Disagree.
On one hand I look at it from the aspect of most people not being aware of what they bring to the table to begin with. For a lot of people if you ask them to write down what they have going for them they might struggle to fill out half a sheet of paper, because they've just never thought about it and their self esteem is the biggest inhibitor of this. So that's one factor.
On the other hand, when you're only looking at one thing. Once sex is removed there is no guarantee you have the eyes to see what is being provided, because it depends more on what it is you want as an individual. What you're looking for. Or maybe you do see the value they provide and what they offer isn't something you necessarily want. Maybe the other person actually provides a lot, but because you personally don't want/care about those things you're not seeing a high value on what they offer. But they do still have a lot to offer you. You just don't want it lol.
This makes me think of the fact that you and I could be sitting down on a bench just people watching. Both of us could see a hot girl and both acknowledge that she is 10/10 hot, but she's not "my 10" or "your 10". We could both acknowledge she is hot and at the same time one of us may not be attracted to her, while the other is deeply attracted to her. Because who she is, how she looks and what you personally are looking for are more in line with what the girl provides. I've passed girls to friends for that very reason lol
u Sex is what some scientific types call a necessary but not sufficient condition. Is is in absolute requirement for many of us but, by itself, it is not enough. Without sex, many of us will lose interest in a relationship but that doesn't mean that the person doesn't have great qualities.
It is 100 percent Necessary. And Sufficient. We would not be here today with out it. The problem is. This fucked up generation has twisted the definition of SEX.. Sex is not what you do with your partner... That is what your designated at birth as a MALE XY or FEMALE XX. No operation or surgery will every change that EVER... .
A girl can not be a boy and be in the boy scouts just like I can not be a 66 years old.. I can have a surgery but that doesn't mean im now 66 years old LOL
@TheWombRaider
1. Sex, by itself, is not all that it takes to make a relationship work.
2. You can define sex however you want but the rest of the world follows a different definition than you do.
No your right... It takes will and determination and a REAL COMMITMENT. Marriage was a scared vow from 1 Father giving away his daughter to another trusting they will take care of her in most likely a far distant land away from the father. Its again this MODERN generations last 80 years of Human History. People get made cause 1 took their gum and boom lets get a divorce its 20 bucks. The whole attitude and concept of our generations after use is fucked
How about this - many people may *think* the main thing they will offer in a relationship is sex, but in fact it is a small part, and the main things one contributes to relationships and other people, comes from their personality, experiences, knowledge, and the effort they put in. It matters immensely, and how you act in a relationship can greatly/for the worse influence another human being. Maybe your question stems from an idea that today people aren't making as much/enough effort to get to know people and to engage with them, and accept and choose them, flaws and all. But if both that and the sex is great - kablammo.
Good points!
I disagree with this Because when we meet a potential partner for date, the first thing you do is talk, you get to know them. you don't jump into bed without creating a relationship.
I mean people do have conversations in a relationship right? Not just hump around everyday.
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Disagree, I'm sorry but this is a sociopathic pount of view.
I wanted to vote other, errant mouse click and a fatigued mind made Me take a side by accident.
While the vast a majority of Women and Men I have encountered only saw a relationships and Partners from a shallow Point of View, I have however dated a Girl when I was in My early Teens Who was My "Better half" We Wrestled, We gamed, We took walks, We Knew each other inside and out and never once did We have Sex at Her Request and Her Parent's Behest, Terms I was all too willing to accept.
Since then, Society hasn't presented anyone that could fulfill such a place and through out High school Girls pestered Me to forget Her and date them, I never took them up on it as at least one of them used to despised Me before meeting Me again a Grade and several years latter, sucks for her but I don't forget that sort of thing I also don't think She wanted me for Me and at least one of them turned to Gang life so I am glad She isn't a part of Mine. as far as the World on Your end is concerned I would say 7240780302.3 People have nothing to offer You in particular, but that leaves 804531144.7 that Might be "Your Better half".
TLDR Look here;
Look for one, compare the ones You met before and I can't stress this enough!
Don't give Yourself away to the first one that seems nice!
My experience They all do until they are not.
