relations without being committed to the relationship. Marriage is commitment. Without commitment it is not truly love.

Marriage is unconditional not love. Marriage is not just great sex. When you marry it is for life, no matter what life gives; sickness, health, poverty, wealth, joy or sorrow. No matter what you are committed to each other. There is no excuse for dissolving this union of too people. This takes commitment, you are both committed to make the marriage work at all times in all ages. Looks change, sex changes, but commitment last for a lifetime.

[Asker]

Thank you, but that's not my view on sex or sexual acts. I have no problem with it nor will I regret doing it. Sometimes my nerves just get the best of me😊

[ImagineSketchy]

Ummm, so, it is an odd sound. Like something squishy... Pushing it in and hearing the "sqrech" noise. It isn't a bad sound. I find it kind of funny. You shouldn't bleed from fingering. I'm guessing you've never masturbated before, and if you have, then if you didn't bleed then, you won't from hin doing it, unless he cuts you with a nail. If you don't feel any pleasure, try to direct him to where you know it feels good. Communicate with him. If he doesn't like it, then he just doesn't like it. Most heterosexual men to my knowledge are turned on by vagina and enjoy putting their fingers, and such in there.
Just relax and try to enjoy it with him.

[the_imperfectionist]

I don't think he'll mind the squelching sounds and he'll probably enjoy every bit of it. If you dong feel ready tho, you don't have to do anything you don't wanna do.

[galaxyofstars]

Itll be fine and you'll enjoy it. The sounds are normal and most guys think its hot

[Anonymous]

It will be okay make sure his fingers are clean to avoid bacteria infection

[OlderAndWiser]

How old are you? Is this your first serious relationship?

[Asker]

19 and no but its definitely better than the past.

[OlderAndWiser]

The chances of him not liking it are zero.
If you make weird sounds, that is just what happens. Everybody has that experience occasionally.
It is unlikely that you will bleed, but if you do, he will feel badly and be concerned for you.
If you have ever masturbated, you know what feels pleasurable and you can guide him to doing whatever feels good.
Think about this: billions of people have done what you are preparing to do and they all survived. You will, too!

[starfyredragon]

General hint. Sex, stuff, when you haven't done it before, always sounds a hundred times scarier before you actually do it. Unless you're into auto-asphyxiation, or electrified clamps, and you remember to use protection, there's not much to actually worry about.

[Asker]

Ok, thank you!

[justme212]

Who said that it is going to be really wet? Don't just do it because he wants to, he has said that he will wait until you are ready so wait until you are ready yourself not planning it ahead which will stress you out more and more the closer it gets to that time

[Bad_Man55]

Guys like pleasuring girls and enjoy the sounds because we see it as confirmation you are liking it.. make sure he trims and cleans his nails, hopefully he knows what he is doing. If not dont be afraid to tell him. Practice on yourself so you know what you like so you can tell him that way it is more enjoyable for you both as opposed to an experiment

[JohnAlaska43]

First and formost he better be good at forplay. He needs to know how to turn you on. Because if he diesnt do it right it won't be a turn on he possibly could hurt you if he's never done it.
His finger needs to be clean. You might need lube if your not moust enough it hurt you if its super dry.

[jae_jae]

Make sure his nails are cut and clean. No open cuts from his hands.

[Anonymous]

i say sext about it get it easier to talk about and ease into it.