Nope not really. So far I’ve only dated 3 guys. The first was extremely sensitive. His name was Ryan. I am all for guys expressing their emotions and allowing themselves to be vulnerable, but Ryan took it to the extreme. He had asked me to be his girlfriend about 2 weeks after we met. I wasn’t really interested because we were barely even friends yet. When I started to turn him down I could see tears forming in his eyes, which made me feel guilty and so instead I said yes. We dated for a very short time until I could work up the guts to break up with him. When I did he cried and then called and texted me later while crying begging me to take him back. I felt guilty once again and took him back. A week later his best friend tried to “seduce” me and wanted me to cheat on Ryan. I rejected him, but I told Ryan that the whole situation made me uncomfortable and that I didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore because of that. Instead of crying that time, he blamed his friend. My second boyfriend was the complete opposite. It was like the guy had no emotions at all. His name was Jaylen. To this day I believe that he is a psychopath. He and I were friends until one day he kissed me and asked me out on a dare (I didn’t know it was a dare). We dated for a little while. He took my virginity (It was a very painful experience because he was very aggressive), but when he discovered that I (A VIRGIN) wasn’t very good, at sex he dumped me. Then he started dating someone new, but then cheated on her with ME (HE TOOK OFF THE CONDOM WITHOUT ME KNOWING). After he discovered that I had told his girlfriend about what he had done he had threatened to kill me and to assault me, and told everyone he knew that I was a whore. Then literally the day before I moved away, he saw me on the street and invited me to spend the night with him at his house. I said no. I ran into him a few other times after that and he threatened me some more. Now he beats his current girlfriend and cheats on her even though they have a baby now. My 3rd boyfriend was named Joshua. At first Josh seemed like the perfect guy. He was sweet and kind and gentle. Shortly after we started dating he revealed to me that his family was pretty wealthy. He began showering me with gifts and we moved in together pretty quickly. We had our ups and downs like any other couple but things started going down hill after a year. Joshua has depression and it had started to show itself. He became incredibly needy and clingy. His self esteem plummeted and he became very jealous and over protective. He would get upset if I wore a pretty dress because he didn’t want other guys looking at me. When we argue he would try to settle everything with money or gifts rather than solve the actual issue. So I think I have terrible taste.
It's a long story. But shortly you have been with all kinds of men. A simp, incel type of guy who couldn’t even go sexual with you (i don't even call him a man) then a bad boy type of guy who kept fucking you and others who even you don't like his persona he was still attractive as sexually and last a nice guy type who you end up disgust with him.
@Mamamialetmego I’m not disgusted by Joshua. I just couldn’t handle him. I’m sure he loved me, and he had a good heart, but he wasn’t emotionally stable. He was a nice guy, but he has issues and I’m not a therapist. He had depression, low self esteem, mild autism, anxiety disorder, and possibly bi-polar disorder (it runs in his family). I always asked him to see a therapist or a counselor and he only did once. He had really self destructive habits. He would stay in his room for days straight sometimes. He would get jealous whenever he saw me speak to another guy or get dressed up pretty. He would have mood swings and one minute we’d be happy and the next he be upset or annoyed with me. He had no other friends besides me, which meant he turned to me for everything. I tried my best. Whenever I was upset or needed help he would leave and either come back with food or a gift, but he would never ask me what’s wrong or talk to me. Sometimes when he saw that I was upset he would just leave the house for hours and I’d be there alone. I don’t hate him or have any hard feelings toward him. I just don’t think he was ready for a relationship, especially with someone like myself who also has depression.
@Mamamialetmego Yes. Physically he is a very handsome guy. Just because I don’t vibe with someone emotionally doesn’t mean I just stop being physically attracted to them. Sex doesn’t equal love to me. I’ve had fwbs that I didn’t connect with emotionally. But typically I know where to draw the line. I usually don’t continue to have sex with people that I’ve dated and broken up with. Jaylen was the exception, but that was because I wanted “revenge”. He and his girlfriend basically had a vendetta against with me so I slept with him and told her all about it to make them both feel like trash. I was younger and stupid then. But I’ve learned my lesson.
