How do you push away someone who's very insistent in getting close to you?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Either because it's innapropriate to date them or just not the right moment?

[MercuryG]

Most others so far got it spot on... MOST.
Being honest, direct, yet with empathy is usually the best approach.

The challenge really for most is knowing what YOU want and making a decision. To many times the guy or gal pushing is getting mixed signals because the person they're trying to get close to isn't sure what they want themselves.

[MercuryG]

Rereading that I want to point out. I'm not putting the blame on the person being pushed. I'm just trying to encourage folks in this position to bed decisive and clear in communicating with those being pushy both in words and actions

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Then I should cut her off directly?

[MercuryG]

If you're sure you don't want that kind of thing with her and WON'T anytime soon. Yeah, be direct and clear.

That doesn't mean be an ass about it though. Talk to her openly and let her understand where you're coming from, what your life is like, what your goals are, etc.

If she's reasonable and rational, which most people are, she'll understand and you can even keep a good friend in the long run. If she's not, step away and give her and yourself space. (You to breathe, her to calm down and work through the rejection. Rejection isn't easy.)

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I have already told her I have no intention to date anyone at the moment since I just broke up.
I was considering waiting a few months but since her insistence is showing how unpleasant she is, I think it will be a definitive no.

I won't be rude or insulting but I'll make it clear I'm distancing and don't want her as a friend either.

[MercuryG]

Tough call but you gotta take care of yourself first! That sounds like a very reasonable approach and I hope she respects your stance!

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Say something to piss them off

[Wowgirl30q]

Start talking about your sexually transmitted disease problems.

[Wowgirl30q]

Start taking pictures of her shoes😂

[PrincessGrail]

Gently

[PrincessGrail]

Thanks :-)

[SteveSmith1985]

Yo do so with frank, opening, honest discussion. This is a situation where there's a high likelihood the other person will be hurt. There's no getting around that. It's built-in to the nature of the problem.

That person will be hurt LESS if they feel like they truly understand (your version of) why you're pushing them away. It may be a difficult conversation to have. But it's the only way to push them away while being fair to them. Otherwise they'll be wondering why? That can lead to a lot of heartache for some people.

[MercuryG]

Heartache and worse. If they constantly have their advanced dodged or lied to about why, they'll likely go on operating with a mistaken understanding of how they're coming across.

[SteveSmith1985]

Oh I agree completely. I think he'll do it the honest way. He seems to be a good dude. Plus this route seems to be sort of the consensus in people's answers so far.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Sometimes being blunt and honest is the best option for people like that. No, they won't like it, but it's the only way to get your point across and stop them from bothering you-

Tell them you're not into them in that way, or you're not ready to date right now, and hope they understand.

[Logorithim]

Professing your love for another woman works with females. No idea how girls handle it with insistent guys.

[GraveDoll]

I will state once: look you know xyz is going on. If you care at all respect my space.

After that, I would just cut them off.

I had a male friend who would make sexual jokes at me and tell me his disgusting dreams he had with me in it.
After a while, I stop answering his call and ignored him in the group.
when asked why. He literal try to blame me because of my "looks" I was like this sounds like a classic move of a rapist who trying to not go to jail in court!

So I had to get extremely nasty with him (like you dont stand a chance in hell type words) and just cut him out completely.

Some, people, just can't take the hint. And you can't be gentle with everybody. Some people dont believe sugar is sweet until you show them.

[Izumiblu]

I’m assuming an expression of non interest wasn’t enough in this scenario

In which case I just act like a poisonous bitch I find they leave p fast I’m polite, respectful and clear to begin with and if they don’t take me at my word they earned what comes next.

[simplyaramdomgirl]

Be straight forward and honest, if that doesn't work just cut them out of your life altogether. The best way to discourage an unwanted advance, is to not accept it in any way, shape or form. Best of luck!

[Landshrk0068]

Pull some super crazy conspiracy out of your ass, not a real one, and then try to convince her it actually true. She'll go away thinking your bat-shit crazy.

And if you can't think one, try this one. Patton was never killed, he's immortal and his current name is Donald Trump. I mean you look at a picture of Patton, give him a spray tan and a comb over, and they could almost be twins.

[markscott]

Set boundaries that work for you. Insist that the person respect you boundaries. If they don't respect your boundaries, then drop them from your life. If that doesn't work, then call the police re. harassment or stalking.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Be stern and be honest
Tell them to leave you alone and that they keep making you feel uncomfortable
If they can't handle rejection thats their problem

[nerms123]

I try to be extremely straightforward but polite. In extreme cases you have to block and ignore them totally.

[frerardsprincess]

Just tell them straight up and if they respect you they’ll respect it and if they react badly you don’t want them in your life anyway

[yeeeeeeeet]

I stop actively trying to impress them and let them see that I'm boring, sober, and play video games in my spare time.

[MercuryG]

But what if they want you more for being genuine? Lol

[yeeeeeeeet]

Find me a girl that will want me more after I act like myself. I have never met one.

[MercuryG]

They exist! And honestly there's more of them than anything else.

[yeeeeeeeet]

Well maybe Im just a piece of shit then because girls keep their distance from me when I act naturally.

[Jonathan8010]

Be honest with them and let them know why, I know I would appreciate that personally.

[StingRayxoxo]

Straightforwardly but gently.

[JaydenKays]

I Just Tell Them I Don’t alike The idea of you been close to me what if my fence finds you close to me what will she think

[Anonymous]

Kindly, but assertively. Hopefully they’ll get the hint.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Spit on them, punch them in the face until their face caves in, and then Spartan kick them through the wall.

[Kas19]

Tell them you're not interested.

[josephk1005]

Quick find some one else to hang out with

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Already done 👍.

[aialex]

"I'm not interested right now. Bye"

[ChiPaPa]

That's never happened to me.

[mikeylarcj]

Make it clear to them am not interested

[alohaahyes]

Just tell them the truth

[Anonymous]

WTF? You have no right to reject women if ur single smh

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Of course I have.

[MercuryG]

Anyone has the right to reject someone with or without reason. No one should feel obligated to accept advanced they dont want.

[PrincessGrail]

What?

That’s crazy...

Imagine reversing the genders in that sentence.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@PrincessGrail Exactly!

[Opinion Owner]

Are u gay or something

[MercuryG]

Probably why it's an anonymous opinion.

[PrincessGrail]

@MercuryG probably a guy

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Probably a troll

[PrincessGrail]

That too. Very trollish.

[Mickey9999]

Tell them

[SassyAzz05]

Be straight toward

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

A harpoon.

[morrowlow]

by ignoring them

[AtramentalIvory]

Bear traps.