I think a lot depends on people's nature and possibly where in the timeline the relationship, there is probably a period when things get serious and just before the deep settling down questions start where sex is at its most important and would be mostly keenly missed if taken away. I would think that for most people that relationships are a varying mixture of physicality and relationship intimacy (romantic, emotional, social etc)
I sometimes feel these questions cannot be truly answered till you experience it , could you cope with sex without connection or connection without sex, I would guess most would want something in between with the ideal for the majority sex with a connection
I don't know about that Coach Tony. Lets get some water in you and get you back to the top of your game
Ha Ha Ha love this movie!
You know that one couple that everyone thinks shouldn’t be together bc they’re just not compatible and fight all the time? They’re the ones I’m talking about when I say I agree. When the love is real, sex is just a bonus, not everything you have to offer, in my opinion
Sex shouldn't be everything in a relationship like sure go ahead and fuck around a few times but what matters most is just you and that person making the best of times for each other. Just going on dates, watching movies, sitting there looking at the sunset holding hands, holding each other in the middle of the night and talk about interesting topics and a whole bunch of other things matters the most. If your just there for the sex then alright do your flow but for me I am there for the personality. Not sex.
Agree. It’s not that your relationship had nothing to offer from the beginning. But once you lose the sex, the intimacy is chipped away until there’s nothing left. Same with your self esteem. It doesn’t matter if one partner has a medical condition, if they aren’t honest and they just cut off all sex and intimacy, the other partner doubts themselves. Once all that happens, you’re nothing but roommates if your lucky. There’s a lot of resentment.
I disagree, but I refer to myself here because I have many great relationship plans that don’t involve sex. But many other obnoxious, rowdy party animals I know would have nothing to offer their girls if they couldn’t “get it up” (I’m talking about boys who are predictable, unfunny, conformist, etc but happen to be hot, therefore attract shallow girls; but without the sex, haha, good luck to them) 🤣🤣🤣
Agree. from what I see
Most people find the way i date odd. Like a male friend will have a better shot at dating me vs a ramdom guy. Why? They learning things about me everyday and vice versa.
I vaule friendship like air and water and if we can't develope that. I dont even want to be physical.
Sex shouldn't be what your realtionship is based off of in the first place.
I disagree. Men have lots to offer in a relationship, but women often have very little to offer besides sexual stuff. Not all of course, but that often seems to be the case.
Or, at least for my generation that is how it has been. I think it is different for the younger generations.
When you truly get commited to someone for who they are are and you love them so very much. Sex becomes a medium of physical love. Both enjoy it.
Even though you remove it, remember why you fell in love with in the first place?
It's not for sex. It's for the person you liked. Just because you want to spend an entire life with that person.
At least you got a reason to live.
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You work hard, earn money not only to feed yourself, but feed your loved ones too. That's love.
They might not pay you but there is Love. 🎶💞
I think sex can keep someone holding on to a relationship longer that they should. On the flip side if a couple stops having sex it decreases their emotional bond and can cause them to break up.
Relationship without physical closeness, sex included is just friendship and claiming friendship has nothing to offer is just sad. So this is only true for the person who has nothing to contribute, we all have different needs but all benefits from a having friends and family. The needs only dictate how big that group is.
If your relationship relies on sex, then it’s not a healthy relationship (assuming you’re not just fuck buddies or something).
I am perfectly content not having sex with my SO, but including sex in out relationship (in moderation) is healthy because it’s a stress reliever and it builds emotional connection, strengthening our relationship.
Disagree. I think everyone has something to offer. However, I have noticed there are people these days who are not open to emotional connections. It's not that they don't have anything to offer, it's that they aren't open to it. I don't know if it's because they're afraid or what.
A relationship that develops in a natural way, sex is the culmination of intimacy, understanding and trust. You can never get those things with just sex.
People that are in the mentality of "sex is the BEST thing EVER" - for them yes, take away their sex and they have so little or nothing else to offer.
But to be truthful, sex does dictate a lot of things in the relationship. To some people, it is priority.