Women don't desire man just based on physically if it were like that then every guy who go to gym would become chick magnet. Women also wanna see a man's attitude, masculinity. Why do you think a lot of relationships end after man became weak and vulnerable or lose his status or something. Even you don't realize, subconsciously you lose respect and attracion.
@Mamamialetmego Sometimes I do desire a man purely based on physicality. You may not believe that, but it is true. I think that most guys who are very physically attractive also have a very confident and powerful attitude because they know they are attractive. But there have been guys that I’ve been attracted to physically, but not mentally. I’m not gonna marry or date a guy that I’m not compatible with mentally. But I have had sexual encounters with them purely because I found them attractive.
Omg this Joshua guy sounds like the one I'm dating now lol. We been together 4 months and already he asking me to move in, I'm like No soz. I think also though you need to take responsibility in this because you could have said No to many of these experiences and relationships go both ways. Take it as a learning curve to discovering more about yourself.
@SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ I definitely take responsibility for. Ryan was my first boyfriend and I was just a stupid kid. I put his feelings above my own and got into an insincere relationship. Jaylen was my crush and my friend, which was why I dated him, but I should’ve left him alone completely after I realized he was no good. Josh was the guy who was basically too good to be true. He seemed so perfect at first which was why I was willing to move the relationship along so quickly and move in. I’ve learned my lessons.
No. I only go on chemistry and connection but always end up with jerks. I am starting to feel that instant attraction is a joke at least in my life. The best men I know are my guy friends, I am planning now on dating one of them. We have talked about trying to give it a chance a few times so why not. If that succeeds and I fall in love with him then I can say yes I have good taste in men lol.
I agree. In my experience whenever I have had an instant spark with someone from the first time I sae them I always end up disappointed in their attitude. It's because we formed the connection based on physical attraction alone and zero knowledge on their personality.
But yeah I've always had long term relationships with guys I got to know first and then when I realise how compatible we are together the sexual attraction slowly kicks in. Obviously though they would still have to be some what attractive. I dont think you can just fall for someone personality alone without finding them physically appealing to some extent
Not even a little bit. I have terrible taste in women. Every time. I always go for the crazy ones. Bipolar, specifically. It's like I've got some program running in my brain which actively seeks out manic bipolar chicks. I mean, they're pretty fun in the manic stage.
Like. There's this chick I'm into at the moment. She struck me as very well put together initially, responsible, mature, stable, while also having that youthful hyper fun spirit and ridiculously high social intelligence. Even if she's a cavedweller. Almost the whole package. Nope. Wrong again. Bipolar. I found out yesterday. It's just that type. Gets me every time. And I don't think I can stop.
Regular women are boring. I like the roller coaster. I like the chaos. I miss the misery. I know I need a stable woman. Someone who can help me swim faster rather than pull me down. But there is also some kind of weird-ass draw to all the splashing behind me.
@AJC997 I hope to have a high job in the fashion industry after college. But on the side, I play lottery games daily. I know some say it sounds far-fetched to think I could win the jackpot... but I nearly did once (I only missed one number) 😓 But I’ve always maintained optimism since then 💶💶💶
@JesseTheMan The key is to play responsibly and in accordance with your income (maybe just 10% or so of your weekly wages), and see what happens, if ever... oh and to always reinvest your small or medium winnings into the next game, especially when it hasn’t paid you back for all the times you’ve played lotteries before.
For example, if you’ve spent 500 since playing lotteries, and in one game you won 250... spend that 250 asap on the next game to boost your chances of winning bigger. If you’ve spent 500 since playing the lottery, and in one game you won 1000, save yourself 500 to compensate for all the gambling beforehand, but take a chance at spending the other 500 asap on the next game, so you have almost countless chances & it would feel like you’ve never spent a penny on lotteries before 😅😅😅 And so on...
