Are Alpha males/females attractive to you?

[ariadneR]

Are Alpha males/females attractive to you?

[SuperTroll]

The term is confusing to me but I like women who are on the assertive side and will speak their minds, including their disagreements with me, and ones who tend to attract a lot of social attention and have some leadership ability including the ability to stay calm in tough situations. I don't like an obedient housewife type.

I like a woman who is assertive enough to speak her mind but mature enough to compromise so that we can always find some middle ground that makes us both happy. At the same time, I don't like some dominant, sassy type that will take over situations and not let me step up to the plate and have my share of responsibilities.

My wife does tend to form a natural sort of leadership position among her female friends in particular. They tend to look up to her, and she is also a leader in her workplace. But she isn't dominant exactly. She's more like the patient, mature, empathetic type who isn't judgmental and tends to naturally be treated as a leader among women for those qualities. She's cooperative but assertive, submissive in contexts but no pushover, that sort of thing.

I'd compare her to Deanna Troi somewhat if people are familiar with a geeky Star Trek reference. She has that type of "counselor" vibe to her.

[SuperTroll]

Sometimes I feel like I'm married to a psychiatrist since she has the ability to stay so calm and patient and be so sensitive about everything. If that can be considered "alpha", then I certainly love that quality.

[SuperTroll]

[...] to stay so calm and patient and be so [sensible] about everything.

[SuperTroll]

She's also extremely accountable (owns up to her mistakes perhaps even better than I do), and quite a diplomat. We're both somewhat "counselors" in our friend group but I have a more "tough love" kind of approach with lots of humor while she has a softer kind of diplomatic and empathetic approach, although she is not agreeable (she will still disagree and voice her true thoughts, but very gently and with greater patience than me).

[Jamie05rhs]

That's awesome. You guys sound like a really great couple.

[SuperTroll]

@Jamie05rhs Cheers! She helps keep me in check a lot. :-)

[Jamie05rhs]

Nice. :)

[JoseJr]

To me personally No, I like to think Im very dominant. In my mind Im always correct or know the best answer. I like being followed and I hate following. With that being said other people I'd consider alpha's find me annoying which I can understand. People who are very passive really like me tho. They ask for advice and help and Im always willing to help. So yes I think people are attracted to dominant people. Feelings that possibly are one, or thinking that you are one, like someone else like someone else below said. Two dominant people usually wouldn't get too well along im my opinion.

[Imcmullan]

I love an alpha male.. its sexy seeing a man control things.. keeping me in my place. An alpha male desires to keep his family in order.. he's responsible... ambitious n doesn't settle.. I like to treat my man like he's my king.. support him.. be his number one cheerleader.. in turn he should know , I'm the princess n I like to be treated with sugar n spice n everything nice🤗🤗 .. I'm a brat... ... lol...

[anon1903]

I'm the dominant one in all the social contexts mostly so no thanks. however alphas are really possessive, I'd hate to become someone's possession just because I'm dating them. I've heard less than a few of them being so in charge that they turn into bloody control freaks. alphas, I've concluded, are a novel idea well suited in those YA fiction where stalking a girl is considered cute (twilight romance)

[Sooren]

So do you prefer date a beta male?

[anon1903]

never had one... maybe?

[OlderAndWiser]

"Alpha/beta" is a concept invented for those who have inadequacies and who need to have their egos boosted and humored.

[Pulimuli]

Was just about to say this. There is no such thing as alpha males

Some are born tall, handsome and outgoing, thats it

[OlderAndWiser]

@Pulimuli The alpha/beta male concept makes for funny/stupid movies, but it is just nonsense. The the scene below, the alpha male loses his female to the beta male (a true Walter Mitty fantasy!)

[Riggers]

Lets be realistic, All ''alpha'' means is attractive, This question literally is 'Are attractive people attractive'...

I find people who tend to look better than a 6/10 are so disgustingly far up their own asshole they live in a delusional reality where every single thing in life is just handed to them on a plate and they can thank their DNA luck for it. Because of that i don't really find anyone ''alpha'' attractive because their personalities are so disgusting

[thatguyfromtoronto]

alpha males are completely dickish in life but if that's what a girl wants that's her choice. As for girls, I never heard the phrase 'alpha female' but if it's a dominant type of female who is basically bitchy then no thanks. You can be a good person and assertive it's not that hard.

[Kayla45]

To be honest, no. I think it's a bit show-offy? If that makes sense.. I would just want my partner to be genuine, I mean if he's an alpha by nature, sure whatever. But if he tries to be someone he's not then I don't feel like he's being honest with himself or his natural personality.

[Evil_Chuck]

If by "alpha" you mean women who possess inner strength, take responsibility for their actions, and have their shit together... then yes, that's attractive to me. If it means girls who have a loud and aggressive personality with nothing behind it, then no.

[morimeme1]

I enjoy the company of truly intelligent, confident powerful women (what I would consider an alpha female). For some reason I have trouble imagining an alpha male, haven't seen one that I would consider worthy of such a title.

[GraveDoll]

I find them attractive. And all I date.

Being an alpha female myself they balance me out contrary to others belief. Alpha males have more patience with me and I feel like I don't have to hold their hand to get them to understand.

[Anonymous]

I always wondered. Hypothetically, If I snapped the neck of a "alpha male" would that make me the new alpha male? Or is the whole Alpha thing a personality thing for emotionally insecure people. In truth iv seen self proclaimed "alphas" where in nature my dominance would be secure through me beating the ever loving daylights out of a 130 pound twig person.

[Wishfire17]

I love alpha males, but because of their bad personality traits, I tend to go for less alpha guys. I like a guy that can hold his own though and can actually be a man. To me thats hot.

[almondcake]

I dont think women are meant to be Alpha so in a woman I find it annoying and controlling and wonder why her friends still go on nights out with her. But she does make herself center of attraction so it is hard not to notice her.

[Haelaeix123]

Not really no, i find them to have arrogant and overbearing attitudes which are not at all attractive.

[buttcrackjoe]

Negative. I enjoy an innocent conservative nerd who has untapped genitals. The thicker framed glasses the better. If she has braces I jizz right there in my pants.

[Factshurt90]

No, I appreciate what they do. I spoke to a few I know personally and they were great big ol bitches.

[jl25sc]

I'm not into alphas at all. I like a balance in my life. Most alphas will not take the opinions of others. Its my way or the highway mentality for most alphas. I like someone who is down to earth and empathetic.

[Secret6620]

I am alpha female and I don't find alpha guys all that attractive. 💜🖤💙

[up_64]

No. Because alpha women want men who are even more alpha and I don't wanna spend my fucking day having to prove how macho I am. They are way too high maintenance.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Alpha women? no thanks
I need a woman who sees my will as greater than hers.

[purplepoppy]

The second a guy says he's alpha I yawn my head off.

[foodOlivia]

A true alpha would not have the ego to tell he is alpha because a true alpha does not need to let everyone know that he is the alpha. because he is automatically the alpha

[AlienParasite]

Are we talking about Aldoux Huxley's Brave New World? :/

[taleswapper]

Sometimers, but not often. Alphas don't always have the wisdom needed to lead; those I don't care for.