There is more to a relationship than sex.. but men are easy to take care of.. all we want is to be pampered sometimes a good hot meal and of course sex. Sex to men is the Trump all that is wrong and trueyly we need the release of tension. Sex calms us and reassured us that you still care and love me... Without the sex.. men feel like you are giving yourself to someone else... In my experience when a women leaves a man they run to someone else... So yes you found someone else and just shut me off and burned me down without even a voice of Truth or compassion.
It depends on the person. You can see how important sex is to them if you draw the line on things and they always seem to cross that line. That's someone who honestly only wants sex or can't see a relationship without sex. I think it's really important to hold off having sex because it reveals what kind of person you are with.
Sex is only the icing on the cake. Find the right person you get it all. Sex is only one aspect of a relationship wether you're just beginning the relationship or have been with your girlfriend or boyfriend awhile. Look for other things that make it more meaningful
if you're a sexual being, removing sex from a relationship ruins it for you either way. in my opinion everybody has a diverse set of things they bring to the table. it's up to the individual to find one who brings stuff to the table that they want/like. if f you fail to do that, then yes, taking away sex, there's nothing left but that's your fault. i'm not saying it's easy to find someone like that. but that's what one should aim for.
If I dated someone and found out all they wanted was sex I'd leave that relationship so quick
Our relationship started out ldr, we tried meeting up every 3 months but at times it was 5-6 months. Sex is important but not everything.
Did you meet up for sex?
@Jamie05rhs we met up as a couple, so sex was a part of it yes but not the only thing we did. Did a lot of sightseeing, eating out, going to bars etc.
Oh, okay. I'm planning to meet up with this girl that I'm talking to (sometime, soon, I hope, ... I mean before I die lol), but neither one of us wants to have sex. We're just going to hang out.
@Jamie05rhs that’s fine. If both of you just want to hang out and spend time together there shouldn’t be any problem, right?
Thanks :)
Kinda. Sex is what makes a relationship more than friends and more than a roommate. Take it away and all you have is a friend and room mate.
Truthfully that is most important benefit I get from my wife. It is most certainly not the only benefit and the only thing I want from her, it’s just the most important thing.
Don't understand this.
Whenever I've been with someone where the attraction was only physical (for me), I have grown bored with them within a few weeks.
I don't see how you can get deep into a relationship before you realise that sex is all it offers. The sex would have to be so mindblowingly brilliant that you were basically a zombie the rest of the time.
I agree but only because women's primary benefit is the sex as a reward treat. Naturally so.
I say: Remove sex from a relationship and you have friendship.
lol I mean considering most people fuck on date 1-3 these days, yeah, if you removed sex who knows what would happen, most often the only reason the man is interested is sex. This is why women have to learn to respect themselves and their bodies blah blah blah im too tired of sounding like an old man when these young hoes are just gunna call me an incel
fuck y'all and fuck this sick world. Luv yu <3
I actually had a lot in common with a female coworker who I never slept with. I imagine being in a relationship with her we’d still have those things in common. Sex would be amazing for sure.
Question debunked. Why do I win?
If sex is all that you benefit from in a relationship then I believe it isn't a relationship. Enjoy each others company, conversations, share experiences, have fun without having sex otherwise I tend to view it as just a fling.
The sex will be one anchor point of the relationship. Remove it, and the equation becomes unbalanced. Just like removing communication, it would become unbalanced.
TBH, some relationships are pretty much sexual in nature. So, yes, remove that and there is not much there. Thing is, if one person removes the sex, are they getting it elsewhere. If so, time to work on the situation or get some on the side, or ditch the person.
TBH further, even though some relationships are sexual in nature, there is always a bond in a relationship that has gone that far. So, it's not really a quantifiable statement to say a person has nothing else to offer other than sex, since that pegs sn individual (s) as a mere sex object (s), which is demeaning. TBF, the individual (s) may just want to limit it to a sexual type of relationship, which, in that case, that is all there is.
And to rectify the "ditch", statement, that is a rather harsh term, more appropriate would be to end the relationship on good terms, take a breather, and go from there.
Because sex is the Driving force of a fucking relationship... You are Married and Giving in Marriage for all of History... 1. to build a relationship between peoples, tongs and nations. Alliances.. So you and your descendants would survive. Your DNA passed on and your blood line continued. 2. So you can have a family and children of your own and the HUMAN RACE would continue and move forward. That is why Sex is a BIG DEAL
Say its 1500 BC and its you, your wife and your 2 kids.. any day a lion could wipe your DNA off the MAP 1 fucking LION
What's the difference between a hooker and a gold digger?