Apparently not as every guy I've dated in the past was a fiasco... but I blame that on being young and stupid, desperate to want a boyfriend/relationship, and not setting high enough standards for myself.
I can't always tell if somebody is good or evil but God gives me guidance about who to accept and who to reject and God also protects me from bad choices.
I don't understand what you mean. If you mean the guy I could choose based on his appearance and nothing but his appearance then yes. I believe everyone would have good taste if they were choosing someone only based on their looks. However there is much more to a person than their appearance. The important thing is to find the right balance between looks and personality.
I mean, I like what I like so I think it's good lol. Even if others didn't like the girls I like I'm not about to turn down Adriana Lima, because other people say that's bad taste. 😂. I've had other guys compliment me on having hot gf's so that's a nice little ego boost, but I wouldn't care either way.
I've definitely made my fair share of mistakes but generally I'd say I have better taste than others my age. In saying that, everyone has their own tastes. To them my type of women might seem odd and vice-versa so its like comparing apples and oranges and the only one you can compare to is your younger self and see if you have grown or still keep making the same mistakes
Yes i do have good taste. Thats how I've been able to avoid unecessary pain and disaster. I've made a couple mistakes with some guys but only because i wanted to ignore my intuition and just give them a chance and find out. Turns out you should stick to your intuition in the end.
I'd say yes, but I'm beginning to think I'm meant to be a lone wolf. I mean, I'm kind of a social outcast, I'm extremely different in an 'I can't relate to you at all whatsoever' kind of way, etc. All I have going for me are my good looks/good hair and friendly personality. But as we all know, in the grand scheme of things, none of that matters, haha. Although I'd like a partner, my life would be just as fulfilled without. :)
@Legacy3018 I appreciate that, man. With that said, all I know is that I already have a really hard time making friends for those reasons, let alone a romantic partner. I just decided that enough is enough. I'm tired of worry about it, and I'm tired of my heart hurting from general loneliness. So, I just accepted that I'm likely meant to be alone and it helped become generally ok with both the idea of that as well as my current circumstances.
@Gavyn make sure you don't chose the wrong lady, and always go by what your guy says three months into any relationship, if it's not OK, just turn away, regardless of any loneliness feeling.
I try, I really do, but it just seems like every relationship I get into doesn't last for more than a few weeks, and usually for things that I couldn't control or affect. Maybe fate's pushing me back? I don't know, maybe there's something wrong with me.
Ohhh, terrible. Never works out with me. This one chick I do like is soon gonna go to college. The previous girls I've dated were just crazy. It's getting scary like is every woman like that.
I went on to this date and this chick yells out that she don't wanna live and she wished she died early.
I said okay😂🤷🏻♀️
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Definitely, I'm in a successful relationship, he's kind-hearted, sweet, we were friends first, we're still buddies despite being in a relationship, he can talk to almost anyone and never gets into fights with people, even my strict parents like him as a person, we're both studying in University towards good career goals, he's clean & healthy, we have mutual friends, etc. I can go on~
I think I do. By looking at the way someone acts or talks, I can have a broad idea about what kind of person they are. Saves me from crushing on crazy people.
@ApacheGazella hey question for you. why did they delete that post you made asking people to rate you? also can you rate me as well? im curious. just follow me back
I am both and i deserve to be with the amount of time and effort i put into my own appearance. I dont care if its bothersome to you, and trust me, people jump through hoops for me., i dont have a problem with people putting up with me✌️
I don't it's entitlement to want someone excellent, if you put in the work to be excellent yourself. Besides, for the right person, it won't even feel like you are jumping through anything.
@winterfox10 Neither do I, but pick apart what she said. She picks apart a person as if they need to be perfect. That's just a bit too much for me, dawg. If I wanted someone perfect, I'd date a calculator.
Yes but my taste is at champagne levels and that causes issues for guy like me who is a decent merlot at best. I'm just not attracted to other merlots.
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