A retirement plan...
I avoid mimbos for this specific reason. Money can't buy commonalities, i. q, or humor but it can buy a great hooker...
Seems like it to me. For some that is their only glue, that the sex is good. But sex will not hold everything together permanently as it is not Superglue, it is just sex.
Sadly.
I wouldn't be swiping 95% of women on Tinder, if that were the case. My standards for sex are far lower than something I'd consider for a relationship. I think it's that way because modern society pushes the sexual agenda, with all their promotion and that you're not cool unless you have sex. Not to mention, with how little other things are valued, something that should hold more weight such as sex ends up being the most standard and mundane source of "entertainment".
The statement isn't strictly true, but if you remove sex from the relationship your partner will likely seem like he or she has less and less to offer, because sex contributes to pair bonding and causes the brain to manufacture its love chemicals.
Disagree, because here in my country people wait for marriage to have sex and still have pretty strong relationships before marriage!
If you get to the point where the sex, or even just making out, is the MAIN reason you're dating this person, then I think that's a problem.
I disagree. Relationship is based on love not sex even though sex and love have many things in common and are interrelated. Sex shouldn't be the criteria for a relationship in the first place even though sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.
Disagree. Partners are like roommates. They work with you to keep your environment comfortable. Cook, clean, buy things, wash, and so on. That's a great thing to offer.
Yes. But he's saying some people, not all people.
There are a lot of relationships based primarily on sex. These relationships usually don't last long as people become less attractive over time.
You can say otherwise but if there is no sex most women will loose value to men. We still live in a society where men are supposed to be gathers and still a high percentage of women are unemployed , no sex means men don’t need anything from her , he can already live alone by himself.
Agree, but since that is not enough for me i won't bother with those relationships.
If its just sex its going to be just sex until i find someone to love.
Especially females.
Most of them are like deer in headlights when I bring up an important or interesting topic. They'd rather just travel or eat and then go to bed. They have nothing really to offer other than their tits and ass.
Thee will be no relationship if sex removed...
Because men and women are together for reproduction...
If sex removed no one going to date anyone.. It will become like business transactions..
I believe humans are together for mutual benefit. We created loyalty and trust to keep the mutual relationship for longer time.
I have always sex is something inside of a relationship not the only one.
Agree, it is the only explanation why women that hate my guts want to be with me and that is to have sex. Some even wanted to get pregnant and still hated me. I have to wonder if hate is a natural female trait that is part of the mating instinct.
Most are build around sex that's why they fall apart of you build your relationship around love then sex will only deepen your relationship
That's what I'm trying to do right now: build a relationship on love. The sex will come naturally later.
@Jamie05rhs yes 100 percent agree
Thanks!
Omg, this is hilarious. I don't believe this is true. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have never slept together and we're still good lol.
Pity that guy you use him for your emotional needs
I have to say I agree, because I have seen people in relationships like that.
I agree. Some people are reslly boring if they dont talk about sexual stuff.
Without sex then a relationship is just another friendship.
Some relationships FOR SURE are built on the need of "fulfilling desires", especially here in the Arab world...
I disagree, but that’s probably because I have no sexual drive and would prefer to have just a romantic relationship without having sex
I disagree because for me i look for a good personality not someone who is great in bed. i had many non sex relationship and tney worked out great
Women can't offer to a man much. Sex is their number one weapon against men. But men can offer emotional stability, resources, protection, sex etc. etc.
I think ones opinion changes with age. This "remove sex..." is generally true in your 20's and 30's. When you hit 45, a maturity kicks in and sex becomes more entertainment, rather then a show of affection/emotion. This is true, married or not.
I disagree! a lot of people have a nice personality or just love you to the core.
Disagree. A relationship is much much more than just sex.
If you’re in the right relationship with the right person, absolutely not!
Conversation, Cuddling, Partnership.
With my first and only girlfriend we never had made love..
(tho she was planning our future children names)
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